ANSWERS: 57
  • Some women think that but maybe you are not looking at a mature women. The old that women get the more I think they will appreciate that quality.
  • There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man crying, he's human, not an animal. I hardly ever cry msyelf, mostly would tend to react wit anger and no don't like talking to people about problems, and I'm a girl, so wut does that makes me, manly, then, don't think so. In reality everyone cries, or else we wouln't be human, only psycopath don't have feelings.
  • I'm sure there are some women that feel that way, but, if they do, then they are demonstrating themselves to be so emotionally stunted and crippled by unrealistic stereotypes that the man should count himself lucky to have escaped her. Men cry. Men get happy, angry, sad, and depressed just like women, and they cry. And that's good. Crying is a natural part of a healing process. One of the things that attracted me to my husband is how in-touch with himself and emotionally healthy he is; I loved that, even when we were dating, he could cry in front of me. It made him 1000 times more attractive to me than any of the Tough Guys I had dated before.
  • I am a women and do not think it is weak or unattractive in a man sometimes it can be a turn on if it is about the love he has for a women, however if he is going to cry because of stress, money or work and want to be consoled or given some attention than he better give it to me, when I need it and not walk away with a "oh please".
  • I dont believe that its unattractive at all unless its becomes a constant problem. Men should learn to express themselves more but most of them have to much pride to show it. Relationships would be greater if the ways of expressions are expressed more often. Some women are unable to learn the proper ways of expressions which causes more tension in the relationship.
  • I think if you're crying about things that are worth crying, there is nothing unattractive about it. I would prefer a man who was humble enough to express himself than to act like he's so tough and heartless.
  • I suppose that some women do think this. I'm not one of them. I think that crying, as with the expression of any emotion, makes one human. In fact, a man who doesn't express his emotions concerns me...just doesn't seem emotionally healthy to me.
  • Some women do, but then they go back inside their trailers to watch their cousins on the Jerry Springer show.
  • SOme women do, but I don't. There are people who try to use tears on me to make me feel sorry for them, and to forgive them for all the stupid, evil crap they do. I think thats pathetic. But that is only because I know that they are lying, and that they don't really care anyway. So as long as the tears are sincere and actually meant, then it is not weak or unattractive. It takes a strong man to display his emotions. Its a weak one that fakes it for sympathy
  • i don't infact i wish my fiance would cry sometimes the only time i have ever heard or seen him cry was when he lost his father ...he thinks it's unmanly but i'm begining to think he's heartless he didnt even cry during the notebook...
  • I am sure some women, as well as a few men believe that crying is still only a feminine trait and not "manly." Crying is a natural way for both men and women (and babies) to release stress, and to expression a myriad emotions such as grief, sadness, joy, frustration, pain, etc. The only reason some people STILL believe it is not manly, "macho" or "normal" for a man to cry and show his emotions in that manner is that in some cultures, and at some periods in our history, it was thought that men should control those feelings, hold them in, and not openly express them with tears or by crying. In recent years, modern civilized cultures have changed their opinion on men crying. Unless a person is living in the past, using old standards and stereotypes around men not being free to show tender or sad emotions, it is perfectly acceptable and very normal for men to cry when they feel the need. In fact, many women see this ability in men as a strong desireable and positive trait. It shows them that the man is sensitive, willing and able to express his feelings. The people who still believe that when a man cries it is unattractive and shows "weakness," are living in the past or have very shallow and uneducated ideas about human emotions and how they are expressed in the 21st century. The change in men's crying habits was completed by 1995, as Jeffrey A. Kottler explains in "The Language of Tears," a how-to book about emotions. That was the year when O.J. Simpson was found not guilty of murder and his unsuccessful prosecutors faced a press conference: "There stood Marcia Clark, the woman and mother, stoic and restrained, while her partner, Chris Darden, an African-American male, choked on his tears." Male crying, far from being shameful, has become almost mandatory. Phil Donahue recently remarked, "I think that people who never cry are like people who never laugh: There's something wrong with them."
