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  • ur gonna have to help ur self here, u know what u want and what u have to do, it is time for u to stand up for u and do what is best for u. good luck+4.
  • If you really want to leave get up and leave and if he bothers you call the law to him.
  • When you finally get sick enough of it, you'll do something about it. Obviously, you have an internet connection. Use it wisely. There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.
  • Its time for a new boyfriend. Hes insecure and Possessive, And Bordering on Abusive. If he isnt already. I would enlist help, Whatever it takes to distance yourself from this man.
  • Since you still have parents and you want to talk with them, go to them. Pack your bag when this man is not present, and go to your parents. Even if it is just to stay for a few hours while you call a women's shelter and arrange to stay at a safe house. You are being abused. You need to get out of there, seek assistance, and seek counseling to deal with the effects of having been essentially held prisoner and to help arrive at a mental/emotional place where this cannot happen again.
  • You have a controlling person on your hands and you need to leave, asap. This relationship is heading for big trouble. And, you will probably be the one hurt the most by domestic violence. Make a plan to leave and stick with it. Even if you have to sneak out of the house late at night. Your safety is at stake here.
  • Honey he will eventually hurt you. He cut you off because he doesn't want anybody know when he hurts you physically, or emotionally. Please get out this relationship! Do not cut off with your parents. Go TO YOUR parents from him. You bf it way too controlling! Nothing good will come out this relationship. A good relationship is based on all the opposite from what he does.
  • Your boyfriend is an abuser. This is classic behavior. Go back to your parents now and stay until you get your life back in order.
  • I know how you feel. He's the worst thing that could have come along and I know you feel alone and helpless too. Nothing is going to change unless you change it. No one is going to come along and do it for you. Go to your parents and tell them you want out. If they are good parents they will help you.
  • You must leave. Get help from your family. Contact the police. Get a retraining order. Anything you can do to protect yourself. His behavior is abusive. You know that, or you wouldn't want to leave. When you do leave, be very careful though and make sure you are well protected. These types can get violent when someone leaves them. Best of luck to you.l
  • Sweetheart he cannot force you to stay with him unless you let him. It might not be as easy as just walking out - who owns your house etc? But you DO have options - go to your parents and tell them exactly what you have said here; you might be surprised but they will have sensed something is werong and might be waiting for you to ask for their help. If it is your property have your parents come over so you are not alone when you ask him to leave. If he refuses, and it is your property you can call the police and have them remove him. It is tough but you obviously know that this is an abusive and destructive relationship or you wouldn't have asked this question. You'll be amazed at the support that will be there for you once you take that first step. Good luck.
  • He has no right to keep you against your will. Call your parents then call the police. He will only get worse, so you must get out NOW. I cannot stress this enough. He is breaking the law. Make sure you get a restraining order once you are out and make contact with all your old friends to let them know what is going on. It's instinctive to want to hide from this but that allows it to fester. Tell everyone and get out NOW!
  • Have someone beat the living crap out of him, thats what he needs and is what it will take to make him leave you alone.
  • You must act on your gut feeling. You know what's right.
  • Nothing good can come from such a controlling relationship. He must be very insecure. He also sounds paranoid. Sounds like a dangerous personality. Don't let anyone cut you off from life!! He should seek professional help, and you need to get out......make sure to take steps to protect yourself. Good luck.
  • You should leave.Maybe your parents can help you.
  • First chance you get the hell out of there get the police if need be. This guy is dangerous. The more people that knows about it the safer you will be you need to let the police know he may be capable of killing you.. You leave he will be looking for you. you watch your back and never tell him wher you are or go back to him These people do kill http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=1793974 http://www.google.com/search?q=murder+sucide&hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&hs=Ck&start=10&sa=N Take your pick. Honey if you value your life please get out.
  • i was in this same situation. when it finally all boiled down, i waited for him to go to work, took my kids and left the state of Washington and moved to Arizona with my mom (it was the only place i had to go, no money, left everything behind.)
  • Its called imprisoning someone against their will it is against the law in most states. Get out if you have to call the cops to get out make the stand now. Get the law involved and get a restraining order against him. This will lead to violance against you if you stay. Go to your parents and stay with them deffinantly or shelters as others suggest but get out.
  • really, just run away! I've done the same thing. I called an old girlfriend, she found a room for me and one day I just left the house and left a note behind. it was wonderful to be free! my relationships with friends and family have all been restored. go with god!!!
  • Put on an extra 100 pounds & he'll be begging ya to leave!
  • You have hooked up with a control freak who will eventually hurt you very badly or worse. Get the police involved and link up with family who can help you through this. This freak will not stop on his own. Time for him to get a wake up call or maybe for him to get hiss ass kicked.
  • Smith and Wesson - 9mm. works everytime
  • I will help you. Pack your bags and leave. Or else walk out, down to somewhere that is safe i.e. your parents and then come back with somebody and get your stuff and leave. You will have a far better life for it. I wish you the best of luck xxx
  • Fear keeps you there - fear of him, how he will react, but also fear of the unknown - how you will cope on your own, starting again etc. Think about how independent you once were, and compare that with how you are now. You were once able to make decisions for yourself, like whether or not to move in with him, so you can do it again now - to move out. If you are worried about his reactions, then just wait until he is out and go - pack what you can, and leave. If you do not have time to pack, then just go to the supermarket one day and do not return. Do not stop talking to your parents - they are your parents!!! go to them and ask fr their support - I am sure they will be glad to help you!!! Once you have put all this behind you, do not look back, but be happy!
