• Most guys are pigs & don't care about girls feelings.
    • Bootsiebaby
      Sad, but true.
    • we are dough
  • Either he's looking to play doubles or he's just playin' yo...:)
  • Some men need a lot of ego stroking and need to know that they "still got it". What ever "it" is.
  • I think because he is looking to be kicked to the curb....
    • Bootsiebaby
      Well, I have just the boots to do that! Lol:)
    • we are dough
      ...or likes being kicked in the nuts.
  • Dumb! Most men want to see if they still have it or they try to prove to their friends that they still do..... Ha!
  • When guys flirt with me, it is usually because they like my boots, although that is not the reason why I wear them. I wear them because I want to, not because guys want me to. The fact that they do like them is just a bonus. Lol:)
    • we are dough
      Yeah, your boots !
    • Bootsiebaby
      Do you like my boots, Simon? :)
  • Well that is natural, part of normal intercourse whether unconscious, subtle, or obvious. Men like us and want to be with us no matter their circumstances.
    • dorat
      You are right, although any guy who loves his s/o learns to behave himself. Still, it is part evolutionary biology - men are programmed by evolutionary instinct to want sex with as many women as possible, and it is part psychological - there is a need to feel desirable. We are not purely instinctive creatures, so we can fight the instinct. Still, it is part of nature. By the same token, I can remember some of the women I dated flirting with other guys, so it is not a one way street. In the case of women, however, it is a subtly different thing. Because women can only carry one baby at a time, evolution programs women to seek out only one sex partner at a time. The flirting is, in evolutionary terms, caused when the woman is fertile and capable of becoming pregnant. Again, we are not purely instinctive beings, and all sorts of other social, cultural and psychological factors come into play - and we learn to control our instincts. Still, your basic analysis is bang on the money. Very insightful.
    • officegirl
      Thank you and thank you for your comment dorat. But I take exception to that business, which I have heard before btw, that because we can "carry only one baby at a time" we want only one sex partner at a time. Evolution "programs" rather the more men the more chances we have of becoming pregnant. Perhaps not part of your experience. What the difference is, and not so subtle either, is that we seek more stable relationships for our total well-being and tend to define ourselves through them whereas the latter is less true of men. Who more define themselves through accomplishments, belief systems, etc. That is how I look at it.
  • Men are visually attracted to those of the opposite sex (unless they are gay). It does not mean they want to leave their present spouse or want to have sex with them. Men enjoy the site of a woman especially one who turns him on visually. Women on the other hand are emotional in relationships taking longer to become aroused.
    • officegirl
      I don't know that our being emotional causes us to take longer. I certainly don't once I know they are interested in me.
  • Some men and some women do this regardless of their attachment situation. For some it is simply flirting...and for others it is with intent to act upon it if a situation opens. Usually just an ego stroke however.
    • officegirl
  • 01-04-2017 Maybe it's the only way he knows how to act. Just like a woman keeps wearing tight shorts even when she already has a bf.
  • Cos it's fun...
    • Bootsiebaby
      It is only fun until and unless it arouses feelings of jealousy. Then it is not such fun after all.
  • 'A committed guy may try to flirt with a girl for many reasons. He may think you’re attractive. He may want to convince himself that he’s still hot stuff who can get any girl he wants if he chooses to. He may just want some excitement in his life. Or he may just be trying to have some fun when his girlfriend isn’t around, or using you to make his girl jealous.' Source: - 'he does indeed find you attractive, likes flirting with you because it boosts his confidence, and that he likes keeping other women interested in him in case his relationship with his girlfriend doesn't work out' Source:

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