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  • it's easier to kill than to carry to term and give it away.
  • Doing so means actually going through the hole pregnancy and the extreme pain that is child birth. Alot of woman are also very afraid that they will not be able to give up the child for adoption and take abortion as the easy way out. The bigger question should be "why do these people get pregnant in the first place?"
  • i think it's just that they don't want to be thinking that their kid is somewhere out there in the world, without their mom. because even thought they didn't want the child, i believe they still feel the obligation towards it ,since it's alive. And really though...our adoption agencies will be overcrowding!!! some people lost their sense of morals unfortunately. so even though i do not agree with abortion....it's a very complicated concept..
  • Some do. . What's so hard about it? 9 months of pregnancy. painful childbirth. maternal bonding during all that time. Oh... I dunno. Silly female emotions, I guess. . Why can't they have a choice?
  • If you have ever been a mother who has had to give up there baby you would understand just how hard it is - it is not something that you can easily explain to someone else. I have been in that position and it is not an experience I would like to repeat and in all honesty sometimes I do wish I had had an abortion because now - nearly 18 years on i have the whole trauma of that big question - will we or wont be contact each other, will she hate me for what I did. Not a day goes by without me wondering - where is she?, is she still alive?, is she happy?, does she hate me?
  • They can. Did you man why don't they?
  • It's not just a matter of giving up the baby, for some the entire process of nine months of total misery for nothing is not worth it. My sister gave up two babies for adoption, and had at least one abortion (that I know of, there might have been more). She also gave birth to one child who was raised by his grandmother, and two children she raised herself, when she finally straightened out her life, only to have her husband run off and leave her.
  • It is a question I have often asked. In most cases, it just comes down to convenience. IN Britain recently, there was a case of a woman who has had a large number of government paid abortions because, in her own words, she couldn't be bothered taking precautions.
  • Because heaven forbid they should "destroy their bodies", killing innocent babies is so much easier! Sickening really!
  • because she will have formed a body over the 9months and cant bare to separate from it but she cannot raise a child
  • Not many women are into the idea of going through an entire pregnancy only to give the baby to someone else afterwards and act like it never happened. If it was as easy as you're making it sound, no one would get abortions.
  • they have to keep the baby for 9 months first to bring it to life, they are going to get attached with the baby... its quite difficult....since they don't want the baby they don't want ot pay the expenses, i think i understand these women....
  • look people abortion is wrong go to www.abortionfacts.com its an awesome site, please pay special attention to the facts on partial-birth abortion its really good to know if more people understood whats really happening during an abortion i promise there wouldn't be as many
  • Well, with these right-wing dominant states passing amendments restricting WHO can adopt children, the already difficult process is not getting any better. Funny thing is, the same people who field the "Adopt, don't abort" side of the argument are the same people who are passing these amendments - to "protect" children from being raised by single people and homosexual couples. Make sense of that one.
  • My answer neither condemns nor condones abortion, but the reason women choose early abortion over going through the pregnancy and place the baby for adoption is that it is far easier for someone to have a very early fetus removed than to go through pregnancy but (more importantly) be faced with a 6 lb baby that one needs to give away, hope that child doesn't get some freaks as parents, and then later deal with possibly re-uniting with a child they never wanted to have (and trying to explain why they placed him/her for adoption). As someone who has adopted one child, had one premie, one borderline premie, and one second trimester miscarriage, I have to say that - as bad as the miscarriage was - having the miscarriage was far less complicated and difficult than it would have been to give up any of my three children. Some women who have abortions actually believe that a fetus is better off being killed than to be allowed to grow into a child who must deal with some of the things SOME adopted children must deal with. Again, I'm not condoning or condemning - just saying that's a lot of women's thinking.
  • Several other people have pointed out good reasons, but I'd like to add that most women who opt to abort are doing so because they're poor single mothers. I doubt they'd be having an abortion if they could afford to have a baby. Prenatal care is expensive, especially when she might not have health insurance. If there was a program that would help low income women pay for the medical costs, then maybe more of them would choose to go through an adoption agency rather than having an abortion. Also, a woman might have deeply personal reasons for not wanting to keep the baby. Maybe she was raped and can't stand to have that violence revisited on her body through childbirth. Alternately, if she's in an abusive or unhappy relationship, she may not want to have kids by that man. Although one could argue that the woman could then choose not to have sex, people often behave in emotional rather than rational ways. If you personally are opposed to abortion, then why not offer to help with the problem? There are several things you can do. Donate to a local women's center, or visit that single young mother in your neighborhood with a casserole and some old baby hand-me-downs. Also, write to your congressperson and ask them to support legislation that will make adoption easier. If you are truly concerned for the plight of these children, why not offer to give a loving home to one or more yourself?
