ANSWERS: 28
  • Are you a school teacher? You are a pedophile by definition. Hes not different hes a 15 year old BOY. You are trying to adjust your thinking to justify it.
  • The age difference isn't so bad, but just wait till he's legal to do anything...
  • I don't really think it's wierd! Might be a small maturity gap, but hey for a while I dated a girl 2 years older than me, and I must say i had a freaking blast (yay for older women!!!!! =)
  • stay away for 3 yrs, if you come back and there is still chemistry then go for it, but right now he could just be another horny 15 yr old
  • seriously?? well you can wait for him to grow up!
  • Some people are too old for their age, some are too young. Unfortunately for you, there are laws in place nowadays that state that a relationship of this type is wrong, as well as cultural stigma. These do, indeed, make it "weird". There is going to be a long time before pursuing a relationship with this boy will be legally or socially acceptable.
  • What state are you in? In about half the US states the age of consent is 16. In others half it is 18. So if you are in certain states you should be fine in less than a year.
  • Where were you when I was 15 ? I'd say go ahead make my day!
  • At 15, I doubt you were mature enough to have had a relationship with a 23 yr old man. You would have been hurt by it, no matter how much electricity you felt. You would have lost a large part of your youth and found yourself in an adult world with no preparation. The boy is 15. Just beginning to learn about life and his body and surging hormones. Give him a chance to grow up before you lock him into being a grown-up.
  • I wouldn't pursue it because he's underage.. I would move on to someone else.
  • Just don't act on it. Try to hold out 3 yrs.
  • The way i see it, you would be slightly pedophilic if you were a man and he was the girl, but with your specific situation i would say that he is just cool and you are just brave enuff to admit the truth.
  • Whether you like it or not this boy is a child. He may act older, look older or whatever but he is still a minor. So yes I would say it is pretty strange. My advice would be wait 3 years until he is 18 at least....
  • Theres nothing wrong with feeling attracted to him, (been there myself) but you have to keep it in check and not allow yourself to pursue him in any way, ie. no flirting, no telling him how you feel, you are the adult and whether you like it or not, he's a kid.
  • When I was 15 I would certainly have enjoyed a relationship with a 23-year-old woman. People are different. Also, people tend to be very disparaging about others whose experience doesn't match theirs. We don't always choose who we fall in love with. There is nothing wrong with you, apart from the fact that you have fallen in love with someone inappropriate. And look around you, and see how many people that statement applies to ...
  • I feel you're pain! When I was 23 I had a thing for a 17 year old, we waited until he was 18 and started hanging out, well as we spent more time together I realized real quick he was just 18 and acted like it! Recently, I started dating a 19 year old, I'm 31, well I thought we had that electricity too, then after two months, I realized he was very young and acted even younger! Hopefully, you'll discover all the wrong reasons to go after him (he plays video games, his friends are even younger, etc.) and lose all those feelings, but I know it is hard to like the young ones and unfortunately I do! But you are NOT weird!
  • That is what you call robbing the cradle,leave it alone.If you did have sex with him it would make you a child molester.let him be a child and you be an adult im sure you can find someone more your age to date
  • Biologically speaking, a 15 year old is very similar to an adult male. As a result, it's no small wonder that you feel chemistry with him. Actually, falling in love with a teenager when you are an adult technically does not count as pedophilia. Instead, it is a new category, aphebophilia, because teens have already gone through puberty and don't look little kids. The only reason it's wrong for teens to date older people in our culture is because society infantilizes teens and doesn't let them grow up as fast as they might have a few generations ago. Heck, my grandma married my grandpa when she was 16 and he was 26, and no one thought a thing in the world of it! They had a very happy relationship. Nonetheless, I'm sure you realize that you can't pursue this boy. Even if he seems mature, he will not have your same level of life experience. While you are thinking about a job, a home, and possibly marriage, he will still be in high school and playing video games with his friends. He doesn't even have to think about college yet. So enjoy your friendship with him, but don't let your feelings get carried away with you. Wait a few years and see if there's still a possibility that you live close enough to date each other.
  • I'm in a similar situation. I'm 22, and my boyfriend is 16 (will be 17 in December). He used to work at the place I work at, and that's how I met him. We were friends first, and that's the first step. When he asked me out I declined at first because of his age. But he's diffrent then the guys I've dated in the past(even my age). We CONNECT. There's chemistry there. His dad's ok with the two of us(partially because I work with his dad in the same department, and was friends with his dad before I even met him). The only thing I suggest is become friends first, and let everything happen one day at a time. Also, my friends keep teasing me about it, but oh well. What matters is that you both respect each other, care for each other, and have the chemistry. Try hanging out with his family in a non stress situation, and get to know the whole gang before anything does happen. It'll make things run a lot smoother. ^_^ good luck!
  • I'm calling Stabler and Benson! lol
  • You are not a pedophile unless you have a physical incident with him. :-D
  • Naw you're fine!! I'm 23 and I'd do Dakota Fanning. Just being honest.
  • It is important that you consider that you will have to wait 3 years before you can legally be involved in certain activities, but if you think its worth the wait, go for it! I personally don't believe that age matters and was 15 when I started dating my (at the time)20 year old boyfriend who I have now been with for almost 4 years!!! My parents also have the same age difference that you have with him and they are happily married. Follow your heart, not whats politically correct..
  • You are not a pedophile unless you have sex with him. Be very careful. Things could happen before you know it.
  • Your crush is not pedophilia. People have crushes, and I know that they just happen. Since age 11, I haven't crushed on a girl less than 3 grades ahead of me. All of the girls who have pursued me have been older than me as well. I am always less socially mature than the girl, and being younger feels more awkward than weird. I think that your being older is also more awkward than weird, and that you shouldn't worry about it. I do think that its good that you have no intentions, however. It shows that you understand that he's too young for you right now.
  • Ok if you are in some position of authority over him (ie. Teacher/instructor, coach, nurse to a loved one, etc) then you are really kind of just desirous of exercising some kind of "power play" to put in the simplest terms. NOW the most common mistake that many people make is to associate you (or your desire) as pedophilic. In actuality you would be called an ephibophile, which is a person who has an attraction to those young men or women, who have (or are on the cusp of approaching) puberty. While they are yet NOT adults, you can hardly compare a 13-17 year old to an actual "child." People like to throw the term you used around these day very casually, as to attempt to attach THAT STIGMA, to any and all you might have an attraction to anyone not of the common legal age. I've met women who are far beyond the legal age that have the mentality and behave emotionally like a pre teen and I've met teenagers who have more maturity than many of their parents. So who can say if its right or wrong? Even if you were a man I'd tell you the same thing; Unless you are the one who sets "the ball in motion" then proceed with caution. If they are simply an innocent (in the literal form of the word) then leave him alone.
  • take him to mexico and go at it lol or wait a year and go to a state where 16 is legal i guess.
  • i had the same feelings at first when i realized that i was very highly attracted to my now boyfriend who is almost 17.. and im 24. i felt like it was morally wrong for me to feel the way i do toward him, but the feeling of love and connection sees no boundries. it is NOT illegal to date a minor. however it IS illegal to physically engage is any sexual conduct with a minor. as long as those two things are understood, then you can do no wrong.

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