ANSWERS: 68
  • wow that worng just becuase she wants a boy? I wouldn't go with her, no way.
  • She wants an aborions because she wants boy instead of a girl? Thants sick. I am dead set against abortion and I will not help her in the least. If she is so self centered that she would kill an unborn child just because it wasnt the gender she wanted then I dont her to be a friend anyways. I would lose repect for anyone who did that. That is no reason to have an aborion even if I was pro choice.
  • i'd judge her. having kids like they are materialistic things to show off to friends, i understand people getting an abortion if they are extremely young and just can't financially support the child, and it really would ruin their life, but for someone who already has kids, and i assume loves them, how could she then just end the life of another one of her own children, because it's not a boy. humans are a very sick race.
  • I would not support her. You don't have to be nasty to her but clearly make her realize that you are not condoning her actions and that she'll have to be solely responsible and liable for what she is doing. Just because you are someones close friend does not mean you need to be "cool" with everything they do. Quite the opposite, I think you'll help her see herself and actually teach her to judge herself. Tell her how you feel and let her feel guilty because what she's doing is selfish. What if her little boy (if she ever gets one) will not live up to her expectations? He's gay? He won't want to do the boy things she wanted him to do? I find it very irresponsible of her to try and choose her baby - and clearly discriminate on the basis of gender.
  • I would try to help her understand >>> that the little soul within her, has the same right to live a wonderous life to enjoy ... just as she was gifted from her parents. I would tell her ... I am not a murderer and I will not involve myself in such an act >>> sorry my friend, but this little girl has done nothing to harm me or my life, the later regret of guilt to commit this decision to terminate her life will be yours and yours alone. Goodluck! May Karma be kind to you ... Peace.
  • That's a stupid reason to get an abortion. I couldn't go with her... it would tear me up and I know I wouldn't forgive myself for taking part in that. And if she's my friend, she would know me better than to even ask for my help.
  • I do agree with abortion on grounds of health, mental or physical, as is legally required in the UK. But I cannot agree with gender selection through abortion. So I am afraid I am not sympathetic and the request itself will cast a shadow on my view of her.
  • It is totally f@cked up. Although, they do it in other countries in kind of that way. They have the child and then kill it because it is not a boy. Don't they know to have a boy you have to stand on your head during sex ( I had to bring some humor to a gruesome area d:)).
  • I would go with her if she was a very good friend, however i would inform her that this reason is selfish and a loss of a human life, not to mention an abuse of resources...... :( But i would not try to force her to change her choice. Just give my opinion on it.
  • I'd give her the facts: some men can produce only boys or only girls. As long as she stays with this girl-producing man, they are only going to get girls. Getting rid of this girl will not help them get the boy they want. Genetic counseling would be the key to getting the couple to understand they can not get there from here.
  • I see that there are almost no pro-choicers here, or they're only pro-choice on their terms. If you are truly pro-choice, you must take her without judging her reasons.
  • To begin with, I don't agree with abortion. If there are medical reasons, that's different. Anyone who would get an abortion because they are not happy with the sex of the child is, in my opinion, worthy of judgment. No, I would not help her and I don't really think I would want to be friends with someone who could throw away a life over something as trivial as that.
  • As long as it's not illegal, it's not my place to judge anybody for exercising their legal rights.
  • In my opinion abortions are for young mothers, people who cannot afford to raise the child, rape victims, children that are SEVERELY! disabled, and people who are not fit to be parents (Drug abusers, drinkers violent)etc. The sex of the baby is an inhumane reason to want to get an abortion, you could always have another child after this one, its part way the fathers descision too. Id only be there for her because shes my freind and i must respect her descision, not for the reason shes doing it, of course id talk to her about not doing it but at the end of the day whats judging and bitching going to do, she will just go on her own then you two wont be freinds anymore.
  • I would try ro talk her out of it there is adoption or maybe even a friend or grandparent would want the child I had one once it is the hardest thing to forgive yourself for and you do have regrets after you do it you feel like it was murder if she still wants one don't judge her but if she is softhearted she will be upset afterwards
  • I would mention that her daughter is not just a bunch of cells, she has human DNA, making her . . . a human being, albeit a tiny one. Therefore, she would be ordering the killing of her own human daughter. I would not, under any circumstances participate in the killing of another human being, no matter how young. I would instead offer to help her select baby girl names.
  • While I am pro-choice, I do not think I could be a party to that. I would simply say that I cannot go. If she asked for a reason, I would explain my feelings on the matter.
  • If you weren't pro-choice, she wouldn't ask. If you're pro-choice, you would have to support her. It would be very hypocritical not to.
  • I think that she is your friend and you should support her. It probably was a very easy for her to come to you, keep that in mind as well. Your friend needs you.
  • I did it once and I'd do it again. Helping her I mean.
  • I don't think I have any friends who think like that, but I couldn't have anything to do with killing a child because it didn't have the right genitals.
  • Shes going to keep getting pregnant because the wrong gender?? What a bloody twat.
  • 'yet another girl???' Do you mean that she has done this before?
