IS 21 too young to get married?
by 
Jennifer Green
ANSWERS: 77
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No, as long as you are certain you have found your soul mate for the rest of your life.
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No, who ever told you that is a control freak.
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If you're ready than no; I find it kind of young, but if you're sure you want to spend forever together then go for it.
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If you are having doubts about getting married at any age, then don't - or talk about it with your fiance.
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No. My husband's grandma was 16 when she got married... and 50 years later, she was still happily married.
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Nah. I'm 22 and getting married this summer. Go for it.
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I've got a friend, Paul, he married at 20, I thought at the time it was young, but he has a great wife, a great son, and the have been together 10 years now. They are all very happy. I was wrong, and glad that I was. Go for it :-)
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Yes, in the current US economy (even pre-recession) getting married before your 30 is a bad idea. By the time your 30 you will probably have your own car, a home, an education and a steady job.
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Totally depends on the couple, each of them separately. Some are most aren't. IF you have questions about it, then you are too young and need to figure it out and feel certain after considering all the facts, not just feelings. I got married at 18 but I had known my husband for over 4 years and he was almost 23 and had been out on his own with a great job for many years. I already knew how to run a household. Both of those things really helped, besides being in love for a long time. We had discussed just about everything in those 4 years, what we wanted out of life, future goals, how to live, jobs, children, sex, everything. Again, most young people don't bother with that at ANY age.
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Many of my friends were married between the ages of 20-23. ALL of them say they got married too early (even the ones who are still married). Many of them say if they wish they knew now what they didn't know then. There's something about waiting, the lessons you learn in life, that changes your perspective on marriage and your partner (what you are willing to compromise and what you are not in order to be happy and make them happy). People who are married at a younger age tend to divorce more often (according to my sociology text), but being older doesn't mean you are any more prepared, either. The problem I see the younger people are is they marry because they are 'in love'...BAD REASON. Contrary to popular belief, love is NOT all you need. Is 21 too young? IMO, yes, but it CAN work. But like I said, everyone I know says they got married too young (even the 'happily' married ones)...
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Yes, I believe it is:) You have a lot of life to live before settling down:)
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It depends on where you are in your life. My mom got married at 15! But she lived a very happy marriage until my father passed away.
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Not if that is what both sides truley want to do.
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Not in my opinion, as young as 18 your an adult and can decide what for your life, if you know in your heart it's how you feel then why wait. Theres nothing that says you have to travel the world and get all this life experinence before you get wed. I think you should get married as young and as old as you want, as long as it has been your decision. Unfortunatly this is not always the case for many young marriages...
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It depends on how mature you are and whether your heart is in the right place. So, no its not to young.
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I got married when I was 21. I feel that it is too young to get married if you haven't experienced life. I went from one long term relationship to the next and haven't been single since middle school! I am not sitting here contemplating whether or not I should stay married or if I should free myself to go live life for a bit. It sucks because I don't want to break his heart because he is 6 years older and totally ready to settle down. That is my advice... I also feel if I would've waited to get married the person I'm currently with would've been just fine for me. I just have something pulling me away right now...
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For some it is the right age. For others they need to grow up a bit more. It really depends on the people involved. I know someone that was too young at 45. He still hasn't grown up.
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For some it is too young. My older sister was 19 when she got married and we were talking the other day about her daughter who has just turned 20 and how much younger she seems. I myself bought my first house at 19, and could not see my niece doing that either for at least another couple of years. My younger sister has just got married 2 months ago at the age of 26.
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I think if you've been with your SO for quite sometime, and you're stable, go for it! I was 25 when I got married, but also had a 4 month old at the time.
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I am 22, and I am too young to get married. It is more about maturity and your independence than age.
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If you and your potential mate are ready and willing to go through life's trials and get into the 20-somethings adventures together, I say go for it. The 20s can be rough, but if you are committed to eachother, have fun and be happy. PS My parents married at 19, and they had a ball in their 20s; together!
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No not if you been with the person for some years now....ive been with my Bf for about 6years now and im 21 :)
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Only if you think it is. At 21, you could have served four years in the military (you CAN join at 17), voted for three of them, consent to sex, and purchase alcohol. If you can be trusted with all that then why not a wedding ring?
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I have to admit that I believe it is, but it doesn't make me happy to say it. At 21, your brain has not even finished developing. That doesn't wrap up until you are around 23-24 years old. Combine that with the fact that a 21 year old has limited life experiences, and you begin to understand why so many marriages end in divorce who married so young. I wish I could say something different. I know that when I was 21 I thought I was all grown up, but hindsight is always 20/20. Hell, I never grew up :)))
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It all depends on the persons way of thinking.. if you feel you are matured enough and are ready to face all the odds of life then age is no bar for marriage... cos you are no longer an adolescent..
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One does not know fully who they are at 21, so how can they pick a life mate?
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i'm 19 got married at 18 and dont regret it for a second!
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No...it really depends on the people involved. Some people should never be married and others are ready at 15.
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Not if your ready =)
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I was ready at 18. I met my husband at the age of 11 running around all summer with friends playing flash light tag, swimming, and I knew the moment I saw him. He eventually came around, at 17 we started dating, 3 months later he propsed, a year later we married. 2 children and 8 years of marriage later I have no regrets. I'm thankful for everyday that he is apart of my life.
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adult?
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if you can support yourself and are ready to put in the work.I say go for it. I am 23 , I got married at 20 no regrets, If you dont have kids, I suggest you wait. Thats what we are doing ,that way you can still travel and save for the future.
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Yes don't do it,,travel the world bit, before you get tied down with children and responsiblities
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21 is fine for a first marriage. lol Honestly age is irrelevant as long as you're legal and self-sufficient.
