If she had an ounce of decency she would have had a red face too - shame you weren't ten minutes later; my guess is she would have lost some more clothing..... Paranoia no - having a fiancee who treats you with utter disrespect, cheats on you and behaves like a slut yes.....definitely!

oooo. i say dump the jerk right on the spot, looks like shes cheating on u, u deserve better then her. if she doesnt like u the way u are, then she shouldnt have u at all.

You're kidding, right? You need us to tell you if "her sweater was off" is a red flag?

I befriend lots of guys BUT I can bet you $1,000,000,000 that I would NEVER EVER be at another mans home with out my man knowing what I am doing & better yet with out him! There is no reason why she took her sweater off unless of course you live in a snowy state & heaters are on inside but the truth of the matter is that she has no business calling going to see another man "running errands" that is utter disrespect not only for you BUT for your relationship! Dump the hoe!!! You can obviously do better & ANYONE deserves more respect then that!

No I don't think it's paranoia. In your place, I would be seriously considering whether or not I would want to continue my relationship with this person. Relationships need trust to be successful and healthy. You need to be able to trust your partner, and they need to be able to trust you. If one of those pieces is missing, you won't be able to maintain the relationship unless the missing piece is fixed. She lied to you (I assume) when she told you where she was going. In doing so, she showed by her actions that she cannot be trusted. She placed further suspicion on herself when you found her in the state both she and her friend(?) were in. Based on the fact that she lied about where she was going in the first place, I too would be heading to the same conclusion that you are. There are a couple questions that remain. Can the trust you had for her be earned back? What will you do if this happens again? Only you will be able to determine the answer to those questions, but I would suggest thinking long and hard about them before you two finally tie the knot. It would be a bad way to begin any marriage if you still had insecurities and unanswered questions.

Well that would all depend on what was said. Based on the information given I see nothign wrong here. He maybe red in the face because it is hot and that is why she has her sweater off. There is not much to go on.

Dumpanoia?

Foreplay.

Find someone better. She is a slut.

Why do you say her sweater was off? So what? You make it sound like she was in her bra. However, I would never be engaged to someone I did not trust no matter if she is innocent or not. You don't trust her so why go through with this?

I can see why your in a dilemma. You didn't know your fiance was going to stop at this guys house until you discovered she left a message on your answering machine. Although that doesn't completely rule out fooling around. When you got to his apartment his face was red and you girlfriend took off her sweater which revealed she didn't have a bra on. I think it's time for a long talk with your girlfriend. If she's planning on being your wife she needs to know this isn't the type of behavior you expect from her. While you aren't married yet, there used to be a part in the marriage vows about forsaking all others. Your supposed to be a couple. Id' ask her if she's ready to be committed to you. You have a right to know this, before any wedding.

Go with your instincts.

Having male friends is one thing. But seeking them for the attention and flattery and excitement she know she will get from them is quite another and one that could easily lead her to take things to their natural consequences.