  • Too bad her mother did not abort her. She sounds like a pathetic, loser, uneducated fanatic or freak. And no, I would not support her or go with her. By the way, I am an atheist too.
  • It is 100% between her and the father of the child..if it is her husband, her boyfriend, her lover, a one-night stand, whatever. A best friend doesn't belong as the third wheel in this situation. Neither judging nor "helping" is the role of a best friend....not in this situation. And if the girl is fair she will not put that burden on a friend..it is her burden, not her friend's burden. If the baby's father wants no part of it, then the girl's parents need to be involvd, or her priest, or rabbi or whomever.
  • I can't support any person who continues to commit murder just because the baby is the wrong sex or they are using it for birth control or whatever. I believe abortion is wrong in any case and no I wouldn't support her
  • I'm pro choice but that is just wrong ,,,,,, its people like her that make women with a real reason to have an abortion with a choice you can support due to bad situations look bad and heartless .
  • sadly, it is an option sometimes , in China, ; even sadder, it happens after the baby is born................so technically, not an abortion, but more, a murder shall we say.
  • not a chance in hell! Although Ive often heard of people considering abortion due to a female child (never heard of the opposite) ive never known anyone who actually DID IT! Is this her decision solely, or is she receiving pressure from the father?
  • No, probably not. A child is a child, it's not like returning a shirt you didn't like once you got it home. If she wants a boy so badly, she needs to adopt, not be using abortion as a form of birth control.
  • No way! I doubt I would be friends with such a dopey sort of person anyway. I wouldn't go with a friend for an abortion for such trivial reasons because it goes against my personal beliefs. If she was so dead set against having a girl I would offer to adopt it or at least help in any other way I could but I couldn't live with myself if I went with her and would tell her in no uncertain terms how terrible I think it is.
  • No, I wouldn't help her in any way. What a ridiculous reason to obtain an abortion! I would try to dissuade her in any way I could. But on reflection, I don't believe I would consider someone like that as a friend.
  • Her body, her choice.
  • No, she would be going it alone or finding someone else to take her. It would be her choice to have the abortion and my choice not to be any part of that. No judgement, but I wouldn't help.
  • I am pro choice but that is a terrible REASON to have an abortion!!! My friend would be doing it alone I guess. I would not want any part of it at all. I have 3 boys and if I were to get pregnant with another boy I would never abort him although I would love to have a little girl! I would consider myself lucky either way! The health is more important than the sex of my child! :o)
  • No matter how much i tried I would not be able to support her. She needs to learn not to be so selfish. You cant pick and choose who your children are. I would try my best to talk her out of it and if she still wanted to go ahead with the abortion I'd tell her to go through it alone.
  • Isn't the basis of the abortion rights argument that the fetus is not a person, a human being? They argue that a fetus just collection of cells. So, how could this be wrong? You can't wrong or discriminate against a collection of cells. So, what difference does it make what her reasons are? I don't understand how one can be "pro-choice" but anti her choice if a fetus is not a human being, which is the basis of the abortion rights argument. Isn't this what the abortion fight was/is about - to be able to legally abort for whatever reasons she sees fit?
  • Pro choice is pro choice. If you're pro choice, you have to go with her. Only a pro choice hypocrite would judge or refuse to support her.
  • Well by the time you know the sex it's illegal to get an abortion.
  • I am very sorry about this answer. IF YOU ARE KILLING YOUR KID BECAUSE OF THE SEX SOMETHING IS SEROUSILY WRONG WITH YOU. Sorry just my thoughts. I know not everyone will agree
  • help i am a friend that won't judge her because she wants a boy so much that she gets an abortion for girls i judge my friends on how they act towards me and others
  • I'd talk to her about it, and try to convince her that this is a bad idea. There are a lot of valid reasons for having an abortion, but I think this is not one of them. If she still wanted an abortion, I'd go with her. Even if I disagree with her 100%, I would not be a true friend if I didn't support my friends when they asked me to/needed me to.
  • no, i would bitch-slap her and tell her to get a grip on reality.
  • That is a tough call. On one hand, I wouldn't agree with her reason for aborting, but if she had the baby, she might be abusive or neglectful towards it because she didn't get the gender she wanted. I don't think I could refuse to go with her; abortion is a horrible experience and she'll need someone there for that. However, I would tell her that, even though it's her decision, she should probably stop trying to get pregnant and just adopt since the odds are not in favor of her having a boy.
  • If my friend asked me to drive her to an abortion appointment, I would do so, no question. There would be no REASON for me to know why she is making that decision. It is immaterial. A friend needs me, I am there. Period.
  • She doesn't "need" me to go with her if she is headstrong enough to abort a fetus because it doesn't match her idea of what her next child should be. She sounds pretty determined so she can handle the details all by herself. I would think less of her for aborting based on such a superficial reason.
  • I wouldn't take her. It was anticipated that I would be a boy myself but I turned out to be a girl. This question springs the possibility of my mother aborting me because of my sex. I wouldn't exist today answering this question. But then, I also wouldn't have a close friend who would be so selfish.
