Did you give him a chance to explain why he did what he did? If not, talk it out. If you already did, do you believe him? Can you forgive him, and not hold it against him? Trust is vital to a marriage. If you can't feel that you can trust him now, what about 10 years from now after you've had 2 kids together? I'd say it was a really crappy thing to do to you. But, is it as bad as him 'physically' cheating on you? Only you know that answer.

I don't even know what that means.

Please define what act happened.

You can get over ANY cheating if you BOTH truely want to. I would give (and have given) exactly the advice below to those who have had physically cheating spouses, though it might be easier to forgive non-physical cheating. That's for the one cheated on to decide. YES... You CAN forgive almost anything, and should, if not for them, then for YOU, whether the relationship continues or not. While you can and should forgive it, you will NOT forget it. Even so, NEITHER of you should bring it up in any future arguments/fights - HE would be "throwing it in your face" and YOU would be pretty much proving that you HADN'T truely forgiven him. The hurt and memories WILL fade, in time, to the back of your mind, if nothing happens to continually REMIND you. Only YOU can decide if you feel you CAN give him another chance. I only KNOW that it CAN be done, HAS been and IS done and WILL be done. You need to sit down and talk. Why did he do it? Was it something YOU did (or didn't do) that made him feel he needed to? In fact, if you're afraid of forgetting to ask something, write out a list of questions. Make sure HE understands these are questions you just didn't want to forget to ask. Keep the conversation as civil as you can. YOU are trying to find out WHY and HE is trying to explain it. You may need to take a couple of days and not talk afterwards, to process all you've learned from that conversation. HE should understand and not keep trying to get you to talk about what you're feeling or thinking. Again, YOU have to decide whether the relationship is worth it to you. Good luck. ;-)

What's emotional cheating???

So if it were unemotional cheating would it be bad? Cheating is cheating.

No you should not!

This emotional cheating thing is all new to me. Never heard of it. It sounds like a new word for friendship and it shouldn't be. I'd say get that term out of your vocabulary.

ABSOLUTELY NOT. Cheating is cheating no matter how it comes about or what kind it is and should never be forgiven because it teaches the cheater that cheating is okay. If you forgive this, you're basically asking for it to go farther.

You could if you want to, but, think of it as a warning sign. He has a fiance and is already cheating (whether it just be emotionally or whatever). It doesn't make it seem like it's going to be all that successful of a marriage.

If you are referring to "emotional cheating" in the instance that he is confiding in someone else of the opposite sex where he should be applying that energy and those efforts toward your relationship... That would be a hard one to get over. That in my book is cheating. However, if you are referring it to his emotions wandering in other directions and away from you and your relationship.. It's sign that you two merely need to work harder at what you have.

The question you should ask is deeper. If you wonder whether a single hurdle is worth saving the relationship, are you really ready to withstand the storms of a lifelong marriage?

How did he emotionally cheat on you? Please explain because there could be forgiving and understanding scenarios, and totally unacceptable scenarios.

guys dont emotionally cheat.we arent that emotional. 1.have a chick we are thinking about dumping you for/cheat on you with and havent got around to it yet. 2.have a chick friend we talk to or we fantasize.:o)

If you mean that it's a strong friendship with someone of the opposite sex, then yes. I confide in both my male friends and female friends. If my girlfriend (if I had one, anyway) got mad at me for still seeing them as really good friends instead of ignoring them, I'd politley ask her to not be mad for me having friends, or I'll be very sorry to walk away. And talk to the friends some more.

I guess I don't understand what "emotional cheating" really is. I'd have to know more about the situation before I could put forth my opinion.

Have you emotionally cheated on him? I'm sorry I'm just a toon and perhaps I don't understand what you are getting at. I love my Roger with all my heart but sometimes I think of my fond memories for a certain member of the LAPD and weellll I start to feel a little warm all over.

i am inclined to say no. going out and having a one night stand is one (totally lame) thing, but having a close emotional bond seems way more hurtful. if you both love each other you could give it another try, i wouldn't go get hitched so soon.

I would forgive him, but I would expect that to NEVER happen again. If you are going to forgive him, make sure you put it behind you.

As my dad says, "Just 'cause I'm on a diet, don't mean I can't look at the menu." Don't be controlling. Emotional cheating isn't cheating, in my opinion. I wouldn't be jealous if I found my girlfriend had something like this. I trust her. There's other girls who I think are cute and who I admire, but who am I going home to?

it's worth revenge

was he masturbating to a playboy foldout? its worth forgetting.

I have NO patience for 'social engineers' who try to control people's thoughts. The ability to create 'thought crimes' should be unconstitutional.

I would say yes as long as he won't do it again, and tries to make it up to you. Even if he fails, he's trying.

What exactly is emotional cheating?

It depends - are you willing to do your half of the work it is going to take to put the marriage back together? Are you going to roll up your sleeves and get dirty in order to save your marriage? If not, then get a divorce. No amount of "wanting" to save this union is going to get it done. You guys have spent quite awhile learning to ignore each other's needs. It will take WORK to get it back.

i'm not sure what you mean by emotional cheating explain please

You should forgive everyone. Whether you trust them or not is a different story. What do you mean by emotional cheating anyway?

I think this may help http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/Why-Men-Cheat-and-What-We-Can-Do-to-Prevent-It.288389

If you really love him and he really loves you and he hasn't cheated before or again then I think it's worth another try. So yes I think you should give him another try.