I personally don't think it's an okay thing to do at all. You asked for our opinions and this is what I think, so yeah.

Sounds pretty lame to me. Love and lust may be separate things, but they shouldn't be targeted at separate people. If you and your boyfriend really cared about each other, there's no way this could go on without feelings of jealousy, resentment, and infidelity. Call me old-fashioned, but I think open relationships are a huge mistake, and potentially very dangerous (physically and emotionally) as well.

Ever seen those Valtrex commercials? Do you want to be one of THOSE people? Didn't think so. Sleeping around just because Lust is different than Love is a really good way to end up with an STD. Or a child. And if you end up with a child, how the HELL are you going to know who fathered it?

You guys have a open relationship so its okay

Open relationship like that work for some in the short-term, but I very rarely see them work out long-term. If it works for you and your boyfriend at the moment, then enjoy.

In my opinion, no. Just because you think love and lust are two different things, doesn't mean you should have lust with someone you don't love.

If you are both ok with it and open about it, what does it matter what other people think. Who am I to tell you if it's right or wrong. Thumbs up from me.

Sleeping with other men while you're in a committed relationship with a specific guy will degrade the quality and intimacy level in your primary relationship. I don't want to call what you're doing bad - but it's light years from being good or healthy, in my opinion.

If that's what you like doing, then carry on. But the minute I read the question, I thought to myself: "People actually do that!?" I could never do that. Love and Lust mean different things to different people, but I think a good relationship should have a definate balance of both. However, I'm not going to tell you you're not allowed to do it, or that it's wrong, because everybody is entitled to what they feel is right. I just hope it can work out with you guys without having the added complications of choosing to share these potentially romantic experiences with other people rather than your significant other. :)

Frankly, it's not OK at all. First of all, your faith. I don't know what religion you are, but if you are Christian or Jewish or Buddhist, it is a mortal sin to sleep with other people like that, especialy if you aren't married at all. In addition, there is an incredible risk of getting STD's from doing that, and you or your partner very well may already be infected, or will become infected if you keep it up. In addition, studies show that 90% of couples that have sex with other people eventually break up because of it, even if you know about the sex. So if you value your faith, health, or boyfriend, please don't do this anymore. :)

Whatever floats your boat! I just think that the risk of disease and infection that is probably going to be spread between you guys is bad. Remember you 'sleep' with whoever your partner sleeps with and vice versa. But that's just me and in my life, that is not love since our love making is so special and intimate, I can't imagine doing it with someone I don't have feelings for and my definition of lust is drooling over Cosmo's sexiest hunks...

dont know how u can say u love each other if you do that.. its practically cheating but u both know about it. wheres the intimacy a rship needs when u both wanna **** someone else? ur crazy!

I agree that love and lust are separate things... but love is FAR superior, and the goal you should have is to have both love and lust for the same person, uniquely.

You are talking about an "open" relationship. If it works for you, it's ok. HOWEVER, don't be surprised, if somewhere down the road, either you or he (or both) do one of the two things following: * Decide you don't WANT an open relationship any more. If the other is not willing to stop at that point, there could be problems. * Fall for one of those outside the relationship with whom you've been sleeping. This OBVIOUSLY will cause problems. Sex does not mean love, though many people DO equate it that way. It's NOT the norm. There ARE people in happy open relationships and there are even more who would never even consider it. Is it ok? Again, if BOTH of you agree to the open relationship, can do so without jealousy, and are VERY careful about safety (STDs, AIDS, Herpes, etc.), it's NOT the norm and many will say it's NOT ok, but YOU two have to decide how to define your relationship. Good luck. ;-)

different strokes for different folks - hope youre wearing protection, and getting tested regularly? Surely its not cheating if youre telling each other each time? I personally think you dont love each other in the right way, and you should admit to yourselves that youre with each other because you dont want to be alone?

