ANSWERS: 27
  • I cannot help you on this one because I constantly put myself down. Since I do it first, beats out the chance of others to do it to me. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/self-deprecating
  • Think of all the positive characteristics or positive things about yourself. Alot of people probably don't have you do.
  • They should focus on all their good qualities; if they have trouble with this, they should write all their good qualities down on paper. At first, it will be hard - they're so used to putting themselves down and focusing on their bad qualities - but just give them time and let them write down EVERYTHING good about them they can think of. If they say, "But I have no good qualities" - that's bull, everyone's got good qualities, they just have to think. Chances are they'll be surprised how many good qualities they have. After that, tell them to try to stop thinking negative thoughts about themselves; it has become a habit for them to put themselves down, so they must forget the negative thoughts and *only* think about their good qualities. After awhile their brain will get in the habit and their self-esteem will get a nice boost.
  • Stop thinking about YOURSELF so bloody much.
  • I am getting better with this but it never fails that as soon as I start feeling better about myself some idiot comes along and "puts me down" and lets me know that they are better than me because of ..whatever so I am the wrong person to ask this of at this moment.
  • You need to learn how to respect yourself, if you dont no one else will.
  • Although it may not be easy, it's not impossible to feel better about yourself. If you think you might have low self-esteem, here are a few things that you can try to increase your self-esteem: 1. When you think negative thoughts about yourself, mentally tell yourself to stop. The critical voice inside you will soon lose its power. 2. Write a list of all the things that you like about yourself. Make a list of what your strengths are, and remind yourself of the things you do well. Stop and think about the compliments others have paid you. Make a list of all the goals you have achieved, large and small. 3. Put post-it notes on your mirrors with positive sayings like ‘I am doing okay’; ‘Today is a good day’; ‘I always do the best I can'. Your mind will unconsciously start to absorb the messages. 4. Learn to love yourself as you are. 5. Remember that there are things about yourself you can't change - such as skin color and shoe size - and remember that you should learn to accept and love these things because they are part of what makes you uniquely you. 6. Remind yourself of things about yourself that are okay. Look at the positive aspects instead of the flaws. We all have flaws. 7. Give yourself compliments every day. Don't just say, "I'm so great." Be specific about something good about yourself, like, “I was a good friend today" or "I smiled at a stranger and he/she smiled back". 8. While you're at it, before you go to bed every night, list a few things in your day that really made you happy, and that made you feel good about yourself. By focusing on the good things you do and all your great qualities, you learn to love and accept yourself, and that's the main ingredient for strong self-esteem. Even If you've got room for improvement (and who doesn't?), realizing that you're valuable and important helps your self-esteem to shine. None of us is perfect, but we are each very special in our own way.
  • I think that's a difficult one. It depends on whether the person is doing it for attention or whether they genuinely lack confidence in themselves. If it is the former I would probable say 'Oh no. That's not the case at all'. And if it was the latter I would try and make them feel valued and encourage them to focus on their achievements and their goals.
  • Find something you like and get good at it and realize you have talents and gifts worth others knowing about. Know that you are special and created that way. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are special.
  • Stop it. Just because you feel some ridiculous need to put yourself down doesn't mean you have to act on it. Get up and go do something productive. Although it might be hard taking those first few steps once you find something that you enjoy occupying yourself with you will feel so much better. Just cruise.
  • "As A Man Thinketh" http://jamesallen.wwwhubs.com/think.htm
  • Get over it. I think that masks the real goal..you want people to tell you how wonderful/important/smart/valuable you are..you lust for attention..you crave pats on the back. It's just a scam, like any other. Grow up. If you have something about yourself that needs improving, start improving. If all you want is more and more and more attention, well, good luck. Pretty soon you'll alienate everyone.
  • Believe in yourself.
  • Stop! If you don't believe in yourself nobody else will.:) Another nice little cliche' "The best way to get on your feet is to get off your ass.:)
  • Meditation and Yoga - they are proven world wide.
  • You are a wonderful person, you just have to realize it. Get involved in a local church, and get the Lord n ur life.
  • If you (ever) could find someone who really really loves you, makes you feel special you will be alright in no time.
  • suicide
  • if you dont like yourself nobody will,everyone is special and one of a kind it takes all kinds in this world of ours,yes even assholes who like to put others down.remember each one of us is the main character or can i say actor in our space in life.peace man
  • Pull yourself together
  • Are you happy doing this? No? Then change something!Think positive :-)
  • Reassess all Your opinions about Yourself and everything You do. Figure out why You do everything You do. Defend Yourself against those who put You down. . Then start on the road to becoming better at whatever You want.
  • Find THE TRUTHS in your (his) life. Where, historically has this person been successful? For our Son (now 21) who had some hard challenges in school, I pointed out a fact he could not honestly dispute! Anything he had ever decided he wanted to accomplish, he not only did it, but he did it WELL; he was successful. Once he realized that that was a true statement, he realized that those other feelings (mental put down tapes that would switch on in his thoughts) were not entirely true at all. This made him think more honestly about fears and negative thoughts and tell the difference between facts that were positive in reality, and lies founded in fear of the unknown. Old question....but oh so relative any time.
  • I dont honestly think there's any one piece of advice that would help. If a persons got serious self-esteem issues then they would need to work on changing their cognition, the way they think, & this is long-term work.
  • Suggest to them that maybe they should cut themselves some slack and take a step back to really see why they do that. Its a typ of control as they do not want someone else beating them to the punch. Someone needs some theropy.
  • loathing is senseless go forth and whenever you are down there is me on answerbag and tons more of nice people to cheer you up fight till theres no more life in you
  • Try a little bit harder on improving your low self esteem, you stupid freak.

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