My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex,
im so hurt becus i still love her, is this normal and how do i stop feeling like this?
by 
Jack Shuttlewood
ANSWERS: 21
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Cheat on her with her ex..
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Time and removing yourself for such a position. There is no easy painless way. The piece of advice is that remaining in this position will just extend the pain needlessly.
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Of course it's normal for you to feel as you do, it will take a long time for you to get over this unless you find somebody better soon.
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Your girlfriend never made a promise or a vow to be faithful to you. She was not your wife. When you go into a relationship that gets sexual in nature, you are taking your chances. I am sorry to be so blunt but this kind of stuff happens millions of times a day to people all over the world. If she is having sex with you and isn't married to you, what really prevents her from having sex with other people? If this was your wife, then it would be a different story altogether.
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Unless you want to be hurt like this over and over again, you should break up with her immediately and never talk to her again. That might be easier said than done, but, that's my advice.
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Jack I am so sorry that you are going through this. Right now the biggest decision you have to make is if you are willing to forgive and forget and work on the relationship or if you should just move on. Revenge cheating is not the answer here my friend. Sure it will make you feel good for the moment but sooner or later you will feel like crap for stooping down to her level. If you truly love this girl and think you can get past this and trust her again then by all means do all in your power to make it happen. Personally I would dump her myself because first of all once trust has been broken in a relationship it is a very difficult thing to regain. Anyone who tells you it's easy is full of crap. Only you can know what is the best route for you to take and I wish you alot of luck.
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Stop loving her and treat her like a skunk!
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That is one of my worst fears. I have been with my fiance for 3 years & have 2 kids by him, but I am so insecure that I always think he will go off with someone else. In my heart I would want to stay with him because I love him but in my head, I would have to think of the kids; he is their role model & also, I think a relationship rarely truly overcomes a betrayal like that. It really depends on whether or not you can forgive her. Good luck & I'm sorry to hear what happened. If you do leave her & get into another relationship, please don't ruin it by fearing she will cheat on you or leave you for someone else because not all women are like that. I would never cheat on my fiance.
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Yes. This is normal. How do you stop this? You don't have to stay with her, you know. If you want to give her a chance, you can. If she does it again, you'll probably be hurt twice as much. If you want to end it, you can. It will be really hard as you love her. Sometimes the person you want the most is the person you're better off without. It's really up to you what you're going to do.
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my boyfriend did the same to me and because he was with his ex for so many years he thought i should except it and carried on as normal. i could not trust him anymore. after two years he left me and it has left me very insecure and feeling that it was my thought as when ever i had a drink i would get angry and embaress myself. two months on i am getting better after a lot of sleepless nights and even anxiety attacks. walk away it will take time but it will get better. be strong
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i have been though the same thing, i know how painful it is, it kills u thinkin about your ex with another guy. but theres nothing you can do. you have to be strong only time will heal ur wounds.. but a small thing that helps, hang around with friends keep urself busy
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I know some of you will get mad at me but I've been through the same situation. The only difference is I was the cheater. I admitted to my boyfriend everything after a week. Guilt and pain are the most horrible feelings I've ever felt at that moment. He forgave me after I said it. I proved myself to him. But I totally paid for the consequences he left me after a year and a half. I've learned my lesson right there and then. I've learned that the man I truly loved was the man I've hurt the most. Life is about forgiveness.. if you truly love your girlfriend, just forgive and forget. Move on. Don't try to look back because life is too short to keep grudges on your heart. Make sure that she will never ever do the same mistake again.
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It will pass, like gas ! Be glad you found out what a weasel she was before you got REAL serious.
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Anyone who is that willing to toss aside your feelings with such reckless abandon, does not deserve your attention. It's the way I look at it.
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Yes that is normal. What will make you feel better is to kick her to the curb. If you really want to be nasty cheat on her and send her photos. Then laugh and dump her.
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Cheating is one of the worst things to overcome. You love your girlfriend, that's why you feel so betrayed and hurt. She slept with her ex, either due to the fact that she still has feelings for him or because she was making sure that she didn't. For whatever reason, this was wrong. What you are or were feeling is absolutely normal. The only way to stop feeling like this is to find someone else, which may be hard since you love her the way you do. Others may say that you should wait and not see anyone. The only thing that will work is to stay with her and look for someone else...I may get bad comments about this; but you will end up resenting her after awhile and then you can tell her to hit the road if she doesn't do a complete 360 degree turn...then you can have the satisfaction of finding someone else and leaving her.
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My gf cheated on me 3 times when i was abroad. She couldnt wait a week!!!! It too was with her ex. weve stayed together but recently we went on a "break". I believe that it was my paranoia that drove us apart and i really think that i pushed her away. I am considering ending my relationship but i know EXACTLY how hard it is mate. Dont worry, like someone else said, keep busy, meet mates and soon enough you will meet a much much better person.Good luck!
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It's normal because you love her. There are times in life when we do stupid things for love because we feel too strong for that person. If you're not ready to let her go, then no matter how hard you try it won't work. You will end up feeling miserable without her, might as well give your relationship another try and show her how much you love her. If she can't see it, then let her go. Probably the next guy she be with will treat her bad and make her realize your love for her. Overall, when you're not ready to let it go, you can, don't force yourself to. Do whatever make you happy, live life only for yourself and no one else.
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My Girlfriend had sex with her Ex Boyfriend just as we started dating she says, but i think its she lied on the date its actually later in our relationship as at one stage she changed, thus cut off intimacy, no sex, kissing or playing. Then one day some guy Knocked by our door, the maid opened and spoke to the guy, we heard the voice then after she stopped all the intimacy. Just dont know what to do, you love someone, be the best person and all you get is Rubish.
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Yeah this is normal, everyone goes through this and the best way to stop it for good in this instance is to try and get on with your life and let time do it's thing. +5
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Yes it's normal. For me the best way to get over someone is to start another relationship.
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