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ask him if it would be a turn on to watch you suck another guy. ask if it would be a turn on for him to watch you have intercourse with another man. if the answers are no then there is probably not much hope and the reprecussions could end up being disastrous. He is either too jealous or too homophobic or both.
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Maybe this is his way of saying that he is not comfortable see you having sex with someone else. Maybe he is afraid that it may ruin your marriage. There can be a lot of serious reasons.
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I don't think it will happen. I've been trying to do the SAME exact thing with my bf, and he'd rather not have an FFM 3way, if it meant I got an MMF
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I don't think they're equivalent at all. And besides, you're the one arranging the menu. If it is something you want then he should decide something he wants, not you. A ffm might not even be on top of his list of sexual wants. And besides, men pass their sexual peak after around 25 years old, whereas with women it peaks in the 30s+. So assuming you two are over 25-30+ range, so it's hardly equivalent. Maybe if he was able to fulfill a fantasy when he was in his peak, and then you get to fulfill one later during your peak it might be closer to the same. But also I don't think mmf's and ffm's are the same at all to begin with. Mens' sex drive is typically based more on power/domination/competition, to which a mmf is contrary, as having another guy there is diminishing a guy's power/domination. Whereas womens' sex drive is generally based on intimacy, and women are already typically more intimate with one another than men are. For example just look at the differences in public restrooms: men's restroom guys never talk to each other, and even strategically select urinals a decent distance from other guys. Wheras a women's restroom: talking, sharing purse items, complimenting makeup, complimenting jewelry, yadda yadda (at least that's what I've heard - as in bar or nightclub for example) - women will compliment each other and guys would even tend to talk each other down, because mating is a competition for males. So trying to equate the two sex acts is hardly fair to begin with. And even less equivalent for the other reasons I stated.
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very typical. men are piggish. the end. :) I am a female and personally I agree with the bf's -- women together is pretty hot and sensual and guys together is just kinda gross. As for me 1 man and 1 woman is all that I'll ever want or need.
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Most guys are up for the fmf, but they balk at the mfm. Good for you for calling his bluff. If he's gonna get extra on the side, you should get laid on the side, too.
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get some dvd's or pop online ... watch some scenes together ... demonstrate to him what really turns you on about it ... while having 1-1 sex with him, use toys to simulate the 3some ... i'm sure a person with your skills can impress him enough to see the advantages ...
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You simply can't push this. Many people, most people, are not into the idea of 3somes. For a couple to have a 3some or a 4some when one of the people is not into the idea, is totally disasterous! It could really damage the relationship. It works for people who are extremely unjealous and very tight. I've known people who were swingers and it was not a problem in the least and they've been married for years. I've also known couples that it led to divorce.
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Unfortunley theres not much you can do about it as there are the rare amount of guys who arent interested in a MMF even if you bribe him with a FFM, maybe in 5 years time he may get more comfortable about the idea but who knows Could be that he has trust issues He hates the idea of another man having his wife sexually that he feels he is the only man in your life that should ever have that privalidge Maybe he had MMF and his ex left him for the other guy He could have had a bad experience with one thats scared him for life Maybe he just dosent "play well with others" or in other words he gets real jealous
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I doubt it will happen for you. Did you ask him why he's opposed to it? Maybe he just doesn't want to touch the other guy? Or he might not want you to be touched by the other guy.
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Time to sit this one out. Give it a few years and bring it up again.
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seams a bit unfair. does he think he will become gay? I see the original question was a month ago, has it happened?
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