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  • I sit them down next to me, they seem to see it as a naughty seat and after a bit of moaning they start to behave and things are back to normal, it takes a few times of this before they realise it as a punishment but I class it more as a "time out" for them to think about things, it has worked for me from around the age of 1 1/2, good luck. :o)
  • I used to totally ignore it unless I already had my hands on them (You know, the "throw myself on the floor flopping fit that some children are good at). If I already had my hands on them I'd sit them in a chair and say "you stay right there" - and that was it. They'd pitch a fit for a little while, but after the negative behavior was causing them to be totally ignored, they quickly switched to pleasant behavior (which I rewarded with attention). I'm certain this is not the very best way to handle the situation, but I can tell you that by the time my 5 kids were 4 years old, they had exceptional manners.
  • The naughty step.
  • My kids had the occasional fit in a store or during a family gathering or whatever. They are generally because they want something and you say no. I just dropped whatever (left grocery carts where they sat or whatever) and took my kid home and put them in their room. They learn quickly that a fit doesn't get them anything.
  • If we were at home, I completly ignored them and it didn't take long for them to realize it wasn't going to work. If you are out in public it is a little tricky, but we would always take them out to the vehicle so as not to disturb other people and let them scream it out while we pretended to ignore them. It is a trying phase but it does pass quickly!
  • I do not have children, but I have a background in ABA therapy, which is used to help children with Autism. They sometimes throw fits when they are frustrated. The way we handle it is if they are in an area that is not public, you let them go nuts and walk away, far enough they can see you but not looking directly at them. the lack of attention will most likely quiet down. It's called negative punishment. You are taking away your contact and presence as a punishment. If you are in a public place, I suggest you remove them from the area and then follow the same steps.
  • when my middle son pitched a fit once @ the grocery~i just walked down the isle like he wasn't mine..haha when he noticed i was turning the corner he got up and followed~not another problem with him and i thought i had figured it out UNTIL....my youngest son pulled the same stunt @ best buy a few yrs later~i tried ignoring him thinking i'd get the same response and that's when he said "fine....mommy" (keep in mind he's 3) and started for the front of the store when i realized he was actually gonna walk out the front door....i had to sprint to catch him! then i "gently" escorted him to the car and popped his bottom good ;) i had to laugh though....my lesson: every child is different!
  • The old fashion way was a spanking...and I am thinking that was not all that bad compared to what I see these days. I am not talking beatings....just a spanking
  • I used to be a doer on the side of completly ignoring the behavoir. My son will be two the end of next month, so as of now, he is not very good at expressing his frustrations. I read in a book that the best way for kids my sons age to get rid of negitive tantrum energy is to phisically work it out. You can have them jump up and down on a pile of laundry, or color really agressivly on some paper, for example. My son it to young to understand or do these things on his own yet. So, I just started helping him last night. I hold him by his torso, either facing me or away and bounce him up and down so he is "jumping" I made up a little song about how he was angry, mad and upset. It validated what he was feeling, and got out the negitive energy. 15 seconds of jumping and he was ready to go! I was really surprized at how well this works, and highly recommend at least giving it a try to anyone dealing with some "terrible twos."
  • yea, throwing a fit or a tantrum is just a way that may be a good way to get attention on their behalf. what generally is a good solution is putting a child on time out, a spefically designated spot you will allways know will be clear. an exact seat in the living room, the bottom step on the stairs, a patch of ground in the living room if they throw a fit or tantrum just go up to them, pick them up and say to their face, your behavior is not the way to get things, or "you have been misbehaving, i'm going to put you on the timeout seat to calm down for X amount of minutes" X mintues can be decided on severity and amound of misbehaviour. usally 1 minute per year old they are would be enough time. then after they have done their time, go up to them and kneel down to their eye level, then ask for an apology and maybie a cuddle, if they need more time out time give them that time again or less if needed if they run away or get up from time out or shout then just run the whole routine again, pick them up, sit them down and say "you've got to sit here for 5 minutes because you have been misbehaving" don't give them any attention while they should be at the time out place, even though they may start crying or screaming dont crumble. the time out spot will lose its effect if it can be evaded by a scream or shout
  • They are put in safe place where they can not hurt themselves, and then they are ignored until the fit is over. After they are calm, we explain what they did wrong and our expectations on how to correct it and also warnings/punishment if necessary.
  • My kids do not throw fits ... If they did, I would stand still, motionless, and in a dull, boring, monotone voice, I would ask, "I am so glad to see you so emotionally motivated about something. Now, can you put that into writing, in such a way as to stimulate those who read it, into sharing your feelings and becoming similarly motivated?"
  • I'm the mom who has left an entire cart full of groceries in the middle of the store, picked up my child and walked out. That meant deli slices with a side of raisins accompanied by a fine glass of tap water for dinner. Soda crackers optional. No dessert. The next day back to the grocery with well behaved children. Success! Big yummy dinner with dessert! Momma don't do public tantrums. At home I tell my kids that they can flip out if they want to, but they need to go into another room to do it, where they are not disturbing the peace for the rest of us. Only one of kids ever did this. LOL! *shakes head in confusion* The rest of them snap out of pretty quickly. I like to give them a chance to talk about whatever is frustrating them and give an opportunity for them to try and figure things out if possible. I also always give lots of kudos when the kids are well behaved, whether at home or out and about. I sincerely appreciate when they are good listeners and play nicely together, so I try to convey that to them often. I think it helps to keep them on track.

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