ANSWERS: 51
  • I have 2 wonderful children and I really pity anyone who never experiences the joys I experience every day!
  • I have two awesome boys, aged 9 and 1. And a baby on the way. I find out if its a girl Monday, woo hoo! I couldn't imagine my life without them.
  • I'd want to wait a long time before I have children when I get married
  • I definitely want to have children......... The trick is finding someone I want to have children WITH.........
  • I'm not ruling out the possibility, but I'm not longing to have kids either. I don't wanna have kids just for the sake of having them. If they come, then good. If not, then not.
  • I can't imagine not having children eventually. First, I'd like to do all I can with my desire to travel and work abroad but I'd love to have a few kids around after. I think I'd like to go for three, two girls and a boy, but I know I'll be happy with any. I even have the names picked out already. :)
  • I have wonderful grown sons and I love them and glad I have them
  • I have no kids and never wanted them ...I love kids and get along with them like a house on fire and ALL my friends can't understand it ... I knew and still know that I wouldn't have made a good dad , so it would have been unfair to them in the long run
  • I want to have at least one child. Just don't tell my family. I've said so many times to them, "I'm never having kids!"
  • Ok, I guess I'll answer my own question. I chose to remain childfree indefinitely, be on that decision after I turned 16. I have a number of reasons why I want to remain childless. Now, I don't hate children, it's just that kids aren't for everybody. Hopefully one day, I'll met a girl who feels the same way.
  • I answered that question 9 years ago. it's been great to be a parent. I was childfree for a long time and Vacillated between the two life style until it was almost to late. Having a child is permanently life altering
  • I think as a society we put a lot of emphasis on starting/raising a family. I respect a person's decision not to have a child. Those people have obviously been honest enough with themselves to understand the HUGE RESPONSIBILITY that comes with having children. If they decide that that is more responsibility than they can handle or want, those people should be applauded for their honest and sober self-evaluation.
  • i am 100% going to have children. I was menat to be a mommy, i just know it. If i couldn't have a child I would adopt one and love it. I dont' have kids yet, not married.
  • i would like to have children now but i know and as well as my boyfriend that we are not finacially ready but sometimes i think i cant even have any and if not maybe im not meant to be a mommy but i love watching everyone elses kids
  • I've been child-free for 62 years. I certainly wouldn't want to quit a winning streak.
  • I would like to have children in the future, most definitely. Almost everyone says it is a difficult but rewarding experience. I would never want to be too old to have kids and then look back, thinking, "How might my life have been different?"
  • I have a little baby boy and it is the best thing that ever happened to me, children are a true gift from God
  • Unbelievable! People so smug and self righteous that they can say they pity or feel sorry for those who don't share their actions of reproducing themselves. Having kids is not for everyone but unfortunately too many people reproduce without so much as a plan. Some people in fact take more time deliberating upon what type of car to buy than they do as to whether or not to have kids. There is no law that says all humans must reproduce. And clearly a lot of people shouldn't otherwise there would not be so much child abuse in the world as there is. For those who say people who don't have kids will never know joy. Many things can bring joy to people's lives. Kids may be one of them but certainly not all of them.
  • I decided long ago that I do NOT want to have children. I feel no need to reproduce myself...my partner and I share a wonderful childfree life--by choice. We need no one to pity us. So sad that the childed feel this need to condescend to those who do not share their desire to reproduce.
  • I want to have a baby in a year or two. I do not look down on people who choose not to have children. Why should I care?
  • I have a child, I don't really want another.
  • My advice is to wait as long as possible before having children. Become financially able and also take the time in life to learn to love yourself so that you can love your children to the fullest. After all, children are worth it, and deserve the best we could possibly do for them, actually they deserve more than we could ever conceive of providing, but we do the best we can. Children are wonderful! (I have two) And they're an experience like none other.. it's better to be ready for it, than for it to take you by surprise, and believe me, there are plenty of surprises that none can avoid. :) They grow up fast and it's amazing!
  • I have two little ones. A boy, almost 5 and a girl 20 months and I could NOT imagine my life without them. When people say that it's an experience like no other that you would not want to miss - that is an understatment. And this is coming from a person who swore to be childfree for years. I am not even a real "kid person".
