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  • I would never marry anyone who wanted me to sign off on such an agreement, it would mean to me that he feels that the marriage is potentially doomed and all he cares about is his money. You can sign what you want but I would rather marry a poor sucker. Hey, wait a minute, I did that.
  • The benefit comes from marrying a man you love.
  • Whether or not you benefit completely depends on what the terms of the prenup are.
  • Sign it. Rich men are goosey about freeloaders. If it's the real thing, it will be OK.
  • Don't sign! True love needs no money! But you might as well get it! Right?
  • That depends on the terms of the agreement. I don't think I could marry a man that wanted me to sign a prenup! I would feel like he either didn't trust me or sure the marriage would fail.
  • Prenups vary, you'll have to read yours to see if there are any benefits in it for you.
  • You definitely sound like a honey that needs to sign the thing. He's really got your number.
  • If you are sure he will refuse to marry you unless you sign it then do so but please do not do it without first consulting your own lawyer (not his). Then go ahead you have nothing to lose if it is done properly meaning that as long as anything is accumulated after the marriage is not factored into the prenup.
  • if you sign it, you get the benefit of knowing that he thinks you are a goldigger and that he is planning the divorce along with the marriage. sounds like he really loves you????
  • It would all depend on what is in the prenup. I think hes just covering his ass for now, who knows if you guys are together for along time he might throw it out. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you, hes worked hard for what hes got and he is smart to have you sign one.
  • Take some time to "look it over" and decide if that's what you really want. After all, you are "investing" in the marriage too. A prenup means he just keeps what he had BEFORE you got married. After that it's 50-50. Be careful about that. He might try to get you to sign everything away and that's not fair. Have a lawyer look it over to "decipher" it for you. After all it is a legal document and he should not be upset about you thinking carefully before you sign. Plus, you can always negotiate.
  • Unfortunately, it's the norm when you marry a wealthy person. I would see if you can have a copy to take to your attorney. If he refuses, I wouldn’t marry him, period. It's only fair that your attorney can look it over, since he's attorney had drawn up the documents. I would make sure every year of marriage you should get an increase of settlement in the event of separation or divorce.
  • ok, i just asked my fiancee about a prenup. he isnt rich, but he has property and stuff. his answer was "im not marrying a thief, why would i do that?"
  • Yeah, you benefit by getting to marry a very wealthy man. The only reason not to sign it is if you're marrying him for his money.
  • A prenup is for movie stars who know that their marriages will not last. Ordinary people do not need a prenup unless they don't think that the marriage will last, or don't completely trust you. I would not get married to someone who wanted a prenup.
  • Benefit? Depends on what it says. I am not wealthy but you can bet that if/when I marry, I will have one. There is no way, I'm giving half of what I have right now to an x and I don't want half of what he has when we get married. Then there will be provisions for splitting things/money we acquire wile together. I would use a percentage...for example, if i earned 60% of the total income, I want 60% of what we acquired. It's not about being a gold digger...it's about looking out for myself.
  • If you love him, you may as well sign it. If you don't love him, you don't benefit.
  • You cant blame him for protecting himself from the evils of the world, that always come in smiling friendly faces. If you really were not out for yourself and truly loved him you wouldn't care. The fact that you do, shows that you are doing it for the wrong reasons, and you wonder why men have to protect themselves from women like yourself.
  • Paul McCartney refused to ask Heather for a prenup. So why should you sign one?
  • plz sweety make sure you call a lawyer and ask him, it wont hurt you to just call any local lawyer and ask him of what he think. i'm sure they wont charge you for the question...because i don't trust those signed agreements that has to do with mistrust or anything like that from the beg.
  • Why would you put yourself in a position like that ? Marriages are built #1 on trust.If you have to sign a contract before this person trusts you enough to marry you it ain't worth the hassle.Of course if you're just marrying this person for his money then you deserve whatever you get.
  • Your concern being about how YOU "benefit" from this, I'd say he's got your number and he's covering his ass. Sign it. You still benefit because you'll get to marry a very wealthy man which is what you want, right? If you don't sign it, you don't bag the cushy trophy- wife position. I don't think he'll be stupid enough to make himself a hostage to an expensive divorce. If we are all wrong and you are NOT a goldigger planning to take him to the cleaners, then signing doesn't matter because you're not in it for the money anyway, right? Good luck! Keep your tits up!
  • Besides getting to marry him (Hopefully it is a real, true relationship) you can set in stone what you get if the relationship fails. It would ensure a safety net. Personally, I wouldn't sign one or ask someone to sign one.
  • That would depend upon the terms of whatever Prenuptual Agreement you signed. The purpose of a prenup is to help preclude a successful challenge of a will, or to head off damaging divorce settlements. If the prenup has some generous terms for you, you could indeed benefit from signing it.
  • If you love the guy then the prenup should not be a problem...You can also have a solicitor read over the agreement and have some things added yourself, such as if he cheats you get money etc. It can be good for both parties...
