ANSWERS: 6
  • From personal experience if hes saying he wants to be with you then he doesnt really need to find himself,he knows what he wants! not a great situation im afraid!
  • He's soul searching on what he wants to do with his life. Couples go through it all the time...wanting to move, change jobs, change friends. You need to let him know you support what he's trying to find as long as you feel comfortable you will still be in picture. Those type of clues can sometimes mean I love you (and always will) but I need to move on. You need to clear the air to make sure he's just soul-searching and not wanting to replace you. Be honest in your approach to wanting to support his search but get some type of concession from him that you won't be let down.
  • That doesn't sound too good, from my experience. Could mean one of two things: 1. He feels that you and/or the relationship is holding him back from accomplishing his goals in life. Has he mentioned anything specific? Wanting to move, go back to school, focus on his career? 2. He feels that he has not experienced enough of his own, independent life to commit to a relationship at the moment. This could mean anything from wanting to date other women and "sow his wild oats", to living for a year as a wandering hobo. Either way, wanting to "find himself" is probably a nice, euphemistic way of saying that he is not comfortable in a committed relationship and wants complete independence for a while. I'm sorry.
  • That's one of the oldes lines in the book! Sorry....but it means he wants to shop around.
  • mY EX WHO I WAS PRETTY HAPPY WITH AND WE HAD A LOVELY FAMILY CAME HOME AFTER 12 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND SAID HE NEEDED TO FIND HIMSELF. HE DID ALRIGHT MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE THE DAY OUR DIVORCE WAS FINAL.......SORRY BUT TELL HIM IF HE NEEDS TO FIND HIMSELF HE NEEDS TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR BECAUSE THERE HE IS!!
    • Linda Joy
      ALL CAPS IS SHOUTING! STOP YELLING AT US! I didn't even read your answer that's how put off I am by cyber SHOUTING right, now!
  • I think he is pondering whether or not he wants you in the picture.He is unsure.He is being honest.Remember men say what they mean.

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