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  • WARNING: You aren't going to like my answer. BUT someone has to let you know AND give you THE COLD, HARD FACTS: Young lady: YOU ARE TOTALLY insecure AND immature! YOU ARE doing a GREAT job of alienating him from you! Keep it up! I KNOW if you were THE lady in MY life, you would be VERY close to being OUT OF MY LIFE - without ever giving you anything resembling second chance! It's a matter of trust. YOU MUST BE more trusting! If the relationship is meant to be, it will continue. If it's not meant to be, it's time for BOTH of you to move-on to better relationships. Thanks for asking your Q! I did my best to answer it. I hope the information helps. VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Some personal observations and opinions. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".
  • Find interests that you enjoy outside of your relationship with your boyfriend.Pursue your hobbies,do some volunteer work.It will get your mind off your relationship and worries about it.Let him chase you :)
  • Firstly you need to realise that most people are less confident that they appear to be. If you talk to enough people in enough depth you discover common threads of fear, self-loathing, insecurity - a certain amount is perfectly normal and in fact allows you to empathise with others, recognising that like you, they are not perfect. Secondly, feelings like you're expressing come from your feelings about YOU and as such have nothing to do with your boyfriend, these are symptomatic of your sense of self-worth, which for whatever reason, is not as high as it should be. Some moment when you feel calm, consider the following: 1. The messages you give yourself have usually come from someone else, earlier in your life. Think about other people's attitudes to you, accept those you think are valid and discard the rest. 2. Think about your good characteristics - write them down and put them somewhere you can see them every day. 3. Make and keep people around you who are positive and give you mostly positive responses. You need people who build you up, not pull you down. 4. Develop and extend outside interests. One person will never answer all your needs. There's lots of people who can do that. 5. Does your bf behave in ways sometimes that make you feel more insecure? Tell him (calmly, fairly and without blame) about some of those times. 6. If you cannot handle this on your own, and you feel it is extreme or getting worse, there is no shame in getting counselling. YOU MATTER.

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