Is throwing things, slamming doors always going to be enough or is there going to be a time when your going to want to hit something or someone?

I't not physical abuse unless he causes harm to your body. It might be considered mental or emotional abuse if it seems like he is using it to intimidate you. If it always seems like he's saying, 'well at least it wasn't YOU I hit', or 'it could be you, so watch it' or something of that nature, I would take that as abuse. If he just gets mad and punches things or slams and it's just because he is mad, that would not be considered physical abuse, IMO.

I would consider it mental and emotional cruelty.

Yes - It's a form of abuse and control

not physical abuse, but mental cruelty and poor control. It is the reaction of a child throwing a tantrum. An adult should behave with more dignity. My father was a door slammer, and so is my younger daughter. It is an attempt to intimidate on one level. Not on. the person doing it needs to be told to cut it out.

the context is everything- if it's as part of other controlling behaviour and if you see it as intimidating and threatening then it is considered domestic violence even though it's not physical abuse. If this is only the beginnings of such behaviour, I'd suggest trying to talk to your partner about it and ways of changing their behaviour because it concerns you. However, if you feel too threatened to do so, you may want to weigh up your options regarding this relationship. If you're worried, please let a friend or a family member know so they can support you. You can also go to citizen's advice or phone a domestic violence helpline, and if you feel in physical danger, call the police, it's their job to take violence seriously

Threatening Behaviour i think they would classify it as.

I got so frustrated with some of the answers on here I had to stop commenting and write my own 1. UNLESS ITEMS ARE THROWN AT YOU OR DOORS SLAMMED IN YOUR FACE HOW IS THAT PHYSICAL ABUSE (PHYSICAL IS PHYSICAL ) 2. HAVE ARGUMENT HEAVE HUGE SIGH GET UP WALK OUT SLAM DOOR, BANG CUP DOWN, THROW NEWSPAPER ON FLOOR,THROW TV REMOTE ACROSS ROOM,POUND FEET ON WAY OUT. If you have not done this at some point then you must have great self control I know these aare childish reactions but we all still do them from time to time.

It is emotional abuse. Anything is that intimidates your partner in this way.

There are times, and they are becoing more numerous, when my partner acts like a two year old. Example, we were going to a place where neither of us had been. He was driving and we missed a turn three times. Naturally, it was all my fault. After the third missed turn he roared into a parking lot, slammed it into reverse, started yelling like a total idiot, that I should have known where we were going. I got out of the car and walked miles before I finally got a bus home. Yesterday, I was very busy cleaning house because of my work I have a film crew coming today. I wanted to put up new verticals that I had purchased. He said he'd do it next week. I decided to hang them on the existing track which worked well. He went down in the basement to empty the workshop vac which was full of sawdust. I grow African violets and have about 500 under lights in the basement. He took the workshop vac over right beside my plants to empty it. Two hours later when I went down to turn on the plant lights I found all my plants covered with sawdust. I spent over three hours, hours I could not afford, washing off my plants. With regard to his temper tantrams, he has those often and I am getting totally fed up with this behaviour. Am I wrong?????

to who? the door? yeah... not unless you hit someone else its not considered PHYSICAL abuse

I would consider it mental or emotional abuse, but unless what was thrown hit you..it is not physical abuse. It may be childish (and I have slammed a couple of doors myself),but, I would much rather someone take their anger out on an inanimate object than me. Been there.

In the state of Texas it is, you can be arrested for throwing such tantrums. I don't know if it's actually related to physical abuse, but, it can bring misdeameanor charges against you.

It's material abuse.

Simply poor control of anger. Everyone will catch themselves slamming things, speeding in a car for example or finding the only way to cure the frustration is to break something and throw your head in your hands. If its someone reacting like this however for reasons that seem pitiful and minute on the scale of things i'd think more in depth of how you should go about helping them!

Okay...i sense a story behind this yer not telling me...what did you do THIS time?

i dont think its considered physical abuse but i'd be scared that it would lead to it. throwing things in anger is a sign that you cannot control yourself. releasing that anger physically can be ok, but better done in the form of sports or something.

it is the beginning signs. mine started by throwing wrenches when he was mad at the car and then escalated into throwing cans of coffee at me and then to choking me. please seek help he's not for you watch the signs there are many

I would say no...its a lack of anger management. If it's being thrown at you then yes. It can drain on your emotions though.

Accidents can happen when you trow things. I had stiches for receiving a flying hammer on my head.

