ANSWERS: 54
  • You can't get someone to stop cheating,dump this guy sorry a**,and one day someone that he really cares about will cheat on him.
  • You can't and you won't. Best to save yourself the heartache and move on hun, sorry!
  • Kick him to the curb and get a proper boyfriend, not a kid.
  • You don't. He has to do it on his own. You cannot make people change; they have to change themselves. Unfortunately for you, he doesn't sound very willing. Apparently, he thinks that hurting your feelings in such a devastating way is "fun". His cheating isn't about you; it is about him. I think you need to focus on your relationship with yourself a bit more. Why is it that you want to be with someone who not only cheats on you, but describes it as "fun"?
  • You don't. You break up with him if you're not willing to have an open relationship. There are better people out there who will respect you enough to not cheat.
  • Have some damn respect for yourself girl and get rid of him!
  • Don't waste your precious love...give it to someone who appreciates and will cherish it.
  • This is bad news; he is obviously not upset that he cheated on you, which shows he does not care about you or your feelings. That in itself should throw up some major warning signs about continuing the relationship, not to mention the health dangers of casual sex and what he could be bringing home to you. Please be careful.
  • I'm sorry but you really can't. It's like trying to get a liar to stop lying. You'll never know.
  • he obviously dosn't care about you if he so cynically calls cheating fun
  • you dont...ditch the loser
  • Oh my gosh, the fact that he says it is fun, should say everything right there. He does not give a crap about you, why would you even consider him for anything at all. Clearly he is immature and you would never be able to trust him.
  • "Why is it that you want to be with someone who not only cheats on you, but also describes it as 'fun'?" Thats a good question to ask yourself. Because when he cheats on you, I'm sure you dont find it much fun, do you? If he thinks cheating is fun, then let him go off and have his fun with other immature people. He doesnt need to hurt you by cheating, in order to have fun. But all in all, he sounds like a real turd because of that. When I found my fiancee cheating on me (I walked in from work early to find her grabbing her ankles on my sofa with some other guy playing hide-the-cabana) I threw both of them out, no questions asked. And I kept their clothes & let them find their own way home. Called off the engagement, rang up & told her parents just what I thought of their daughter, and never wanted to see her again. Apparently it had been going on behind my back for nearly 6 months, and all her friends knew about it, but never stood up & told me, because they thought it was "funny". So I dont have anything to do with them anymore either. Hope that sort of gives you something to think about :)
  • Well, how is he defining it as fun? I had something that would be considered cheating, except my boyfriend knew about it, where I was hanging out with/seeing movies with a friend of mine in a semi-romantic sense. It was "fun" in the sense that, well, we might go see movies my boyfriend didn't like, we might go hang out with people he didn't know, we had a sort of sarcasm and flirting that he wouldn't have liked, whatever. Never took away from my love for the boyfriend, whom I'm still with. Is he enjoying the actual act of cheating, getting off on the fact that it's not you? Or is he just doing stuff with another girl because it's not your thing? One is a much bigger problem than the other, I'd think.
  • That's hard. Getting him to stop is kind of like buying a Volkswagen then trying to turn it into a Mercedes Benz. Probably easier to get the Benz.
  • Since you want to put all your energy in him and not yourself, I'd say just ignore it. Many people have happy, "open" relationships. I just don't happen to be one of them, but it sounds as though that will be an option for you.
  • that's mean of him to say that. He said cheating is fun....hurting you and betraying you is FUN? Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are better than that and you deserve a man who respects you...repeat until you believe it yourself.... Find someone who thinks it's "fun" to be with only you.
  • You can't change people. There's no use in even trying. Get out of that relationship and fast. In the end, it's your choice what you do.
  • nobody should think cheating is 'fun.' that is seriously wrong, him knowing that you feel frustrated and betrayed because of it. dump him and find a real man.
  • I think it might be his way to get you to break up with him so he isn't the bad guy. Doesn't sound like he is very sorry. He just wants to see how much you will take cause he knows you love him so much. Almost sounds like a game to me. I would Leave him, you deserve so much more.
  • try it, you'll like it :-P
  • He told you cheating is fun? He's making a fool outta you. He's playing you. Next time he says that, say "I agree. It is. I know I enjoyed fuckin your buddy. BTW- His cock is waaaay bigger than yours."
  • it doesnt sound like a mature thing that causing emotional pain is fun leave it it hurts at 1st but is better later
  • dont bother with a fella like that. once a cheater always a cheater. you deserve better than that
  • You cannot control other people - nor is ownership of another possible except within a delusional self-identity. You might consider that he's simply having fun. If you really "love" him as you claim, why limit that love with behavioral rules for him. Love is unconditional, accepting and appreciating, not a form of imprisonment. Imagine this, what if you truly loved him (unconditionally), would you feel threatened by his behavior? If you simply can't accept him as he is, you might consider moving on. But, I gently suggest you do so without holding him in contempt...; this will prevent you from carrying unneeded baggage and having a repeat experience with the next boyfriend...
  • How can you love someone who obviously doesn't care about your feelings enough not to cheat on you, you should rethink this love thing before it bites you in the ass. Best of Luck
  • Kick him in the balls, every seven days. Then he wont be able to cheat.
  • Dump his arse...then there will be no more cheating.
