Well, if they don't, marriage shouldn't exist. The saying is fighting the myth that just because two people in love get married, all will be well thereafter. In reality, *all* marriages need to be worked at. People want different things, however much they love their partner. Apart from anything else, usually one is a man and one a woman (maybe gay marriages have fewer problems). Even if they want much the same initially, people change with time and tend to drift apart unless they work on it. Marriage is *not* easy. But, if it can be made to work, it is much better than the alternative. But is has to be made to work, it doesn't happen automatically, as the fairy story assumes.

The two that belong together work together and it doesn't always seem like work. Yes two people belong together that are willing to work.

it does take a lot of hard work because there will always have to be compromise. two people dont usually have the same preferences in everything so it takes a lot of learning, understanding, and acceptance. its hard work, but its good work... if youve found someone willing to work with you if not, then its tough.

I think with all marriages it takes work. Each person is bring a life time of different experiences, opinions, the way they were brought up ex... Then you are supose to just put your views together and agree on everything without any problems. YA RIGHT!!Thats what makes it so hard. But, I often wonder to if you are miserable and you constantly cant get along then whats the point of that. I think marraiage is about finding the person that brings out the best in you and you them.

With my girl, life is easier not harder. Everything requires some effort, but if it takes "hard" work to even stay together, you aren't well suited for each other.

Marriage shouln't be that much hard work :s Obv there will be times that test you both as a couple, but if you genuinly love each other you can forgive, forget, take responcibility for your part in the problem etc. If a marriage continues to be a LOT of hard work, i'd agree with you, "Why are those 2 people together".

"Living together" is not always a picnic, either. At least married people have usually made a commitment to try harder....

When it's said that it takes alot of hard work to make a marriage work, it can mean a number of things. To me, it means this: When you're living with someone and sharing food, clothes, beds, and pretty much every aspect of your life, there are going to be little glitches here and there. Sometimes it's hard to accept things and figure out a way to make it through them. no matter how long you're married, there will always be little (and big) things that are going to come up. But you're always much stronger after dealing with them. That's my take

Yes, sure. No matter who we love or whom we're loved by, we all have our petty tendencies ... whether we're jealous at times, spiteful, selfish, critical, overly sensitive, etc. For a marriage to be long-term and fulfilling, there has to be love and trust, but if we aren't able to curb our own petty moments (hard work), and we aren't able to avoid or overlook our spouse's petty moments (hard work), that love and trust will erode, no matter how strong it was at the beginning. We also have to be able to really understand our own selves and communicate well to our spouses (hard work), because no matter how close two people are, they aren't perfect mind-readers. If the work becomes impossible or too hard, then perhaps they don't belong together, but no match is truly made in heaven: we live on earth, and here on earth, life is hard work.

It's not supposed to be hard work all the time. When you live alone, you can let things slide. When you live with someone, you can't. You are either learning about yourself and/or the other (which is work) or you are reaping the benefits (a wonderful existence with the one you love). Sometimes it's no predictable which cycle you will be in. When you notice a pattern of problems or something negative, you need to learn from that or you will both be stuck there. Talk about the pattern and see how to get past it. When you get past it, a new lesson will crop up. When you are doing things right, things will be easy. When you are not doing them right, things will be hard. Remember, your partner is not perfect and neither are you. You do not need to be perfect, and your partner does not need to be. Accepting your partner and his or her imperfections can reduce your friction (and cause you to not need to do as much "hard work"). My measure is, if it's MORE good than bad, it's working. If two people are doing NOTHING but hard work, then maybe they don't belong together. Some people do not belong together, especially if one is abusive. If it's all hard work, that is a sign that you should be apart.

Any relationship whether married or not takes effort. People treat marriage as a chore or just a piece of paper. You are suppose to support and love one another. There needs to be trust, respect and communication or the relationship won't work.

Getting any two people to cohabitate for more than a few weeks without them wanting to kill each other is a lot of hard work. So yes, if all that hard work doesn't result in the end of the relationship, those two people belong together.

It sure does take a lot of hard work. First, you can't just walk away when it gets hard, like you can outside of marriage. You are stuck with one another! So, when the timing gets off, you have problems.