Have you asked this question cos you're wondering whether it's a good or bad thing yourself now? If this is what your both don't mind in your relationship, just make sure you use protection and your bf also. It's your life and none of us can tell you or judge you for what you do. But remember your geting oppinons because you asked the question. Take care.

One of my best mates was in one of those sort of relationships, but they broke up after and it only lasted a few days!!!

Sound's to me like you are not committed to each other. You can do what you want. I would say that your concept of love is more of an "F" buddy, friendship kind of love than a committed and dedicated to one another kind of love.

If that's what you both like doing and each of you are OK with it.

I don't know if that makes a very strong relationship, but if that is what you both want and if that is what you two are ok with, then to each his/her own. I personally feel that relationships (dedicated ones) are meant for two people to be souly dedicated to each other; and sleeping around does not count. But again that is my opinion. I think that if you are not ready to commit (and sleep with) only one man, then are not ready to be in a commited relationship.

I think it is fine as long as you are both open to it and don't keep any secrets form each other. So do you have anyone lined up for this week? I am free if it is ok with your hubby and my wife!

I think you should be ok with something BEFORE you agree to it.

yeah thats great if you wanna get a rep and be known as the local slut.

Is this is what you and your boyfriend are comfortable with and both of you use protection then more power to you and him.

Well, honestly, if you and your boyfriend have a mutual agreement about it---then I don't see it being a problem.

I think that if you can keep a relationship like that, and you are both OK with the other sleeping with other people, more power to you. Although I hope it doesn't damage your relationship later on when perhaps one of you wants to take it to the next level. I just hope both of you are using the proper protection when sleeping with other people. You'd definitely not want to catch something and spread it around!

I think you & your BF don't have much of a commitment to each other.

I think it cannot be categorized as cheating because both of you know what extra curicular activities your doing. However on the love and trust thing I think it is very difficult to love and trust a person knowing in yourself that he or she is with someone else. If you really are serious in your relationship and you want your partnership to last longer, you should stop seeing other people because I know deep inside it hurts.

No, it's not. Doing what you two are doing is not a sign of a healthy relationship. It shows some serious control issues on both your parts. As in you want to see how far you can hurt each other by doing this before one of you breaks. It's like having an affair and then rubbing their noses it while they can do nothing about it. What you are doing is going to create anger, jealousy, and resentment between you and your partner. Sex is something that needs to have a deep emmotional bond between the partners to be healthy. Without it it's damaging. If anything it's what should be making your relationship diffrent then any other. Love and lust are very much interconnected. Love is what you feel all the time for your partner. Lust is what you feel when you want that deeper bond. I'm not saying stop talking about it. I'm saying stop doing it. As for being carefull there's no way to be completely carefull when your promiscuious. Nor is there any way to make sure they're being as carefull as you think they are. There are still STDs that can be transferred with the use of condoms like Herpes and you can still get pregnant using a condom because most birth control failures are user error you're just asking for trouble. I'm guessing those are possibilities you two haven't talked about. And how would you explain it to the resulting child? What you've done is complicate something that should be very simple in away that's eventually going to cause issues. Especially if one of you wants to stop, but the other doesn't. It's also going to worsen the mental and sexual helath issues that lead you to chose this life style in the first place. Judging by the fact you're asking this I'm guessing you're alread starting to see this and have second thoughts about what you are doing and want to stop.

its all about the nature of your relationship. If the TWO of you are happy with your arrangement, really, does anything else matter? life is about happiness (or so they tell me) so if you two are happy, have a blast! but definately be safe!

i assume you are in a open relationship. i don't agree with doing this i believe it should be one on one. Yeah be careful but at the same time think of the possible strain it could put on the relationship years down the road. i don't think its ok. If you are with someone you should just want to be with him, obviously there i something missing otherwise you would not feel the need to sleep with anyone else, doesn't matter if you agree on it or not.

hmmm, thats why porn was invented and people participate in it and get paid to do so..... love and lust is different! do you have any regrets/remorse?

