Almost seems like if one is asking the question, then the answer is "yes." Relationships are so varied and complicated: a person knows when they are cheating more than the outside world or some AB'ers will know. If your girlfriend/ wife/ partner would think it is "cheating," then it probably is. Some girlfriends (maybe even Hilary Clinton) are okay with a little action on the side. But that stuff should be agreed in advance. What you want and what your partner agrees to should be the same thing. If it isn't: you're cheating. I know swingers that will only do outside folks in the presence of each other. So, it is not cheating to them to have 15 people penetrate their spouse as long as they are present; but to have one person penetrate outside of their presence is cheating. My husband is older. I feel like when he gets on-line action, since his errections are none too dependable, he is "wasting it." I might have to wait weeks for him to get back round to me. Oh yes, and a woman with a cam is a human being one is communicating with, not a picture in a book. Number one test of if you are cheating: if you are hiding it, it is probably cheating, otherwise, why hide it?

Does masturbation count as cheating? Does fantasy count? If neither counts, why would be the combination of them do? Be realistic people, if you never fantasized about other people while masturbating(hot chicks in your office, some celebrity that you can never touch), I'd doubt if you're really a human being. Well, I do, I fantasize all the time ... if this counts as cheating, then yes, I am officially a cheater even though I've never had physical contact with anyone else. Go figure ...

It is not only cheating it is pretty tawdry and sick. Both male and female. If you have a partner, performing sex acts on line is as bad as cheating in real time

In my opinion, cheating isn't about any particular action. cheating is about being dishonest. It's not cheating if you're honest about it from the beginning. Let me elaborate a bit more. Cheating is about whatever action taken that would hurt the other person, whether it is collecting stamps, playing tennis or having sex with someone else. If the person KNOWS that their actions will cause emotional pain to their partner, and they do it anyway, then THAT is cheating.

I would say it is a "loose form" of cheating if doing it is a replacement for interaction (or action) with the spouse or S.O. Also, if the guy (?? you did not specify) is also talking to or showing himself to the person on the other web cam, then if not cheating, there are "problems in river city" so to speak, that need some help. It's just not about "cheating." It's about why he feels the need to get sexual gratification and even more, to interract with some other person sexually other than his/her mate or S.O. If it is secretive, and if there is no good full (including intimate) relationship within the marriage, I would not call it cheating as much as a symptom of deeper problems within the person and/or the relationship. Cheating is a behavior and a symptom, not a disease.

Giving or getting sexual pleasure from anyone other than your partner without their knowledge or consent is, in my opinion, cheating. And YES, keeping it a secret says you also suspect it is wrong. It is a prickly subject...

Well I'm not sure of the whole thing... I mean if its a person you know in real life then yes...if its someone you talk to online...then yes...but if its like one of those web cams on those sites where you really don't know the woman then no its not cheating...I mean to call that cheating is to say porn is cheating...I don't think that is the case, I don't find it as a way of getting connected to someone...and I don't see the web cam girl coming around to cause trouble with the wife...so its alittle up in the air with me..but for now I'm going with no

Is it cheating when a wife/woman does it looking at the men in Porn or on Cam?

I don't think so, everyone fantasizes about doing things with other's on the side, if not, you're not normal.

nope. he's pleasuring himself.

all the answers are really good and in my opinion I say yes to the initial question. You all talk about not knowing the people on webcam makes it okay, but that is the same as knowing them... Also how would you all feel if you asked your partner for sex, they say no to you, then ten minutes later you find them in the bathroom, bedroom, office, shed etc masturbating??? Would you still say its okay because they dont know the people in the magazine or webcam? or would you feel worthless and sick that they say no to you for whatever reason (tired, headache etc) and then you found them masturbating and when you ask who they are thinking of they say that it is you? but how can they be thinking of you when they say NO to you in the first place????

Yes it is, and the question to ask is "how would you feel if your partner did the same kind of thing?". If you would feel upset about it, then they probably will too. It's bad news getting mixed up in doing stuff like that.

Yes it is and not only that but you need help. I have divorced my slag of a husband for doing it and hope that he rots in hell. Not only that but he 'chatted' dirty to loads of women and then went to their houses for sex. He denies it of course! Lovely way he treated his unknowing and unsuspecting wife and without giving a damn that he could contanimate me with his filth. If you masturbated in front of another woman in a public place you would be arrested. What's up? Can't you manage the real thing? Like him you probably aren't able to sustain a real, loving and trusting relationship. Have you any idea what it feels like to lie in bed at night and know that your husband is down there doing that and yet you can't prove it because he is also a liar? It is pathetic behaviour and believe me seeing a grown man shoot his load in front of a camera is sad. It is depraved and you are a moral reprobate just like him if you are planning to do it. If you can't satisfy your urges in private then you should be arrested. If you do it then I hope you get caught and you might like to think about that. Anyone can set up a profile and get you online and you will never know who it is until it is too late and you have shamed yourself in the worst way. It could be your partner, your sister, mother or a work collegue. Go ahead, do it for the cheap thrill that it is and then bear the consequences.

Cheating is whatever you and your partner define it to be. You don't need to ask anyone else what it is.

If there is any deception involved, then yes, it is cheating.

No. As long as they are strangers and you've never met or actually touched. Now, if it's a particular woman that you've developed a relationship with, that's different.

umm if you have a girl, why can't you do it with her?

In my opinion yes it is... How would you feel if you caught your s/o masterbating to another man/woman? I know for sure that I'd freak out. If your not satisfied with the person you've made a commitment to... break it off before you go off and look at someone else's goodies.

I can see how it could be considered cheating. Even if someone doesn't consider it cheating, it is still EXTREMELY disrespectful.

YES,IF YOU ARE CONSTANTLY LYING AND SPEAKING TO OTHER PERSON ON LINE IT IS CHEATING A REAL MAN SHOULD GET A REAL WOMEN WHAT KIND OF SICK DIRT IS THIS LOOKING AT SOMEONE THROUGH THE GLASS AND TOUCHING A REAL PERSON ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS HAVING SEX WITH A REAL WOMEN IS BETTER THEN A PIECE OF PAPER, PLASTIC, OR A PIECE OF GLASS. MEN WHO LOVE TO MASTURBATE SHOULD TAKE OUT A MILLION DOLLAR INSURANCE POLICY OUT ON THE RIGHT OR LEFT HAND BEFORE SOMETHING HAPPENS QUESTION ARE THERE ANY REAL MEN OUT THERE

Its not. not at all. its like you masturbate alone but its just make you more horny. as its not a chating for her to jack off (neither online) its not for you too. and if u want to do it email me (melpstar@hotmail.com)