ANSWERS: 51
  • yes, i have before, but i'm less trusting after that.
  • I have in the past and it only got me stabbed in the back again. Now, you do it once and I'm over you.
  • Ya. Been there and done that. But once bitten, twice shy baby. I may forgive, but I don't forget.
  • I have – I can forgive but never forget.
  • yea. i forgive but dont forget
  • yah ive ahd to but my relationship was never the same then mii freind used mii to backstab and blamed me(needless to say our friendship is over..)
  • For some things, yes. There are friends who I have forgiven, and friends that I would gladly run over with my car for things they did 15 or more years ago.
  • Hell nah. Never ever in my life ever again! I'd rather stab em to death with a 12" blade, but forgive? NEVER!
  • My policy is you should always forgive people for what they do, because they are human. With that said, that doesn't mean that my forgiveness entitles this person to my friendship as well. They can have my forgiveness for sure, if they want my friendship, they need to put in the time and effort to prove that they deserve my trust again.
  • Yes I would. For some reason whenever anyone really hurts me I stay mad for maybe 5 minutes then go on as if nothing happens. I just love my friends much to much to stay mad or upset- because I know everyone makes mistakes. I forgive so incredibly easily...but is that a good or a bad thing?? Of course none of my friends have ever done something that bad to me...so I guess what I said ealier may change from experience. I'd like to think though that I'll always be forgiving.
  • i already have and iam working on forgetting that flaw of his , he has a few, but i dont care.
  • No and we were freinds f0r 18 years, i have not talked to him for 10 years.
  • It would depend on how far the knife went if only a little then yes i would forgive,but if it was into my heart then no i wouldnt forgive.
  • I think yo uneed to forgive, or you will end up bitter yourself. It will consume you. This does not mean you will still be friends, and never forget.
  • I have to many times with this one friend and now this one really hurt so i cant forgive her!
  • My friend is horrible to me. I have a food allergie so when im off school vomiting my guts up, she tells everyone im off having sex with my boyfriend which im not. Im abit of a pushover as Im shy so ive never said anything to her but now her behaviour is getting worse. I think shes just jelous as I've been seeing my boyfriend for 4 years and shes never had a boyfriends, but i dont know why shes so mean. I havent forgiven her and when i leave school i wont have anything to do with her. Im sure your problems will sort its self out, unless its as bad as mine then their not worth the stress.
  • My friend is horrible to me. I have a food allergie so when im off school vomiting my guts up, she tells everyone im off having sex with my boyfriend which im not. Im abit of a pushover as Im shy so ive never said anything to her but now her behaviour is getting worse. I think shes just jelous as I've been seeing my boyfriend for 4 years and shes never had a boyfriends, but i dont know why shes so mean. I havent forgiven her and when i leave school i wont have anything to do with her. Im sure your problems will sort its self out, unless its as bad as mine then their not worth the stress.
  • Yes, I have before. Though it becomes difficult if they aren't sorry...
  • well, it's always good to forgive a friend, you never know when is the last time you'll see them...im not saying it's easy in this case, but little by little, forgive.....it's ok not to forget, as long as you forgive....hehe :D
  • When I moved away for school my brother slept w/ my g/f.
  • Forgive so you can live without resentment. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
  • Maybe. It would depend. If it was the first time, then what the hell. WHy not?
  • I haven't forgivven him and I don't plan to, but we're still cool.
  • hell naw i wouldnt. my bestfriend backstabed me after i break up with my mate i ask him to tell me if he goes back to my house he PROMISE ME!!!!! that he would but come to find out he didnt and he took all my stuff out my house
  • I have, and probally would again because in my position the payoff was good I have my friend which is better than not.
  • Yes. In fact, I have. It's not easy to forgive something like that, but it's doable. The thing with me is that I forgive but as far as trust goes, it's a different story. I have forgiven my friend but I can't trust her anymore.
