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Patti jo
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No.
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Yeah! That's because I know personally how hard it is to keep a job ;)
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ONly if I did not need to rely on them for any financial support over the coming years. If I was independently wealthy or had a great career job that their finances did not matter then I would date them. If I was going to need their assistance in running the household or help with bills, etc., I would be very suspect of someone who couldn't stay employed.
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if they can't...then at least they're trying. if they won't...no way.
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No way, it would become too frustrating having someone to depend on you for everything like a child. I would bet someone like that would be lazy or have other problems if they can't or won't keep a job.
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No, there is no support system for yourself there.
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No I couldn't aford to keep him
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Is she hot?
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No! No Way! My ex bf was unemployed and was collecting welfare. He was SO lazy and expected me to work and support him well he sat on his ass all day chain smoking and playing video games. It should say a lot about someone's character if they can't or won't keep a job. Usually they are unmotivated and lack stability.
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I most definitely will not. I want and need a man in my life who will be responsible and who can keep a steady, well paying job.
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It depends. I lose respect for someone who is irresponsible with their job, but I wouldn't mind having a housewife someday if I made enough money to support the decision.
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Date maybe, marry no way i think that if the are not stable enough to keep a job then the same thing goes for a relationship. imo.
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no...only date them if they were fun and offered more, but normally if i date a guy that doesn't have a job and i always do...so the relationship never seemed to last long...
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Absolutely NOT. I had an ex who could not keep a job for anything. He was there for me, he wrote me poems, made me feel loved, but when it came down to it at the end of the day, ALL the financial responsibility weighing down on me, and everything depended on me. Those poems, those little things he did, didn't pay the bills. It just didn't cut it anymore. Just him having an actual stable job and lifting some financial weight off my shoulders would have showed me he loved me more than 100 song he wrote.
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Look up my mother, no i wouldnt. If i want to date a male version of my mother i will but they arent appealing to me.
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i have, i went through a stage where i decidedly chose losers. lessons lived, lessons learned. i am one hard-headed girl but once i get severely screwed over i tend to react. so to answer your question, HELL NO!
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I depends on the circumstances. When I was newlywed, my husband kept getting laid off do to a company move, merger, whatever. This was through no fault of his own. If someone is habitually quitting jobs or doesn't want to work, I would not pursue a relationship with that person. Boyfriend number 2 was out of work quite a bit and I ended up footing the bill for many dates. Besides that, his attitude was not for me.
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If it is a normal healthy person, no way.
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It would depend on whether it was "Can't" or "Won't". If I loved the person and wanted to be with them, it wouldn't matter much to me if they were having difficulty holding down a job, as long as they cared enough to *Try* if their income was necessary to support their loved ones. If I was working to support us while they sat on their arse complaining and making excuses, then I'd dump them quicker than you can say "Welfare Line". But if they had say... Lost a job and were still in the process of finding a new one, or if they were physically incapable of working, I'd be willing to put up with that for a while. Not forever, it could only go on so long before becoming a major issue in the relationship, but if I loved them, I wouldn't have any problem pulling some extra weight for them for a while.
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No, I wouldn't, it shows this person is irresponsible. no self disapline, no ethics. Wouldn't even date. He'd always be late, you'd have to pay, and he could go on for hours talking about how unfair life is.
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Yes I would so long as it is with the understanding that they must not expect to live an extravigant lifestyle. I will not put myself deep into debt to accomodate someones wants and desires. If they can understand that then I have no issues with them being totally dependent on me for their financial support.
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"job", yes, I'd marry/live with them. Pursue a dream? no. You gotta be on track. That's why I'm single now, because I'm on track, to GETTING on track. as weird as that sounds
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yes i would,he can be a stay at home day and i could bring in the income for the family.
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Finances are the number one reason for divorce in the United States. I'll take my chances with a woman with a job. I might even go so far as to call myself a gold digger. With money issues in the way of everything else a couple will have a hard time getting along unless they are both putting in the time and effort to make it work. If I had kids later on and one of us had to quit our job in order to take on the job of raising offspring then that would be trading one job for another job and perfectly acceptable. However if a girl just refuses or is so useless and lazy that she cant keep a job then thats her problem and her problem alone. I'm not about to have kids I cant afford because im not a low class child abuser. If I cant afford my children because my wife didnt put effort in early on and I'm forced to abuse them by putting them in the public schooling system or government indoctrination centers, then I dont think that was the wife for me.
