ANSWERS: 100
  • Almost always, yes. It can be just as painful for a man as it is for a woman.
  • I know I always have.
  • yes, every time. if we get back together its different each time and each subsequent break up with the same girl becomes a little less impacting on the emotional aspect of my life at least.
  • No. None at all. We are all superficial sex hounds. Of course we do. And the biggest critics of the emotional guy are women. We avoid it at all costs in the presence of women, and thats because our story will be told..over and over and over again. Stop all the gossip, and guys might show you something else besides empty beer cans and his ding-dong.
  • Yes they just try to hide it better & not talk about it. We like to vent & air it out so to speak they keep it inside to much to keep from looking like a wimp. We like to talk about our feelings they like to forget they have any that got hurt.
  • Of course. There are all kinds of emotions, it could be sadness of course but let's not forget resentment, anger, indifference, etc. depending on the situation.
  • Sometime but it depends how breakup was.
  • Daft question men are no different to women. We all have emotions, some are hard and hide or supress them and others are soft. That applies to both men and women. In fact some of the most uncaring people I have known have been women!
  • Yes, either relieve or regret, depends on the way it was done
  • Yes. All humans have emotions. The idea that they don't is sexist.
  • Absolutely, I hardly spoke for a few days after my first; I felt completely betrayed... Second time around I was the one who did it, but we had both agreed to end it so it wasn't really an emotional experience. I do however know quite a few men and women who apparently feel no remorse when they instantly break off relationships with people... Disgusting really - although you may not love someone else, they can certainly deeply love you. Instantly breaking relationships can SERIOUSLY destroy another person emotionally. (For example, I know of several people {almost entirely men} who have actually killed themselves over the grief of a breakup)
  • I would say NO!!! It seems like from my experience that they always made me feel like they don't care.
  • Apparently Not. I wish I could be proven wrong.
  • They do. Different guys show it in different ways. If in the "end stages" of a relationship the woman is constantly on the "attack" then the man will have closed off emotionally and thus it will appear he does not have any when in fact he is simply protecting himself and withdrawing himself from an unpleasant onslaught where the only wise move is to back off and retreat and end the relationship. This has happened to me.
  • Well mine didn't.. he just stopped contacting me and wouldn't reply to my calls/texts and that was after 7 years together. It was the worst thing anyone has ever done tome.
  • 90% of them don't...they just think obout how nice is to be single and all of the stuff they can do!!!Drink, sex, girls, friends and party...that's the only thing men think off
  • Of course they do...whether they show it or not is another matter.
  • yes they do, they may act like its not affecting them but they have their pride and egos , but on the inside they are hurting worse then we are , it relates back to the male macho thing , and its a show for their friends .
  • No. ALL men are emotionless shells of human beings. Women feel. Men feel nothing... Bullshit.
  • Of course they do. I'll admit after a few select breakups the emotions were joy and happiness.
  • Of course they do!! Just because they may not show them it doesn't mean they don't have them. I have right now, this minute, in my home - one devastated heartbroken guy who is struggling to take his next step and who wants only to give up on life. I am struggling to hold him together. Far out I can't believe anyone actually asked this question!
  • Yes, it is just sad that some of us look for our emotions at the bottom of a whisky glass
  • I think so
  • Of course they do - what a loaded question. You may be hanging with the wrong guys.
  • Nope. We're like rocks. No emotions, nothing. What kind of guys do you know?
  • Obviously, the one being dumped is probably going to have the most emotion, whether it be male or female. But, yes, men do, and, I can't even imagine being in a relationship and then having it end, and, just gleefully thinking "Cool. What's next?". Well I can't imagine it unless the ex was a stone cold bitch and over time I just got so sick of it that at the end there were no emotions left to express (and, yeah, that's happened to me).
  • Most of the time... but one time I hated my boyfriend so much that when I broke it off with him I just felt free and happy...
  • If not wrong Guys have more emotions than females. But they do not intend to show it front of the females or people. Females should understand this, males can go to any extent when they have an emotional break ups, in many cases the reason woould have been a female who would not have understood her male. Females tendency is to break up and forget, but for many males it may drive them crazy and can even lead them to commit suicide.