  • Does he sleep? Does he ever leave the house to go to work or anywhere? Unless he has you tied up...LEAVE! If he locks you in...but you are not tied up...BREAK A WINDOW AND LEAVE! Every nasty, negative thing he has said to you IS A LIE. You can leave anytime you want unless he has you tied and gaged, and locked in a room without a phone. Call 911...even if you can not speak it tracks where the call comes from and the cops will come, have them escort you out and away.... If you can take your clothes, do it, if you can't LEAVE THEM ...there are more clothes out in the real world... GET OUT!
  • I think you should get out of the relationship as fast as you possibly can before things get ugly
  • First let me say kudos to you for realizing that someone who is possessive, controlling and insecure is not going to make you happy in life by keeping you socially imprisoned. But, if you really want to leave, it can be done, there are resources and help available if need be. You've takent he first step by realizing you need to leave, take the next.
  • A common pattern of an insecure control freak. It won't change without counseling. If he won't go to counseling, you better! You need to decide whether or not you want a chance for a happy life, and to be your own person. This happens to many women. Those that stay in the relationship without counseling are never happy.
  • Since you obviously have access to the internet, type "womens support group + (your city name)" and call them right away. If that doesn't help, call this number, now 1-888-743-5754
  • ...Hes a bad guy, get away... He will eventually hit you, verbally abuse you... hurt your children, and try to kill you if you ever leave... get out now while you can...PLEASE!!!!! now....do whatever measures it takes, have protection, family help, friend help...police help, restrictions...WHATEVER IT TAKES. ive been there done that...the whole 9 yards. LEAVE NOW.
  • Get out. There are hotlines to help, including local women's shelters. See the following (from my profile). Actual links are included in most of them. Are women who continually date men who are abusive, or put up with abuse, or make excuses for the guy, naive? Can they really not see the signs or just don't know what to do? Or do they think it's "love"? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3047295 Signs of abuse, even early on - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2872392 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3766947 (controllers) Signs of abuse, and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3384385 Would you stay with a guy that dont treat you right just becouse you love him? - (Mostly assuming abuse:) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5438372 See poem, and below, also. (Search for "abusive relationship".) Just to make you think about abuse: A poem © 1992 by Paulette Kelly I Got Flowers Today I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today. Abusive Relationships - Recognizing you're in one and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2748410 If you don't understand what the answers are from those, here it is again. GET OUT. LEAVE. "He won't let me" is tantamount to kidnapping. Call the cops. They will help you.
  • you are an adult...you do not need his permission for you to leave...if you wait for that, you won't ever leave.
  • This is the begning , then it will be physical ,and the things will go on and on so0 its better for u to leave him right now or tell him that u dont like his bossy nature . i hope all is well with u there mate :) God bless :)
  • I have been with someone that controlling before and know you are in fear, but if you continue to stay, the control will worsen. Do you have parents to help you out?
  • It didn't happen overnight, but you have been living in an abusive relationship for that five years --- it was wasted time! Your S.O. is a control freak, and if you don't stand up for yourself now you will be totally and completely isolated. Yes, you CAN leave him! - - unless he is with you 24-hours every day and keeps you tethered to a ball and chain. At the first opportunity please contact your nearest social services office and ask them to help you. And do let your parents know what is going on --- though they have probably already figured out what is going on. Ask them to help you, too! Good luck and GOD bless you!
  • You cut yourself off from the world and your friends, i have no sympathy for women like you, you make your own misery, nobody can help you but yourself, we don't do anything that we don't want to. stand up for yourself and do what makes you happy not him, stop being so weak minded.
  • I agree with number ten. I'm relieved that you see that this behavior is not okay. That's the first step. The second step is to walk out the door. You've already supplied a few reasons to leave, but I want you to read this next paragraph specifically. You deserve happiness. You deserve a man that not only lets you have friends and family but worships the ground you walk on. You deserve someone who treats you with kindness, respect, and compassion. You deserve someone who tells you that you're beautiful every day and MEANS IT. You deserve someone who respects your opinions, and asks for your input on things that matter. You deserve someone who loves you for your heart, soul, and mind. You deserve someone you can be emotionally close to and share anything about yourself with.
  • Call your parents tell them you want to leave. Have them come pick you up, and take your stuff with you. Any children or animals need to go with you. He'll use them as hostages if you don't. Once you're away, don't call, don't write, if you feel the need to explain a letter left at your departure will do. The important part is to stay away from him, until you're strong enough to face him without sliding back into bad choices.
  • anonymous. We haven't heard from you since March 31, so you must be dead. You should have heeded the advice offered to you.
  • It's not about him letting you, you can leave. So do it. He's never going to change. You will grow older with him and end up hating yourself. Get out. You deserve better
  • I am sorry you or anyone has to deal with someone like this. the problem really isn't him!! YOU are treated the way you allow others to treat you. you have to get out before you are hurt to the point of no return. I do wish you luck, if you ever need to talk, pls look on my profile and get my email address, May God bless you and your family
  • Dump that control freak now. You are on a path that willnot end up well. Get your family involved and get rid of that boil on your ass now.
  • IF YOU ARE UNABLE TO LEAVE HIM AT THIS TIME, THEN GO TO SCHOOL FOR SOMETHING YOU ARE INTERESTED IN

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