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I have been in relationships with men like this in the past, because I was an IDIOT. Neither relationship worked out (shocker), and I certainly wouldn't do it again.
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Only if they were financially independent. I'm kidding. Anyone who isn't healthy enough to hold down a job probably lacks the skills to maintain a relationship as well.
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i wouldnt even go on a first date with someone without a job...well that seems harsh but i've dated enough guys without jobs to never date one again (i was younger then)
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No. Been there, done that, done with that. I need someone who will be on the same level as me, who is motivated, and who wants to better themselves. That lack of motivation and inability to keep commitment is a complete turn off.
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nope.
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No I don't think so.
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've been there a few times and won't do it again. I'd have to be a doctor to be able to afford a woman without a job. They're too damn expensive!!
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I do think women are looking for stability when it comes to dating and maybe marrying someone instead of a dead beat.
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Only if you plan on working your butt off while they flatten theirs
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I wouldn't. Why waste the time? If he didn't have a job when he met you what makes you think that things are going to change. In the end I think someone like that is looking for someone to take care or them. Also, you would always be paying for everything and coming out of your pockets. They wouldn't be able to treat you or take you on a date.
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i dont think i would want to because of the stress that would put on the relationship, but i guess you dont choose who you love... that would be too easy!
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I dated someone who worked much too hard for ten years, and retired comfortably at 33. So, I guess so. Yes. Far too many people work every single month. +1
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not exactly a good idea. In my oppinion it would be a good idead to both be finacially stable first before you two do anything like that. You two should still see eachother theres no doubt about that but yeah going out would be a good idea till he or she gets thier life together. If you two did get married... One person would constantly be paying for everything, and there would most likely be later arguements over this. So yeah liek i said, they should get a job first before you take the walk :P.
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If the "can't" pertains to things outside his control (health issues, etcetera), then I would give the relationship a chance. But the "won't" bothers me because it indicates that the person is used to people doing for him, taking care of him, bailing him out of tight spots (mummy and daddy had a hand in this, I suspect)..so he wouldn't make a good anything in my opinion. Now, if he is wealthy and doesn't need to hold a job, I would still want him to be productive..involved in charitable work, for instance. I've worked hard all my life..so there is no room in my life for a slothful, lazy, manipulating leech! :(
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No unless there's good reason for being fire but not for wanting to work
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no, i do not want a gigolo
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no... def not.
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Yes i would. if i love them as much as i do my gf right now, there would be nothing that would keep me from marrying them. As long as they try to work, its all good for me.
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Not again!
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how depressing. i just married a man with no job last year. he is financially independent (if he doesnt spend too much) from a job he did 6 years ago, but he wants to get one but never does anything about it. and it sucks. and im mug for marrying him whilst he had no job. if he had great hobbies that would be ok i suppose but he doesnt even have that..p.s i have a job that i love and i respect people who work hard and go out there and make it happen for themselves...so how come i married the opposite of what i love?
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If we love each other enough, yeah. I dated a guy for two years who never got a job.
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No...we each need to pull our own weight in this world..unless you are a married couple with kids and both decide that one of you will stay home to take care of the kids and the home and the other will go out to work, I wouldn't do it..also, it is a very bad example for kids to see one parent laying about the house playing video games and watching TV and the other going out to work and coming home to work! :(
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No, because it shows their level of commitment and 'stick to it-ness". If they are suffering from economically difficult times, that's one thing but if they can't even keep a job because of themselves, or refuse to stay doing one thing long enough to get somewhere, then I'm not interested in someone who is that flighty and needy on purpose.
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At most, I might date him to see what he has to offer, but I would have to think very hard about marrying him. If he's worth it (and by that I mean he has to be absolutely perfect in every other way), then I would, but otherwise all bets are off.
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Tough question. Is the person going through depression or some type of disorder? Regardless, how much of a burden can one carry to take care of someone else? If they are irresponsible and an ingrate then no way! But it sounds like there is more of an underlying story here...You may want to help but if you are taken for granted, remember that you have to love yourself first. A life lesson which is hard for most of us to do...
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I used to date a guy who refused to work. He was lazy, his mum paid his rent and bought his food. He ended up sponging money off me all of the time. NEVER AGAIN will I put up with a person like that. If a man wants to work but can't then I may consider, depending on the circumstances.
