A crime. My 2 cents.

Jail Bait! Contributing to the delinquency of a minor. Statutory rape. All possible and most probably.

In the US it is considered illegal in most states.

I think that the 15 year old needs to not try to be so grown up and date his/her own age range, or at least a somewhat closer age range. And the 30 year old is definately a jail deserving peadophile who is obviously too pathetic to pick up a date from someone in is own age range. The thirty year old is obviously messed up in the head and deserves to be shot. It's illegal, and its wrong. a 15 year old is in a completely different leaqgue as far as state of mind would go with a 30 year old. Avoid a situation like this at all costs.

Something wrong with the 30 year old. Like pedophilia. You will understand when you're older.

That the 30 year old has his hands down his playground pants. You shouldn't be wasting your time on here, you should be calling the authorities.

I think the mental age gap in 99.9% of those cases is far too large. Even if you're mature for your age, you still don't have the life experience to match most 30 year olds. At 15, you're still in high school, while a 30 year old is already out living in the "real world", dealing with financial issues, work responsibilities, etc... I'm sure you've dealt with those too, but they reach a whole new level once you're out of school. Another thing to consider is the legal aspect of it, and also why a 30 year old isn't looking for someone their own age. Not to sound crude, but besides a young body, what else does a 15 year old have to offer someone twice their age?

In any individual case it is highly unlikely that a 15yr old and a 30yr old would have the same mental age. Also research in psychology strongly indicates that relationships of people under 18 having relationships with people far older than them is not beneficial psychologically and leads to many negative effects.

Criminal.

I think a 30 year old that would date a 15 year old has some serious problems!

As a 30 year old, I find it disgusting. I can promise to any 15 year old's out there, we see you as kids. Really, we do. You might not like it, but any 30 year old who thinks of you in a romantic way is one sick puppy.

GREAT! (As long as it's not MY daughter he's dating.) Seriously though, a 15 year old is a minor. No one 30 should be dating anyone that young.

I think it's disgusting & ILLEGAL

Ew.

It's a mental problem and a crime

I try not to think about that kind of stuff,it pisses me off and makes me want to get out my castration knife.

You want a father and you mistakingly think that he will be a father to you.

Thats Madd weird. Don't do it.

It's sick lol.. A 30 year old dating a 15 yr old is a Petafile.. End of story..

not good. bad in fact. the thirty year old should know better. the thirty year old need therapy and meds. otherwise he or she will not pass go and go to jail. dating leads to other activities real quick.

WRONG... WRONG... WRONG Never saw "To Catch A Predator" huh?

they wouldent have anything in common .the 30 year old would make decissions for the 15 year old . not a good thing.

I think that it is unreasonable because the 15 years old is too young to date a person.

NO NO NO! How else can I put it?

It's not something that I look favourably upon. At 15, I liked a 19 year old, but even that was too much of an age difference for me.

I think a 15 year old and a 30 year old have NOTHING in common other than the obvious which is the 30 year old wanting something sexual from the 15 year old. This is against the law in the US and as it should be. So to answer your question IT'S A BAD IDEA.

...don't think this is a great option...

30 year old is desperate and a criminal

Generally it grosses me out, but I'd imagine there would be some cases no serious harm would come out of it. The concept of 'mental age' sounds great when talking about this sort of thing, but in reality it's too complex to be so easily applied. Some people go through all their lives in affluence without having to deal with any serious emotional issues, whereas others have to face poverty and mental illness at a very young age. The popular concept of the airheaded teenager isn't true across the board - many teenagers have dealt with a lot of emotional crap in their short lives, and any immaturity they might show is more a natural reaction to being patronised (my own personal experience). One person having left school and having a job is probably the worst thing about a relationship like this, but it doesn't exactly make it invalid.

Illegal in most places, and rightly so.

I think it is disgusting. The adult should be in prison.

There is nothing good about it. I wonder about the 30 year old--is he/she taking advantage of a younger person?

You'll find some good answers here: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/941816

I would think that the 30 year old is in need of some mental help!

Does the 30yr old know the other's only 15? Or is the kid lying? Either way, it's going to end in tears and a jail sentence. Statutory rape.

I don't think much about the 30 y/o for even consider-ing it as "dating". The 15 y/o is either looking for a mother/father figure or emotionally distraught and lonely and needs help. They need to sit down with their parents/guardian and discuss this or seek help elsewhere. The 30 y/o is in the same situation only reversed and maybe looking for the child they never had. If there's sex involved...it's illegal and there cannot be consensual sex with a 15 y/o. What is this 30 y/o thinking? I cannot believe there's anything else other than looking for a sexual relationship and if you cannot speak w/parents or guardians you need to go to the police. This can be a very dangerous situation. Get help.

