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  • Not if YOU are the one doing the breaking up.
  • i get that feeling everytime i hear from him ,so for me yes.
  • It depends how the relationship ends. If it is sudden, hell yeah it hurts. If it is a crap relationship, it is more of a feeling of relief. If it is mutual, there is a feeling of sadness, but you both know it is for the best.
  • Yes, and like someone has punched you really hard in the stomach. I sympathise, I know EXACTLY how you feel!
  • no matter what, you alwayz feel sometime. even if the person was a complete turd, something kept u there for a long term relationship. So, something is bound to hurt.
  • I actually felt sensations around my heart as though it were ripped out, not as painful as the real thing probably, but bad enough.
  • Yes, even if you are the one who ended it, there is a sense of loss. That is normal. Your recovery time will depend on the circumstances of the break up, but you WILL recover. The heart is an amazing thing. Hang in there. There is life after a break up......usually a better one than you had before. :-)
  • It feels like there's a huge emptiness inside me. Like something has been pulled out of me and is missing, pretty crazy.
  • I went through alot of different emmotions after my breakup, but I think every situation is different. My most prodomentant feelings were the shortness of breath... Like my lungs where filling up with water and I just couldnt breath and my mind being very cloudy like it wasn't really me that it was happening to, the breathing part usually came right after the coudiness. It took a while to recover and move forward with my life(2 years and re-locating to a new apartment for me to finally feel that everything was going to be ok) I wish you all the best... it does get better!
  • I've only had one long relationship and after it was over I really felt relieved more than anything else.
  • Yes, its only natural...if you are dating someone, at least at one time you must have cared for them...so when they are gone or you lose the relationship, its only normal to feel sad, or alone.
  • God. The ache. Married nearly 30 years and figured we'd grow old together and retire in about 6 months. He took my heart, along with his social security check.He was my life. I did my best to keep our home up and when he finally came back, after 46 days, it was just to get the rest of his things. No more. It hurts too much.
  • Yeah, like my heart was ripped out or like I'm sick to my stomach. I also feel empty inside like part of me is gone. :(
  • It just aches and hurts. There's really no other way to describe it...
  • My heart fills so empty. It really feels like you just can't go on. I can't explain it. We broke up because he lied and cheated and then he was angry with me as though I cheated and lied when it was ALL HIM. He then, just went on to someone else as if our 4yr. relationship never happened at all. It's hard for me to believe that men have emotions at all.
  • can you say heartbroken? ya I know how you feel and I told my Ex when he called me a cold hearted B**** that he had to be one as well because he'll always have my heart..corney I know but hey when it happpened I felt it get ripped though my chest and he step on it with his converse.! :(
  • yes it is ... and i feel my heart is falling apart and makes me feel weak .... and rejected...
  • Sometimes... Sometimes it just feels like it stops, and you feel like you're on a rollercoaster (stomach-flips, too). You feel like it will NEVER get better, but it will.
  • Doubling over, or relief, to mention opposite extremes.
  • Yes I had that. In the old days women fainted because they may not express their feelings towards others. So I have a theory about that. I think your body, mind and soul are connected and whatever happens to your proverbial heart happens to your body. That's the reason for the "stabbed" feeling. I (still) get sharp chest pains, shivers and anxiety attacks when I do something to hurt my fiancé, because the love I have for him is too much.
  • yeah, thats life..u know what it is really painful if ur relationship is to long and the ending is breaking up..because we are expected that he/she is the one that u looking for but he/she's not..don't worry everything will be back in to normal and i assure u that..always pray to God,u know what that's what I'm afraid of having a long relationship and the ending is breaking up, it is really useless right the thing that u did to that person. but i guess that's what God wants us, to be strong person.
  • that is your heart being broken... just need TLC
  • When I received the divorce papers in the mail after 18 years of marriage, I felt like getting stabbed in the heart. I didn't even want to live. And if it hadn't been for mhy daughter, I prolly woulda done something stupid!
