Could you forgive a partner who raped you?
by 
starrrgazer
ANSWERS: 84
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No, never! Some things are really beyond forgiveness. There's no excuse for the action, and the damage from it is incredibly huge.
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Yes, so long as everything was still intact, and that I didn't need to go to the hospital afterward.
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Why?Doing such a heinous act which even animals not do!
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No, I don't think I'm strong enough for that.
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rape is rape..sex without consent. no-one has the right to do that to you, partner or not, so no.
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No i wouldn't forgive them:)
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No I couldnt
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I wouldn't forgive anyone who raped me - partner or not. It's something you can't shrug off. To want do that to someone is very wrong - if I knew my partner felt like that about me ever I could never, never forgive them.
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i couldnt forgive anyone who rapped me.
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Never. Ever.
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NEVER! It will be in your memory forever and you will always have a fear in you that it could just happen again. Enjoy your life, it' to short not to live it with a person that will always respect you no matter what.
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No way, if they can't respect you enough to take you seriously when you say NO and violate you that way, NEVER!!!!!!
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Absolutely not.
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Wouldn't happen to me but I would forgive because I would not like my karma to be tied up to this person ever.According to the law I will have to do the same what the other person did to me. So if not in this birth at least the next or the one sometime later I will have to cross his path and do the same act to him which means I have to come back into this suffering world!I know you may not believe in karma but you asked my opinion so there it is.
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no way
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He better never sleep again for his own good!!!!
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perhaps but it depends on the situation. The use of the word "rape" is such a strong hateful violent word. I am sure that in any relationships, we have all done things for our partner that we didn't want to or feel like doing because we were either tired,not feeling well, didn't want to, etc but we did it anyways out of love, respect, fear, sense of commitment, loyalty. But in a relationship it should never come down to violence.
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...am I living under a rock? Does this really happen? . Do people who presumably love and would normally give consent to really 'rape' each other? . Whats the situation here... if she's not in the mood he slips her some sleeping pills and rapes her??? . Welcome to 'General Decency 101;' alternately - prison.
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NOPE!
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NEVER!!!! this is an act of violence, not passion as society is so want to believe.
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If I felt that I had been truly raped meaning taken by force as opposed to allowing myself to be bullied or guilted into sorta consenting, for whatever reason) I could never forgive. I don't think you can overcome the knowledge that in order for them to rape you they have to feel that you are a "thing" that exists for their selfish gratification. See me that way, even once, and I won't forgive you ever.
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Rape is a very serious crime, it is done for control and done by sick people in need of treatment, I probably would never trust him again with anyone. usually the reoffend and are always on the watch for prey.
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NO NO NO NO!!! HELL NO!
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no never
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you don't, you leave and get help. Get a TRO and a Glock. Learn to use the later. Remember center of mass.
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Absolutey not...the fact that someone may even consider this is a sign that both of the people need help
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You'd have to be an idiot.
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no!
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never!
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ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!!!!!!! Move on to somebody who cares about you. There are too many people on this planet to be w/ someone like that. Not only is that person going straight to hell, they have no morals, values or integrity. What advice would you give somebody if they were in the same perdicament.
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No, but I could exclude him from my life.
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no. He might be your partner but he had no right to take advantage of you and rape you. It is your body and being your partner, he disrespected you in a way that's beyond forgiveness. Surely you deserve someone better.
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yeahhhhh no not at all....ever
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you would have to be a freak to do that..
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No, never. and if a partner of yours raped you do not forgive him or her no matter what. a man and woman im sorry, is a monster to me if he or she murders, rapes, and physically and mentally abuses a woman or man. not deserving of human sympathy. but i do not approve of murder in any case, although i would surely try to kill anyone who kills anyone from my family or rapes me.
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well i dunno bout that my first raped me i dunno if i forgave him cause i still hate him but i continue to have sex with him for bout a year
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when you say a partner... do you mean business partner?? a date?? a spouse??? i might be able to forgive my husband if he was really drunk or something and was truly sorry.
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No :) I have to change this..Yes I would forgive..but I wouldnt forget nor would I stay with the person..the no would have been a lie..:)
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I would not only forgive him but I would also forget him.
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Laura Webber Spencer did!
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Forgive yes... I believe in forgiving, however, forgetting it would be much harder.
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Definitley, obviously, not, never.
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Definetly not. That's something you don't forget.
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Are you kidding?!?! Rape is rape plain and simple. I'd make him apoligize to my .44 .
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i would and have
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I've had that happen. I didn't really forgive him or forget, but I did end up leaving him.
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Women are very empowered now. There is never an excuse for rape.
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Never. In fact I wouldn't call them a partner afterward I would call them defendant in a criminal prosecution.
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forgive him for what? Not respecting you? taking whatever he wants, without your feelings? hurting you? You can try to forgive him for not being who you wished he was. first forgive yourself for even thinking you should forgive him. good luck I wish you all the luck in the world
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it's abusive and you have to leave him. but you have to forgive for your own sake and get therapy.... becasue how can you trust someone again?
