I know exactly what you mean. It feels like the pain will never go away. I'm sure everyone is telling you 'i've been there before, and eventually you will feel better'. I'm sure right now you don't believe them. Even though neither I nor anyone else knows the exact circumstances or have been through the exact situation, believe it or not, it will get better. It may take a while, but eventually you will think about the person less and less until eventually you wake up one day and realize, 'wow, I haven't thought about so-n-so in a few weeks'. Trust me, it will get better. Good luck!

Yes it will, if its definitly over you need to move out asap it wont get easier till you get some space away from each other. I had a relationship for 7 years it ended 4 years ago. At first I couldn't imagine life without this person. Now four years later I am married to the love of my life with two beautiful babies and couldnt be happier and I never give the 7 year relationship a thought. Everything happens for a reason. Thebest of luck it will get easier

You are going to grieve the loss of your relationship and it is painful I believe that it will get better over time. I am also going threw a break up it sucks! good luck :)

Yes the pain will subside evntually. 6 years is a long time but when you leave the flat thats when life will start to begin again. It will definately be very hard and you will need your friends around you for support. The old excuse its not you its me isnt really an excuse I dont think. My fiance left after 5 years but once I haerd the words he wasnt in love with me anymore all feelings evaporated because I knew we could never get back what we had. We have remained friends but I dont think I would have been able to move n without a proper explanation.

Once the 2 of you are in separate living quarters, it will get easier. You're feeling this way because you're wondering why you wasted your time. No pain, no gain!

Hi, my name's Alison. I'm 27, from Melbourne (Australia), and am a National Sales Manager for a software solution comany. I just got dumped too. God it sucks! We've been together for almost 3 years, bought a house together last year, have 3 dogs, got engaged a few months ago .. and I thought everything was great. We've been arguing a bit lately, but I figured it was stress.. we've had a few things going on lately .... from his health (he's 32 and has just had his tonsil removed - very painful!) to day to day finances and duties (he made a huge career change a year ago and decided to become an apprentice elctrician so I've been subsidising everything), to my career (I thought I was going to lose my job due to the company going under cos of the recession), to the actual wedding plans themselves. He told me last night - in the middle of an argument - that he wanted to call the wedding off. Tonight, when we started talking about it, he decided he wanted to call the whole relationship off. I'm crushed. I spent a few years overseas, and since returning hom 4 years ago, I'v thrown myself wholeheartedly in to my career and haven't made any effort to make any new friends. Now that my fiance has decided he's not happy and wants to move on, I can't help feeling ever so lonely and like a complete weirdo - surely there must be something uber wrong with me if my one and only best friend, confidante and lover has decided he's had enough of me and wants to call the whole thing off. Sorry to intrude on this forum/post. I started googline looking for some advice, and found this - guess I needed to vent and get things off my chest...

The first thing you have to remember is you were fine befor you met and soon you will be fine again. I just focused on all the bad times and after a while I was glad to be rid of him. But until it happened I hid from the world, that was not the answer, you gotta get out there and act like nothing ever happened and what ever you do dont let him see you sad. they feed on that and use you when they need a lil or need money or are just feeling lonely, then they are gone again and its harder on the heart. break it clean and move on. good luck and God Bless

I, too, am going through a hard break up. After 6 years my partner walked out on me for someone she'd been seeing for 3 days. She told me she didn't believe her heart was in it anymore and that she didn't want to work on our problems. She said she gave me chances and didn't think she was in this anymore. It's so hard to hear that when you thought everything was great. She told me she shut down a few months ago and has just been coasting along. This guy comes along and tells her he's already in love with her, and out the door she goes. After a week, she claims she's going to break it off from him and me and take time for herself and if we find each other, then great. Being the unbeliever considering all her lies, I decided to drive to where she claimed to be staying and saw no car in the drive. That made me realize that it was, yet another lie to ease her conscience. This way, she believes I'm not hurting as much because I felt that maybe this could work in the future. I did a lot of soul searching last night and found that there is no real way to just give this up without crying, hurting, and being in a lot of pain. I wrote a blog about all the things I remembered about her and it helped for about 10 minutes. I said last night that i wasn't going to waste anymore tears on someone who can throw me away like trash, but I can't help it. I'm in so much pain because of the lies, the deceit and the idea that I didn't do my job as a lover. I feel used and abused and thrown out like yesterdays garbage. I feel like she never communicated and she felt like she never wanted to. After a year and a half I started smoking again. I decided to go on dating sites to try and find someone to have here so I won't be so alone. We have a house together, animals, and a car payment. She claims to be willing to help pay until I can find a way to get a new place. I can't stay in this house much more. All her stuff is still here and it just reminds me of everything. I still have pictures and I burned some last night. I can't help but listen to sad songs because I feel I can relate. I'm so torn apart that it's slowly killing me. Friends are supportive but they're mutual and want us both to come and hang out together. I want to stay friends through this but I think she hurt me too much. I just need someone to hug me and console me because I can't do it myself. She has someone to comfort her and I don't and I think that hurts even more. Life is tough but I never expected it to be like this. I gave her my entire life and now it's gone. I feel like nothing and that this will never pass. I see all the time and hear all the time it will but it's so hard to look past right now. I can't see the light at the end for the tears in my eyes. I don't want pity I just need to vent this to show others and myself that we all go through this. Some worse than others and some not. I guess all I can say is thank god for friends and family. If not for them I don't want to know what I might do. I can feel my heart broken inside my chest and that hurts. Dead memories are in my mind and I can't clear them. If I can conquer this, then I know I can conquer everything.

You have to move out for it to get better.

It was not him, it was you!

i got dumped 2 weeks ago after 11 years living together we have a beautiful 10 year old daughter.I was absalutly gutted she said she had stop loving me 2 years ago i asked her what i did wrong she simply replied i got boring i asked her why she was telling me she loved me for the last 2 years and she said because i wanted to hear it, i still love her very much but i could never try and fix i feel cheated that someone i thought i knew could treat me so bad.

maybe someday you'll find someone better than him