ANSWERS: 100
  • I could get over it for a after a while and move on.
  • Well I wouldn't be with that guy ever again so I would get over it....hurts just for a little while then mad takes over.
  • Get over it eventually.
  • If that caused us to break up, then yes. I would be 100% over it whenever I was over them. I'd move on. However, if I stayed with them afterwards, I think there would always be this little... point 01 percent of me that just couldn't 100% forgive them. and the trust would be damaged and probably could never be fully restored.
  • A 90 % I would get over it and would hurt a 10% whenever i'll think about it.
  • I myself believe it is something that most of us will never get over 100% with. But as time goes on, we some how learn to cope with it. And place it behind us were it belongs. And move on with our lives to the fullest. Just my own point of view tho......M.C.S.
  • nah, i would forgive him... but still the pain on their action would never go away.
  • No I don't think anyone gets entirely over it, but eventually most people get past it and go on. Speaking from personal experience, it does not hurt after a while, and I refuse to allow anyone with no more consideration for me than that to affect my life for any length of time.
  • I don't imagine I could......Knowing that she was in the arms of another would change the dynamics of everything. I don't think the relationship would survive....She would be taking alot of crap from me.
  • Looking back, I was cheated on when I was married but I don't blame him, I blame myself, so it doesn't urt at all
  • I think in terms of that person you'll never be 100% over it. You'll never be able to trust THAT person again, and shouldn't be with him because it won't last very long. You'll end up driving yourself crazy with suspicions. But you do have to accept the fact that all men aren't the same, and you'll find someone that will give you no doubt and someone that you can trust will all of your heart. The hurt will go away when you don't have to worry about it anymore.
  • Never been cheated on, but I think if I was that I would never get over it.
  • like a broken leg..it heals..but you will always limp a little.
  • The hurt fades, its the memory of being cheated on that lingers. You'll never forget it happened.
  • My first husband cheated on me. I'm 100% over it.
  • well my boyfriend cheated on me in the begining of our relationship. Then i got back at him which wasn't a good thing to do but i still did it to get revenge. after a year and 7 months i still think about it, but we are in love and i tend not to think about it.
  • I was the one that did the cheating and my husband thinks about it everyday. I had a really rough marriage (that doesn't justify what I did) and I was getting attention from someone and that felt good. My husband is very forgiving, but I don't know if he will be able to fully trust me again. Cheating is a bad thing. We all make mistakes and go on, but it is always there in the back of both parties' minds. Word of advice***don't cheat!!!!! It makes everything so miserable...the guilt as well as the thought of being cheated on sucks and is something that no one should have to live with!
  • i have never found out that i was cheated on but i would imagine that i would not be able to fully trust that person again if we still dated...and it would continue to bother me in other relationships to come.
  • That is why I have an ex husband (well, that is one reason why). I am so over it and him!!
  • what if the two if you were dating and just starting to think about getting serious. Could you get over knowing that he'd slept with someone else during that time?
  • Answer #4, (da ben dan) is right on. The pain will fade, but you never "get over" ANYthing. It becomes a part of who you are.
  • I hurt my boyfriend badly and he took me back but I would NEVER do it again. It hurt both of us badly. It broke him in half. I was soooo ashamed. Even though he took me back, I'll regret it until I die. It is NOT worth it. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. It's HORRIBLE either way. And I realized too late that I love him so much that it makes me sick to know what I did. So it really depends. I once heard that the key to a good relationship is two really good forgivers. But please learn your mistakes and do not repeat them. Your lives will be in agony.
  • It would hurt all the time..1month, 2 years..it still hurts and that part can never really be repaired even if you forgive them
  • You will always remember what happened, but with a little professional help to try and understand WHY it happened, your relationship can grow in ways you wouldnt imagine.
  • I don't think I could ever be 100% over it.
  • I believe that, although you can 'get over' being cheated on - and more often than not, WILL get over it - you will probably learn from the experience. It may make you become more cautious d perhaps less trusting of people/partners in general, but I think you can come to terms with it and eventually, that trust will be in great measure, restored in that person/partner. I doubt someone would forget something ike that, but hasty action after a betrayal can often lead one to wondering what would have happened had they been a little more forgiving. "Don't spoil the bridge for a 'yard-of-tar'"
  • I wouldn't allow myself to be anything less than 100% over it. It would severely tarnish my life otherwise. If I couldn't be 100% over it while still in a relationship with the particular person who cheated, than I would just have to move on to another lover. Like they say, you can forgive but you can never forget. Staying with a cheater requires them to be eternally repentant.
  • I think it all depends on getting closure. However, even when the hurt stops, you will always remember the pain it caused. It changes you, if you work at it then the changes will be for the better.
  • No,I don't think that I'd ever forget it.
  • I have been cheated on by my 8 years relationship boyfriend and it is definitely the worst thing that a couple could go through. I gave him a second chance and I still feel that he has no idea what that 'second chance' is about. I feel that he is secretive and he definitely does not trust me now that he had cheated on me. I sometimes think of leaving and not talk to him at all. And sometimes I feel that this relationship is worth keeping...I don't know what to do.
  • Its hard to imagine. The cheater has to be able to allow you time to get over iy, if they asked for your forgiveness. But times would be very delicate, both people have to be so straight forward, that its not funny. Trust has to be earned from the cheat-ee, while the cheater is just awaiting revenge. Communicate as clearly as possible what your expectations are and ask if they will be met? Be forward.