  • I decided years ago that I was not cut out to be a parent. I don't hate children but they bore me cross-eyed after about 30 minutes. I have never wanted to experience pregnancy or childbirth and see nothing beautiful or glorious about the whole process. I have no problem with people who choose otherwise and think this is the greatest thing that could happen to them. We each have the right to make our choices and hold our opinions. Pity? I don't see that there's any need for pity on either side. To each his own.
  • I have one who will be 21 this year. The only way I would want anymore is if I met and fell inlove with someone who already had children of their own. (which today it is almost impossible to meet someone who doesn't have kids unless I want to be branded as a pedophile by dating a 12 yr old) As far as producing any more of my own my baby making days are over. I am not interested in starting all over again with changing diapers and walking the floor half te night with a sick crying baby.
  • We choose to remain child free but have alot of nieces,nephews and friend's children to "borrow"
  • I do not want to have children. I don't want the stress of being a mother. I am also not good at dealing with extreme pain. And, my body stops working if I don't get enough sleep. On top of this, I'd also not like to pass on my disabilities to my children. There's already enough bad blood in the world.
  • I am quite passed the age to have any children. I have had two great and handsome boys, I was ready for parenting and wanted to have kids. Some people are not ready, some others don't want kids as they feel they can not commit to such a responsibility. It so, it is best for them to have kids when they deem it convenient, if they don't ever want kids their decisions must be respected. Yes there are also very many people who are dying to have kids but life has not given them that opportunity. Regards.
  • As of now,I don't want to have a child..Simply because I'm too young for the responsibility.But when the right time comes I would love to have one.
  • My husband and I never wanted children but said that if they came they would be welcomed and loved. We never did have children and now it's too late for me. I thought that maybe I wold regret it as I got older but strangely I don't. We have loved being just a couple together, exploring life as a family of two. We go years spending 24/7 together and still find each other exciting and learn things all the time.
  • I have two small children. The first was planned and the second "unplanned". But I love both equally and very much. My wife and I do not plan on having more kids, but if another is conceived "unplanned," so be it. I would welcome him/her with loving arms.
  • Im 39 and have 2 children. A 19 y.o. Boy and a 14 y.o girl. Both were unplanned and are to different mothers. I cannot express the amount of love I have for both of my children. All the heartache and difficulties trying to pay rediculous amounts of child support, having to fight for the right to see them and trying to get on with life was all worth it. Kids make life worth while and the bond I have with my two is awesome. I would give my life for them.
  • I m a mom already and I can say that being a mom is not all the time pleasant since it requies energy and dedication and time and patience. I wouldn't change anything in my life because before I was a mom I had no meaning in my life now I m satisfied with my life and I have someone to work hard for and be the best I can be and definetely someone I truly love which is my children.
  • i can't wait to have kids. well, i can, because i'm not ready. but when i'm ready i can't wait. lol.
  • I am the mother of four beautiful children. Im not going to lie and say that its all been smooth sailing but i dont have not one regret. But my husband and i decided to not have more because children are not cheap. I wanted one more girl,but with the price of everything going up it would only be selfish,see i have three boys and one girl. They are the joy of my life the reason i press as hard as i do every day. To those withuot children there is nothing wrong with that either its your choice. For those who cant have children i pray that God feel your life with something just as precious.
