ANSWERS: 32
  • It's possible that devastation may not be an immediate reaction from any/all of them (the man, the woman, or the children), and yet the truth is that each of them will suffer consequences after the shock of the loss passes. I firmly believe that the children usually pay the biggest prices for loss of family, regardless of the reason for the loss. Children truly need both of their parents, and a strong family/community network as well, imho.
  • I have seen many marriage break ups in my immediate family and although the adults suffer I am sure they have grown enough to understand and know what is happening. I truly believe that the children are the main sufferers in each break up situation.They often think it is their fault or do not understand why they have been abandoned by one parent Unless there has been abuse toward the children and then the break up should be better for them
  • The children. Trust me. It left an imprint on me. But you have this little flicker of hope that your parents will get back together. But when it's distroyed, your parent marries someone else, you break down inside, but no matter what, even though your parrent says that he/she is DEFENATILY not going back, you have this tiny, barely alive flicker... It totally sucks. Personal experience.
  • Without a doubt, the children. Children naturally tend to believe that things are their fault. It is very difficult for a child understand why the people they love don't love each other any more.
  • I think the children would be. When my parents got a devorce I was really devastated. But I guess it could all depended on everyone you know?
  • Definitely the children. For the 'adults' in a relationship, the reason for the breakup is easier to understand. Whereas children will, by nature, always want an answer for why their parents don't seem to love eachother anymore, and failing in getting one, they will tend to blame themselves. For the adults, there will most likely have been other relationships before that particular marriage, and there will always be a possiblity for more after. But to the child, those are the only parents they have, the only parents they have ever known, and the only parents they will ever have. There can almost always be another husband or wife, but there's never another mother or father.
  • Everyone suffers, but its the children who get the brunt end of the deal.
  • This so obvious. THE CHILDREN.
  • Definatley the children
  • The Children - although it is tough on everyone invovled
  • Mom and Dad see the breakup coming and more or less are prepared for it. The children frequently don't see it coming, or don't want to acknowledge there are any problems. Then when it happens they sometimes think it's their fault. Toughest on the kids. Takes a pretty special set of parents to keep the loving going for the kids while they're fighting over who gets the silverware and crystal.Important to remember that kids are forever even if the marriage isn't.
  • the kids... trust me, my parents told me they were getting a divorce on my birthday... last month.
  • With regard to the adults - obviously the one who valued the relationship the most. As for the children - they get lumped with all the sadness and sorrow and confusion and fear that their parents jointly created for them... and most of them never come to terms with it.
  • I don't think it's the kids... IF THE PARENTS HANDLE IT RIGHT! My mother has been divorced twice and both times she explained things to me, most especially that it was not my fault. Here is a surprise; six-year-olds can understand things! I learned early on in life that sometimes couples don't work out, but sometimes they do so relationships are not ALWAYS bad either. I grew up unafraid to get involved yet aware that sometimes a break-up is necessary.
  • Kids. My parents broke up and it was hell for me. Other friends who had broken homes turned bad and really went down wrong roads.
  • Kids. Mostly because it wasn't their choice for this to happen. I think those who make the decision do have a hard time, but since they still made the choice it wasn't AS devistating to them.
  • Always the children.
  • The children, because often times they don't understand and blame themselves. They often get looked over, for a while, while the shit hits the fan. The kids get it the worst in a divorce.
  • As a child of divorce, I used to believe it was the kids. Then I became the partner in a divorce and found that the adults hurt just as much. And sadly, I became the parent of a divorced child. Having experienced it from all sides, I believe that no one comes out un-scathed. The degree of damage varies, but overall I feel that the kids have the least amount of control and so hurt more as they are tossed around in the storm. Divorce is awful. But it is sometimes necessary and the best thing for all involved. Yet everyone will be hurt by it.
  • The children. And the hurt lasts a life-time.
  • I've handled divorces....it's the kids. The parents are usually just angry at each other and both lose sight of the kids.
  • It could go either way. There are too many variables.
  • i think all are. the parents eventually move on and see other people but the children seem to be the most effected by a divorce. they might feel like it was their fault and their chances are higher for relationships that end in failure. i look at all of my friends who's parents divorced and they all suck at relationships!
  • children
  • children
  • ive seen all three. Sometimes the women are devasted, sometimes the children are elated, sometimes the men are crushed. There are as many possibilities as people. I will say that one common myth,is that the kids are always upset about the divorce. Ive personally known many kids who were thrilled about the divorce (my husband, my best freind, all of them male come to think of it)
  • It depends on the circumtances for the parents,as one may be wanting to end the marriage for what ever reason, but the children are affected no matter what the reason for the breakup.
  • I would have to agree children are the most devastated, i would have to say from my experience that men seem to take it alot harder then most women, so men for a 2nd most devastated, not to say that all women are not completely devastated some are, but from my experience i believe men take it harder then women.
  • The children will usually only be as unhappy or happy as the parents. And I think that's the way it is in the home no matter if it's an intact home or not. If you're parent is happy most of the time, you're going to be happy most of the time.
  • Children. They have to deal having their family split up even when it has nothing to do with them becuase their parents cant get over their stupid selfish problems...even though it has everything to do with them, but people tend to forget about the child...and only think about themselves.
  • All three, depending on the circumstances of the divorce. I give my strongest vote to the children. They will forever be "pawns" between both parents. The children will be the ones to suffer. They always do.
  • I have successfully kept my 3 year old from being very effected at all. his mother made the choice to run away 2290 miles with her BF so I do not care if she ever feels pain over the divorce. I cried for 6 weeks and then was happier than I had been our entire marriage.

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