Yes, they can, and some do it all the time. For some men, it's just their way of relating to women they find attractive. They can't help it. Sometimes men who flirt are actually VERY happy and satisfied with their marriage precisely because they still flirt with their wife - and the wife can really like it.

Yep. Flirting is adventurous.

to determine if their actions are appropriate consider this...would they behave the same way in front of their wife? If not then I think it is not right, but that's merely my opinion and I could be wrong here. For myself I think I should behave away from my wife just as I do when she and I are together. -Buddy

I would hope so, especially if they're married. Is he happily married? He may try and find the right one, before he divorces. Why don't you look into it. Ask him how his wife and family are. Be nice, don't try and shove him away. If you see a picture of his wife, tell him he's lucky to have her. He's probably just being friendly. But stay friends, if you like him as a friend. If he makes any moves on you...get out of there, it's trouble. You don't want to be in a relationship with a married man, do you? Best of luck.

Yes married men can flirt without having sex. Most married men who flirt , like to know they still have it. Also, if the married man has flirted with you for a year....chances are he'll continue and want more... and not just more flirtuing. He knows you must like it and he will try to follow up...when he has the nerve.

I've had a similar experience, also lasting about one year, and feel confused much of the time. The friendship and attention are flattering, and I feel there are reciprocal feelings worth exploring. Enjoy his company more than any man I've ever known. He's told me that he'll remain in the marriage, and of course, I want more than our frequent, but too short meetings. I know that sex is on his mind somewhere, but both of us are prepared to respect the boundaries. Is such a relationship worth continuing, or just a recipe for massive heartbreak? Sorry that I don't have a better answer.

Having feelings for someone is emotional which may or may not include wanting to have sex with them. Flirting may be the only "non-inappropriate" way to express his feelings for you. He is probably somehow struggling within his marriage.

He is waiting for you to make the first move, then he will have an excuse (you knew I was married before you hooked up with me) to have you and his wife to.

I can. I stay in practice, which my wife really appreciates.

I am not married, but a few married girls flirt with me every single day, and I flirt right back. However, there is no way I would do anything with them (and I assume they wouldn't do anything with me). The fact is, flirting is innocent fun, and as long as it doesn't cross the line into outright sexual talk or physical contact your ok.

Yes, one of my best friends is a married man and we flirt all the time. Over the past seven years to be exact. I know sex is on the mind somewhere, but we couldn't do that, it's wrong for one...and second.. It's too weird. heehee :)

Yeah, he can I suppose. But would you want your husband even innocently flirting with another woman? I know I wouldn't.

no no.listen to me ....look at my eyes. What Do you want from him?.....your answer depends on 50% of what you thinking in the first place.Just listen to ur instincts

I am a single russian man and flirting with a married woman from Ukraine (she is not my kind of girl She is a flat and I don't like flat women) but she is very attractive when she is just talking to me

Sounds like he may lack some confidence somewhere because if he is flirting with you and not coming on to you there is definitely problems with the wife and if he is not confident enough to try to go beyond flirting then he also has no confidence in himself. It would be a good idea to keep a distance and let him know you like him as a friend because if he and his wife would split he is laying some ground work to be able to fall back on you and that is simply a rebound situation where you would be the one to get hurt due to if he is doing this to his wife he would not hesitate to do it with someone he is just having a relationship with. There is no way I would ever accept flirt from a married man because it shows lack and disrespect for the woman he married

I guess he can. Sounds like a game with him. I had a co-worker and she and I used to joke and make remarks all the time and it was in good fun and that was it. She was married and I was married, but not to each other. But, we used to joke and have fun.

I'm with my s/o 15yrs and I'm a flirt, it's harmless fun that will never go any further than flirting.

Sure. Happens all the time... Happens here on AB... In the workplace... At church functions... etc. Flirting is a way guys let a woman know that they like them. If they are single, they may wish to carry it further, but if they can't, that doesn't mean they don't find the woman attractive. If they are married, they are giving and getting attention they may not feel they are getting at home. That does NOT mean they want to take it further, no matter how they feel about the woman they're flirting with. And, being married, most would NOT want the woman to try to take it further, as the flirting, while fun, is safe... More, and things can get REAL complicated REAL fast. Now, you put this in "Is this cheating?"... Well, that would depend on what his and his wife's values are. Even so, no... I don't believe it's cheating. If you two were to go out and maybe do something together (sexually), YES... THAT is cheating. But again, men and women flirt all the time, married, single, attached or not.

yes they if they choose to maybe he is not getting attention from his wife so then he decides to go out and flirt with other women to fill up that void

YES, I am a married man who flirts, especially at work. It doesn't mean I want to have sex with any of my co-workers, just that I enjoy their company. I have been hapily married for the past twenty years and absolutely adore my wife, she is the best thing that ever happened to me. But, I used o flirt a lot before I met her and still do. Here is a dead giveaway for you. If this man talks to you about his wife and his family he has no interest in sex. I do flirt quite a bit, but mention my wife frequently.

