ANSWERS: 47
  • No. I'm pretty sure that's called "Entrapment."
  • I hate that. I see those shows where they do that to people. It's not fair. I wouldn't do it....just...not nice.
  • no because that would betray our bond of trust. of course i am thirteen and do not have a husband or wife so this answer is strictly metaphorical.
  • never because I would never be in a relationship with someone I felt I could not completely trust to be faithful to me.
  • I would not need to do that. She is worthy of my trust and I am worthy of hers.
  • No, I have complete trust that he is faithful.
  • No.. why would I set him up to possibly fail? I think that type of thing is unhealthy and really.. people like on that cheaters show.. never seem to really want to find what they went looking for. Why do that to someone else? .. why do it to yourself? If your guy/girl makes your lie detector go off.. address your significant other and if it does not feel resolved.. . either trust them or leave them, but to play games with them? Not right. I might have done this when I was younger but now?? No way would I go out of my way to set myself up to have to see something that would hurt so bad.
  • If I was married, I'd have a pact with my wife. We would both be allowed to do that and whatever else to "check up on the other one". I think this would actually build trust because, hopefully, both of us would consistently see that we are faithful to each other.
  • Never. What a huge waste of time and potentially creative energy. If I didn't trust her, I wouldn't have married her. That's not to say that it's not possible that I'm wrong. If that's the case, though, I guess I'll find out sooner or later, but I would never be the catalyst for it.
  • If I was having trust issues id take it up with my spouse to try and find out why im worried.. ploys are not the way of going about it.. especially if the problem is simply fixed, why make the problem more complicated.
  • I trust my fiance but, i may do it for kicks. :)
  • Yes I would. I have actually done this to my spouse and he failed. We had been having some problems in the past where he was being more guarded with his cell phone and internet activity. One day I found this dating website that he was on that said he was married but looking for someone that could keep a secret. One day he left his e-mail up after he left the house and curiosity got the best of me. I checked it and I found a couple of pictures of some woman and then e-mails he sent back to her telling her that he thought she was so fine. And there were several other instances of things like this happening. I would confront him on everything that I saw and found, but he would always get defensive and find some way to spin it on me. So one day I was just tired of always having the gut feeling, but never knowing for sure. I think hiring a decoy is better than checking countless phone records and e-mail accounts and following your spouse all over town. And it is not entrapment unless the decoy initiates the interaction. But if the decoy is just sitting at the bar and your spouse comes over to them, then it's all fair in love and war.
  • No. That indicates a lack of trust. Either trust your SO or don't. If you trust her, then you don't need to entrap her. If you can't trust her, leave her. Simple.
  • Never. If I distrusted him so much to try to trap him, the marriage is already in trouble, just from my side.
  • Nah, seems kind of underhanded to me. Seems kind of like you're lieing to catch a person that lies. While it might work, it just doesn't seem right. Also, personally, I wouldn't cheat. But if my wife or girlfriend set something like that up, I would be really pissed. That shows such a lack of trust and respect.
  • how messed up is that? I totally would do it if I really thought that my partner was a cheater...of course I wouldn't do it now because I have no suspicion
  • Shouldn’t you already trust the one who your going to be spend the rest of your life with.. ? If your going to do all that, that means the trust isn’t authentic, n probably shouldn’t even think about marriage if that’s the case.
  • If they are my husband, I trust them completely. No need to hire anyone to find out for me... ~+~
  • No. If I was to the point of hiring a decoy, I would Be pretty much already convinced he was cheating or was capable of it. doing something like that means that there is no trust and the relationship is basically over.
  • Thats a very deceiving move and it could backfire, if the other party is completly innocent. I guess you could call this "personal entrapment".
  • I have been hired to see if some guys wife is cheating and she was.... now I think I have to hire someone to see if she's cheating on me karma is a bitch...lol
  • No way. Why? Entrap them into something? If they do it, they do it, no way I'm going to aid that process.
  • why not put a GPS in his underpants! Come on laddies, ignorance is bliss and it works both ways.
  • Its not entrapment, its security. You know like testing the possibility that your partner will cheat on you if the opportunity arises.
  • I would... but only if I had gotten to the point where I was suspicious and had good reason to be. Any good relationship is built on TRUST... even before respect. If that trust had been broken I would feel inclined to talk about it first... and if that didn't truly reassure me then I guess I would have to resort to playing detective as sad as that sounds to me.