There are many types of abuse: phsyical-some type of bodily contact that is unwanted and hurtful; neglect-where you don't give something that is needed, i.e. food, changing soiled diapers timely, leaving children alone; mental/emotional - screaming, threating, scaring, terrorizing. Misappropriation of property - taking grandma's penion check; Sexual abuse - interacting sexually in an unwanted fashion. There can be any combinations of abuse. Slamming doors in and of it self is not really abuse. However, combine that with anger, hurtful words, yelling, cursing or even slamming it while you are in the doorway is definately abuse. If you are feeling threatened or in emotional distress, then you need to seek out assistance or leave.

Someone doesn't need to touch to to PHYSICALLY THREATEN you, which IS physical abuse no matter how you slice it. If you feel physically threatened at any point, then yes, it's physical abuse. Even if you're not being physically threatened, it's still verbal and emotional abuse. Either way, it's NOT healthy, and could be a precursor to ACTUAL (smack you in the head-style) physical abuse.

Not unless your getting things thrown at you. But I do consider it an anger problem.

These arent direct signs of physical abuse, but emotial and mental is a definite! It can be tough to put up with someone who deals with their frustrations this way. just be sure to be out of the way when he does. If it concerns you, talk to him. He probably knows you are afraid of him doing so and is trying to control your actions. The more he knows this, the more he will do it. He will become dramatic with things and eventually this does lead up to physical abuse in most cases. Put your foot down and tell him to find a better outlet for his anger.

It is borderline. It is not quite actually physical abuse until there is a directly targeted human target, but throwing and slamming is still being abusive in a physical way, as well as in a mental or psychological way.

i am leaving a relationship where i have been made to look like the abuser by my husband. i have been known to slam a door but never in his face, or slam down a coffee cup on a table, or even yell at him, and it wasnt because i was angry to begin with,it would be because when i tried to talk to him about something he would ignore me or tell me things like he had made the desision and did not really care if i liked it or not. i grew up in a home with a mom and dad who had fights, ive seen my mother slam the back door on her way out so hard all the glass fall out. ive seen my dad jump up and down like a child yelling god d it,god d it, god d it. you cant live together in a house and never become frustrated, but it does not justify as abuse. my mom and dad have also been married for 51 years,ive also seen my mom and dad kiss and hug and remember my dads favorite thing to do at night after dinner was kiss my mom on the neck and play with her but. i am not an angry person, i think anger and abuse is two different things, i do not believe that abuse comes from anger, but that anger comes from abuse, you dont have to hit someone to be abusive, just telling someone whom you are suppose to love that there feeling are not important to them is abuse, or when a person tells someone they love this is the way things are going to be and you just have to accept it, these are abusive words and hurtful. if a person is like this to you slamming doors and stuff like that is now against the law,so ive been told i went to jail for 12 hours for an incident where i was being very loving and all that stuff, he had been sleeping on the couch,for 3 weeks because of an argument prior to that, that i had already forgotten about, i was happy, loving and caring and over it, he however was not and everynight he slept on the couch was like he was punishing me like a child. but did i get mad no i tried this certain night to tell him how much i loved him and just a bunch of sweet words in a very sweet way, he stayed stiff as a board and would not even respond which seemed like more punishment, i went to sleep instead of getting "angry" he pushed me off of the couch and told me to go to bed, i ask him to come to our bed to he said no it was very hurtful and i slung the remote "a very small one" at the end table and missed and it hit his face, when the police got there they took me to jail I was asleep by the way when the police came and arrested me. so was i being abusive no, hurt yes. Abuse is something that someone does because it thrills them somehow, it makes them feel strong and powerful, anger is an emotion we feel when we feel we have been wronged. if you truly love someone you care if you have done something to that person that made them angry,if someone does not love you enough to care that they have hurt you then get away this can quickly be made to look like you are the abuser and they are the victim, and there you go the abuser has once again got their thrill way and have mentally tore you down. if someone you know is behaving like this maybe you should ask yourself what have you done to hurt them. I have had 4 children in my house and believe there have been a lot of slamming doors, being a mom of 4 is very emotional, but i do know if they slam a door it does not mean they are abusive just hurt and need to be reassured and loved even if your decisions dont change. i dont think someone should be labled as an abuser because they are angry.

Unless the person throws the object AT you or slams the door and it HITS you, then technically - no. But in my opinion, it's more emotional abuse than anything.