  • Of course they do. They're human too. Men are just taught to hold things in ... be a man!
  • They do but they are more likely to keep it inside and just try and forget about it.
  • Dammit YES!.....and its MOST frustrating...REAL men should NEVER fall prey to their emotions, right? I was raised in that tradition, and its more damaging than any post-breakup-trauma let me assure you : (
  • Sure they do, but many don't let them all come out like girls do. A guy will go drink beer with friends and watch sports, but in his solitude is when he is most vunerable to emotional breakdowns.
  • Having recently broken up with my girlfriend i can honestly answer that yes, we do have emotions after a breakup. Depending on the length and depth of the relationship will affect the emotions felt, for example i broke up after 9 months. I'm feeling very hurt,b ut due to the depth of the relationship, i am ok with it, in a way. Hope i've been of help!
  • i can say yes to this i was in a relationship for 9years and we had two children one together and one from a previous she left me and we still work together with the kids and hang out but my heart hurts and i cry everyday wishing to have her back and the worst thing is she cheated and i could have other girls
  • Absa -frickin- lutely. like the last person say, if it wasn't for the fear that women were going to tell all their friends about the big sap at home who made the mistake of opening up, maybe, just maybe, more guys would do it. We guys are not all as shallow as you think we are. I personally was devastated when my partener left me. Luckily I had some good friends who stood by my side all the way. People who I could open up too. And you know what.They were all guys. Some of whom had gone through the same thing. People I had been there for in the past. So yes, guys do have feelings after a break up. Just coz they don't show it, doesn't mean they're not hurting too
  • Of course they do. What kind of guys do YOU know?
  • I'm living proof that they do. I can't even function properly right now. It hurts beyond words, and I can't shake this hurt even with things that used to make me happy.
  • I think guys just have a different way of dealing with things. Most won't outwardly deal with any pain they feel because they don't want to be seen as weak. Yes, they're probably not crying everynight for a week like most of us girls do, but most experience it in some way. Whether they choose to deal with it or not is a whole other story. This can often times be the most frustrating part for girls... at least for me. My relationship just fell apart and I haven't been able to eat, sleep, or go anywhere without having some sort of breakdown. My guy was back at work the next morning and acts as if it doesn't phase him. It's hard for both of you. We just tend to show it more.
  • They are human after all.
  • Yes they do and in fact, they hurt for a lot longer than most women. Men bottle emotions up for fear of looking weak but women will talk about it so much that her friends want to kill her! So she gets over it while he sits in silent pain....they're weird like that.
  • I believe that all guys do the problem is the ego. They might act like they don't care at the time, but you know they really do. It is just that some guys have to act superficial like they aren't hurt, just to be a man. If they let it go that easily then what kind of man would they be. I know it sucks but don't pay any attention to egotistical behavior. When they want to talk they will talk.When you try to call them when they act like this it is the worst and you are not getting anywhere.
  • They have the same problems as women do. It is just that society doesn't allow them to behave the same way.
  • I dont see how anyone could think men are so diferent from woman. from what ive seen men are just a little less expresive about how they feel dosnt meen they dont have feelings! When My younger brother broke up with his first girl friend my mother called me and was really concerned because she couldnt get him to eat. He was so depressed it was sad to watch. so ya heck ya guys defenitly have emotions. I had a boyfriend write me letters for 4 months after we broke up cus he couldnt deal with it, he said he was crying himself to sleep. now thats emotion!
  • I, myself, wonder about this question.
  • Ya most of them. Some guys...that are "soft", let them out when their alone,or hide them. But some of the other ones bury theirs.