I feel that if this is something that you and you bf both agree on then you are not doing anything wrong as far as it being a cheating issue. However, you might want to rethink the situation. Are you and your bf capable of actually making love to each other or is it just sex. Making love is more than just the physical act of sex, its highly emotional. If you and your bf aren't connecting on an emotional level maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. I hope you are careful. with as many STD's that are running rampant out there sex has become a game of Russian rule let.

slut and manwhore in an open relationship... that is fine. noone is being decieved and everyone gets what they want. I have moral issues with it but as long as neither of you do then it is fine.

If you break up call me.

You should be with a guy who only wants to be with you:)

Thats pathetic, your sharing your body with different men. How can someone find that attractive while actually being in a relationship?

If that's what you've agreed, and you're both happy that way, then what's the problem? I wouldn't do it myself, but it's your relationship, your body and your life.

As long as you both agree there's no problem.

Nothing wrong in the world with it. Two consenting adults in an arrangement is just fine. Don't even think about it. Two points, though. Where the HECK were you when I needed you? And it's 'my BF and I'. The rule is to use just one of the subjects to see if it makes sense. "Me have an arrangement" doesn't cut it. But really, don't listen to the people who say, "Oh, no! That's not right!" Christianity is clouding their thinking. Even if they aren't christian, their thinking is influenced by it because it pervades the culture. If you and he are cool with it, it's fine. Just fine.

The fact that you're asking if it's an ok thing to do shows that you know how society would see this as out of the norm. Is it just you doing this, or him also? Well I say it's ok if you're both happy,, and sounds like you are :] Personally, I would never do this, as I like commitment in relationships. In truth -and I'm not meaning to be offensive, I can only picture it my way, and have never been in your situation so I can't exactly compare, but, in where I am now- to me it doesn't sound like there's much point being in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Why not be friends and both sleep with other people as well as with one another? I suppose I only think this as to me relationships are the couples focusing only on one another, which I can't see you sharing when involving yourselves with others, even if it is only on a physical level. Though perhaps you both connect on a deeper level with one another than either of you do with other people you enjoy sleeping whilst in your relationship, and that is why you remain a steady couple? Whatever your feelings- if it floats both of your boats, I believe it's ok, and you're hearing this from someone who currently would never dream of doing this. I don't believe in wrong or right, only what works :)

There is nothing wrong with your arrangement with your BF. Polyamory is a very viable lifestyle and can be good if your relationship with your primary is solid; it can be a killer if not. here is some information that may help you understand polyamory a little better... http://www.libchrist.com/poly/responon.html http://www.libchrist.com/poly/polyvsswing.html http://www.libchrist.com/bible/polygamy.html I hope this is some help. It would help lots of other people as well to understand open realationships a little better.

That is really not the norm for any stable/long-term relationship. Plus one of you runs he risk of bringing home an std. For me, I just dont see the point of open relationships.

You are living the dream!!!!!

why are you asking? If is ok with you then is ok. why involve other people in your decisions? Enjoy it.

if you and your boyfriend are ok with it..why do you care what we think? Sounds like you are not as sure of it as you think you are and need reassurance from people...Go with what feels right...no one can tell you what's right for you or wrong for you..

If you're sure youre okay with it then go for it, but ask yourself: If I only valued this one person to give myself sexually to, and this person only valued me sexually, would it make me happier? And I don't mean to get suspicious, but how'd this conversation come on? Was it he who pushed around to the point? You seem a bit uncomfortable about asking it, so it automatically makes me suspicious that it wasn't entirely your idea. Just make sure its what YOU believe, whether its with your current guy or any other. Yes, I think its ok, but I don't know if thats the most rewarding way to have a relationship. Its up to you. Sorry for the long answer. :P

You are asking for some sex disues if you ask me. Kinky,wird,strange,are things that come to my mind...

nice question....but i have question wat is difference b/w ur bf and other men u slept with. and wat love u guyz have. u no the answer clearly.....so go on ur way if it s very true n ur mind. (clearly its not good )