My husband tells me that he wants me in better shape, he pulls my boobs up more (and they are already very perky) he shows me pictures of 'friends' who have 'hott' bodies and how he wants me to look. How should I feel? I'm 5'2 105 pds not fat at all.
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Blissful
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First thought only, was to pull his bits and bobs up and tell HIM you want HIM in better shape. Offer to show him pictures of how you want him to look LoL
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Ok; when this lout does that to YOu .... be Prepared ! Have pic of John Holmes and Ron Jeremy ready ... Reach over and grab him between the legs ; jiggle it a little and say something like ..Yeah .. I will when you get as big as these guys down there ... !!(and show him the pics )
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You should feel offended. He is your husband not theirs. Tell him you love your body and if he wants to compare you to kiss your ass because he chose you not them. Don;t let him push you around, and don't pick out his flaws either(thats a tit for tat and is a downward spiral). Good luck sweet heart,
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Yeah...just one problem with that...hes very well endowed and very much aware of it. He stays in shape and is used to dating girls who model like bodies. But ive never gained weight since I got into this relationship with him and I do work out my body is just happy at 105 I've been that weight since I was 12. And I like to work out too I just don't get the results he wants me to have...I would probably have to train hard core with a personal trainer to get what hes asking for and starve myself.
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You should definitely feel like you're carrying to much excess weight. I recommend kicking it out the front door.
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I don't know why you call yourself Blissful unless you are totally unaware of the fact that your husband is a freaking ASS. I wish your self esteem was in as good a shape as your body! Come on, lady - where is your anger? Your indignation?? Those are the things that are going to open your eyes!!! Don't let somebody treat you with such callousness and disrepsect. You deserve better.
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Some guys can be such morons. You're not his toy to play with, you're an actual human being with *gasp* feelings. Use the best weapon women have for such stupid behavior: Start crying about how terrible he's making you feel. And don't listen to any of his explanations about how he's just trying to help. Just cry until he gives up. Sheesh. Too bad there's not a Good Husband Behavior Class he could take.
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i think he is just emotionally abusive and no matter what you do or look like, he will find something to abuse. 105 lbs, cmon, there is nothing wrong with you. maybe you should recommend a psych exam and show him pictures of straight jackets. he shows you those pictures to make you feel bad about yourself. his goal is to hurt you. thats all!!! he is probably very insecure and wants to destroy your self esteem so you wont leave him. I suggest you do.
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For some strange reason, your husband is being an insensitive &$#%@ about this. If I were in your position, I'd tell him to knock it off. Most women would probably tell Hubby "So, I'm not hot enough for you? I guess you won't be getting any for a while"...;-D..
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What does your husband look like?
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Take a ruler out and measure his dick and then say you know what i would like you to have a bigger one..:)
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You're an idiot for marrying such a stupid asshole. Way to go, the asshole guys win again. Try telling him to fuck off and that there's plenty of guys out there that would take you as you are.
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I would suggest counseling for him if he wants to stay together. Why aren't you seriously ticked off? Maybe you could develop a perpetual headache until he gets that counseling. Are you sure he is not having an affair and using this technique to cover for it? It's a pretty common thing for cheaters to do. I would also suggest that you go to some counseling as there might be some esteem issues on your part since you aren't more offended. Good luck!
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You'd be in better shape if you got rid of him. Leave this on the table on your way out;)
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Your size is perfect. I had a girlfriend once who was 5 feet 0 and 110pounds, she had a perfect body. I wonder if he is seeing someone else.
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um... no amount of getting in shape can do anything but deflate your boobs.
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You should feel mad! That is wrong on so many levels I'm having a hard time keeping my breathing even. This post reminds me of my ex bf. He did that to me and the only thing it did was make me eat more and we know what happened then. I 'had' low self-esteem and my worth was determined by him. Thankfully that is not the case today!
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Seems like your husband has a boob problem. I'd take that as a hint that he's not happy with your looks. Maybe it should put you on notice about your finances should he decide to look for miss big boob. Get your financial house in order should he pursue that.
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He's more obsessed with paper bodies.He should learn to live in reality.Not all days are same....
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and... what are you going to do about it?
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punch him a couple of times in the shoulder and make him look in the mirror to see how old he is...then ask him to go walking with your for an hour every evening. he is probably nearing menopause and worried about his fading youth.
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My ex husband was a bit like that, It made me feel awful, that kind of thing can really kill ones selfesteem! My s/o now loves me as I am.