  • Maybe they don't want anyone to know they got pregnant.
  • It's probably harder to part with someone you've known for nine months than a fetus you've had for a few weeks/days. If it's a teenage mother especially, there is alot of stigma and bad publicity that follows her around.
  • Wow. I think some people took this question the wrong way and it is a very touchy topic. I don't think Egao intended to imply that he felt that it was "wrong" or that women who choose one over the other are in some way bad people. I took it as a user simply wanting to understand why adoption is not chosen more often. Awkwardly phrased? Perhaps, but anyway. . . The only person who understands why they opted to abort rather than place a child up for adoption is the individual who made this choice. There is no one reason women choose one over the other. Some of the answers here bring up excellent points. One mentioned the cost of pre-natal care and pregnancy related expenses. Some jurisdictions are proposing measures that pay a woman to place her child up for adoption rather than have an abortion. Interesting and not a concept that many would necessarily welcome, but that is a whole other question an discussion of it's own. Incest an rape situations add a whole new level to an already complex situation. Or one in which the mother's life is in danger if she chose to give birth rather than abort. If I had to pick one among the people I know who have had abortions, it was the emotional aspect of carrying to term and having to let go at the end that drove their decisions. They simply couldn't face it. One girlfriend of mine had a father that was abusive and she feared that he would try to kill her baby via abuse when he found out she was pregnant.She didn't want her baby to die that way. She was a teenager at the time and felt that she had no other alternative given her circumstances. That has got to be one of the most heartbreaking things I have ever seen a friend go through. Yeah, old Dad there finally had a second heart attack that killed him. Swell guy. . .not. I have known others that are indifferent to the situation and just didn't want kids, but couldn't be bothered to stop having unprotected sex. There are many reasons. Out of all the people I've known that had an abortion, only about half regretted their decision. I'm not saying that is right or wrong. I just found it interesting.
  • Simple answer, they can , and some do. You are a man, so you will never fully understand, I am not putting you down that is just a fact. When a woman is pregnant for nine months there are not just body changes to deal with but hormonal changes as well. These changes affect us in many different ways, personally, although my son was planned, I hated being pregnant. It was nothign to do with body image or anything so mundane, but it was how I felt. I could cry one minute and yell the next, I couldn't sleep for most of my pregnancy because I could only sleep on my tummy. I spent seven months, my son was premature, without once feeling my son kick. So I was terrified of whether he was alive or not despite the doctors assurances and I had to contend with all these people wanting to feel my baby kick only to be told he doesn't and have to see the looks of pity in their eyes. Then when the baby is born you go through another series of hormonal changes, in my case, post natal depression. Things are never black and white and no two people are the same.
  • Because its a lot of work for Orphanage to care for a new born baby. kids 2yrs and older are easier to care for.
  • Many do. But it's very easy to be generous about other people's bodies.
  • When a woman has a child, it's hers. There's a connection between them that nobody can change. Even one glance is enough for a woman to actually bond with her baby. Giving it up for adoption, the woman would think about something like: How could I possibly give this child away? The woman would want to see the child grow strong and healthy like any other child, therefore even though a woman gives the child up for adoption, something at the back of her mind is always reminding her about the baby that she had and gave up for adoption, and make her think something like: I wonder how that child is doing. It may not sound like one, but its a huge burden to carry around. Anyway, giving a child away, to me, its like a sin. Just hop that somebody with a good heart takes that child in and makes the child feel like its in a loving family.
  • Why can't these moron women opt for birth control in the first place?
  • Have you ever been pregnant? Pregnancy really really sucks. i'm 7 and a half months pregnant with my second child and i want my child and love it already. But if for some reason or bad experience I didn't I would not be willing to go through with the pregnancy. Since I have been pregnant i have been on bed rest for 3 months so I can't work and I have major financial problems and i hate that my boyfriend is the only one working. Everything hurts, my hips, my vajay-jay, my head my thighs everything. Its not the giving it to an adoption agency even though im sure that is emotionally hard, but more so going through almost a year pregnant. Men get off and make a baby but all the rest of it is very hard work and sadly women have to take that on and it is no picnic in the park. A woman that has to take care of herself and provide medical care for herself and scarifice her body and health has the right to chose not too go around pregnant with a child. I admit some women take advantage selfishly of the right to chose but in the end its still there choice they have to live with it not anyone else. I'm sure if men could get pregnant in the next year abortion rates would be much higher than they are now. They don't even have to do the hard part and already most of them don't stay around.
  • fOT ONE REASON 9 months of pregancy probally sucks enough but people grow attached to there child more after it is born plus if you dont wont children use birth control and rubbers

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