I am 17 and i have never had a girlfriend does that make me a loser?
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The_Bourne
ANSWERS: 38
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No! Not having a girlfriend doesn't mean you are a loser. There are many guys out here who are 20+ and have never ever had a girlfriend, also many of the guys get married without ever having an affair Keep patience dude, you'll find one someday if you really need one.
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No, girls will come and go. Give it time.
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take your time grasshopper
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No I was 22 when I had my first real girlfriend. It doesn't mean you are a loser. Maybe you are focusing too much on something that really doesn't matter lik how cute she is or something. I don't know. Try getting to know a girl first and see if your personaliuties click. If they do I am sure there is a good chance you will focus less on physical traits.
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No kid you are not a loser. You just feel pressured because of the perception that guys have their first girlfriends at 11, 12, 13, 14. That perception isn't right.
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I totally agree with both mantobeat and kashif. Being the age you are and having a girlfriend then will help and be better for you because wou will be a lot more mature than people who get their hearts broken at young ages over and over again and don't know how to help it. The right girl is out there for you, sure maybe she is right in front of you and you don't know it. Just be patient, she will turn up soon. Good luck.
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No way dude that makes u hella SMART!!!!...yeah I think young love is great but its only great for a while....hey u keep ur mind on the books. You'll have all the time in the world to do the GIRLFRIEND thing in the future ...meanwhile think about getting some cash flow with that brain of yours then all the ladies will love ya!!!! LOSER..NOT EVEN!!!
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No, you're not a loser. My first boyfriend and I were going on 19 when we met and we were each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend.
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hell yeah.... nah sike... my first gf was in 8th grade
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I didn't have a girlfriend until I was twenty. ^_^
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nope! :)
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not at all. If you were 35 and never been on a date ( and you don't live with your parents) I might be concerned. But some people take a little more time to begin serious relationships like love interests. The best thing to do is to take a deep breath and relax. Don't try to force things. If you are relaxed and be yourself that special girl will find you. Remember when they acknowledge your existence return the favor and your social skill and ease will increase over time. Humans are complex beings so don't try to overthink things just relax. You are not a loser.
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honestly it depends on the reason youve never had a girlfriend. not having a girlfriend doesnt make you a loser but being a loser can be a reason youve never had a girlfriend but dont get me wrong there are tons of reasons for that. maybe you dont want to waist your time on high school relationships, maybe you just havent met someone worthy of you (i know people in my school are amazingly shallow)i bet you just havent quite found your cup of tea yet :) dont worry about it besides id rather a loser than a player any day ;)
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No. I didn't have my first real boyfriend until I was 19.
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No. That is not a necessary to life. I was single for 8 years until I met my girlfriend. I just didn't care or find the right girl until fairly recently so it does not matter that you are single. Enjoy it while you have it.
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nopes, in fact u are the on the right track lad, cause really u'd wanna spend the time on yourself than u would on your girlfriend. plus its too early to find someone who can be what you are lookin for
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I'm in your condition but not because I can't get a girlfriend (I turned down 4 :P). The reason I don't want a girlfriend is because I don't feel that they should have to deal with it. I mean I don't have a job (and believe me I have looked and looked and looked and looked) and I don't have a car to pick them up or have any money to take them anywhere so I feel like I am wasting their time. It's all for their sake.
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No!!! I have friends who are GREAT catches in their early twenties who haven't really had a girlfriend... No worries!!! :)
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Pffft. No way jose! It just means that you're waiting for the right girl. I don't like dating unless it's serious so woohoo!
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not having a girlfriend when you are 17 doesnt make you a looser there are guys with 20 or eaven more that havnt had a gf but thats probably betr in a way becouse you are waiting for the right one and when you find it you will know and you will be completely prepared. But certainly it doesnt make you a loser not having one so dont worry and if friends say the oposite dont listen their just doing it because they wanna show off what they've done! good luck & dont rush
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Well, I'm 18 and I still haven't had a bf either, and I know you may feel like a loser (I know I do), but that isn't true. We have to look at what we have, not what we don't have, and just live life not worrying about it. I know, easier said than done (I'm still trying to get over this one guy that I know doesn't like me like that). Good luck in the future!
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Not at all. You should consider yourself virtuous. We have an obligation to save ourself for marriage. You have a special gift to offer your wife that many others have already lost. Hold onto that. Continue to guard your heart. Hopefully you are going to college. I believe that it is wise to wait until you are nearing completion of college before you consider a girlfriend. That way your wife will be someone that holds the same interests as you. You will also be prepared to take care of her and will be financially able to provide for her. PLUS, the best thing of all is that you have saved the most precious gift for your wife. That is awesome. Some colleges have a group of students that are pledging to be a virgin until marriage. The campaign is called True Love Waits. You can find out more at: http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/faq/leaders.asp Keep up the good work. I am proud of you.
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idk.. look in the mirror
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no bro....i didnt have sex until i was 28 and now im married with 4 kids and a mistress....youll be fine..and im ugly as shit and not to rich..
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No, nah, nope and hell no. I asked my teenager, she is 16, most of her friends are 16, and most both guys and gals have not had a girl/boy friend yet. You have plenty of years to get involved and be annoyed with a girlfriend, take your time ;) (jk about the annoyed)
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NO! That's how my boyfriend was. It's nice. He doesn't really have anyone to compare me too! :)
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Nah man some people don't have serious relationships until late 20's or early 30's. don't worry about it. have fun and do your thing. if you find a girl you can see yourself dating then get to know her and ask her out. Plus u still don't know yourself completely i mean im only 19 but ive seen drastic changes in myself from 17 to 19.
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You're never a loser until you start believing that you are. The greatest success stories in life are from people who failed at many things, many times -- including romantic relationships -- and what made them a success was: they got up and got on with it again after each failure. If you attempt something "n" number of times and fail just "n-1" times, then you're a success. That's all it is, just picking yourself up after failure -- learning the lesson, whatever it was -- and then getting on with it.
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no dude just give it time. It will happen if you don't give up
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no not at all
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I'm 17 & have never had a boyfriend, so what? That doesn't make me a loser & you not having a girlfriend doesn't make you one either. You are only a loser when you start telling yourself that. There is plenty of time for a relationship, enjoy being single & untrapped LOL.
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I've known guys that had never even dated until they were in their mid 30s. So I'd have to say, no.
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No maybe idk cuz idk you 1 thing doesnt make you a loser i havent had a girlfriend either but im 14 soo but maybe your just not looking in the right places like maybe your looking for the right girl at school at work somewhere. God's will is strong you will meet someone
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Im 30 and still dont have a girlfriend. I hope to get one before I turn 32. If I dont I will go insane.
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Yup, I would say so. You better hurry up and get one before life passes you by. :-)
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u dont need a girlfriend in fact dont get one it usually causes trouble.
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I know people who are twenty-one and never dated. You just have to ask a girl out, if she says yes woo hoo! if she says no its not a big deal. this does not make you a loser.
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yeaa that does make u a loser cause i strated dating when i was 10 nd hello dnt u think its time for u to get one but if u dnt have a gf then try getting a bf maybe ur gay
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