Why do guys seem to get over break-ups faster than girls?
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mizuiislife
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Boys are tough people. As you hardly ever see a boy weeping, girls do. Girls are more emotional lets say.
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Eh, I don't know about that. Recently I've been reading that it's the opposite.
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We have no souls.
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It only SEEMS that way. Guys internalize their feelings or act out dramatically. Girls too. It varies by the person, and I pity anyone who feels no pain. They must not have loved very deeply.
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After watching Friends a few times, it seems like guys take it harder.
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Do they? News to me. Most guys I know who have been through break-ups and divorces faired worse than their exes. Look at the stats in your local newspaper. Who separates from whom and files for divorce against whom? Women leave men at four times the rate of men leaving women. And women remarry much sooner than men. Fact.
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i think its the other way around coz i knew a guy who got sick and almost died after the divorce. but he got over it after several years.
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We don't. We just react differently and put a mask on.
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That's a loaded question. They don't. You've just had a rare, and bad, experience. We all know that one of the best ways to recover from a breakup is to meet new people. Well, after a breakup, men have a more difficult time meeting new women than women have meeting men. Just think about it for a moment. If you break up with your girlfriend, all she has to do is go down to the local cafe, bar, club (you name it) and she'll have at least one man approach her. If she wants, she'll be in the sack with him by night's end. On the other hand, the fragile, ego-broken man who was just dumped by his girlfriend now has the difficult task of approaching a strange woman and risk being rejected all over again. Of course, his job is made a lot more difficult because he has to approach a woman while dealing with his new desperate state of mind (which definitely does not improve his chances: women hate desperate men), broken ego and rusty "pickup" skills.
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officegirl Do you really imagine the way we get over a breakup is by jumping in the sack with the first person who asks us?
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BECAUSE THEY ALREADY HAVE A NEW GIRL AND THATS WHY ITS OVER!!!! AT LEAST THATS WUT HAPPENED WITH ME.........INFACT HE WAS SEEING AND HAVING SEX WITH OTHERS WHILE WITH ME!!!! HE IS A SELF ADMITTED PIG!!! THE PROBLEM IM HAVING IS I MISS THE GOOD TIMES .....AS FEW AS THERE WER. AND THE FEELING OF REJECTION, ITS NOT THAT I WANT HIM I JUST FEEL REJECTED AND USED.
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us guys try to hide our feelins more. we dont open up towards our friends or family in the same way women do. which is partly a problem in itself, a problem shared is a problem halved right? but sure most of us guys wont share them. therefor we bare the pain in solitary, it eats away and erodes a guys self confidence. which makes it even harder to move on, because who wants a shy, self pittying guy? ive never met anyone that called that a turn on. i just got the elbow. sure i loved her, but ive shed enough tears for her now. the world keeps moving, and matybe one day we will be together again, maybe not. but she is all i would ever want, i wouldnt want to move on to another woman. maybe this is how all guys feel
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They don't , they're just good at hiding it.
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Most men are very shallow. They see mainly what is on the outside, not inside. Therefore don't have any feelings attached. Most are users! The genuine ones will always be there - no matter what.(Those ones are called men and are in a completely different catagory)
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I think it moreso depends on who did the breaking up. For example, my ex broke up with me recently and I have been taking the break-up very hard; to the point of it hampering everything else in my life. However, she is with her old ex now and she couldn't be any more happier, and I doubt she thinks of me at all. I think men hide the pain better. All we have to do is put on a mask and pretend; I think I should win an Emmy for my performance this past week. So I think it is more dependent on the person.
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Guys are usually much less emotionally invested in a relationship than women are. I know for me I do not get too emotionally involved with women. I am just not ready to be in a relationship. I would rather just play the field for now.
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i dont agree guys dont get emotionally involved, its has been hard getting over someone im still inlove with. it seems easier for women inmy opinion. women will turn their back on you quickly.
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Because "there's no crying in baseball". Or at least, that's what we're taught. The key word in the question is "seem". The reality is quite different. If anything, men take it way harder. Check out "Anonymous's" answer on the previous page. Pretty much hits the nail on the head. Women generally have no problem getting new boyfriends. For guys, getting a gf is a lot of work, and the thought of "doing this all over again" is so frustrating. So personally, I've given up. Whatever it is that women want, I apparently don't have any of it. From now on, I'll be a lazy infielder and just catch whatever happens to come my way. I'm just as tired of being rejected and having my heart broken as the person who asked the original question. It's not a gender thing, it's a people thing. Breakups suck for pretty much everyone.
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When they get over it quickly it means they never cared.
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Alot of dudes jump from relationship to relationship and dont allow themselves time to heal from the last one. Many times dudes cannot be alone. They hide their true feelings and emotions for fear that it will be construed as weakness. I see right thru that...
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Guys seem to get over break ups faster because basically, in society women are known as the sensitive ones, and guys are typically known as the tougher ones. Guys don't get over it more quickly than girls, it's just that they don't express their emotions. My last girlfriend broke up with me, and then she seemed like it didn't even care and started flirting with other guys, despite saying that she was still in love with me. I tried to hide it, because I didn't want her to know that it hurt me so bad. [I didn't do so well though =P] So, guys don't get over the break up any faster or easier than girls; they just hide it better, in most cases.
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Because we are by nature more relationship-oriented we invest a greater percentage of ourselves in our relationships than men so there is less left that just belongs to us and does not depend on the relationship. So less of ourselves left after. So we need to restore that part of ourselves. Also the way we process things is more emotionally upfront and out there than men so more obvious. And more men will have already met someone and started something going which led to their pulling away while we would be more afraid to threaten our relationship by doing this.
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