I'm 16 and my bfs 22, and I even find a 15 year old having a 30 year old bf is disgusting. Something's wrong there. Eh.

just threw up a bit in my mouth...

Never ok. Never. Not in any way...not even if I know every detail will this ever be ok. Not ever.

i thynk u should let me know who the thirty year old is so i can fit my foot up his ass

One thing thats disturbing is the combination of social situations that leads to a fifteen year old sometimes pursuing someone older. I have seen it happen and even though, just as above, the "normal" 30 year old was first shocked, then disgusted, and then took steps to avoid the situation, it still disturbing that I've seen it happen a number of times. Having fifteen year olds (or younger) physically pursuing people twice their age is disturbing to see, especially with the chemical obsession that can take place during that time. Parents or other adults should step in if they see it and remove the situation because it isn't right for a strange adult to have to try and find kind but utterly effective ways to deal with such a perverse situation, even adult life is complicated enough as it is, without adding such a twisted scenario to it. (Especially on the presumption that sometimes older people are stuck not being able to "leave" by their job or something, and why should they leave when its the kid and their parents (or the media or someones) issue. Whether or not they have anything in common is not relevant, all humans (and even animals) have something in common.

Where I live, I think it's illegal. Thank goodness.

The thirty year old is a paedophile. It's quite simple, really.

Its wrong, and illegal. The 30 year old should be arrested and the 15 year old should at least be talked to.

That's disgusting. The 30 year old should be behind bars.

SICKO!!!

While there might be some situations where no harm would come of it is kind of like saying that in some situations some people's metabolism is ok with a heavy dose of mercury and arsenic....even though even THAT is true there is no reason to suggest that this or any other particular will be THAT specific case, instead its more like, hey DON'T ever eat mercury and arsenic, because even if you are the one that IS able to manage to digest it somehow,you will likely cause your society and community to decend into moral chaos and thereby even what seemed "ok" (like a 15 year old who had been out on the street taken in as a "partner" by an older male who then kept them from being a streetwalker)will turn out to be poison for your whole community as its example causes drift which leads to additional problems (the total ok 15 year old who would have grown up to be a community leader but some older male who thought that it was "ok" stunted their psychological development forever, so that they could memorize huge swaths of text but never were able to understand what they were talking about because they could never mature normally) .....the fact that there are exceptions doesn't mean that the exceptions should be encouraged, but instead healthy behavior should be encouraged to promote healthy and honorable relations between people where children are given the opportunity to mature and make their own decisions which may not always resemble that of their would be guardians but may be appropriate nevertheless (such as choosing partners that are able to be full partners to them..... a child's brain doesn't develop to be able to reason until their early 20's so REGARDLESS of emotional life experiences,NO 15 year old (unless they are a MUTANT human) has a brain capable of being a partner to someone who is 30 years old.

It's more what I think about a 30 year old dating a 15 year old.

I think that that is absolutely apalling not to mention illegal.

Illegal & immoral...

it's a crime man

what will they have in common?

A 15 dating a 30? Bad idea. A 20 dating a 35? That would be another story. Fact of the matter is, a 15 year old isn't mature enough to be dating a 30 year old. There's not a huge difference between a 20 and 35 year old, but there's a huge difference between a 30 and 15 year old. They need to wait until the 15 year old is at leas 19. That's my 2 bits

I think the relationship is 3 years premature. Legally speaking, of course. Historically, it's not uncommon.

I THINK WHAT EVERYONE ELSE SHOULD BE THINKING, CALL THE LAW!!!!!! THIS SHOULD NOT EVEN BE A QUESTION OR A CONCERN

It's WRONG! Come on now, if you really though it was OK, you wouldn't even be asking.

poligamy.... this is wrong... just wrong, how could anyone ever think its right... think about the diffrences in how YOU were from 15 to 20... completely diffrent... its just an older man trying to prey on a young ignorant imressionable teenage girl... sick!!!!

In Indiana 16 is the legal age of consent without parental consent. I see alot of divorces in families now. My mother was 14 when she got married and my grandmother was 12, great aunts just the same but no divorces. There was not even a tenth of the divorces back then compared to now, so should age be a descremenater of love? I beleive not as a personal opinion. Society has based its laws on pointless views, i agree she is young but under certain circumstances it may be right. Love is love, just because of a number, it does not mean the relationship wont work.

yeah sounds like a really good idea. I think pedophiles should be released into the open to prey on our children...yep...good thinking.

