I'm a guy. To me, going to strip clubs does not mean that he's necessarily cheating on you. If you are ok with him being at strip clubs, it's possible he visits for the tease and leaves. The hiding of his cell phone bill is more suspicious. Perhaps he's embarrased about dialing phone sex services. Maybe you could ask him why he hides his cell phone bill.

Yes, he's cheating. He's looking at other scantily-clad women. This is cheating. Dump him! Yoiu don't need any cheetahs. Now you go girl and get to steppin' because time is short and so is my answer!

He may or may not be cheating, but he has been lying to you- which is an issue in itself. You need to make it clear to him that lying isn't acceptable. You can't stop him from going to strip clubs if that's what he likes to do, but it is your prerogative to require that in order to be a relationship with you, that he doesn't go to them. Decide whether you're OK with it or not- if yes, tell him its OK, here are the rules, but don't lie to me about it- if not, then lay down that if you ever find out he goes again that your relationship is finished- you'll soon see how much he cares about you and whether he's worth the trouble. As for "hiding" his cell bill, is he actually hiding it, or is he just not showing it to you? Does he pay it out of your joint account or his wages? If the latter I'd suggest that its really none of your business who he's calling anyway- its HIS cell bill, why do you need to see it? Nosiness and suspicion can drive a guy away a lot quicker than a stripper. I don't think you have enough evidence here to suggest that he's cheating on you, but it is something that you need to address in your relationship - the most important thing is to have clear boundaries for both your behaviour.

I dont like the idea of my boyfriend going to strip clubs, but alot of men do, and you've got to trust he wont do anything. The problem is, you never really know what he is doing, and thats what hurts most. Either you trust him or you dont. It might not seem it, but its easy.x

I don't know either you or your boyfriend so with so little information it would be hard to make a judgement call. It's quite possible he is but then again maybe he isn't In my honest opinion I don't see the attraction of strip clubs when he has you. I have no one right now by choice. If I had a g/f or wife though and I was happy with them I certainly would much rather see them strip naked for me and get a lap dance from them in the privacy of our bedroom than spend my hard earned cash watching a stranger do it. As far as the cell bill is concerned he could be doing it just to avoid an argument with you. But then again he could be hiding it because he is chatting up someone or several someones he doesn't want you to know about.

If he's walking into a strip club he's cheating on you already. Especially if he's lying about it. And the hiding of the cell phone bill is another clue you've got a dog on your hands. Time to show some self respect and toss this pice of trash where he belongs-on the curb.

It's hard to tell.

If something looks and smells bad, it usually tastes bad.

I don't think that going to a strip club is cheating. As one of my buddies says, it's not about where you get your appetite, it's where you eat dinner... But then, I'm not really that into strip clubs either... Hiding his cell bill may be cause for concern, though. Can you get the bill off the internet? I know my cell provider lets me... Although shame on you for trying to snoop, you only cause yourself grief that way. Anyway, if you think the guys cheating, go crazy psycho bitch: Hire a private eye to shadow him, burn all of his things, change the locks, get a restraining order, and tell all your frineds that he's got a small penis. (That last part is a joke... just for clarification...)

Sounds like it. Going to strip clubs isn't the problem, lying about it is. People lie for a reason. He is also hiding his cell phone bill for a reason. I don't know you or whether you are a generally bitchy person or nag without reason, but that would be the only reason he could have for lying about going to the strip club. As far as the phone bill, even if you are a bitchy person, he wouldn't hide it if there wasn't anything on there to hide. Best of luck. :S

He's cheating with a striper

If your gut is telling you he is then more than likely he is.

He could be addicted to porn, most people hide it because they are embarrassed that they can't contol this behavior.

I would tell him to stop being a sneak and be honest with you. If there is another person then he should at least be honest with you so you can find someone who would be faithful to you 100%~~Not all liars are cheaters but this is not a good indication of his character.

If he's lying to you he's cheating you in some way: lying is a sort of cheating. Bad.

I suggest you leave him before you become more emotionally involved. If he is already lying to you, you can trust someone like that. He will not change and you will only waste precious time and energy hoping he will do the right thing. I wasted 3 years with my bf because I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. I look back now and wish so badly that I had left him when I first found out he was going to strip clubs and also being very careful with his cellphone.

it is cheating if you think it is, I've learned that through this site at least...

He should be up front and let you decide if you can allow that in the relationship or not. Most men are excited by the whole scene but hiding the cell phonebill: RED FLAG!

He's hiding the phone bill for a reason.

Well; he is LYING and hiding things from you for SOME reason ... You need to start thinking about a NEW Boyfriend who will be HONEST and TRUSTWORTHY !! +5

Not necessarily, but he is lying to you and that is enough...lose him, pronto!

Unless you talked about your feelings as a couple abot strip clubs he isn't cheating, he may be hiding it because he is scared to talk about it. As for the phone bill...he may have friends that are girls and may not know how you would handle it if you knew he had friends that are girls... Don't go jumping the gun, tread easy and ask a few casual questions about strip clubs and how he feels about that stuff...he may just be hiding the fact he enjoys them..and is afraid of your response... same goes for the phone bill..you go all PI and crazy about this you will lose him and it may not be for the right reasons..if you love him and respect him at all you owe him and your relationship a talk and a bit of trust...believe me...once you lose that...there is no going back.

If he is lying to you and hiding his phone bill, I would think very carefully if you want to continue a relationship with him. I have been trying to let my bf go, because he too goes to strip clubs,but he was clever enough to invite me and introduce me to some of the strippers & waitresses that work there. My bf has always been very protective of his cell phone and makes sure to keep it by his side. I have found some strange calls on the bill, when we had our phones on the same acct. and when I asked him about them, he always had some story or lie to tell me. So even if you ask your bf, if he is clever, he will easily lie to you. I think the best thing you can do is go by your gut instincts. That is what I am trying to do. Good luck!!

Do not come to conclusion just give time and then you should tell him off.

Just because he's going to strip clubs it does not mean that he's cheating!! but be suspicious about him hiding the cellphone bill!