Men usually always want sex, but flirting does not necessarily mean he'll participate in a sexual relationship outside his marriage. Understand that the man probably finds the woman attractive. Whether he ACTS on it depends on whether or not he feels he can get away with participating in an illicit relationship. If he has no intention of pursuing the relationship, he just does it for the thrill. He could be doing it as an ego boost. This is especially true if the man does not find the woman physically attractive. He knows the girl/woman likes him or the attention she receives from him. He doesn't mind giving her attention and it allows the woman to feel good about herself DESPITE there never being a possibility a relationship will develop from it. One other reason may be that they both know it's harmless fun. NEITHER have the intention of pursuing a relationship but they enjoy the sexual playfulness of flirtation.

The only reason it's hasn't gone any farther is because "you" haven't allowed it. Not because he wouldn't want it to happen. But should you ever call his bluff..I'll bet he would go for it. Care to test my theory? Actually...it's best to leave it alone. Married men are the worst. A married man that is flirting with you "is" thinking about sex. As for women,we can flirt and it means nothing I don't believe that same thing about men. Especially the married variety.

It's possible.

absolutly. I have always been a flirt (apparently genetic because so is by 3 year old) I was unhappily married. my wife was dead weight, emotionaly, financialy and borderline physicaly abusive... and even had 2 cyberaffairs before running away with #3 on a 1 day decision. dispite all this all my frequent flirting was innocent fun play. the only time it was not innocent I resisted temptation and it was a girl I had never seen before nor would I ever see again. if I was going to see her regularly I would have burned the bridge. I had one coworker who I greeted each day with "hey beautiful" another one i called my nonidentical clone. one called exit buddy (for a month we kept getting assigned to guard the exit, get you mind out of the gutter) I really miss her, she was a really cool old woman. another coworker I thought was absolutly adorable but while I was friends with her was not attracted to her mersonality. the only one I COULD date if we had both been single was the nonidentical clone but that idea never even developed. none of them would I have even allowed a more intimate relationship to form. no, it is not cheating. my wife however pretended that she had this kind of relationship with her 2 cyberaffairs... but I knew better, not that she could not have such a relationship, but that their kinds of flirts were not the playful kind. on the first one I chose to ignore my spidey senses until accedentaly seeing an inapropriately tender (tender/loving... not playful flirty) good morning text and quickly confirmed that I was right.

Anythings possible.

Of course they can. I do it all the time - but never if I think it might be taken seriously.

You could look at it this way: A successfully married man has learned how to talk/deal with women, since he has had lots of practice. Could it be that the polish he displays is being mistaken for flirting?

Ok I got married June 6/09 and my husband and I lived together 3 year before,He looks at women all the time,he thinks I don't see it, but I do, he looks so much that if we do go out to a bar,or party they come over and then all the shit start.He doesn't say much, and when they come on hem, he hands them a baby picture that is fake of a baby with a big dick, and tells them it's hem when he was a baby.He tell me it's a joke I hate it,thats not funny ,and then the girl start talking about sex with hem.and knows he is with me.I have told hem it hurts and I wasn't the one that wanted to get married he was, He doesn't think he has done anything wrong.So flirting with a married man is to feed has ego and his wife will get half,now that's funny! and if he does it to her, he will do it to you

As long as no-one gets hurt and maybe also if he didn't mind if his wife did the same. But I do believe it may not be necessary to flirt if you have a significant other.

Counter question: Can married women flirt without wanting sex (or money, or material things, or promotions, or raises, or power, or whatever)? Let's be fair here. You're asking if married men in general can do something, yet you have a specific situation going on with one married man in particular. It's hard to tell from your post whether or not you like the flirting, invite the flirting, accept the flirting, have tried to put a stop to the flirting, ignore the flirting, etc, but aftet 1 1/2 years, come on! You say he "cares" about you? What does that mean, that he "doesn't care" about his wife? And what does it say about you, after 1 1/2 years? If he's in the wrong for flirting, you may also be in the wrong for letting it go on so long. If, however, you personally have decided it's harmless, and/or that you like it, don't stop to think what underlying damage is or might be caused within his marriage (that was sarcasm, by the way). It takes two to tango, and there is no indication here whether or not you're a willing participant. If you don't want him flirting with you, be a grown woman and put your foot down. That doesn't mean a direct confrontation with him, there are liabilities in a workplace, and you have recourse through management/HR. If you like him flirting with you, be prepared for any negative consequences that may arise from this "harmless" behavior.

Impossible, he must want something more from you if you are more available. Be careful not to be carried away.

I think a little flirting is fine and maybe even healthy for married people to engage in. For some people it renews or confirms their feelings of attractiveness even when they have no intention of being unfaithful. There's an old saying I think applies here, "Just because you are on a diet that doesn't mean you can't look at the menu."

Absolutely he can. Maybe he's just being nice.