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So you're 5'2'' & 7.5 stone, that officially makes you petite. I'm sure there's more to the situation but from what you've said your husband sounds like a total arse! You should spend a few days pointing out all his flaws & saying you think loads of your friends are hotter & see how he likes it.... the gimp!
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I'm presuming he is an adonis? If not, just regularly point out his flaws, maybe watch some porn together and comment about how you wish sometimes he wasn't so poorly endowed.
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Tell him to fuck off and start pointing out his flaws and see if he likes it. When I know I have gained or lost a few pounds and I mention it to my boyfriend he tells me I look great just as I am, and when I wanted to get a boob job he told me I was perfect the way I am , and I know he likes big boobs but he would never say someting hurtful like that to me. You hubby is a douchebag
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buy him a Barbie Doll!!
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DIVORCE is the only way ur goin 2 feel better and get what u deserve!
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your husband is more obsessed with bodies that he dont care whether he's hurting your self esteem.I think you must try to find flaws in him and tell him how you like him to be. then see his reaction.
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damn right my bf would never say that to me even though im really insecure he always says he loves me the way i am give ur husband a taste of his own medicine !
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What sort of shape is he in? Have you changed very much physically since you got married? Has he? People do change over time and I can't believe that he married you based on looks alone. You say 'friends' - are these people he actually knows or pictures he cut froma porn magazine; if it's the latter tell him they are probasbly air brushed! Nobody can tell you how to feel - your feelings just happen; what you have to do is decide what to do about how it makes you feel. I suggest that you take a look at your marriage as a whole and if your husband is, in all other respects, still the love of your life then talk to him about it - if he isn't talk to a lawyer about getting out of there before his controlling becomes more extreme. Good luck.
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no man is worth staying with, if he makes you feel inadequate and knocks your confidence - just get out of this poor relationship!! Find yourself somebody with the right priorities in life!
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Do the same thing to him and see how he will feel. +
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I would go and visit his male "friends" and tell them exactly what he has been doing and ask them if they think you are hot. Good way to get him back. BTW your not 82 by any chance? If he is hinting at you getting a boob job say you'll agree, take the money and leave him on it.
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5'2" 105 IS HOT he's crazy, do you have a nice butt, round or flat, that could be a factor. But that being said sounds like at 105 you are in shape!
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Ok honey, I am 5'2 and 125lbs which I think might be normal for my height. I have been 5'2 and 100lbs and looked sick. I have not been able to lose the weight since I got pregnant at my lowest weight which was 100lbs and everytime I ran into people after I had my daughter the told me "Michelle, you look so much better then you did. You were to skinny and looked sick. Your face was very thin etc" I am willing to bet that there are a few things about his body that need to be changed, but us as women ~ well most women ~ really dont care if our husbands butt is a little bigger or he is starting to get a beer gut. He needs to accept you for you (the person he married) and if he can't live with that then maybe the relationship needs to revaluated. The last thing you want to do is spend the rest of your life with someone who is belittleing you and making you feel horrible about the beautiful person you are. Rock on women!!!!!!!!
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I'd attack his "thingy" and tell him what you'd like him to do about that..you know, 'cause it's so puny and unsatisfying to you. Let him deal with his "stuff" and tell him to fix that first..then you'll think about fixing your stuff! Happy Friday! :)
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It sounds like to me your husband is perhaps going through male-menopause, he oviously has issues with his own vanity, his age,his own physical appearance, and perhaps low self esteem, so he feels he the need to critize you so to make himself feel better.To totally disrespect you by acting out by lifting your breasts, camparing you to friends no less, shows no respect for them either,and to be even checking out other so called women,is one pathetic man, as he is a married to you,to make you feel less than a women to try to knock your self-esteem down, and humiliate you,in my opinion he is a pig!If my husband treated me like that,....I would throw him out, in a heartbeat...he does not deserve you,and as a human being you deserve better than such dispecable treatment!
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Stop being a weakling and leave his ass. He is a dumbass and that makes you look bad. So get rid of him.
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how canyou tolerate him... and y dont you just turn around and give him a tight slap... and walk away from his life..if i wud be thre in yoour place then i wud have left him then and their,,trust me its better to seperate then to live with him as if you r inferior.. he hust dont like you as you r... i feel if he loved you he wid have loved you,however you seem to be, but u r good enough then also he points out in u then just throw that rascal.
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saw a comment you made that your husband is well endowed and works out,the guy gets no points for being a dickwit!
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Send him to me and Ill kick his ass for you! How dare he say that to you. Point out his faults, tell him he could lose some off his ass, belly, he could do with washing more, his hair is going grey, oh those wrinkles are setting in. get out a pic of vin diesel and say "here, thats what I want you to aim for" cheeky sod, I bet your lovely!
