ANSWERS: 54
  • Looks are only skin deep.Ugly goes to the bone.
  • As a social "norm" this might be true, however, I don't think so. There have been many men I have dated that were overweight and did just as much as the fit men did. At times fit men were a turn off, simply because some were more interested in their body than furthering a relationship. There were a couple of times they also were more interested in impressing their buddies. That, for me, was more of a turn off. But this is just my opinion.
  • it doesnt all come down to looks. there would be no point in going out with a "fit man" if all he did was pose all day and treat you bad.not that all "fit" men do but looks and a personality are good lol i know people that are a bit overweight that have loads of girlfriends
  • Fat men are a definite turn off for me. But I'd rather be with a fat man with a lovely mind and heart, than a fit man with an ugly mind and a selfish heart. Edit: People's definitions of 'fat' vary. By fat, I mean grosssly overweight.
  • Theres nothing wrong with someone just because they are heavier than another individual. It doesnt make them any less of a person The heavier person may have a bigger heart, and better value towards life, and more respect towards you as a person. Whereas the fit man may have no brain, treat you terribly, and be totally disrespectful and into himself. I know if I had a choice I would choose someone who treats me better rather than looking at weight as a primary reason of attration. ITs about who they are not what they look like. Although its nice to be attractive, looks can only go so far and are no comparison to compassion, inner beauty, intellect, and so on. The only thing that would highly concern me with the heavier man would be to make sure they are at least watching their diet and not ill because of their weight. There are some people who have medical issues which make them heavier than others, also medication has an impact on some people and their weight. Its all a choice and depends on the woman though. Who are we to judge a person based on their weight. We are no different than anyone else and deserve to respect one another and like someone for the right reasons and not what they look like .
  • I think you will find women like all types of men, fit, fat etc. Besides looks are only skin deep and it is what is inside that counts.
  • Well....depends how fat. I prefer what I would call 'solid'...the sort of bloke you can snuggle in to. Hugely obese I'm afraid would be a turn off. Just to show that size really doesn't count though, my husband is maybe 65Kg wringing wet!
  • a fit man is very sexy, i love to bite on bones, but dont get me wrong i do love to get a hold on some extra meat once in a while...and you'll be surprised unfit man try harder to please you
  • There is someone for everyone
  • I have always fancied men who are a little on the stocky side. When I married my husband he was really skinny. He has filled out nicely and I find him very attractive. My grandfather was grossly obese and he was married twice. I suppose my grandmother and his second wife found some redeeming qualities in him. Sadly, I just found him to be a rude, dirty old fat bastard.
  • Women like fit men, but we don't like men ONLY if they are fit. Fit may draw the eye, but the heart is what keeps us coming back. My husband was grossly underweight when we met (135 lbs. and 6 feet tall), and now he's over 200 pounds with a beer belly. I love him just the same.
  • I am not into buff guys .. or really "pretty" guys who are vain or too good looking.. I like the average joe ..I get picked on because I think Kevin Spacey is hot lol .. I like rugged and stocky builds....a little thick.. or tall and lanky ..so I have to be honest and say that if a man is indeed "fat".. I will most likely not be physically/sexually attracted to him on an intimate level. I like someone to take care of themselves and be somewhat active.. not be a stud but healthy unless they are unable to for medical reasons. I like different types and sizes of people as friends .. their personalities attracts me .. My friends are all shapes and sizes. Male and female..it depends on if we click . .. not size.
  • When you say "like" I'm going to assume dating. Anywho, I think that some women might think "fat" men are a turn off (and vice-versa) because (assuming that they don't have any diseases) it shows they do not have very much self control and they don't take care of their health and body.
  • Thankfully, not all women have to have a "buff" guy. My fiance says she loves me just as I am.. she is about 107lbs and I am 315lbs. So, there you go. She must be telling the truth, because I have given her every opportunity to find someone else,, and she just keeps coming back. LOL
  • Well I hope women MOSTLY go for personality and other qualities that attract them to a man or other women. But being fit is like bonus points... Every girl/women out there is different... so it depends on how they think about things.
  • I like all kinds of men, depending on how he takes care of himself. If he's not physically fit and a slob, that's a turn-off. But if he's a hound for cleanliness and takes care of himself, I'd find him rather attracting.