  • Sure. You get to marry a very wealthy man!
  • make sure you are covered on the back end if things go sour in the relationship. Dont sign anythng until you have an attorney look things over on your behalf. Also the reason pre-nups exist is because the wealthy man you are marrying probbly got burned at one point in a former business deal and he would just be protecting his intersts. You have to protect your interest as well because you want to be able to have soimething in the end if something bad goes down. What if you marry him and he starts bedding down hookers. (just an example not that it would happen) and he passes something like an std on to you. You have to be able to have something in writing to cover you should things fall apart. If he is forcing you to sign a prenup you can negotiate with him. That is usually done thru an attorney. Dont skimp on an attorney. Make sure you get a very good one that knows the law and knows what he is doing.
  • It depends on what it says.
  • ya, it depends on what the prenup says, but without knowing the terms, i could only assume the most common reason - which is protecting his money? speaking personally, it d make me feel like hes just marrying me as an 'aquisition', there you go, here is it, i ll hire(rent) you as long as i see fit. givnig you half of me? i dont think so, all of myself? forget about it! why would i have to if i can just 'buy' you for 5 pence? and when youre used, old and worn, i m making sure its gonna cost me nothing to ditch you, youre a piece of chewed gum, and i? hm.. you bite me? flash in your face those diamonds on the caps of my montblancs should i wish to! you may give me all your love, your heart and your life, your womb, your labour pain, your youth, children born to me, but baby, these things arent money, and i love my money, o my, mine, my... money! and no, i m not stupid enough to fall for love, theres no love in my book! and i m smart enough to get you and keep whats mine, mine and mine! yup, eat your cake and keep mines, too! want to fight for children? too late! who pays for their schools and the lot? you cant afford to? well, they ll be mine then, dont you remember? look here? you signed it, you 'forfeited' your right! bye, dumbo! being rich is no justification of not giving oneself in full in marriage, you give him the honour of being a husband afterall, and youre no stock from a brothel, 5 pence i buy, 2 quids i dont! if he worries, he can always go marry someone richer! so he could save his sleep from torturing himself that youre entitled, by laws, to humanly protection should he breaks your heart. money can buy lots of 'things', but time wasted, no one can buy it back, and no one gives a fudge neither whatever riches you might have. i d rather live a happy life than to have goldfoil on my tomb!
  • First off, you should have trust going into a marriage. Second, depending upon where you live, you don't get anything he had pre marriage anyway. You simply would be entitled to a percentage of assets aquired after marriage including appreciation of assets/net worth. You might get alimony as well, but at least in my state that is not permanent and is somewhat based on how long you have been married. The courts don't like gold diggers.
  • depends what it says you do or dont get As unromantic as it is per nups are a logical way to ensure things stay fair. but make sure you both trust each other 1st
  • sure it benefits you by insuring your husbands piece of mind in him knowing that you arent a gold digger.
  • I think prenups are ridiculous. Why would you want to sign something that is a back-up in case the marriage fails? Maybe if you're considering signing a prenup or if your soon-to-be spouse is asking you to sign a prenup, you should rethink the engagement.
  • Its kinda odd that you're getting married and that he feels the need to have you sign something like that. If he trusted you 110% or had any intention of the marriage lasting would it really be necessary? It kinda looks like hes making a 'just in case this doesn't work out' plan... Who in their right mind would enter into something as important as marriage with that attitude?
  • It really depends but all he really is doing is protecting his assets and all he's worked for. Many people take this as a sign of disrespect because they're already planning for if the marriage fails. You've just got to look at it sensibly, after several years of marriage maybe if it really bothers you that much you can get it nullified....
  • starting off without trust is not a good thing besides you deserve half of everything if it doesn't work out.
  • I would put as a stipulation in that pre-nup that you are entitled to half of his earnings gained from the point of marriage on, in the incident of divorce after X amount of years together. I would say 5 years is fair to start from. I think that is fair and reasonable?
  • I would never sign this agreement. First, its a slap in face and trust is down the crapper. Second, it starts the marriage on a sour note. Third, it means his wealth will go to his children and not you. that sucks and i would never agree to that. Fourth, if he truly loves you, he will not ask you to sign this agreement. deny his request and see what happens. He may not be worth it, anyway.
  • The only benefit I can see is that you know you are marrying someone that thinks you are in it for the money, doesn't trust you already and that he expects or at least thinks the marriage will fail. Those are all good things to know BEFORE you marry someone and it wold make me head for the hills no matter how much I loved him. Marry for love and for deep respect and honor, marry for trust and loyalty or don't do it at all if you expect it to last.
  • Have your lawyer look it over - if it's legit... sign it! If he is that wealthy there is nothing to say you can't work and use your own income to make some smart money decisions, investments or savings. Then if things were to go wrong you would have a financial safety net. Sure, they aren't romantic kid but it is human nature to protect yourself (and your assets) - it's exactly why you are asking this question... right?? Good Luck !

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