  • Yes, I want to stay childfree indefinitely. I had a vasectomy 3 years ago, at 25, and I've never looked back. I grew up in a troubled home, with an abusive father, but mostly when he wasn't abusive, he both passively and actively said things to the effect that having children was a curse to him. My mother told me that each time she was pregnant, he asked her to have an abortion, for both me and my brother. When she told him she was pregnant 10 years after I was born with my brother, he first asked "is it mine?", and then went out to a bar to "think about things". His solution, which they at first tried EDIT:[to hide] from me, was abortion. He actually finally convinced her, and, as a perceptive child even then, I sensed something very wrong one day, and told my mother not to do anything to hurt my brother or sister, and that was the day she went to the clinic. Fortunately, my brother had been like a ninja fetus, not showing until much later, and so she found out she was too far along for that clinic to comfortably give her the abortion (I think it may have been illegal in that county or something possibly). She also saw the healthy fetal boy on the sonogram they took, and decided she absolutely wouldn't do it. The only reason I wasn't aborted was because my father HAD successfully convinced my mother to have an abortion that severely traumatized her 2 years earlier, and she outright refused. Sometimes, when my father was angry with me, he would tell me that they may have aborted the "wrong one". Later, when I was 12, I found out that my father, before he came to America with my mother, left three ex-wives, two of them with children (3 and 1), in Holland. He ditched them and the country to avoid paying child support. Now, at 70, he's more or less successfully weaseled his sociopathic nose back into their lives, visiting them occasionally, and calling somewhat frequently, probably out of some fear of being hated or unmissed when he dies. His son with his third wife won't talk to him, and they've actually never even MET (even as a baby), because my father slept with his third wife's best friend while she was delivering to "punish her" for something he felt she had done wrong, and then left her and filed for divorce, uninterested in the child. Because of damage done to my brother's mental condition, he had to move out of my parents' house and into mine (I pushed hard for that) at 14 (he's 19 now). He's schizophrenic and I take care of him, and make sure he gets the right care, with little or no financial support from our father, who uses the little support he gives us as an excuse to try to control or manipulate us into keeping a place for him in our lives. I love my brother more than I love my own life (and I love than third to none!), and can't imagine, and don't want to, love anyone more or as much. I never really had much of a childhood, nor have I, throughout my 20s, really had the opportunity to do anything but care for my brother and work, so I know what the "joys" and the "responsibilities" of having someone dependent on you are, and although, out of love, I gladly care for my brother, and don't have any regrets, I would never make that choice again. I also don't particularly like babies very much. They're horrible creatures to me - it's only when they start to talk that they start to seem human and cute to me. So I probably had complex psychological reasons that led me to make the decision to have a vasectomy and remain childfree. But I'm also a very self-aware person, and a skeptic even regarding my own feelings and motivations. And I can honestly say that, although there was an emotional aspect, my decision was also based on very rational grounds. By the way, I was never scared I would become my father, because I saw my father never show any sympathy or compassion, whereas I knew I felt it. But fatherhood just wasn't for me. I don't even really like to be in a relationship for very long, because of the feeling that too much of my time is expected of me. The only friends I have understand and maybe even appreciate that I'm low maintenance and may not always call or write back, and it's nothing personal. I really really need and cherish my space. Babies, or even grown children, don't allow for much space. Sex has also been more enjoyable since the vasectomy, because of the lack of anxiety about pregnancy scares, and whenever I'm in a long term relationship with someone I trust, it means we can be "safe", without a condom, which is nice. When I have casual sex, I still use a condom to protect myself and, potentially, my partner (besides, I don't go around telling every date I cut myself down there!).
  • Im not really into the whole children thing, i love baby sitting/childminding which I used to do as a job. Im so career minded that Ive never considered it really. though if I couldnt have children id be broken really. My new boyfriend is 19 and his ex girlfriend is pregnant, she used him to get pregnant and left him for a girl as she is lesbian not bi like me. Their baby is due on my 18th birthday how cliche! My parents dont know about the baby yet, I dont want them to judge him before they get to know him. Its a mess really. I do really like this guy, Im happy and he expects nothing from me. He was not interested in being part of his baby's life and I said Id respect him for signing the birth cert as its not the baby's fault and I think he should be involved and that Ill help him. Its mad because Im in full time ed taking 5 a-levels, dancing, was working now im searching for a new job then onto university. so no choice for me
  • I already have three wonderful boys. I wouldn't mind one more and try for my girl.
  • i love kids, but have never wanted to get married and don't think i would be a good mom on my own..so i decided a long time ago not to have kids..but i have alot of kids in my life that i love.
  • I have 3 sons.
  • I want to some day but now is not the right time for me. I still have to mature enough, i'm young. I love children but they can be quite a handful
  • A son (18) and a daughter (20)
  • I have four.
  • i want children in ten yrs
  • True, I have children.
  • True. I have 2 of each.
  • Both. But, at my age, I guess I should stick with the "I have children" version.
  • True. I have one of each.
  • False that I have children, true that I (eventually) want them.
  • I love you Munchkin.
  • True, I have one son.

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