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forgive, yes. i'd forgive for my own sanity and to keep my heart from becoming bitter. forget? no. i'm not stupid. i'd leave him the second it happened. i forgive you, i don't forget what you did. God expects us to forgive those who hurt us, but he doesn't expect us to be stupid and keep returning "like a dog to it's own vomit"
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If a partner was strong enough and coordinated enough to rape me(if i didn't want to, somehow. would have to have gone batfuck insane), then I would not only forgive them, I would give them a medal.
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That person is NOT a partner in any sense of the word.
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no
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fuck no i think thats something anyone will never forget. thats a terrible thing to do
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no because he might do it agian
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Oh no. In fact, I would like him to live with the guilt, knowing that I'll never see him as a human being of worth ever again. I am usually not vindictive (that's more my sister's style...), but some things can not be forgiven.
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Yes I can forgive him, but I sure as hell wouldnt stay with him.
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Only if he forgave me for killing him.
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forgive perhaps but NEVER EVER forget. i wouldnt be able to
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never.
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in order for someone to rape another person, there has to be something seriously wrong with them. so no, thats unforgivable.
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In my opinion, partner can't rape you. It s just extraordinary, different kind of sex!!! :-)
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depends on what kind of rape we are talking about... real rape where one person forces an unwilling partner to have sex, or the flawed versions our law has created (one partner being "under age", being drunk, regretting it after the fact) real rape... there is no way any intelligent or self respecting person could stay with someone who really raped them.
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i say no either way dont stay with him
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No. Rape is a violent act - performed by someone who hates you and/or has no respect or regard for you. Forgiveness, as a concept , may occur ...but I could never just continue with that relationship at all pretending that all was forgiven as though nothing happened...no
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No, I can't forgive.
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If he could forgive me,for what would happen to him the first time he fell asleep... (hint)by using one drop of industrial strength super glue to glue shut the tip of "offending member" AND additional glue to cement "the member" to his belly
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In my fantasies I would forgive my wife for raping me but in reality I'm not sure. My ex-wife shoved me onto a bed once when I wasn't in the mood but I didn't put up much of a fight from that point on so I don't know whether I would call that rape. ;) However, I certainly don't think that anyone has the right to force themselves on another regardless of their relationship. I also think that potential rape victims should be allowed to use deadly force to repel their attackers.
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NO thats so messed up
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Hell no ANd I wouldn't forgive myself for picking such a horrible person to be with!
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Not likely! This is a sign of control and ownership. I am not a piece of meet! I am a person!
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What happened to call it rape, was it love making that that you decided to say no! Did your parter want to and you said No! but other times you said yes! Sex which gets out of hand is one thing, we have all gone to bed with someone, who next morning " HOW, WHY, I must have been Mad". Or Did your partner Physically hold you down, forcing your legs apart. Whilst technically they all are rape, I would be concerned with the latter, because it shows a complete lack of respect for your Physical and Mental being, there is no difference between that and pulling a girl into a alley.
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No not at all, it would be over for me let the ass whoppin begin....
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Forginvess is a part of personal healing and growth. However, by forgiving him does not give him the right to invade your life again. Forgive and move forward leaving him and his horrifying acts behind you as best as you can.
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Why would it be necessary to 'rape' you? Were you denying him what was his? Would you have preferred he go elsewhere to satisfy his needs? Perhaps it is time to break this 'union' up.
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Rape is not forgivable. It is the ultimate way of taking the most basic of rights away from its victims. By forgiving the perp you are allowing them a chance to hurt someone again.
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No, never, nobody who ever did that could ever be forgiven under any circumstances, I don't care what happened or whether they had been loved in the past.
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nope, rape is a crime of hatred and domination. It is VERY likely that if your partner has done this once it WILL happen again. If I were you I'd leave that individual and report them to the police. For future reference, if you are being victimized it is completely legal for you to defend yourself with a weapon so long as it's within reason (in this instance you could go as far as to bash the offender with a blunt object until he/she stopped) Be very careful though because "excessive force" is a crime as well.
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I could forgive theft. I could forgive assault. I could even forgive murder under certain circumstances. But not rape. NEVER rape. Rape is THE one unforgivable crime, period. Anyone who commits a rape could never, should never, WILL never be forgiven. Maybe I'm too close to this ones, as although I've never been a victim of rape myself, I know people who have, but a part of me feels that rapists should be castrated. Mandatory, and without exception.
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My boyfriend beat me up and raped me three months ago. I rang the police that night and he was arrested, charged the next day, and hes now waiting in prison until he goes to court to make his plea of guilty or not guilty. I have spoken to him since it happened, because I still love him, and I miss him. And if that hadnt happened, I'd probably still be with him. Messed up I know. I have told him I forgive him, but I havent forgot and never will. And Im not sure if I do really forgive him. It depends what forgive really means. I cant get over whats happened, I burst in to tears all the time. Its hard. It really is. But Im still alive, Im strong enough to have made it this far.
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i believe forgiveness is about you, not the other person. its about letting go of anger so it doesnt consume you and harden your heart. but that doesnt mean the blame is gone or that you have forgotten. that person is still wrong for what they did to you and should never be given another chance to do it again. just make sure for your own sake it does not happen again. ;)
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No, I would file criminal charges and divorce her.
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No.
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