  • well to me a fat men can look just as good as fit man..it doesnt matter just as long you and that person have a connection what looks gotta do with it..my man is chubby and really tall, but all i carea bout is that i found a good man who can really appreciate me.
  • To be dead honest, its instictive for a female to mate with the fittest and the strongest of the males so I guess fat men are... um... physically unattractive?
  • Everyone's different - but looks are the first impression. You're less likely to talk to someone who doesnt match your 'criteria', whatever that may be. I agree though, looks don't seem to be important if you have the confidence and the attitude to 'get in there' and allow others around you to see who you are under the mask.
  • I must admit I like fit healthy looking men, some women prefer men with spare flesh I have a sister that likes larger men Personally except as friends i do not find them sexually attractive
  • Women want powerful men. If your fat and powerful - thats ok still.
  • A bit 'fat' is ok i think - look at Vince Vaughn. Men can get away with being a bit overweight much more than women - it seems less obvious for some reason.
  • Being overweight has the same effects on a man's physical attractiveness as they do a woman's. Having said that, physical attractiveness is only one single part of overall attractiveness. I certainly do not even find it to be the most important part of attractiveness. Personality, intelligence, integrity, and respect all have a greater impact on how attractive I find a man.
  • Fat men are not a turn off,but I do believe they have to go that extra mile to smell good,dress nice, and have a nice car.That's just what I see,but to me most fat men treat women better.
  • i think its the same for both sex. society says that fit poeple are more attractive then the Fat people. thus you have many fat children get rejected from other children. and its mostly the same for the fat people who are older. its shallow but true.
  • How fat is fat? I don't particularly like skinny guys. If a guy has a little extra meat, it means I can poke fun of them and poke at their bellies and jokingly buy them light beer. A little beer gut is ok ... a lot, I don't think I would find attractive.
  • It's what's inside that counts.
  • I wish I knew the answer here. I'm a 28 year old Big Man. I'm not huge but not small (5"10 - 235). I'm not an ugly man. I have a great job, very nice house and car, wonderful dog. I dress very well and take care of myself, i've even modeled for a big and tall magazine several times. I try everyday to just be a good person and to do good things for my friends. I go out often to events and music shows and such (not a homebody). I am confident and not afriad to hit on women i find attractive. In my expierience, women just dont go for chubby or big guys, and if some do, i sure havent found any of any sort of quality or at least not here in northern california (i'm not very picky if the girl speaks well and has some personality). my question is were are all these women that wright that looks arent that important to them, and that a big heart and good personality can go a long way. I dont consider myself out of touch with reality so although it is possible i have a terrible personality to go along with my bigness, and perhaps thats why my luck has been so bad, from what my friends and associates say, i'm a nice guy (sometimes too nice). right now i've pretty much resigned myself to the fact that good women just arent into big men. maybe one of you ladies can tell me where to go here in norcal to prove me wrong, hell even to prove me right or to tell me "yeh man, you personality sucks" hehe. I'm just looking for some answers.
  • I dont see the problem,i had a large boyfriend he was very good looking and it made no odds he was all man!!! ;)
  • define fat...are we talking beer belly? a bit podgy? or morbidly obese? most girls i know wouldnt find the last one attractive however if you have the right attitude (i.e. be a nice guy) then every girl will notice you.
  • Who's kidding who here? MOST women wouldn't bat an eye at a fat dude. MOST women are very superficial. There are exceptions to the rule, but on average? A woman will pass right on by Mr Chubby, and drool on Mr Buff. Ironically, Mr Buff will probably end up beating the shit out of her, and she'll be crying in her soup on a rainy day. BC
  • You can be fat and fit. Fit is good, fat is not necessary bad, if you are not obese. In that last case, it is some kind of illness. And you can also not always been made responsible for it. Anyway, these are just aspects in your personality. Other aspects can make you very valuable.
  • I get my fair share.
  • I like people for their personality, not the packaging. If you have a great sense of self, are compassionate, funny and treat others nicely, you can be a half a ton and I will still like you.