I think it is a sign of of "a warning". My husband has smacked me once, thrown shoes and the newspaper at me, banged on the bathroom door when I ran from him and just recently told me "f*** You" and threw a pan of broccoli at me (because I was in a bad mood). I understand that he gets stressed out and frustrated but this is everytime we argue he blows up and I am not the type to back down. I walked away from him last night because my 10 year old daughter was there. He is really started to make me uncomfortable. I think he is bordering on a fine line.

No smacking or punchingyour spouse is though, however if you threw something and it injured them then yep that's definitely abuse.

No smacking or punchingyour spouse is though, however if you threw something and it injured them then yep that's definitely abuse.

my husband just recently threw his beer in my face. the liquid stung my eye. i was shocked. we were having a disagreement about money. the day before, when i asked him not to buy the expesnive pack of paper towels he kicked them down the isle of the market. this is strange. seems abusive. i love him, he is not bringing in any money. we are newly married and he moved to my rural area. i would like to see him try to earn. frustrated and jelly

only if the object that your hitting has feelings but then again the negative flow of energy can cause emotional or mental abuse

Some consider it quite therapeutic...

NO, anger problem

Close but it is more like self destruction that begins with your own possessions.

No. These are just expressions of frustration.

Oh my, I hope not... If it is, I'm guilty too. I think it's only considered abuse if you intentionally hit someone with an object you've thrown.

No, but it the step before. Get out until he manages his anger.

It can be as well as emotional abuse.

It is emotional and psychological abuse if its desired effect is to intimidate or its actual effect is to do so after the "doer" is so informed. It is physical abuse if the desired effect is to actual hit another person and the aim is poor (that is also lucky for the "aimee.). This is not intended as a legal definition. The legal world, of course, has no monopoly on truth - and ocassionally, little acquaintance with it :) I think frequency and intensity are factors. Sometimes people just need to let off some steam and they do it in ways they hope will not violate the other person. Others do it one or two times in a life time. To call that abuse would probably be abusing the term.

i think that it's mentally and emotionally abusive. when you throw things and slam doors the person that you're upset with doesn't know the next step that you're going to take so it makes them uncomfortable around you. if you do it to too much of an extent people are going to be walking on egg shells around you and eventually not want to have anything to do with you if your ways of resolving issues is by throwing things and slamming doors. that's childish and gets people nowhere. learn to speak in a calm voice. it's amazing how much better a person can hear and understand you in a calmer tone opposed to screaming at the top of your lungs.

yes, I think that it is abuse, but not physical.

If the throwing of objects is at another person it can lead to physical abuse. If someone is hot tempered they my blow off steam sometimes that will not be abuse.....If someone gets hurt and it happens again it is abuse.

if your throwing it at a person, if your just throwing it at the wall out of anger its okay.

More mental than physical.

I wouldn't call that physical abuse. I wouldn't even call that mental abuse (on its own) - more like a poorly managed temper.

If you believe that inanimate objects have souls. Otherwise, no. And, I don't believe it's emotional or any other kind of abuse to anyone either. If two people are married they should understand their spouse enough to know the difference between just venting and actual domestic violence.

No, but it IS the person having violent temper, & someone like that might abuse another person physically.

It is Emotional Abuse.

To act like that out of anger, Dear, that would be considered anger management problems. I know people who behave like that...in school, when it would happen, everyone else would quickly move away from that person and they would have to deal with all sorts of talk about it later; I just never moved from my seat (next to them usually) and unless they needed to talk after or during, I acted like nothing had happened. They always seemed to be thankful that I didn't react like everyone else did. Not reacting to it often makes the person who is having this "tantrum" think, and thinking does make the outburst ease-up or stop- a lot faster than it would otherwise. -Now, it isn't considered "physical abuse" unless you hurt yourself or another physically. But! It can be considered emotional or mental abuse if these actions get to the people around the outburst(s). For example: When I get to the house after a good day, I often come in the door to quickly realize that the family is fighting again. Doors slammed, raised voices, things thrown, and a lot of the time, the fight turns out to be about me, or becomes about me- this wipes out the earlier part of my day and I quickly retreat to my room where I spend the rest of the day/night up crying and, if the words were harsh enough, cutting myself. (I have depression I'm really getting through, but if something triggers the melt-downs I have (no where near as often as I had them last summer thank God!), its very hard to stop.) And in the morning my room with either be flawlessly clean or horribly messy (from me either trying to disract myself from depression or from me reacting in anger). Now that, that is considered mental/emotional abuse because of the way my family deals with their own angers. Its been mentioned to them, and they haven't done anything to help keep the situations under control; so I still know more than I need to about these situations.

No! we ALL get angery. this world has gone crazy