  • i can, just not right away
  • I think that one should offer the benefit of forgiveness, if this is a case of a good, real friend. But the action itself (whatever it's name...) you should NOT forgive- this way you would be harming yur own value system and betray YOURSELF! So, my friend, my stance would be that I would forgive the PERSON, but I would not forgive the action itself and, certainly, I would make clear, in a firm but quite manner, that I would not tolerate this to happen again in the future. And I would MEAN that.
  • probably - once...
  • Never.
  • yes, I have before.
  • I might be able to forgive them in time, but would no longer consider them a friend.
  • i have forgiven a friend that has backstabbed me and it is very hard if they aren't sorry for it.And well she kept doing it so even though we are still friends i am just about ready to end it with her because she doesn't care about my feelings . if you have a problem with someone that backstabbed you tell them how you feel and if they aren't sorry make sure they know it isn't their opinion that matters ibn the setuation it is you feelings on the situation. but if the backstabbing gets to be too much then you pron=bably shouldn't be friends because they arent treating you right when they do that that often.
  • it might take some time, but i guess i can
  • yes i have and in hindsite, I wouldn't do it again. Things change after that and its never the same. a real friend would not have donethat in the first place!
  • Only if they were sorry and told me so.
  • Forgive?,Yes Become friends again?,NO
  • Yes, if it is a very good friend.
  • Yah... forgive&forget...if they are really true BFS the challenging situation comes in when their gonna try to forgive themselves! Make sure you LET THEM KNOW that you were profoundly hurt and disappointed.
  • Yes forgive, and lower your expectations for next round.
  • Yes, and i have before. I have learnt that only through acceptance of other people's actions can you become happy; dont get hung up on thinking if only thet hadn't.. Accept it, its the only way too move on
  • Yes and I have. Why would I want to poison my life with bitterness. Trust is another thing and must be rebuilt slowly over time. People change and mature and learn from their mistakes, but it is usually a process.
  • Forgive? yes, I'm not the kind to hold a grudge. Forget? never, I'm not stupid either.
  • probably not...I wouldnt want to set myself up to be betrayed again...also, I would probably stop considering the person any sort of friend!
  • I WILL NEVER EVER EVER FORGIVE HIM. He blames me for his girl(my ex) breaking it off with him but the fact wasn't that. And this year when im trying to get it back together with her, he tries to help me.So, i take it that hes helping me even though she "suddenly and miraculously" falls for him again.But the thing is i just found out he kissed her and that he talked to her and lied to me about it.I didn't say anything because i didn't want my cover blown. And after thinking over it,im started wondering why my ex sent me some really strange smses in November last year like " i cant believe that u did those things. how could you? did u ever think of my feelings? sigh..nvm.u have your life.take care." and then it just caught on.because the only person that i shared things freely with was him.only he knew anything i did.but the thing was the only thing i did to her was break up with her.and then if there were more things, someone instigated them. so now hes using her feelings towards him to lead me on. hes trying to get me to like her more and more and want her back so much just to torment me.and right after i told him that i wanted to get back with her, she started avoiding me and treating me coldly.He says hes helping. he acts so sympathetic when i feel so hurt and all that.hes a bloody good actor for one. hes trying to torment me.now giving me enough rope to hang myself.and i cant do anything about it.even if i find proof, what can i do? i will not forgive him for life.that bastard. HE'S GONNA PAY ONE DAY.
  • I could and do forgive but that doesn't automatically mean the friendship is back to where it once was or even is still a friendship. After a discussion about what happened, if there is a very good reason for it, if they are truly sorry about it, I can see being friends with them again. And then it's done with and we move on. I won't bring it up in the future, it's forgotten because I don't want it to stand between us if we've moved on.
  • Forgive ,yes ...but forget ...very difficult :-)
  • I thought they were a close friend, I trusted them, Would give almost anything for them in their time of need. We've been friends for along time, then 1 decision, 1 minute, all lost. It hurts and I'm not sure if I can forgive them. Even if I do forgive......I'll never forget.
  • I would forgive them, but they probably wouldn't be in my life anymore.
  • Ya. Its happened to me once or twice and I got over it. We still hang out
  • FORGIVE BUT DON'T FORGET.

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