  • The help I would give would be to try and get her to an adoption clinic where she can plan to give the baby up!!!! That is a terrible reason for an abortion - not that there are that many great reasons. I would never "enable"/"facilitate" her getting an abortion, of a (probably) perfectly healthy baby that some couple unable to have children might like to have!!
  • If there's nothing wrong with abortion, what difference does it make why she wants it? If you're pro choice, you're pro choice.
  • I'd tell her to save her money, then push her down the stairs not to save her money but to tell her that shes ignorant...
  • She wouldnt be my friend, I cant be friends with someone who thinks murder is okay when she doesnt like what she has been given.
  • I would convince her to have the baby girl and sell it as a sex slave/kitty porn centerfold. She could make the money to have her next fetus be geneticall altered to be a boy.
  • I wouldn't help her and I would lose all respect for her. Killing based on gender, sounds like another country I know of, and we call them evil?
  • I would talk to her about it, possibly suggest adoption...but ultimately it's her decision and as much as I wouldn't do that, her morals are different and I am nobody to try to change her.
  • I am VERY pro-choice and blame no woman for having an abortion because she doesn't want a baby. But to have gotten pregnant on purpose and destroy the infant because of it's gender, I think is mysoginistic and satanic. If she chose to get pregnant because she WANTED a child, then she shouldn't be throwing it away on the count of the fact that her husband and/or her wanted a boy. I would NOT support this behavior.
  • I would NOT help her. That would be no different than murder. Albeit abortion is murder but...that is even worse than regular abortion.
  • Your question specifically asks, "Would you help her or judge her?" If going with her is what you mean by helping her - no, I would not. Would I judge her? Yes. It would be impossible for me to not judge her or anyone else for that matter. Does that make me judgmental? Not any more than anyone else. It is my opinion that we all judge. I know a woman who had an abortion because her husband had just procured a sailboat and she didn't want him to have to give that up - (thinking that they could not afford both). I think it was deplorable and what your so-called friend wants to do is also deplorable. In my opinion she should have the guts to carry the child to full-term and allow some loving couple the great gift of adoption. In that way she will be helping rather than exterminating the precious child. For the record - I'm male, happily married, with 4 adult children. I am not a member of any organized religion. My Mother (with a capital "M") give birth to me when she was 16 in 1939. She had the opportunity to have an abortion performed by an M.D., even though at the time in this country it was illegal, but she opted to give me a chance. Up until the day she died at age 82 she proclaimed that it was the best decision she ever made.
  • I would definately JUDGE her as a MURDERer of her child. Since she KNOWS it is a BOY; there is a definate HEARTBEAT of a Living Baby ... Hell NO; I would,t help this butcher kill her child ... she'd be all on her own and we would NOT be friends ANYMORE !!
  • I don't particularly care for her reasons, but I will defend her right to an abortion for any reason at all.I have escorted many women, friends or not, to the clinic past the gauntlet of screaming whackos. I will continue doing so. I am prepared to use deadly force to protect her, if necessary. +5
  • Pro choicers say that it is just a bunch of cells and/or a parasite anyway. So, the mother's reasons shouldn't make any difference.
  • I thought you could only tell the sex of the baby much later on in the pregnancy, like after the time allowed to get an abortion legally has passed. So how is this question realistic?
  • shes having an abortion just because she wants to have a boy!??! what a stupid,stupid bitch
  • Abortion based on gender preference is perfectly legal so how could it possibly be wrong?
  • For this reason I could not go with her. I could be no part in aborting a life for such a shallow reason. I wouldn't mean to judge but probably would come off like I was. I just wouldn't want to be part of it.
  • It's none of my business what her reasons are. She's going to do it with or without me. I might need a favor from her and she'll remember that I helped her, plus it will be easier if she doesn't have a baby to take care of.
  • Abortion. Right to life. Each a personal choice. It is obvious that the reason for "the abortion" is to many a shallow and self serving reason but the simple fact is that it is her body, her life, her choice just as the consequences of her actions are hers to experience and live with afterwards. As her "friend" you have the right to help or not in accordance to your own conscience and she needs to respect that as much as she expects you to respect her choice to abort. I would go with her simply because I am of the opinion that each person must make and be free to make their own decisions as to what they will or will not do. But I would also share with her my thoughts about the matter as well. I would be well within my rights as a friend to say that while I will help her this time should the situation come up again not to ask for my help... if that is how I felt about. In regards to pro-lifers, other than stating objections towards another persons choice and labeling them based upon your own moral position what have you actually done personally to proactively help all of the miserable children in the world? Frankly I don't mean by just throwing a few bucks their way thru charitable organizations either. I hear so much talk about how precious life is and yet children suffer greatly and die every day not just in other countries but right on your own doorstep from horrible circumstances. What about the quality of their lives or don't they count? What about all of the damaged children that we already have that no one wants or knows what to do with? Perhaps efforts and energies would be better spent working towards improving the lives of these unfortunate children who are already here and suffering. It's much harder to effect actual change on the scale that needs to happen for all of the children who are here today and suffering needlessly for want of a "real" concern about how precious the life of a child should be once it is past the womb.
  • I'd stand guard.

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