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Hell no, that's a real problem in the making. Remember don't accept something now, and in a couple of years you will regret it.
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no
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Nope. Not a chance in hell. If I'm going to financially support a freeloader, that person better contain my DNA and have been sqeezed out of my uterus. Gainful employment is quite a turn on, boys;)
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HONESTLY NO AND YOU SHOULDNT EITHER, HOW CAN YOU EXPECT THEM TO BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND MAYBE A FAMILY ONE DAY OR EVEN HELP YOU OUT IF THAT PERSON CANT HOLD A STEADY JOB? YOU HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT IS IN YOUR BEST INTEREST EVEN IF IT MIGHT SOUND SELFISH BUT YOU NEED TO WATCH OUT FOR YOURSELF TOO. TRYIN TO KEEP A JOB AND LOOSING IT TO THE FACT YOU GOT LAID OFF OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT IS ONE THING WORTH WAITING OUT AND TRYING TO SEE THE OUT COME AS LONG AS HES TRYING TO FIND ANOTHER JOB BUT IF HES JUST LAZY AND DONT WANT TO KEEP A JOB OR CANT BECAUSE THERE ARE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS THAT MATTER TO HIM THEN LOOSE HIM FAST EVEN IF YOU MIGHT LOVE HIM. IF HE LOVES YOU HELL UNDERSTAND WHY YOUR DUMPING HIM AND HELL EITHER STRAIGHTEN UP AND GET HIS HEAD ON RIGHT OR HELL STAY THE SAME AND IF THATS THE CASE AT LEAST YOU GOT READ OF HIM WHEN YOU DID!
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my boyfriend is a lazy git hates working but i love him so i dont care if he doesnt work love is more important that money
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Heck no, I get up and I go to work everyday. I've bought my self a bran new car, I pay my bills. If someone doesn't have a job, they cann't give me the things i can give my self. So nope, been ther done that. Not happening .
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Well, I can't keep a job, usually because i'm so tired I have to sleep. I'm bothered with depression because of it, so it gets worse before it gets better. Not that I don't want one, just can't keep them. Doc says chronic fatigue syndrome.....i'd rather keep trying than go on the sick and give up!
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I wouldnt make it serious.
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yes, sure if i have the money to support someone else no problem. but, now a days you need two incomes to make ends meet
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i wouldn't be able to be with someone who didn't put in the same effort as i did in our relationship and/or life together.
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You need to look at the reasons why they can not keep a job. These commitment issues need to be explored before marriage. Perhaps they are depressed? Me personally, it would worry me ...
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i wouldn't even date someone who couldn't keep a job let alone marry someone
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I wouldn't date (or marry) anyone who wasn't willing to hold a job. I don't care what job they have, how much they make, etc - but they should be willing to find and hold a job. If they lose one job, they need to find another.
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No, I would never! It shows that the person has a chronic sense of irresponsibility. And that would also mean that I would have to support him- no way. Relationships should be a two way street. I was used by my last bf who also didn't have a job and I don't want to repeat that again!
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and end up paying for everything? you must be joking
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THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL I WOULD MARRY SOMEONE THAT WON'T KEEP A JOB, HOW WILL HE/SHE HELP PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY?
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If i loved the person enough i would no matter what they go threw if you really truly love them you will be by there side.
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date maybe Marry No
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marry, hell no. date, maybe. just hope they dont start mooching off you. maybe they need an ego boost to find a job.
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No way.
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that is such a vague question, it really depends on the circumstances ...
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it honestly depends on how you think of him if you really and truly love him you might be able to get pass that but honestly i would have to date someone who can take care of himself before i deal with that
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Is that before or after you find them useless.
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Definitely Not! If they can't or won't keep a job then they don't care about themselves so how are they going to care about you.
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Marry? No... Date? Not likely...
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Two words: Hell NO!!!!!!! Unless he's independently wealthy, someone who can't or won't keep a job is someone I don't even want to know, much less date or marry. That's someone who will only bring you down - "Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas."