  • No if u don't trust the person then u shouldn't b married
  • Just like all the clichés I started to suspect something was up when my boyfriend of six months became distant and started working late. He also didn't answer the phone when I rang him, and he always had his mobile switched off when we were together. I wanted to check it for text messages but he was really protective of it. I must admit I tried to hack into his e-mail but I couldn't figure out the password. I know I should have talked to him about it but I couldn't face the showdown and guilt if he denied it. My techie friend told me that I should get his mobile phone checked out. So I brought him a new mobile for his birthday, he was gadget mad and loved it, and I assuaged my guilt by thinking that even if I found out nothing, at least he'd still like the present. I got the opportunity to use it a couple of weeks later when he said he was going to the gym, having already been earlier that day. I contacted the http://www.computersleuth.co.uk and had the phone checked, and it had loads of hidden text messages on it from his ex girlfriend. By the time he got home his bags were packed. He didn't have a clue what was happening when I told him to leave, and that I knew he was cheating on me. He didn't deny it. I don't feel ashamed of what I did, but I would have felt very guilty if he was innocent. If you have an inkling it's better to know. If I'd have asked him straight out, I know he would have lied to me. I didn't tell him how I'd done it but all my girlfriends knew and were very impressed. Lisa
  • I served as a decoy for a casual acquaintance who suspected her husband of cheating because he received lots of phone calls late at night. He said they were from overseas clients, but he always went to his study and shut the door behind himself while he talked. I went to the bar where he liked to go sometimes after work. I dressed in one of my sexiest outfits,stood next to the man --who in fact was quite handsome--and struck up a conversation with him. I bought him a drink and slid over right next to him so he could smell my perfume. I touched his arm while we talked --told him I was recently divorced and like to come to the bar sometimes because some cool men hung out there. I couldn't have given him more cues to come on to me. Even told him I lived nearby and on winter nights like this the house felt quite lonely. We chatted for a while about this and that, when finally he said: "You are a very pretty girl. I can see why any man would be interested in following you home. As for me, I'm happily married=--and I wouldn't even think about spending any time with a woman other than her. I'm her man--and she's my girl!" My friend was relieved and so was I--even though I'd been quite a bit more provocative than either one of us had planned. My attitude is: All is fair in the game of love!
  • That is a bit deceptive. Is it really necessary? I wouldn't waste my time. Testing someone on purpose will just make you unhappy because you will never be secure enough to have a relationship.
  • That would be some kind of sick last resort... I would never want to do that, I would break up with them before i get to that point.
  • 2 fukin right i would do this all day long and if my man failed he would get the beatin of his fukin life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • I'm not a loser or a douchebag, so, no I wouldn't and haven't.
  • Never. First, I trust my husband. Second, if someone really wants to cheat...I say good riddance. I'd be better off without him.
  • No, his actions alone will tell. If you know your man, you will be able to tell right off.
  • If I thought for one second that I had a reason to....I would not bother, I would just leave him. What is a realationship with no trust?
  • i want to do that right now seriously i just need the right girl my bf has been doing this stuff on the internet and then i always find out and he blames it on me but he hast done anything in a year now and i have all his passwords but some times i still doubt him
  • Heck yes! If you ever suspect your s/o, ease your mind by knowing the truth. If they have nothing to hide, then they will understand why you did it.
  • NOPE! I have far too much faith in him!
  • Actually my Girl's been talking to sum guy at her school. Im thinking about doing it. I mean she has lied to me about everything lately..
  • no need to waste the money, I know he would cheat on any given opportunity
  • NO but my wife would.
  • no. I can tell when something is being hidden from me and since I do not believe in secrets within a marriage (and will not marry someone who does) the signs will be obvious as they were last time.
  • I think there's a word for that... Entrapment? Creating a situation from thin air when it wouldn't have happened in the first place. I wouldn't, Why ruin it by creating a false situation
  • If it's gets to the point I'm THAT paranoid about her faithfulness, it'll probably be better to hire a lawyer.
  • Thinking of doing it myself.
  • Would like to try it on the ex!!! ")
  • No, that's quite a bit of a breach of trust in my eyes. +5

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