My wife is texting all the time with a guy at work. Last month they texted each other over 3500 times. Is she cheating on me.
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Not if ALL she is doing, is texting. +5
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Either that or they're writing an encyclopedia together. Search for an explanation of 'aardvark'.
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3500 times in a month?????????????????????????????????? Mind you, I suppose that is only 10 times a day... but when does she find the time??? And doesn't it interfere with work??? Maybe she is planning a surprise for you... (just trying to think positive). Have you discussed it with her? Why is this in interracial marriages?
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I think you need to watch her. This can be something or nothing.
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yes she is cheating you.
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well.. it might not be physically cheating.. but sometimes emotional cheating is more painful.. you really need to talk to her. See why she is talking to him all the time instead of talking to you. Maybe she finds it easier to talk to him? Are you available for her when she needs someone to talk to? Maybe plan a nice day with her - walk in the park, or picnic or just something relaxing that gives you time to talk and ask her why she is talking to him all the time... and ask what you need to do to show her that you would like to spend more time with her, and that you want to be the one she comes to in good or bad times!
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No way. They are just trying make all the arrangements for your upcoming birthday party. Dumb a__.
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This is definatly to raise 'CONCERN' about, talk to her asap. And if she says stuff like 'we need trust' bla bla bla just say wouldnt it seem suspicious if i was texting another girls thousands of times a month!!
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It's not sounding good for you buddy.. Maybe you should ask her instead of us? OR Change your name in her phone to the name of the guy and see if she texts you any filth
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If she texts at the rate that I do, she would not have time even to sleep with that rate of text messages going out. You can request a trascript of text messages sent by the phones on your account through your provider and find out what they are saying, if you are worried about it.
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YES ... she is cheating on you ... emotionally if not physically ... what if the roles were reversed and you were texting some chick at work that much ... how would she take it??? ... time to have a serious talk and evaluation of your relationship ... she is meeting some need through someone else that you are not providing ...
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I think that something is going on, I mean texting all that much to someone who isn't your man or an interest is very peculiar. I would never text some guy if I have a boyfriend at home, that would be cruel.
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I'm gonna take a stab at it and say "yes"! No proof but 3,500 times.........that is more then just friendly conversation. In my opinion. +5
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Get a transcript of the texts
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If not right now she will eventually. She's bonding with this guy through texts. There isn't that much to say to anyone 3,500 times in a month. Come on - maybe she needs a "reality" check.
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As a minimum it sounds as if she's having an emotional affair even if they're not bumpin ugly!
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3500 a month is an average of 116 per day. that is a lot. This is how I found out my ex was having an emotional affair with an ex gf that later led to a physical affair. good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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3500????? somethings up
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You already know the answer dude. Confront her AFTER the anger goes away. You don't want a domestic violence call added to the mix. Are you paying attention to her. She is makin the choice to seek something outside your home. Is it something you struggle with. I'm not tryin to shift blame, but accountability is a 2 way street. I counsel couples a lot and it's never one persons fault. BUT one person DID make the first break and it could have been either of you...
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yes shes definately a cheat.
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holy crap that is alot of text messages. are you sure she even has time to cheat between texts?!?!?! jk. i'd lean towards thinking she's cheating, but before you set your mind on that try to talk to her calmly about it and gauge your response based on what she says (or, more importantly, what she DOESN'T say).
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No. Sounds like she's having extramarital text.
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Yea, you need to check and see what she's writing when she's asleep or something.
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wow... even at the peak of her Effairs my wife never reached 1,000 to her cyberbuddies.
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If not physically, then definitely emotionally.
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That's a heck of a lot of texting. I can't imagine how they'd have the time to do anything else. It sounds like there's at least a very strong friendship but that doesn't necessarily mean cheating.
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maybe not but she is doing something totally inappropriate. nip that in the bud now b4 it gets WAY out of hand. but if i had to say yes or no then i would say yes she is.
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people generally have a narrow definition of cheating but the truth is anything that detracts from your primary relationship is cheating the relationship...i'd say texting over 100 time per day definately takes a great deal of time away from the marriage and would be considered cheating.
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i don't think it is... this sounds like where im at just i would be the other guy... and im worried about her bf thinking somethings going on...i don't think thers a problem but im not sure... i know its a little different but people tell me its not cheating and... so what ever... i would be worried if i where you just talk to the otherguy and see whats going on... thats my opinion, if he is man enough to talk to you in an adult manner then everything should be fine
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Why don't you ask her! It sure doesnt seem right, that she is texting this guy, that many times...
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3500 a month is 116 per day. Assuming she sleeps 8 hours, she is texting 7.25 texts per hour. Does she have time to do anything else?
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Only people, who have more than just a casual acquaintenance with each other, text this many times in 30 days. There is definetely something going on between them and its not work-related. If you have not done so, request a phone call copy of your cellphone bill. this will show the dates and times of all her texting to this person. once you have the printout, confront your wife and see what happens. do not check her cellphone. this will only create havoc between you two. You need the printout first, as written proof.
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Its hard to say without knowing more, Although i will say this, if she isnt cheating on you yet, shes definitely thinking about it.
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At the very least this could be considered emotional adultery. Both of you need to get to the core of why you're driving each other away from your and her promises. Seek understanding. Have you found a good church? Are you willing to give it a try?
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It might be business, but watch out!
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aNoninNC is right: "3500 a month is an average of 116 per day" is a lot. Consider how many times she speaks to you during a day. Does her interaction with you even approach 116 sentences?
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