  • a stiff penis has no conscience,, the emotion is generally for their "loss" BUT THAT IS VERY GENERAL ,, THERE ARE MEN THAT HAVE FEELINGS DEEP ONES, AND THEY HURT JUST LIKE YOU AND ME,,WE JUST HAVE TO BE WILLING TO LEARN ABOUT THE HURT THEY FEEL, AS WELL AS ASKING THEM TO LEARN ABOUT OUR HURT,,
  • Oh believe me they do...i'm trying to get over my last breakup 2 months ago..and it still hurts like hell. This girl was everything I thought I wanted in life, and things ended pretty badly. I can barely sleep at night, I wake up thinking about her, in some depressed state. I genuinely loved her and now she's gone..it sucks bad. It has been one of the worst things i've ever experienced. I even had a rebound one night stand but it didn't make me feel better, it made me feel sleazy and made me miss the love I had a few months earlier.
  • yeah some do. Some are guys are more emotinal from most. Im sure alot of guys are actually pretty emotional there just to embaressed to show it because there to scared what others might think of them, in my opinion :)
  • yeah they do but they try to make it seem as if they dont. by being an asshole during the breakup and even after. they act that way because they want you to look at them and see how they truely feel about you and the situation. mainly they dont want to look weak
  • they do no matter what they say, guys have emotions just like girls do. girls just show theirs and guys hold it inside.
  • Yes. Guys are generally better at hiding their emotions after a breakup. That's why it may seem like they don't care.
  • Depends on the relationship.. and The (person)
  • I DO BELIEVE THAT EVERYONE HAS EMOTIONS, EVEN THOUGH IT MAY NOT SEEM AS EVERYONE DOES, ESPECIALLY MALES. I'VE SEEN SOME GUYS MAKE SOME OF THE WORST AND OR HURTFUL DESCIONS AND SHOW NO EMOTION AND THEN I'VE SEEN GUYS MAKE THE SAME DESCIONS AND SHOW EXTREME EMOTIONS. I USE TO HATE THE FACT THAT MEN NEVER CRY, BUT I HAVE SEEN A FEW CRY. US FEMALES SHOW EMOTION AND DON'T HOLD BACK FOR THE MOST PART, WHILE GUYS ARE FOR MOST PART CONSERED ABOUT KEEPING THERE IMAGE AND DON'T WANT TO SEEM LIKE A "SISSY". I THINK THE OTHER PART ABOUT MEN THAT I HATE, IS VERY FEW ARE WILLING TO ADMIT WHEN THEY ARE WRONG OR IF THEY REGRET SOMETHING. BUT FEW WILL AND THOSE FEW THAT ARE WILLING AND CAN SHOW EMOTION OR ADMIT THEY ARE WRONG OR WHAT THEY REGRET ARE ACTUALLY MEN EVEN IF THEY MAKE LITTLE BOY DESCIONS OR SHOW LITTLE BOY ACTIONS.
  • As a man I have always cried at the loss of a dear woman close to my heart emotionally and sexually. We are people too. It hurts a lot and it never is anything I ever want to feel again but suspect that I will. One time it felt like a heart attack and I had to clutch at my heart literally for weeks because I thought it would explode if it didn't. That's what it feels like when your soul mate betrays you. I wish this pain upon no one.
  • Guys have emotions all the time ~ just like women do. It's a normal human process :)
  • not at all...
  • Oh yeah! My sister and her boyfriend broke up about two months ago and he is more emotional than she is... She's passed it and he is still trying to get her back... He even cried to me... I've never seen a guy so emotionally struck!
  • considering I just spent the last 5 hours in an emotional holocust . . . yes we do, we just do it privately. Break-ups are harder on a guy, girls have a well established group of friends they can talk openly about. Guys dont have that level of intamcy with their friends so we have to get over it completely on our own. -fin
  • Me and the xwife broke up..I was the emotional wreck for a couple of weeks..but now I have subsided..I wear my feeling on my sleeve..and I am not afraid to feel. I dont give a damn about what others think about me when I feel and how I can express it..This is ME and eventually its how I deal with it. Others close off and keep that inside and that sometimes can lead to a TIMEBOMB..I dont carry that, I deal with the emotions,then and there..and then the healing starts.. its been incredibly hard..but as much as it feels like being dead..I will live through it..
  • It may not seem like it (hah), but I am sure that they do. Men are human, too.
