simple answer is because she is now a teenager and knows all she needs to know, according to her. She will argue with you over the color of the sky or the words you use in a sentence...it is part of being a teenager. At least that is what we are currently going through with a 14 year old. She will scream the most hurtful things at you and five minutes later be the most loving daughter known to man. Tears over the smallest things are sure to be in her near future. Good luck and remember to practice patience.

This is a time where your teenager is getting his/her first tastes of independence but this isn’t all he/she should be getting. He/she should also be getting more responsibility. If you let your teenager become hostile because of a lack of set guidelines and rules, it will be harder to begin implementing these rules after he/she has already been experimenting with hostile behavior, such as yours has. Ideally, it's important to introduce these rules from the beginning, even before you notice hostility in your teenager, in order to keep your home exactly as it should be—a home and not a battle ground. Your best bet, now that it's at this point of actual physical defiance (even assault), you must be firm, strong and consistent. Your daughter needs solid rules with firm and consistent punishment for bad behavior. 1. Cancel her cell phone today. 2. Expect an apology for pushing you and decide on the appropriate punishment. 3. Lay out rules clearly. I'd write them down. Explain the punishments involved with breaking each one. If she DOES break one, be firm and follow through on the punishments. You don't have to be cruel. In fact, you should be calm, but you can't accept this type of behavior -- even once. Good luck

Why? Could be any number of reasons. As for the help part...I suppose you could put her up for adoption and start over again! Seriously, I can't begin to give valid advice without more information. What works in one situation will not work in another. Lori K has this covered for most generic situations.

Maybe she does not understand her schoolwork. Try studying her assignment to see if you could better explain it to her.

Love to answer this question. Raised a daughter and two granddaughter the same identical way. Its mostly hormones, but you are their mother and mothers know best. Taking the cellphone away? good start. physical assault does not make it. Gave my granddaughter a 30 detention in her room. no entertainments whatso ever. she could do her homework. we had a big calendar in her room, so we could mark off each day remaining. she did her 30 days and thanked me later. What did she do? gave her money to go to the mall. plenty for her. she wanted more. she stole $3.00 out of my billfold. 10 days for each $10.00. Get a handle on your daughter now. its not going to improve with her age. Next time she assaults you, call the police. spending three days in junvenile court jail works wonders.

hello my name is Sophia an i am around that age. i understand you and her had a little fight. it happens a lot. one thing to note about our age is we love to Text and Talk so taking a phone away is like well Very Very Bad When she Grabbed yours and pushed you away she was probly feeling very mad and she did the thing that came to her mind first which was "grab mom's phone that will teach her" teens are hard to understand. i suggest having a meeting with you, her, and your husband to find something that works for you school, phone, and punishment wise. Good Luck! From Sophia

Its easy to answer that question. Most people doesnt believe in discipling their children and thats why kids feel that they should have their way. Your daughter is not behaving the way she should behave. Some kids doesnt need discipline but your daughter does. Do you actually think taking her cell phone away is going to make her do her work, then you have another thing coming honey. With this attitude problem she has, you need to take care of that real quick baby before it's too late. See the way i was raised, your daughter would be in the hospital because of her smart mouth and the way she pushed you, that really cut the cake. YOu see you need to start taming that tail and if that dont straighten her you move on with your fist and not boot camp or nanny 911 because you gave birth to her and noone else so you have to raise her properly under your own guardianship and noone else.

You need to talk to your daughter. Keeping an open line of communication with your teen is extremely important. They are all going through a pretty tough time in their lives right now. Think back to when you were her age - all the pressures to fit and to hang with the right circle of people. It's tough being a kid even more so now these days. Instead of telling her or demanding her to do anything talk the issue at hand out first. So what if she misses one night of homework, if you would've used that opportunity to talk things over in the long run the benefits would have outweighed the completed assignment credit. She needs you right now - don't let her go! Nothing is more important then her emotional well being right now and she needs your guidance whether she realizes it or not. Just let her know that you are always there for her whenever she needs to talk to you and that your door is always open. Good luck!

It's all hormones. No worries. Some day she will come back to you and hug you and say, "Sorry for all the times I caused you hassle."

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