  • Well I was a fat guy growing up and I can tell you that the definitive answer to this question is fat men must be a turn off. I have had way less luck in the love department (at least when it came to getting lucky) then most of my more fit male peers at the time. Some of it may come down to confidence - but this confidence can only take you so far. I have sprung out of my fear of rejection from time to time and became bold enough to make that first move only to be shot down again, had I been "Hot or Sexy" so to speak I probably would have scored. Either that or I am simply the most unlucky man alive.
  • A research shows that 70% of men like women with some meat on their bodies. From this, I think quite men love fat women. I know there are a lot of FA which means bbw admirers at largeplace.com
  • Well if that were the case 90% of men and women would be alone.
  • Yes. My husband got fat - I stayed thin - I'm not very turned on and it's a huge disappointment. People of either gender owe it to their spouse to keep themselves looking good. When they don't keep up their looks and their partner does, it's a very unfair (and unrealistic) approach to the marriage.
  • You know it always makes me laugh when I hear women say this rubbish about "it's what's on the inside that counts" and "looks are not important as long as he has a great personality" why do they pretend to have this inner nobility, when in reality 99.9% of them would not give a fat guy the time of day. I speak with authority as in my job I see it everyday. I myself am a bar manager in a health and fitness club, I am in great physical shape (a perk of the job). You see a great many of my clientele are overweight men and a great many are women. I have become pretty friendly with a lot of these men as they are genuinely nice guys who are fat for many different reasons but who are all too often unfairly judged and dismissed as being beneath those of normal weight. And the worst culprits for this judgemental attitude you guessed it, the women who frequent my bar. How is a guy supposed to show his personality, kindness, warmth etc if he is rejected at first glance. In my opinion most of the women I come across on a regular basis are shallow liars .
  • I think women respond to the self confidence of a man more than the actual appearance. After all the meat will eventually rott on us all.
  • if big men find that women are superficial and therefore aren't into them, maybe it's because they are only going for the women who are thin and beautiful. people are comfortable with someone who is comparable in looks to themselves--so big men, are you giving big women a chance?
  • Yes, I'm sorry but it's true. I'm a 5'8", 300 pound, 34 year old nice guy and I've lost many women to "fit" guys. It didn't seem to matter to these women that these "fit" guys were retarded or even child molesters. One lady even ended up marrying a guy who raped her. He even raped a fourteen year old girl right in front of her. But she married him anyway instead of me because he was "fit".
  • Nope, me and my man started off "fit" then we gained weight together,didn't become less attracted to each other. I like my man more teddy bearish, he was too hard when he was fit, muscle men are hard to cuddle!!
  • Not always...I personally find it a turn-off if a man is obsessed with his body
  • I like sweet chubby guys. Sorry!
  • Yep, absolutely.
  • women are just so iffy, u can never really tell what they want. they want some one to respect them and love them and be great fathers to their children, and the only type of man capable of that type of affection is a sensitive guy sometimes an overweight guy. its like the physcally flawless guy is the on who knows he can do what ever whether it be cheating, beating, just abuse in general a woman will take it just because the man is just "physcally flawless"..i dont know about the women but it kinda seems like getting with the sexy guy is sorta like settling for less.. i dont know but thats just the way that im seems from my point of view. i mean the sexy man will eventually leave u. no and ifs or buts about it u will be hurt. and then it could be alot worst, u might end up having a baby thinking ur in love, or just to keep that particular man around, and now ur raising a child by urself with animosity building and depression will eventually set in, all because u wanted a "physcally flawless" man it just makes sense for a woman looking to settle down to just get with an overweight guy and build up his esteem and then after showing him love for a while he will try to achieve a higher standard of living just for you women and then u will have a man who actually loves u and who lost weight to keep u interested being oggled by other women but since u gave him a chance first ur the only woman he sees.. so truly women is dating a large/ fat/ big man really settling for less or that bad. i dont know but u women should really think about it.