  • Just like men, women's preferences vary. Some women do find it unattractive and like to believe all men are always macho, and are so tough they never cry However many more women like when men can express their emotions, because it shows trust within their partner, that they're ready to beopen with them
  • She shouldn't, and if she does that's wrong
  • I think just the opposite. I think if a man can be aware of every emotion, not just his "manlyhood", then it makes him more of a man, and very attractive to me also! My husband can work with concrete, fight like an ox, and he can still be very in tune with his feelings. I respect it all, not just the tough stuff!
  • Depends how often and how easy it is to make him cry. Same goes for women, I think (or assume)
  • My wife is of the opinion that men who hide their emotions are trying too hard to be macho and therefore are insecure in their manhood. I'm inclined to agree because, well, it's my wife's opinion.
  • No I think it makes a man more attractive if anything.
  • Personally, when I see a man crying I think it shows that he confident in who he is and is not ashamed of showing emotion. When my husband (2nd) and I got married, he started crying before I did and that just touched my heart to know that he was as happy as I was that we were marrying eachother. My first husband didn't even smile, much less cry at our wedding. My husband (the present one) doesn't cry very often, but when something really touches his heart, he's not afraid to cry or show his emotions; that to me if very, very attractive and shows great strength as a man.
  • i don't think so. it's kind of cute. nice.
  • Well I'm a man and I cry whenever I feel the need. My GF thinks it's great that I can express my emotions around her. I think it's great to be able to cry on your loved ones shoulder, there's nothing better than someone to hug, hold and love you when you're sad or upset!
  • The opposite, actually. Many men have been raised, or feel for some reason that crying, or showing any emotion that could make them appear weak isn't proper. My boyfriend is one of those, but there have been times he's broken his own rule...and to be honest, that made my love for him grow more because he's comfortable enough to show that side to me.
  • some people think that way but i dont. after all men are only human (most of the time lol)
  • Ill admit .i cry over failure and over girls.Usualy drinking trigers it but,there has been other times i have just cried out of the blue for no reason.I have some sort of depression ,kinda sucks.lol.I Guess im just a big baby but,im still cute and sweet as candy..lmao
  • Personally, I find it quite sexy. Nothing irks me more about a man than having to be all hypermacho. I think it takes a braver man to cry if he damn well feels like it, than to be afraid somebody's going to call him a wimp if he does. This said, one of my exes was good for blubbering out loud in public. He did it on a few occasions, and it tended to embarrass me. However, the same behavior would embarrass me out of a woman, or for that matter anybody over the age of nine. Control it, yes. Hold it back, no.
  • no, that's is being a person. i just wished they could more, but instead they get mad nd hold it back. it is not weak or unattractive to cry.
  • I personally like for a man to cry. I don't think it makes you weak or less of a man just because you cry. I would comfort my man if he was crying around me and try to figure out what's wrong. I think it's a good thing for men to cry because men hardly ever cry because they feel like it's for girls, but I wish that more men on this earth would cry. A real man cries instead of holding back his feelings. I think that some men don't really share their deepest emotions and feelings with the woman they are with and that doesn't allow that woman to get connected with your emotions. Most women know where men stand physically and what they need to fulfill the desires they have physically, but they don't know how to fulfill their emotional needs because a man very seldomly opens up to a woman. I think that a man who crys is attractive not unatrractive, I think it takes a REAL man to shed a few tears and know that even when he gets done shedding those tears, he is still a full man.
  • If a man has a heart he wouldn't even beat an animal, let alone a woman. ..What I mean by not worth crying over is feeling sorry for yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself too much you get nothing done. I think it's alright to feel sorry for yourself, but only for so long and then you need to get up and change what you're crying about, and if it's impossible to change, like someone dying, then that's always worth crying about.