  • Have him take this test he may have an addiction to sex A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction. 1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life? 2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose? 3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media? 4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems? 5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter? 6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual? 7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship? 8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief? 9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.? 10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development? 11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence? 12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal? If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs. To learn more about the SAA program. Return to home page. © Copyright 2007 International Service Organization of SAA, Inc. All Rights Reserved. No written material, graphic image, or any other data may be downloaded, copied, reproduced, duplicated, or conveyed in any other way without the express written permission of International Service Organization of SAA, Inc. ® Registered Trademark Sex Addicts Anonymous and the SAA logo are registered trademarks of the International Service Organization of Sex Addicts Anonymous, Inc.
  • You may love him but it doesn't sound like he loves you.
  • Your not going to get him to stop. Some guys have the urge to cheat. He isnt ready for a commited relationship and your probably not going to get him to change. My best advice to you is dump him and move on with your life.
  • Lose the loser yo...
  • You can't make him stop. He's doing it because he can. You enable him to do it. By standing by and allowing it to happen. You need to get up and tell him this is unacceptable. Hold your head up and tell him he doesn't deserve you. That you deserve an honest caring man not a selfish self centered one. Walk out that door and never look back. It doesn't get better. They will cheat and cheat. Mine did for 3 years (and I never knew) and he would be today if I didn't find out.
  • Would you say that cheating on tests is fun? He obviously has a problem with being in a committed relationship and that is something HE must deal with - not you. You deserve someone whose affection for you will not be changed by the length of the next girl's skirt. True love and affection transcends this - and he obviously isn't ready to make that kind of commitment to you. It may be tough now to break it off - but it will be tougher later. And eventually, when you find someone that cares about you like that - it may not be the first one or the second, but when it does happen then you will know you made a good decision, and it will all be worth it.
  • I'm amazed how you fail to see the situation here. It's not about whether or not you can get him to stop cheating. It's about you getting out of the relationship; the faster, the better for you. In these kind of situations, you need to understand that your love for him doesn't make any difference whatsoever. As you can see, he doesn't really care about you caring for him - he enjoys his time with cheating. Now, cheating is of course a despicable thing to do and I definitely do not approve of that, but what you need to see here is that your relationship is as good as over. You don't want to go on with it. Oh but you love him? He doesn't love you. And a relationship is built on mutual affection, which in your case is not there. Now, some answers that have been given to this question have good points in them, but let me tell you, you cheating on him is NOT a solution here. Don't give yourself the weight of cheating on your shoulders - assuming you haven't cheated before - since a lot of guys really don't even go for a date with girls who have cheated. And open relationships are for people who aren't ready for a real one. You obviously are, so go do yourself a favor and leave the guy, since you can find yourself a better one.
  • You can't.He told you that it's fun.That means he likes it and will continue to do it.
  • What was your response when he told you "cheating was fun"? If your acting like it doesnt mater to you just to be strong, then I dont think your giving him any motive to stop. Tell him how you feel, and what you want. Decide what your going to do if he doesnt want to/ can't give you want you wait (for him to stop cheating).. and stick with it!.... .... so if you decide its over if he wont stop... then stay by your word - ITS OVER... dont let your self be treated like a door mat.
  • You don't..you either live with him cheating on you or you find someone who will treat you with respect and not betray you like that. A cheater will always cheat on you..it is sad, but it is true..a cheater will always find an excuse.."it's fun"..."you let yourself go" "you don't like the things I do" " you don't try to please me"..whatever it is, it is always your fault. So, do you want to live that way? Would you want your children to watch you live that way? I hope not! :(
  • by leaving him
  • If that's how he feels about it, you can't. Dump him and find a guy who won't cheat.
  • How can you be with someone who thinks that way, and would treat you that way? Gain some respect for yourself. He's being stupid, so I suggest you not be stupid too. Leave him, and don't look back.
  • You can't change him. You might as well stop letting him mess with your mind and end your so-called relationship with him. The words he used don't even show that he's sorry for what he did.
  • Pack up and move on, he'll get the message yo...
  • once a cheater always a cheater
  • Lose the loser yo...
  • Leave him now! That is the WRONG attitude. You want someone who treats you well and wants only you! You deserve that precious gift. I know you love him, but please respect yourself enough..he's no good!
  • Don't. Just get rid of the bastard. He isn't good enough for you if he loves to cheat on you! You don't deserve to be treated like that.
  • mimic what he does hurt him so bad. then dump him. u be the player.
  • You can't. And don't lower yourself to his level. Never try to get revenge...it will always come back to you. The mature thing to do is to leave the situation, which I know hurts A LOT. But being with a cheater will only lead to heartache.
  • Your loving the wrong kind of guy for the wrong reasons. If he feels that cheating is fun, then he dnt respect you. You def. dnt need a guy like that
  • you don't get him to stop cheating... what you need is to get you to stop loving him. Dumping him asap is the first step
  • He's scum...you deserve better...nobody deserves to be cheated on, nobody.
  • he said cheating is fun!!!!.. why dont u cheat on him n c if he still findz it fun??... evry girl deservez an honest and faithfull guy .. DUMP HIS ASS n let him have fun cheating on someone els...
  • You could castrate him. You could leave him. You could also stop being so undesirable. Actually, I can't be too sure about the validity of that last statement.

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