The questions phrasing is deceptive because the 30 year old is actually dating the 15 year old, it's sympathetically phrased.

ILLEGAL!!! duh. wow. um and that is just a little disgusting.

i think its simply gross

emmmm sick!! should be locked up for good!

That's gross. That'd be like me dating an X-year-old. (Note that there is only ONE "X.")

You might go to jail!!!!

Thats CRAZY on so many levels.....Unless they are trying to go to prison,go ahead!!! I have always dated older men but I waited until I was legal to do so....a 15 year old and 30 year old?? NO NO NO

no.... the 15 year old defiently should not ever date a 30yr old! never thats just too stupid

Kate Winslet won an Oscar for doing just that. Well, except the dating part. They just had sex.

enjoy better 15 years old girl with 30 years old men .

SICK

Against the law. The 30 yr.old will try to take advantage of the 15 yr.old. Look for 18+.

hm. well when they're 30 and 45 it won't make a difference, but until then...no thanks why can't the 30 year old get somebody their own age?

After so many questions like this it's hard to get excited. Today it is highly suspicious and likely illegal. My girlfriend's grandmother was 15 when she married - her groom was 31. Funny how times change.

I am thinking, where are this 15 yrs olds parents and why the hell is the 30 yr old still breathing..:)

Both should have their asses whipped.

pedofiles!

That is wrong in so many ways yo! Yea there are 15 year old girls who look and act like there 20 but come on that 30 year old don't got nothing in common with that 15 year old besides amazing sex but that will get you 5 to 10 in jail..

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Rapistttt ! Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad idea !

sick - its not right.

not good !

its sick

Not sure, I can't wrap my brain around that one....

I think I would call the Cops

It can be very unlikely that that kind of "relationship" would work out. Both of them are very likely to have different ideas of the other and the older person would seem to be taking advantage of that if they wanted to persue it... nethertheless, offering a different perspective; If the younger person was particularly independant and intelligent for their age (and the older person was at a similar maturity (it does happen)) it might just work out... though they would get alot of negative attention from others! I have an experience of meeting an older guy when i was 16 but he was (and still is) one of the most amazing people i have ever met, and i feel really enlightened to how the world "looks" from a person with more experience. If you get on well and have a mutual balance it CAN work...

I think they should hold off for a few years, and see if they still think it's a good idea when the younger is of legal age. Personally, I'm really glad I didn't meet my husband until I was 19. Didn't have to worry about that whole "ZOMG! TEH AGE DIFFRINCE MAKES JOO A PEDIFILLE!!!" thing.

Been there, done that, when I was 15. As long as there is no abuse of authority, force, or coercion involved, who am I to judge?

If I were 30 I would not date a 15 year old because I prefer an equal partner in all aspects. And I just would not be comfortable dating someone considerably younger. However if anyone else is happy having a relationship like that, they have my full support. Morality and law are relative depending on your beliefs and country. The nations who arrange marriage between teens and older people do so out of a practical concern for financial stability of the family. And looking at some of the choices people make here in the US for mates, might not be a bad thing to have a bit more practical thinking and a little less emotions and hormones.

its kind of... wierd. Im 15 and the oldest ive dated is 20. if 20 and 15 could put my baby in jail then 15 and 30.. whew!! lets not even go there.

wow at your age that's way too much of a difference, not only in years but in maturity. plus he could go to jail if you two became intimate whether you consented or not.

i think im in MEXICO

Ew seriously i was in this boat, trust me ew, all they want is the manipulate and trick the younguer significant other.. dont fall for it.. im 16 and this 30 year old asked me out.. and sed he brought me a neckalce and shit.. they just want to get into ur pants.. im lucky i am a head strong person seriously if anyone is in that boat.. departure at the neareast wharf ass soon as possible !!, because its a sinking ship GET OFF ! !.. they may sound all sweet and promising but deep down thats hwo you knwo if someone is fucked up if they even think of wanting to touch a fifteen 16 year old down stairs ! fucken fuckers!! erghh

Very bad idea

I am not in favour that 15 years old dating 30 years old,beause 15 years old is not matured.

i think it is disgus ting when you are so young and go out whith a adult

4-6 years

i do not think that is okay.......that is a child.....a 30 yr old should find someone who is legal.......take care....Brian.....

one word ; BAAAAAAAAAAD!

lol 15 year old dating a 30year old is sick tht is just weird

I smell statutory rape................Allright I don't.I see it!