ANSWERS: 38
  • No child should be spanked let alone on bare skin! An adult who hits a child usually does so out of anger. It's a quick solution with long term negative consequences. Always put the shoe on the other foot and think how it would feel to be hit by a giant.
  • It doesn't really matter. This is mainly a cultural question. But heck, if hitting the bare skin, and the act of the child or even a teen, having to drop their drawers adds to the punishment and leaves the impression of consequence longer, go for it.
  • Before you strike the child for the first time. Unless you trying to teach the child how to hurt people. Other wise, I don't think violently assaulting someone teaches them anything.
  • i think u shouldnt spank a child without its clothes on. beacuse now days kids go to school and they report abuse beacuse they feel it was wrong. it is wrong to spank a child but if ur child is completey off the hook maybe u should take him to a therapist not a meeting with a belt. how bout you just dont spank ur child at all. but if u insist on doing it u should stop NOW.
  • It is NEVER appropriate to hit a child. Growing up in a household full of non-stop domestic violence, I can speak from experience that Punishment doesn't teach or resolve anything. My suggestion would be to try disiplining instead. This is a more constructive approach to modifying a childs behavior.
  • When has it been appropriate to even start...?
  • It isn't appropriate to start with!!!
  • When is it appropriate to start spanking on bare skin?
  • you should stop before you start
  • I'm always suspicious of these hyper-controversial questions that are anonymously posted. I feel that they are just trying to bait people into strong reactions and set people off. Therefore, I'm going to take it with a grain of salt and just say this: When I look at my kids, the thought of hitting them makes me feel sick. Rare occassions with teenagers do stir up insanity, but that aside, I wonder what these sweet, little people that bounce around the house like pixies and constantly smell of vanilla cookies could have done so wrong that they would deserve to be hit be someone 2 or 3 times their size???? I don't know what kind of person does that, but no one that I want to be around.
  • If your going to spank, especially older kids or teenagers it should be bare bottomed as it hurts less thru pants. About 1 swat per age is probably enough.
  • people aresaying u shouldnt spank a child. But i was spanked, and i came ot alot better than my friends who werent. I think you shouldnt do bear skin after 7
  • When is it appropriate to stop brushing your teeth with your mouth open? When is it appropriate to stop eating a turkey dinner with a knife and fork? Most online parents who claim "spanking works" seem to have made a regular habit of it. So how is it working? I think spanking has its place as a disciplinary option. But I also think, if it's going to happen at all, that it needs to be seen by the child as a no-nonsense consequence to disobedience. In other words, the time to stop spanking on bare skin is when you stop spanking.
  • Are you talking recreational or punishment?
  • In my opinion, if they are still young enough to earn and receive a spanking, they are still young enough to be spanked on the bare bottom. That's how it was in my house growing up. It's embarrassing but that makes it a better deterrent.
  • When you start upsetting the rest of the Library
  • I always have that butt covered! So I would not know.
  • i don't think its ever appropriate, thats my answer if you really care.
  • For girls being bare bottomed spanked after age 9 by fathers should not be done due to privacy of their bodies. By their mothers....no limit. I was and I am well adjusted and successful. We raised our two daughters with a few spankings and they too are college grads and are doing fine. We did not have boys so I cannot say.
  • When it quits being fun for both parties?
  • When blood welts appear. lol
  • I don't spank, but I use a lot of other strategies that exhaust and challenge me. My effort means my kids are growing up well adjusted, and are good people to know. Spanking at least means you are aware that your kids should meet and learn to deal with boundaries. Your kids get the best deal when the same outcome can be met without fear, pain or humiliation. Not spanking, and not establishing boundaries/consequences is a recipe for disaster all round.
  • Today there is probably, more often then not, an obvious relationship between spanking and child abuse. 50 years ago the "sexual" element of spanking children with their pants down probably did not exist. If a small child does something very dangerous, he or she probably would still benifit from a couple of spanks. When interviewed by 60 Minutes many years ago, K. Hepburn emphasized that the physical pain (behind) a spanking, she believed, wasn't the real deterrent. Instead, the "sound" the high pich splat-slapping sound caused by the hand impacting against their bare bottoms may have been more instrumental in helping to get the message across to her own children.
  • I think that is it appropriate when the crime fits the punishment. But I think a spanking and a beating are different. there should never be any blood drawn in a spanking. and a good spanking takes a while to heat up the bottom, and it needs to be bare to get the maximum effect. as far as age, if it is needed age does not matter. the problem is that no one knows how to spank a child the right way, and it turns into a beating. and abuse. In the old days you would get spanked, and if you did something against another adult, they were invited to spank you too, bare bottom, for all who were around welcome to pull up a chair and watch, no tv back then...
  • I didn't know it ever WAS appropriate!
  • when your wife gives you the safe word.
  • I am not against a spanking and at the same time I try to avoid spanking my kids because it honestly doesn't help much anyway. I think once a child is like 7-8 it should stop. By that time they are certainly old enough to lose privileges that they value and they are old enough to UNDERSTAND that these will be the consequences.
  • As soon I give the safe word, she'll stop swinging the crop and untie me.
  • I never spank a bare bottom. Personally, I think it's a little odd... *awkwaaarddd*
  • Its only appropriate to spank on bare skin when your sexual partners agree to it. That's it.
  • hmm, my son is almost 3 and his only bare skin spankings are when I miss his diaper. honestly I do not know circumstances in which I will involve the prep time to pull pants down, I think spankings are most effective the instant they are earned.
  • I really dont think its that right to spank a child on its bare skin. I have never spanked my daughter on her bare butt, just clothed.
  • NO spankings should be done on bare skin. ONLY with a bare hand on a diapered or clothed butt, and only one or two swats. Why bare hand? So you can feel how hard it is - If it hurts YOU, you've gone too far. Why only on diapered or clothed butt? Because if you DO go too far, at least they have some protection. Your purpose is not to leave lasting scars, but to let them know what they did was wrong, or to surprise them. Two swats? First one "tenderizes" the area. Second hurts. Any more and you are abusing them, probably going to leave lasting welts. The object is to redden the area, not bruise or make it bloody. At what age should you stop spanking them? When they're big enough to "take you", or when they've become mature enough to understand "time-out" or groundings without their "toys" is punishment for transgressions or stupidity.
  • one light smack if it is unavoidable i might also add that my younest, is 4 only gets a smack if he leaves the NAUGHTY STEP
  • well, im 35 and men still seem to have the need to hit during sex. i dont think it goes away!
  • Spanking is very very wrong. You are teaching your child to be violent and creating a violent prone youth. Never spank your child, it is also a form of child abuse.
  • never spanked any child on bare skin ...the spanking worked without further Humiliation and i feel that is kinda of cruel... switched them little naked legs couple of times...like my mom and grandmother did us!! but hey, all they had to do was gravitate toward it...and we cut it out,fast!!! works the same with my neices and nephews, with their mom they are maniacs, but with me and my mother,we have no problems..they really are great,beautiful kids...their mother just allows them to be bad!!!their enabler...
  • It is never appropriate to start spanking. Period. End of discussion.

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