  • I would think that either person would have feelings, whether he was cheating or being cheated on. I was a cheater for 2 months and just broke it off and I feel horrible! There are definielt feelings there. I would say communication is the key here. Talk about thw "why's" regarding cheating and if there is a possiblility he/she will do it again, then a decision has to be made, and follow your gut, as to whether he/she is the one for you. There are many other partners out there who would not cheat. There are many ranges of emotions a guy can feel.
  • god ya i just split from girlfriend of 6 months and i loved her...and i can tell 1 thing that i have never felt so bad in my life........
  • My live-in bf dumped me very nastily in a manufactured row then didn't contact me for a month. He had told me he loved me every day until that moment. I contacted him after a month to sort out our chattels and he was really nasty. When I tried to convince him that it was cool and I had moved on he asked me how. I told him I was even dating again and he slammed the phone down on me. So I guess he does have feelings for me and strangely that has made me stronger knowing that he felt more than just indifference at the end. I have sent him a nice e-mail wishing him well and will never contact him again but its nice to know he has felt pain - how perverse we women are!!!
  • is cold an emotion or a feeling?
  • Of course- Like in the movie Stripes- "And then depression set in"
  • Some. Mostly we feel remorse over the loss of a perfectly good sex partner, and we feel anxiety about the difficulty with which we will find the next. Aside from that, we don't usually deal with the touchy-feely kind of stuff. That's for girls. Of course, the smart guys will pretend to be all sensitive and emotional. They do that to get some ass.
  • No, we're just unemotional jerks looking for the next lay....of course we do...we just don't eat a ton of ice cream.
  • in the moment i dont react, but when I turn my back I fall down crying. Its like.. i react an hour later to the situation... sucks
  • Yes, but they like not to show it and treat you horribly instead.
  • My boyfriend balled like a baby. I broke up with him because he did not seem to care about me. Apparently I was wrong. He agreed he would start showing more affection and emotion from here on out if I gave him another chance. He has been doing just that. Yes, guys have feelings, too.
  • Not all,coz they have ways of taking it off their minds.
  • I don't know, do guys have emotions at all???????????????????????????????????????????
  • i strongly believe they do. They just have a different way of showing it .
  • never. men are made of stone. if your ex "man" shows emotion, he was really a hairy woman.
  • That depends entirely on the why and who did the dumping.
  • Do you still have emotions even though u split because you didnt love them anymore
  • Yes. To destroy the guy who is responsible and eat his flesh. AAAAARGGGHHHHHH!!!!!
  • I grew up in a very conservative christian home, my parents are the reason I am who I am. My wife left after 20yrs of marriage, 3yrs ago. Before that time I cant remember the last time I cried. I still cry myself to sleep sometimes, I have never felt such heartache, and the emotional chaos of dealing with the rejection, and betrayal, is the hardest thing I have ever faced in this life. Believe me when I tell you, we have more heart than most women can ever understand, we just guard it w/ our lives. And thats exactly what it cost me!
  • On Thanksgiving I caught my boyfriend coming out his apt. door with another woman. I started beating him in his head and face. The girl looked me in my face and stated, “This is between you and him!” And then she ran out the door while I was beating him up!I was disgusted and hurt. I completly cut off all communication. A mutual friend told me that he was in a club the very same night! WTF! And he is the one who did not want to break up!!!!! No damn heart, or soul!
  • Well, I do... Then again I do have a child involved...
  • It really does, I guess. Guy's always understands in all times.
  • I love this question! I am a girl and would love to know!
  • Yes they do, my ex is living proof of that and he was the one that ended it. 11 months on when i do see him he gets tears in his eyes. but when i c him with his friends he is a different bloke. puts on a front well
  • ha ha yes we all do but us guys dont like to let people see us down or sad so we hide them until we are alone then we just let it all out thats why guys are always wanting to be alone after a break up
  • yes and no. I have just recently broken up with my first love and believed it would last for a long time, we even used to talk about marriage etc. Long story short she broke up with me and although it was on good terms (if any can be) im devestated and it feels like there is a black hole in my heart. At first i was a mess, tears and all, but now it seems as though im feeling nothing. I am burying my emotions (unintentionally) i know, but cant find any way to help that. Maybe from past experiences this is how other men react and why females believe there is a unequal sharing involved when in a relationship. why men dont fully open up= scared of having there heart ripped out to weaken them and there ego. I know i am now.