  • yes thats exactly how it feels, surround yourself with friends and people who care about you, who can help keep you busy and not sitting thinking about it too much.
  • If you are the one who initiated it and wants it, then no. If it was a joint decision for whatever mutual benefit, then no. But if you never wanted to break up and you had no choice, then of course it would hurt. You have been dumped by someone about whom you still care. That would take time to work through I'm sure. Happy Thursday! :)
  • It feels like your heart just deflated and is gasping for air...it's the worst kind of ache. I kinda feel like when I gave my heart to my ex, when we broke up, he gave it back damaged, and I'm still trying to figure out how to put it back inside without having it fall apart.
  • That's putting it lightly.
  • It's just few weeks or months after that regular basic of work. (My sister used say that, when someone die we can cry some days, if every day people die who is going cry for ,there is no more tears comes through in your eyes, because if we cry everyday where can tears comes. Like that in a life is also something comes and something goes. We have to stand for it. God. The ache. Married nearly 1st one 20 years 2nd one not married 6 years and figured we'd grow old together .It's a hell being with dirty and cheating husbands or wives.If it is sudden, hell yeah it hurts.then relief, Yes,even if you are the one who ended it, there is a sense of loss. That is normal. Your recovery time will depend on the circumstances of the break up, but you WILL recover. The heart is an amazing thing. Hang in there. There is life after a break up......usually a better one than you had before. Yes I had that. In the old days women fainted because they may not express their feelings towards others. We broke up because they lied and cheated and then they angry with me as though I cheated and lied when it was ALL HIM. Then, just went on to someone else as if our 20 & 6yr. relationship never happened at all. It's hard for me to believe that men have emotions at all. You know what? that's what I'm afraid of having a long relationship and the ending is breaking up, it is really useless right the thing that u did to that person. but i guess that's what God wants us, to be strong person. I've only had one long relationship and after it was over I really felt relieved more than anything else. GOD BLESS US AND THEM.
  • It's depending on their relationships and the way they live together. It hurts only whoever have nice and honest relationships. It doesn't hurt(like me)who is living with a bad relationship. Because, some people they live like miserable marriages and bad relationships whoever they love with. In some relationships, they don't care about you and neglecting about you and your relationship, why should we feel get stabbed or get other feelings about fucking people. It's not about 20 years or 6 years relationships we been through like, (cheat,lie,disrespect,dishonest and double life they live) it's about the way we live happy or lived with honest and trustworthy long relationship. Good luck and god bless you.
  • I feel numb all over,inside and out.The pain gets so bad that it physically hurts.
  • today I saw my ex and his new girlfriend. my heart was pounding out of my chest and my chest feels like it is on fire. Then I could not stop crying.
  • When I found out my wife of almost 11 years was cheating on me behind my back it felt like my heart had been ripped right out of my chest. The next 2 times I would feel this way would be first when my last g/f was given the news that she had terminal cancer then when her mom called me one friday night as I was preparing to go to see her to tell me she had just passed away.
  • I am going through a fresh breakup and i never knew life could be so miserable. I am crying all the time, depressed, and it feels like my heart just got ripped out. We had a near perfect relationship and i didnt see this coming, what makes it worse is i dont have anybody to talk to and i feel soo lonely
  • Every time I felt relief, it is over because it is meant to be over. The life-sucking-leech is removed; and freedom is once again resumed. :)
  • It did... Not anymore. Now it is healing and Im working on my own life and moving on to better.
  • I just don't bother with relationships, waste of time and money.
  • If you care for the person, yes. For me the break up was worse during the break up...after I escaped his magnetism by moving completely away from him, a weight was lifted off of me. Things got better. By the way, don't have sex with the ex.
  • oh yes ,, when i went threw my last brake up it felt horrible my heart hurt every day until finally i slwly started to get over him.. i wish you the best of luck if your going threw that right now,, jus keep your head up and think positive,, it will all be okay.

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