Men,I have a very,very mild case of cerebal palsy and autism.They are so mild that most people can't even tell that something is wrong with me in less I tell them.If I tell my bf this,will he be turned off?
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It may not show now but what about with time?. I think it's best to tell him and see what his reaction will be. If he's negative about it then you won't have to start over down the road. It'll be harder too cause you'll be older.
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Disease should not be a turn on or turn off. Better to find out now what your boyfriends character is made of now before you become committed. If he loves you your issues will be a caring blessing between you two!
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Maybe but if you are getting serious with him its better too be honest with him.
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If he is, then you have lost nothing ... If he is not, then you have someone who really cares for you ... Peace
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He might be. If you are autistic, like me, you might be better off without a boyfriend. Interpersonal relationships for us just lead to pain. Better off solitary. +5
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I would be especially if there is a substantial amount of time and intimacy involved in the relationship because that would concern offspring with could have accidentally happened will you where keeping secrets. So depending on the specifics I might possible be fuming mad.
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I just have to wonder if you've been diagnosed properly if it's something that isn't even noticeable at all.
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I would wait long after he has fallen in love with you and you guys are very serious. I had a brain injury a couple of years ago, but have recovered very well. As long as I don't tell anyone, they think I'm a regular person. Once you tell someone that something is wrong with you, they will constantly look for a defect and will even imagine things that aren't even there. . I used to be paralyzed and dumb as hell. Now I am working out daily and winning academic awards.
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I think a lack of knowledge is scarier than any reality, so have material on hand and be ready to explain both to him. . If you are in a relationship, you will likely want it to be based on trust and honesty. How can you have that if you aren't open and honest with him, so yes, tell him. . It is possible he will run, especially if having kids or a large family has always been in his plans, but isn't it better to find out now rather than after a year?
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I'd be pissed if I liked you if not then it'd be the excuse I needed to get ride of you cause retard kids are expensive and time consuming and I'm not down for that.
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As long as your really good looking you shouldn't have any problem letting your bf know. But... if your ugly in anyway that's more strikes against you and yeah he might move along becuase who wants more bags of stress.
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no, he shouldn't be turned off if he really likes or loves you. +5
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If he is turned off by something you can't control than you don't need him. Find someone else. If you can't obviously tell than you would have to tell him and trust yourself and him to do the right thing. Again we are not talking something like you start doing drugs it's something you can't control.
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You love a person for whats in their heart. If he truly loves you, you will have no problems.
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Hi ShinySomeone, I would approach it with an article in hand describing the minimal effect of a mild case of those two things. If he has something to read, his mind is much less likely to draw extremely exaggerated conclusions. You might even start by asking him whether or not he noticed a few things about you, which should help to minimize his jumping to conclusions. Good luck, and let us know how it goes!
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Medical conditions that might force your partner into being a caregiver at some point in time do require up front honesty. And there is the other part. Do you want to be loved for who your are or the fake person you're projecting so that you won't get hurt? If He's fallen in love the the fake person, and not the real you, you're screwed.
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I wouldn't think so. Chances are good that if he hasn't noticed it by now, it really shouldn't make any difference to him.
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If so, you're lucky to lose him. It wouldn't matter to me and there are lots of guys like me.
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Are you sure you don't have Asperger's Syndrome instead of autism? Teens with Asperger's are often obsessed with sex issues. Seeing your question history, I'll bet that's what it is.
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If he is,then you don't want him anyway.
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It wouldn't be a turn-off for me. I would just be concerned about what that would mean for us. If you can give him the facts immediately after you tell him then it will put his mind at ease. I wouldn't worry about him being turned off though, you're exactly the same as you were before anyway right?
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its best to make that known to him, if he can't show you love now were you are, then how can you expect him to love you in marriage where you are not? (rhetorical question)It may sound weird, but when my girl tells me something that is wrong with her it makes me feel good. It tells me that she is not perfect because I am not perfect. Example, she is not a fast reader I liked that. Some of my joints are bad. Yet these may not sound like much now, but in the future it may affect some aspect of marriage.
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If he loves you no.
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Only if he's an a%%hole that doesn't deserve you in the first place.
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if he is an asshole, yes
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Hello 'ShinySomeone', The part of your question I noticed most is where you say, "that something is WRONG with me." (My emphasis). You have a couple of medical conditions...THAT IN NO WAY ALTER THE KIND OF PERSON YOU ARE...UNLESS YOU LET THEM. Yes, if you expect and want your relationship go grow into something permanent, tell him. His response will be instructive as to if HE is worthy of YOU. If he is 'turned off', you turn him away. You deserve someone who will love you for WHO you are. IMHO Hope this helps. PS I've seen some of the 'answers' and 'comments' you received to your question. The TOTALLY insensitive remarks, innuendo and level of stupidity is simply amazing. Pay NO attention to the 'put-down' types. THEY are the ones with SERIOUS PROBLEMS.
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Only if he's a superficial idiot.
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He SHOULDN'T be....but tell him at the right moment, totally alone and in complete silence. Look him straight in the eye so he'll know how you feel about HIM.
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If he honestly Loves you, it will make no difference in his feelings for you. If he turns away after you tell him, then he did not ever Love you to start with. He should be glad that you feel comfortable enough with him to tell him about your health issues. I do wish you the best.
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For starters, I am not a man, but there is nothing wrong with you. The palsy and autism is not who you are, and if they are turned of by it, it's their problem not yours. Then the case is they are just not good enough for a woman like you.
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