  • i think they do!! it's a matter of what kind of a relationship they had.. the heart to heart relationships are always hurting.. the ones where the partners were friends beside being bf and gf it's hurting as well.. where communication was great ... it's hurting as well.. i think that after a healthy relationship .. next to a break up is the unknown period..under an ice cold attitude is the confused person ... they love as well as women.. they get hurt as well.. who doesn't agree that men are worse than women when is about a illness.. so.. why wouldn't they have emotions after a break up? if he is all the time drunk after the break up.. he is doing that because of emotions...and not because he wants to have fun.. something is missing in their life and they try to fill than space with something else.. the empty space left behind us women is a big challenge for guys!
  • Of course not, they're too busy ripping the heads off of puppies and defecating on church altars.
  • Yes very much so. Im dealing with one right now, i cant eat anything, havent slept in two days, cant talk to anyone.
  • I would say sure they do, they are human, they have feelings.
  • Steel in my heart.
  • Nah, they are sex robots. JK. The reason guys act really heartless after a break up is because they feel the need to be Mr. Super Tough Macho Guy. But in some cases the guys get more emotional than the girls; they just never show their feelings to others, especially not the girls. If you act calm at the end of a relationship, the other person will freak out.
  • We have emotions ,we just refuse to show'em.
  • Of course we do. Emotions are a human thing, not a gender thing.
  • Yes we do, but we do bottle it up as well as hit the bottle! Im just out of a two year relationship and in my situation i find that my exe being a typical woman thinks she is the only creature on earth that can feal pain.Its open season on my ass because im not walking around crying in everyone's face and how easy is it for a woman to find as many replacement guys! So to all the lady's out there who think men dont have any emotions after a breakup, listen for the "POP" thats the sound you will hear when your head comes out of your ass for the first time!
  • Well i had 3 breakups but each time i thought of getting a better one.Afterall everything happens for the sake of good.
  • Yea, until they get what they want and get bored on long term relationship. When they are around with hookers enjoying with them and having fun with them, they can't think anything else and they can't see other then sex. Once hookers left them alone then only they feel themselves emotions after the break, I don't know my 1&2nd is weird. They act all upset but then they say they messes me. I think guys just have a different way of dealing with things. Luckily I had some good friends who stood by my side all the way. People who I could open up too. Some of whom had gone through the same thing. Sometime but it depends how breakup was. Of course not, they're too busy ripping the heads off of puppies and defecating on church altars.
  • I just recently broke up with my boyfriend after a 5 year off and on relationship. It was always up and down. I have no question as to if we loved one another. I just know that we had two completely different points of view. The reason for the breakup was that he has a family trip coming up in June and I was not invited. His reasoning was that our relationship was too volatile and that I could join him on the next trip. I had been on this same trip with him several years ago and met all the people that are going to be there this year as well. The way I see it is that if he's going to be with me, he's going to be with me all the way. I am not on his time table and by him doing this it caused me to take several steps back. I looked at the relationship in a whole new light. I wanted the break up to be an amicable one. We have a lot in common and thought we should always keep in touch at least. He on the other hand would not even let me in his house to gather my belongings and when he did, I had to follow him where ever he went cause he did not trust me out of his sight. He even once turned on the house alarm for the police to come. I eventually got him to turn the alarm off but still I had to call the police on my own to get everything. He finally let me have everything that was mine after I promised him that I would not take him to court for half of what I paid on a computer I was using in his home. I have a puter at my own house. I just wanted to get outta there before having a panic attack because I sure didn't expect for him to behave in the manner he did. His emotion was pure anger and madness. I wonder if underneath all that he will wake up and regret his actions? I wonder if he even cares at all? He told me not to ever call, text or email him ever again. Should I just let it be and go on with my life...?

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