  • There probably are some out there who think that way but not me. I prefer a man to express his emotions. At least then I know how he is feeling about things and I'm not being forced to guess if everything is okay or not. If a guy is mad he should express it. If he is happy he should express it. And if he is sad and needs to cry he should express that too. My husband doesn't cry often but when he does you know he is either very sad about something (like when his Grandpa died) or is in a severe amount of pain.
  • I would hope not. It does not make him weak,but shows strength,character and compassion.It's healthy to cry.It's a "human" emotion,not just an emotion for "women".
  • Absolutely not. It means that they are honest with their emotions.
  • My husband passed away last year. In our 46 years of marriage he did cry a few times but he would always go out to the workshop to do it. He thought he had to be the typical tough male. I wish instead of going out to be alone he would have cried with me instead. But since most of it was over the problems with our daughter I suppose he thought that would only add to my burdens.
  • not unless he is constantly crying.
  • I don't. I'm all for guys finding ways to express their emotions that they're comfortable with. The reason for it is just that it's a societal expectation that guys feel less or are "stronger" so they don't "give in" by crying or trying to fix their emotional problems. And what a silly expectation it is! Patriarchy and sexism are lame.
  • I do not think of a man to be weak or unattractive if they cry or show emotions, however, I think it also depends on how often they do it. If a man cries all the time over ridiculous situations, then I may consider him unattractive. If a man cries everytime you get in a fight with him, he may be unattractive. I am dating someone who shows emotions at the right time, and I have seen him cry, but it's been over serious issues.
  • Its ok for men to cry and i admire that because it only makes them seem more expressive and stronger but not when they cry for the smallest and simplest things not worth crying over, Thats the only time they would seem alittle unattracttive and weak.
  • Most people (Male AND Female) have been brainwashed by society that a Man who shows emotion is not a Man. This of course, is NOT the case. it takes MORE of a Man to show people what he feels inside.
  • i dont think so......and going by so many answers it looks like the world also does not think so. i believe that men are not far from emotions and when they do share their true feelings it becomes a more open relationship than one in which they always have to hold back. its necessary for a man to be strong in physical activites and tender in his emotional relationships
  • I think it manly when a man can let go of his emotions and show them to me. I know some men do not think it is manly at all. But we all have problems and emotions. So men do not be afraid to let your emotions out.
  • No. I think if a man does not cry there is something unhealthy about him.
  • I wouldnt say that it makes them weak or unattractive but i dont like guys that do what some girls do and cry just for attention. I think when they do it just show that they arent afraid to show their feelings. Its guys in pink shirts that turns me off.
  • I can only really speak for myself but it seems like it's a really big turn off when a guy gets too emotional too early on in a relationship. Everyone cries and shows emotion, and guys should not be ashamed to do it -- but just like there are overly emotional girls there are overly emotional guys.
  • i think its okay if a man cries once in awhile. it shows how sentitive he is! its hot.. then you can comfort him! =)
  • I don't feel that way. I think that if a man cries it shows that he's not afraid to show his feelings. I respect a man that cries every once in a while.
  • No, I don't think men who cry are weak and unattractive. Just don't go all Emo on me and cry at everything.
  • i do think crying is ok if your a guy however if i were to cry in front of my mates i dont think they could handle it or know what to say.
  • I think it's good for a man to occassionally cry, it's better than releasing the anger in a different way. It's good to do that, because all pride comes down.
  • Some women might ~ but i don't.
  • Yes, sadly. There are those who see any sort of emotional display as a sign of weakness. In acuality, men who are willing to show emotion are often doing so out of a position of great strength.
  • i can't speak for all women but i love when a man can express his feelings i think that's one thing that attracts women to gay men as friends
  • i think it makes him more of a man because he's strong enough to show his emotions.
  • no it shows sesativity and sweet i love it when my fiance really opens up 2 me, i wouldnt want him crying loads often like a every day or so (well i dont like that in women either!)
  • No, I think he is just being human.
  • why men mustn't cry, I don't mind but to be honest, it seem weird to see a man always cry
  • I don't know about others but I would never think that a man is weak if he cries.
  • Can't stand wimps!

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