ANSWERS: 35
  • You don't. You just move on and do your best. All you can do is to be thankful that you had them at all. Unrequited love is even worse.
  • you never do. speaking of my own experience, lost = died, as my wife did, nothing can take the love we had and still have but with that now is equalled by pain.
  • Ask yourself how much you've changed, and ask yourself if you'd feel the same if you met him today. Unfortunately, this only works if it's been years since knowing your crush. I remember having a crush on a guy in high school, and it was the kind of crush that felt like I was dying on the inside. But thinking about him now, I realize that I may not be happy with him, the way I am today. I've changed too much.
  • Its very difficult jen-jen. Ive been reading your questions today, and i take it this has happened to you very recently. Im sorry if it has, you (i think) are devastated. All you can do is keep yourself busy going out with friends etc, and try to spend as little time as possible on your own, of course you will be hurting and upset, its only natural. Try to be strong, its all you can do, and time will take care of the rest. (((hugs)))
  • only time can heal the wounds..... it could take up to years or decades.... maybe an eternity
  • You dont honestly, you just learn to show that your not that bothered and to look and act strong when really your crying inside!!!
  • Hey ( Chocolate Milk) I strongly agree with you... you sure right, you just learn not to show our feeling and act like we dont care,,, which we do....
  • Just move on in life. Don't think about him. Then when he comes and ask u if you are still in love with him then you say no and just try to hold back the tears inside.
  • It depends on what you mean by losing someone. Did they die? Did they break up with you? Did you break up with them? In any case it takes time. Time to sort through the pain and time to sort through the memories. Time to realize it really is over and there are no "maybes" left. Time and a lot of soul searching. Learning to love yourself. It's probably the hardest thing you'll ever do.
  • I've read the previous answers hoping that there would be something to help me. I am in the middle of losing the love of my life. The man who has been my partner and best friend for 6 years. I don't know how to get over the fact he doesn't want to be with me anymore, even though we love each other, he can't see a future for us and doesn't think we're right for each other. Now all my hopes for what my future would be are crushed. I've been rejected by the one person that means the most to me in the world. I don't know how we can walk away from each other when there's so much love. He doesn't want to try anymore. I really don't know the answer to your question, if there is one.
  • In time. Time heals everything. I know it's hard to accept, I've been through it, and in time, I met my husband, and everything has been great! When you lose someone, it's just not meant to be.
  • Same as getting over a breakup not of your chosing... See http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628 (((((HUGS, Jen)))))
  • If you are speaking in the terms of a break up then time is the best advice, you do need those few days or few weeks to get through the pain, you need to allow yourself to "mourn", to cry, but then you have to let time do its job. Take up a hobby, throw yourself into your work/studies, hang out with your friends or family, do anything to try and help take your mind off from it. It will get easier - in time. If you are speaking in terms of death then again allow yourself to mourn properly, but at the same time remember that person has lived a good life and again remember the good times you spent with that person. Celebrate the life they lived.
  • Simple: You just pretend that you've moved on so much that everyone starts believing it, even yourself. And if anyone tells me my answer is wrong then please tell me what is the right answer 'cause I need to know it.
  • For one try not to let guilt over come you. Try to take your mind off of the person by focusing on work or school or functions that can improve your life or the live's of others. In due time you will get over the person. You need to allow time to heal your wounds so you can heal and heal properly. Don't jump into any relationships too soon. Not until you are completely over the person. Just know that you are a god person and in due time someone else will come in your life. One that will make you happy, not leave you feeling miserable. I am there myself and realizing that life does go on with or without him. I just want to tell you that eventually the pain does go away.
  • reconnect with your friends start new hobbies and activities take a vacation in a foreign land kickbox learn how to cook take pictures answer more questions on answer bag good luck - it's tough but it's possible
  • The truth is that you see the person years later and wonder Why and what did I see in this guy? You spend years thinking they were really all that and the reality is that they weren't...or so has been my history....
  • Time heals. I am in the process of getting over someone I am in love with.
  • I myself am going through it. So far it has been 2 months and the first month it was killing me. This month it is a little better. But since day one when I found out he was cheating on me,(after I threw all his sh*t out the window) I went out and did a lot to stay busy. I loved him a lot and I would love to be with him again, but its just not possible. At one point we were going to work things out but too much has happened and after one weekend, this time I told him to go. I know I am doing the right thing because I know that he is not the one for me. But those really good times can make you feel the pain of breaking up as if it was yesterday. Eventually as this is my 4th major breakup in my life, I do know that I will get over him, and the good memories will be like a warm blanket when you think about them and the bad ones will make you happy you are not with him any more.
  • only one cure T I M E and no, a string of one nite stands wont help.
  • Remember when one door closes another door opens!
  • I'd lost two this year, one to death, and one just left. Although I was engaged to the one that died, I'm having a harder time with the one that just left. no real answers.
  • im still empty not easy
  • I decided to hate mine, and put all the blame on to him - and it worked, i actually saw him for the worthless, ignorant, self righteous tosser he really is! I was in love with something that wasn't real!!
  • The question is how do you love someone that broke up with you?
  • Let it burn!!!
  • oh man..i'v been there. i dated this kid for a long time. fell in love with him. then he just..let me go =[ It took awhile, but once you get out there and take your mind off of things, you'll soone enough let it go. You might not ever stop loving or caring for them. but you'll find someone else special who helps you get over him/her and you'll be happy.
  • Time heals all wounds. That is so hard to beleive when you are going through losing someone you love so much. I am actually going through it myself, and keep telling myself what they say. "If you love someone set them free, and if they come back it was meant to be. VERY hard to do and all though it may sound stupid, it is true. My grandfather and grandmother were married for 37 years, got a divorce. He thought the grass was greener on the other side, well it wasn't and now they are semi-getting back together. Weird, but that is true love. It happens everyday. People rekindle their love, high school sweethearts, ex's, even pre married and divorced couples realize once what they had is gone, that that is what they wanted to begin with. Like I said I am going through the same thing and it is not going to be easy, but just try to keep your head up. :) Best of Wishes to you.
  • It passes with time.
  • Time, beer and someone better looking
  • It could be a habit youv got into you think your never get over some one,its very hard emotions but each time you get hurt you get stronger believe me i know. You think you wont get over it but in time you will and it wont hurt so much and eventually your realise one day your over it,chin up i know the achy feeling you get in the pit of your stomach :(
  • get a puppy. or kitten, or goldfish or a really beautiful houseplant. anything you can nurture and fuss over.
  • Doesnt get easier...One day U'll hear that certain song, or smell that certain aroma, and the memories will come flooding, back, and for that one split second, UR heart will skip a beat, which will instantly be followed by a sick feeling in UR stomach... Been there, and still there... hoping some of these answers will help me too :-(
  • Yeah, you need time. Maybe you'll find someone else :)

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