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Well that depends. A job is not the only way a person can make an honest living. Perhaps that person is more suited to owning his or her own business than working for someone else. Sometimes a little creativity, focus and guidance in analyzing their talents and skills is all that is necessary to put such a person on the path to financial independence, high self esteem and financial wealth. But if my honey did not have such skills or interests, I would date or marry him/her only if I made a lot of money and was 100% prepared to carry the financial load of the household and relationship all alone. Ms. HeartBeat http://www.askheartbeat.com
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I think dating is fine. But I would never marry someone who didn't have a good job. Why should they get to stay home all day while I'm bustin' my ass at work!
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generally i think it would mean that they couldn't take care of themselves or they were flaky, or found it easier to take advantage and mooch off others. i value work ethics if they had none, it would be hard to see eye to eye at times i'd think
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I've dated guys who weren't responsible in the job department while we were together. But were when we weren't. Kind of like I was their crutch or something. I say it depends, but would immediately raise a red flag because I would be reminded of my past experiences with this.
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HELL NO! I had a three year relationship with someone who woulsn't work and it was a huge waste of time b/c we never had money to go any where or do anything...plus once I got a job he expected me to take care of everything.....Thats an experience I would never like to have again
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nope. i'll be running in the opposite direction
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Date casually, yes. Anything more serious than that, no.
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Don't do it! I'm just found out that my husband doesn't want to work. We have been married for 2 1/2 yrs. He doesn't want to make his resume out. And at this time he want to become a realtor. What a bad choice at this time. I have money in my saving. He ask me to do something with it. He want me to invest it. But I do not want to do that. This money I recieved from my old job before we got married. I know how to save and he has no saving at this time. I told I would not support him if he did not get a job and I told him this marriage would not work if that's what you married me for.He is so obsessed with my saving. This is not the first time we had this conversation which was hard to contine with this relationship. Now I know for sure it will not work out.
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NO chance i wouldnt keep an idle lazy bum for nothing,we all have to contribute and pay our way why should one do it all unless they are a house wife/husband and looking after the kids then thats different
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NO chance i wouldnt keep an idle lazy bum for nothing,we all have to contribute and pay our way why should one do it all unless they are a house wife/husband and looking after the kids then thats different
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NO chance i wouldnt keep an idle lazy bum for nothing,we all have to contribute and pay our way why should one do it all unless they are a house wife/husband and looking after the kids then thats different
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No that is not a good sign, it says alot on how he is goin to be in a relatinship with you. N when he has no job, guess who hes gonna ask for $, n guess whos gonna be stuck paying for 2 all the time :(
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HELL NO!!!! the most i would do is sleep with them if they were good in bed!! HA!
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i think i will go though the pain with him have you watch pursuit of happyness I wouldnt leave my man and child
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HELL NO!
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No way. I have 3 kids, don't need a fourth.
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ABSOLUTLY NOT!!!GET RID OF THE LOSER!
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Not a good thing to do.
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I did once and I knew it would lead to no good. I'd never marry someone who couldn't pull their own weight.
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It depends on why they cannot keep a job as to whether I would date or marry them. They could have a health disorder such as being disabled etc. or a substance abuse problem of which they are seeking treatment for.
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if we live together it will be a little too supporting me and him. why cant he keep a job maybe he is lazy, no ways gal dump him.
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no. if they can't put in their share in life then how can they truly commit to a relationship both emotionally and financially.
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I wouldn't simply because, that person isn't responsible. If they were, they'd do the adult thing, and keep a job, or even better, a career? Really, you'll always be the one in the relationship paying for things, dealing with bills, and even worse.. let's say the individual you're with starts spending all the money you work hard for, like it was water. You'd probably deserve better.
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In this day and age I'm not really sure if it's that much of a surprise how many people attribute "working on a relationship" with the hours spent between 9 and 5, (or longer) time your probably not spending with each other or your kids. I'm not saying money isn't important but with the "attitude" people posting here have i'm sure most of you will end up marrying 2-3 gainfully employed people over the course of your life. Most people need money to survive. It takes a bit more to start living. Like making sure someone is "secure" in a few other departments before you check their back pocket. You'd willingly pass up the chance to meet someone you actually could connect with to have a house with a four-car garage and a TV screen big enough to see up Sarah Jessica Parker's nose? What does that say about you as a person? Also, it seems a lot of people are ok with dating the jobless bum for a while, mooching what they need to survive in terms of human comfort, but get upset when jobless bum wants you to shout them a feed. Jobless bum has holes to fill as well! I'd rather resent a person for who they are than what they have.
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