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your husband is a tool. Your perfectly proportioned at that height and weight. He needs an explaination that if he wanted perfection he should have married a supermodel. I seriosuly doubt he has the stones or the wallet to date one of those.
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This man? Is a LOSER! Who does he think he is? I'd laugh in his face. Tell him to go find a puppet, or get him a blow up doll as a (((farewell)))) gift. They would be a great team, both are full of hot air!
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Wow. Sounds like your husband is an asshole that doesn't deserve a wife. He's the one with the issues.
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You know what. A guy should appreciate you for who you are, not for what he wants you to be. Be yourself, don't let him pressure you into anything. But maybe he's saying that because he cares about you and wants you to be in good shape and healthy. Maybe he wants you to look like a sex toy to him, who knows. But 105 pounds is no where near fat. I weigh around that weight and people tell me all the time that I'm really skinny.
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You should feel the urge to kick his ass for being emotionally abusive. What an a--hole! How long have you had to endure him?
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Get away from your husband and go get counseling to see why you are tolerating such disrespect from your husband who is suppossed to love and cherish and respect you. Not put you down in the disgusting way of what you wrote. He is a jerk. I know because I dated someone like him and I didn't have much self esteem at the time, so I just put up with it. The one I dated is one of the poorest excuses for a man I have ever met. I won't even go into the worse stuff he did.
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U should be pissed ..and tell him something along these lines.. i will start out by telling him that u wished he was better than that and wasnt so freaking shallow. And that ur fine just the way u are however u used to think he was a ok person until he started telling all this stuff. And also now u just realized that he's just not good enuff for u.. or u can tell him to go to hell .. which ever works better for u ..take care
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Hes insecure about himself and he is trying to bring you down to his level of insecurity so he wont have to worry about you and other men.As for me I dont pull or make rude comments.I tell you like it is and I think from your profile that you have probably a real cute figure.If I asked you to get in better shape I would do it with you and it would be for health reasons.
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If the guy wants a super model, tell him to go find one! You sound like a hottie already and I am just going by what you mentioned. Now, if you are great in the sack, then he needs to learn to count his blessing and be thankful. He needs to stop lusting over other women and learn to be happy.
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i hope you realize how beautiful you are and you don't need this jerkwad of a douche in your life ...
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YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN SAY WHAT YOU FEEL. MY ANSWER CALL DIVORCE, SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT THERE. HE WANTS YOU LIKE THIS AND THAT. WHO OR WHAT IS HE THINKING ABOUT WHEN HE IS WITH YOU. YOU SOUND ADORABLE AND HE SOUNDS LIKE PIG
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I would seriously tell him to f**k off and if he doesn't like what you have then leave and don't look back. You do not need to have someone who supposedly loves you above all others and whom you are supposed to trust with your lovely self tell you that the 'girls' are not good enough and the rest could be better. Everytime he tells you that about yourself, tell him something similar about himself and if he doesn't like it then very gently and in words of one syllable or less and easy to understand baby language (he apparently is not very bright!), that if it makes him feel bad then think how it made you feel. If he wants better commentary then he had better start offering it! And some diamonds to boot. (Never lest a chance for diamonds pass by!). Good luck. And remember, if YOU are happy with who and how you are, then what ANTONE else thinks (even him) is irrelevant. Don't forget that!
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your husband is a bastard and an idiot ... I know it cause I am in the same situation too ... everytime we have a fight, he keeps telling me "I feel sorry for the guy who is going to see you naked, wide hips, thick legs with blue vein, ugly. Stop crying ugly bitch" ... I am 5'7" 170 lbs, I've always been like this, athletic, tall and super sexy .. I am 27 now, but people tell me I am 20 ... I am successful and very independent ... and I think you are having the same problem that I am .... they are just feeling insecure and scared, because if we leave them ethey are screwed .. so they are trying to lower our self-esteem so we won't do it ...
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Get pictures of good looking men or every time there's a commercial on with good looking men tell him... awww why cant you look like that, damn if you would look like that you would most definitely get me wet.
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Wow! 5'2", and 105 lbs, you really are fat!
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How should you feel?.. revengeful!, he is a jerk and you need to turn the tables on this wanker. Next time he does this to you turn around and grab his dick and stretch it and say "I wish you had an extra 4" then maybe I could feel you".. and show him a few pic's of well hung men... you watch him go red and slink away.
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Your husband is an asshole if he still acts like that, whether you believe it or not. I know that's not what a woman wants to hear about her husband (or shouldn't want to hear), but it's true.
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