ANSWERS: 23
  • Only if you really believe things will stay platonic. If not, don't open that Pandora's box.
  • I agree about the pandora's box! Be VERY careful.
  • that isn't really fair for his wife. I don't think he should hang out with you for you are only temptation. Inappropriate!
  • It's wrong for him to have told you or another person that he has a crush on you. It's just wrong and is a form of cheating and dishonoring his wife. By encouraging his feelings or flirting with him you are dishonoring their marriage. I don't know what you would want from such a man anyway.
  • as long as you and I keep it platonic I will keep it a secret no more, that I think your partner is very fortunate to have you. You must be a very happy lady. you have as far as i know you, you have a very sharp wit and honest approach to your handling of situations on the bag. i know i got off topic and thats all your fault i have not seen your activity but i know your plutonic flirting on the bag is all in good fun, but if you ask me a question i wil answer asap.
  • Drop it like a hot potato. Could this possibly be at work? Then don't just drop it . . . squish it. This is going no where and one of you will get tired of it before the other and someone gets hurt. Been there, done that.
  • Yikes! Be careful.
  • he's married! proceed at your own risk.
  • Sounds like the temptation and intention are there. Walk away, don't be the other woman. He will eventually find another woman that will get him divorced. Then there is the perspective that if he is thinking about cheating on his current wife, would you really want to be with him?
  • even if its platonic, its cheating because he is thinking of you when he should be thinking of his family. And I thought I could never cheat - but did. Most people will in just the exact right circumstances
  • He's MARRIED!! Its not ok...both of you should stop being selfish and think about how it would make his wife feel, and his kids too (if he has them that is)
  • Constant temptations will ruin a relationship. Period. You should avoid him.
  • NO, NO, NO!!! Emotional affairs are just as damaging as physical ones, and although you may 'think' you can keep it platonic you don't know what could evolve. STAY AWAY so that is never a situation you end up in. It's not fair to you, him or his wife.
  • He is married. I repeat. He is married. Leave the bloke be. Period.
  • Nope. Cheating just doesn't happen in the bedroom. It happens in the heart and the mind. And if you facilitate someone's heart and mind wandering from their spouse, then it would be as bad or worse than if you did sleep with him. Take it from a guy going through a rough patch in his marriage. The last thing I want is the attention of a woman that doesn't respect me enough to not want me to stay focused on my marriage.
  • If you have feelings more than platonic, it's not OK. The crush part will lead to other temptations & I hope you are a good person to not want to be a part of a broken marriage. If his marriage is f'ed up already, keep a clear conscious & take no part in it. Someone else will come along & he'll jump the wagon to get out of the marriage. Don't do anything that you wouldn't want someone to do to you.
  • Not Okay. Please drop it! Temptation is the most powerfull ruler of our body and soul. If you give in for wrong reason, knowing well that the other guy is married and he is going to cheat his wife than you are heading of a disaster. Overcome your temptation and the crush and head up for a good green future! Drop this guys and try to explain to him so that he does not have crush on any more girls like you. All the best!
  • what he does to her , he will do to you - do you want a guy who screws around on you?
  • It's wrong to look at another man that is taken. It always leads to more than just a crush. It can become physical or emotional attachment. It's not fair to the one that is fully commited to him. Please consider yourself in his wife's shoes.
  • Both of you are on the wrong path; I do back the suggestions of some members, drop this idea, crush your temptation, and cross your fingers, since a prosperous life is ahead of YOU. Good LUCK!
  • Here is a good guideline: Ask his wife how she feels, if it is okay or not, and see what answer you get. I think you know what that answer would be, and that should tell you if it is OKAY or not.
  • The trouble is if you have feeling for each other, things won't stay platonic. This is just asking for trouble in the long run.
  • NOOOOOOOO!!! This is not okay!! I know you like him, but he's taken. Tough luck, sweetie. You don't want to be one to break up a marriage. If you were married, would you want your s/o to be crushing on someone else? When you like someone enough, it's hard to keep things in perspective. Nobody will keep things in check but you and him, and if you maintain your subtly-flirting relationship, things will move past platonic.

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