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no not at all. my sister married at 21 and she has 2 lovely girls and is very happy! x
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It depends on the people getting married. When I look back at myself at 21 years old marriage would have been a big mistake. On the other hand, I know poeple who got married that young and it was right for them.
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I was 19 when I got married, and I'm still very happy in my marriage (33 years later). However, if I had it to do over, I'd wait before marrying my husband. You should experience living on your own, traveling, and having a life for yourself first.
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Well i say if your ready then take it!
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In our current society, yes, it is.
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Everybody is different, but to be harshly honest judging from the types of questions you've asked here, if the question is about you, no
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no its not, but i think it depends on who you r as a person. i am 19 and engaged. i do not feel it is to young
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No not if everything is rite,and you know what you are getting into.My rule is to live with them for 3 to 5 years and if you are still happy,go for it and get married.
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I'm 21 and want to get married but my boyfriend and I Feel we still have a lot of growing up to do so we are going to wait a little while longer.
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No. My mom was 22 when she had me.
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nah...
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I'm 22 and I'm no where close to getting married. Saying that though its just not really my thing. I think its more important as to whether you feel ready to get married or not. Trust your instincts.
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Not at all. Some of the longest marriages I can think of began when the couples were in their early twenties.
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Well It depends. If the person feels he/she is ready to commit their entire lives to one another and give up their singleness then Yes. But keep in mind that marriage is like a flame you have to keep alive and constantly work to forgive one another to be loyal and serve each other to stick together through good and bad for the rest of your life..... If you feel you are ready for this kind of commitment and much more then Age is nothing but a number.
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That is really up to you. Maturity varies. So how well do you know yourself? Consider the views of those you respect for their wisdom. Let it come from your inner knowing that this is the time. I wish you well, Rep
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I got married when i was 18, still married 23 years later.
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75 is too young for some people to get married!!! Chronological age is a poor judge of someone's state of maturity:)
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Short answer: No. Long answer: No, but only if it's for the right reasons. How long have you known/dated the person? Have you lived with them? Seen them at their worst? Are you doing it for religious reasons, or family reasons, or even political reasons? And finally the big question: Are you doing it to try to save a relationship? This, along with kids, are the two biggest killers of relationships I've ever known.
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Not if you really love the person your going to marry.
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No. Also, be sure and have lots of kids. I plan to have a dozen.
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No way. Go for it and have fun. Marriage is awesome. Just make sure he is the right guy.
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If you're 100% sure it's forever, then there is no age limit.
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It depends, you have to ask yourself two questions: Is this person the one that i really want to spend the rest of my life with? and Are we both finacially stable enough to take care of and manage a home?
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Yes
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It is about maturity. I am 22, yet I am not ready for that.
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For me yes. For some no.
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Not at all, I have some friends that got married when they were 19 and 10 years later they are still happily married. As long as you are ready to settle down, have lived with this person before, and are doing it for the right reasons.
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No.It's an ideal age.Energy flow at this level is optimum plus You can enjoy high quality sex life and have more fun than the later stages.
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no if you are ready
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That depends on the maturity level of the 22 year old.
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All depends if you truely love the person and the person truely loves you.
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Not if your in love and you are sure they are the one and you are both ready for that comitment.
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no. but I will say this: I got married at 18 and got divorced a year later. make sure you are set on marrying this person. do they want to get married? make sure you and this person have talked everything over and stuff like that. dont jump into something that you are not 100% about. I am now re-married with 2 beautiful kids and another on the way. I am 21 by the way.
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Even as few as 60 years ago, people's average life expectancy wasn't but 45 or 46 years old. If that were now, I would almost say 22 is too late, but life expectancy nowadays is about 70-75... you've still got lots of time to be married. Make sure it's the right choice, not the right choice for now...
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I married at 22 and it ended with a divorce. So I would say yes, it could be too young, but you do learn from your mistakes.
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It really depends on maturity and financial status. I was not ready at that age, but I knew people who were.
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22 is WAY to young to get married. Live together. I mean LIVE together and see if this is it. If it is, wait till 30+ then. Because if its meant to be, the wedding (stupid tradition) will always be there when your ready. My uncle lived with my aunt for 18 yrs before they needed a party in thier honor, or a wedding. HUGE wasted of money otherwise used for education, travel to see the REAL world out there, charities, animal rescue, etc. To spend it on a frickin contrived and unoriginal concept to me is unbelievably irresponsible...but that just me, and I speak from expierience....along with the other 67% divorced rate in this country....oh and by the way, 62% of those are white christians....think about it. Love to all
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rules rules rules it depends. Just think seriously about what you're doing, what you need to finish in the initial education phase of your lives, and take it from there. If you've already finished and you're living independently, no one can have any complaint
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No as long as you are getting married for the right reasons its fine!!!
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no i think it is about the right age to get married if you think it is the special one because marriage changes your life and i think it really matures you if you were ready for it it makes you work harder and try to support your family because when people marry that young they usually want kids soo that puts even more pressure on them but if they can handle it it is an extreme accomplishment soo i would say it depends mainly on maturity and mind set
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No. But for some 40 is too young. It really is an individual judgment call.
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I think it is, because I did just that. We weren't even finished with college. I went from being a good little girl - a daughter, a straight-A student, an overachiever with goals and dreams, directly to being married, then soon a mom, living in poverty and stuck at home with a baby. I never got to be a grown-up young woman with a job and a place of her own, never got to travel or learn to be independent. It was a real shock to my system. If I could do it over again I would have waited until I'd graduated college at age 22, gotten an apartment and a job and had some fun as a grown-up before getting married. 13 years and two more kids later, I am overall happy but feel I missed out on a lot and went through a lot I wouldn't have had to.
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yes. whats the rush??? if you really love each other youll be there at 25 or 30. no need to jump into it.
Veronica 
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