• he should get his GED, and then drop out. if he cant pass junior high, how will he pass a GED exam?
  • Is he flunking because he's bored and not applying himself, or because of difficulty learning? The GED option is not all bad. It can have its limitations, like, for example, the Air Force won't accept him, but it can also have the advantage of getting him past the drudgery of high school and, with the proper additional tests, he can go straight to college if that would suit him. I left high school after the 10th grade and got my GED. I only did one year of college too. At that time in my life school was just not for me. But now I have several technical certifications and work for the federal government. Good things can happen, even with a GED.
  • How about having him examined by a pschiatrist or another competent professional to determine whether or not he has special needs and would benefit from attending special ed classes instead?
  • That would depend on why he is failing grades. If it is because of laziness or contrariness, nothing will be learned by giving him the easy way out. If his IQ is low, and he simply can't keep up, then I would consider it. More importantly, rather than asking advice from strangers on this (very important) issue, I would speak with his school counselor and his teachers and find out what their opinions are. If they say he could do it he just doesn't want to, keep him in school, impose limits and find out about hiring a tutor.
  • You should have him evaluated to see if he has a learning disability. I had a learning disability. I dropped out of high school and went to independent study. I got better grades then I did in high school. I graduated with my high school diploma when I was 16.
  • NO! It will ruin his life! Go see a someone and have him tested first for learning dissabilities that he may very well have, but having them and it being so personal and private to him, usually through shame, he might not express it or share it with anyone. If he has learning dissabilities, he should have his work adjusted to meet his needs and therefore he can pass, work and succeed more easily. I know... I had them, a few of them actually way back before they were treated and diagnosed and I failed in school with almost a 160 IQ. I needed things said and shown to me differently than the curriculum allows for or compensates for. I shudder to think what I could have become if there were testing for such things back when i was in school. I let everyone believe I was stupid and put on a tough act and got into trouble when that was the farthest thing from the truth.
  • The problem I see is the socialization skills that you learn in school he will lack. High school is usually pretty important for these. Back when I was in school, when you flunked a whole grade, you STAYED in that grade until you could pass it. This made the next step easier. Flunking 7th should have been a major warning sign that he was going to have problems in the 8th. Please have him evaluated. GEDs (should) take as much studying as going through the grades, so he may have problems there. Evaluation will tell you if he's got learning problems, and pretty much what they are. Then you may wish to consider places like Sylvan Learning Centers. I don't believe they "take over" the teaching, but teach the child how to learn. I'm also not sure if they are nation- or world-wide, but if you looked them up (I'm in Indiana), there should be equivalent groups in your area. Do all that you can to keep him in school. Not everyone takes GEDs. They are both a negative and a positive. They show that the person dropped out of school, which many feel show that they cannot finish what they started. They also show that the person does understand that education is important in this day-and-age, and worked to get it. Diplomas or GEDs are also required for most technical, trade schools, colleges and universities. If he drops out, then doesn't get the GED, he will find that he will have to start from the bottom (janitor, dishwasher, etc.), and move up. Then when he gets to certain levels, he won't be able to advance without them. Have him evaluated, and go from there. Good luck. :-/
  • Absolutely not. Invest in the time, money, and effort to get him up to speed, whatever it takes. Including courses in the summer. To do otherwise is to allow your son to handicap himself needlessly with respect to his education. That is NOT helpful.
  • I would look into the cause of his failure. is it IQ, ADD, relationship, drugs, whatever it is. and then address it. you should at least strive to finish HS no matter what.
  • He is ADHD and was on medication for at least 4 years up until Nov. 2005 when I got laid off and 2 weeks later had surgery and couldn't take him to the doctor. It took me about 2 months to start back walking. But the medication was making him like a zomby and I didn't like the way he looked. He lost alot of weight and didn't have a appetite. I slowly but surely took him off the medication. I know he can do it without the medication because his grades are up and down. When he first got on the medicine his grades were good. After a while on the medicine his body got used to it and then his grades started falling and he started getting in trouble in school. I would tell his doctor about it and the only thing they would do was increase his dosage on his medicine and then he would be a zomby again and when his body get used to the medicine, he start back acting up again. It goes on and on. SO that is the reason I took him off because it only worked when he's first on it.
  • I have talked to his counselors and teachers and they say he can do it but he stays out of his seat while he is teaching which is a part of the ADHD. I want him to go to something like Sylvan but I can't afford as I am raising my two children myself. His grades have been like this just about from the 3rd grade maybe. Where can I go to see if he has a learning disability? What is dislexia? (I know I didn't spell it right)

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