  • I think the answer by Anonymous1 makes the most sense. Most women here who say "a man's look/fitness doesn't matter, it's what inside him that matters" just want to sound noble, or don't want to hurt the feeling of fat men. But a woman's mouth and heart don't always match. Women often say one thing but act the opposite. By the way, I think the question should be posed this way, then maybe they can answer more honestly. Everything thing else about personality etc. being the same, do women prefer their men to be fit or fat? Or it can be posed another way: Do fit men attract more women than fat men? ------------------------------------------------------ by Anonymous1 on Apr 12, 2008 at 8:40 pm Permalink You know it always makes me laugh when I hear women say this rubbish about "it's what's on the inside that counts" and "looks are not important as long as he has a great personality" why do they pretend to have this inner nobility, when in reality 99.9% of them would not give a fat guy the time of day. I speak with authority as in my job I see it everyday. I myself am a bar manager in a health and fitness club, I am in great physical shape (a perk of the job). You see a great many of my clientele are overweight men and a great many are women. I have become pretty friendly with a lot of these men as they are genuinely nice guys who are fat for many different reasons but who are all too often unfairly judged and dismissed as being beneath those of normal weight. And the worst culprits for this judgemental attitude you guessed it, the women who frequent my bar. How is a guy supposed to show his personality, kindness, warmth etc if he is rejected at first glance. In my opinion most of the women I come across on a regular basis are shallow liars . 5Pts Rate
  • I think chubby isn't a big deal but fat is a turn off........and in general if you have two men with identical personalities I would go for the one in better shape because I'm really active and he would probably be a better fit for me.
  • I think the answer by Anonymous1 makes the most sense. Most women here who say "a man's look/fitness doesn't matter, it's what inside him that matters" just want to sound noble, or don't want to hurt the feeling of fat men. But a woman's mouth and heart don't always match. Women often say one thing but act the opposite. By the way, I think the question should be posed this way, then maybe they can answer more honestly. Everything thing else about personality etc. being the same, do women prefer their men to be fit or fat? Or it can be posed another way: Do fit men attract more women than fat men? ------------------------------ ------------------------ by Anonymous1 on Apr 12, 2008 at 8:40 pm Permalink You know it always makes me laugh when I hear women say this rubbish about "it's what's on the inside that counts" and "looks are not important as long as he has a great personality" why do they pretend to have this inner nobility, when in reality 99.9% of them would not give a fat guy the time of day. I speak with authority as in my job I see it everyday. I myself am a bar manager in a health and fitness club, I am in great physical shape (a perk of the job). You see a great many of my clientele are overweight men and a great many are women. I have become pretty friendly with a lot of these men as they are genuinely nice guys who are fat for many different reasons but who are all too often unfairly judged and dismissed as being beneath those of normal weight. And the worst culprits for this judgemental attitude you guessed it, the women who frequent my bar. How is a guy supposed to show his personality, kindness, warmth etc if he is rejected at first glance. In my opinion most of the women I come across on a regular basis are shallow liars . ------------------------------------------------ ~ME I Agree with the above statements, as they are true for women in GENERAL, some women may be different, and some women will disagree just for the fact they don't want to be categorized, but they only say these things to make you feel better, which is not what you need. You need to understand the truth no matter how much it hurts. Ok look here people, To be honest, (this coming from a fat guy, for lack of better wording) women just dont want us. We have a lot of two things against us. 1. Overweight, all that "its whats inside you that counts", or "personality is everything" humor us. Most fat people have a better sense of reality and know your lying, some may not be, but generally are. 2. Your nice, from the start you already have 2 things against you, women dont want nice guys they want assholes, jackasses, jerks, whatever you prefer, and it has been scientifically proven so none of that bs either. We may be nice and cool to hang out with, but we are only FRIEND material, cause at the end of the day, no matter what she says she will pick the "fit" guy in the end, unless its to prove my point wrong then she'll pick you. Either way you lose. :( ~im the truth, why would i lie?~
  • I'm chubby.. and my girlfriend is really fit (bitch has a six pac) She doesn't love me any less cause I got more to love =p
  • not at all. However, it is unattractive if they guy is morbidly overweight...its not that hard to go walk on the tredmill a few times a week, it shows that you care about yourself and about her. And caring about yourself is a turn on. I like when a guy has a little meat on him. xoxo
  • chubby is great!!!! Morbidly obese is gross, too skinny is ok, but i really have no interest in the gym hoes. Im sure some of them are nice guys, but most of them are womanizing pigs, who are deeply in love with themself.
  • Umm, I don't really know but I don't think I would ever like someone who's fat. For me, fat men are a turn off.

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