  • Yes--by my ex-wife. It's been 20 years. After awhile, it doesn't seem to matter much. One of my daughters told me that being divorced is the best thing that ever happened to me. At this point, I think she's right.
  • I THINK UNLESS YOU BREAK UP WITH THAT PERSON YOU WILL NEVER TOTALLY "GET OVER IT". I KNOW I HAVENT ...
  • once a cheater always a cheater in my book depends on the person if you can get fully over it. Personally i would find it very hard.
  • It will always hurt.
  • cheating is the worst thing in the world, and most of the people that do get caught cheating have cheated other times aswell, if you cheat the relationship isnt pure, you should never have doubts, you should never be hurt, you should want that person every second of the day, trying to re mould your life around what that person did to you, and what you can do to get over it should be the last thing someone should ever have to deal with, realtionships are the most important thing in the world, and most people are in them because when they are in a relationship its because of every reason other then love, if there is love there is not pain, the only pain should be when that person dies, cheating is selfish, ive done it, and ive had it done to me, and if theres one thing i know, its that in all cases the word love was being used, and in all cases love wasnt there, the word love gets thrown around so much in todays world and thats because the media and other things brainwash us, turning us into people that claim emotions we dont feel, or say things we dont meen, or tell people a relationship can work or things are going great when in reality if there actually was love people wouldnt even have to ask if you were in love becuase they would know just from looking at you and your spouse
  • Someone who cheats have problems, but you need to remember, it is THEIR problem. A cheater doesn't need a reason, and even if you gave him something that he thought was justied in cheating, it is still cheating! He should've brokenit off with you or discussed the matter. Never blaim yourself for another persons failings. It is dishonest and it is HIS fault. Move on and enjoy life. If it happens again with another, still not your fault!. If you keep attracting this kind, I would tell you to keep your head up, do things to build your confidence and realize that you deserve better partners and you will get them. But either way, you arent to blaim.. period!
  • if you ask my fiance then he would say people can be 100% over it and move on, leave it in the past, me? i would not be able to forgive let alone 4give nad think it would affect my future relationships
  • In my opinion, if you leave them afterwards, the pain does fade eventually. How ever if you choose to stay, it will fade, but only to a dull ache, will still nag's at you all the time.
  • I see it as their problem, so my answer is yes
  • Sometimes there is always some hurt.
  • i'm not really sure that it will always hurt, but i don't know if you ever get over it 100%. i think it stays in the back of your mind and kind of makes you wonder about every other guy/girl that you're with afterward. i learned that my 2 1/2 year relationship was a lie from beginning to end and it crushed me. i'm over him, but it makes me feel like how am i ever going to trust another man again? it's rough. i guess you kind of have to tell yourself that everyone is different and you can't punish your present because of your past. **kisses**
  • cheated on - granted i was younger and i'm only 19 now, but i moved on just fine. my mother was cheated on too, and she's a lot happier now [i say this and my dad and i have a good relationship now. he just bought me flowers for vday actually]...anyways it is possible to move on 100% but it's somewhat difficult. it happens though
  • My boyfriend cheated on me a year ago and i just found out about six months ago. The worst part is it was with a close friend of mine.. And they both lied to me and smiled to my face. It was..is.. the worst pain in the world. But i stayed with him, because i love him. And no i am not over it 100%. But i feel Time can heal everything. And we both shall see in time if we can heal 100%. :)
  • I was with my boyfriend for 6 years and got cheating on many times. Because I didnt want to "run around" I did not think about it. However, when it happens again every memory and feeling I was trying to suppress came back in a second. He got one woman pregnant twice - that was mind blowing and hard to get over. We are not together anymore and it wasnt the Cheating. My advice time will heal your wounds. Try not to dwell on it, think positive thoughts of the both of you. Try spending extra time together and hold a piece of your heart ..never give away everything.
  • My boyfriend cheated on me. I found out by luck. I try to get over it. But it happened again. I came back from business travel and found someone else in the apartment, not in bed, luckily, I might have arrived too late. Then he spents his time on websites. We have no love life anymore since this all happened. I am not sure about his love anymore and my love, so intense to forgive this, has gone away too. I will never be able to trust his words, his care. Cheating is the exit door of any relationship. There is no way you can love and cheat. Whatever the cheater might say to you. If he or she loves you, he/she'll stick with you, whatever happens, every day of the week and missing you the second you go away.
  • NO never would I be over it , unless I kick them to the curb
  • I found out 2 weeks ago that my parter of 7 years cheated on me, it was one night and he feels bad about it. I think about it every day, i am done crying but it still hurts a lot. I still love him, an dont want to live without him, but I have to find a way to live with what he did, to look at him the same way I did 3 weeks ago. I dont know if I can, but I have to try. Just now before coming home and googleing "getting over a cheating partner" We where out driving and saw the person he cheated with.. So this made all the pain come back to me today. Now he is in the other room giving me time alone and I am wondering how I can get my life back, how I will ever be happy again. I wish you luck, and hope we can both be happy again.
  • i think it'll always hurt... like you may deffinetly get over it a bit, but once its happend, its happended and it'll always scar you forever in my opinion
  • I hate to say it, but I think it will always hurt at some level. I was cheated on by my boyfriend of two years, and I didn't find out until my best friend was 12 weeks pregnant. It definitely hurt, and I'm in a stable relationship with another guy who treats me right, but I will never be the same. It still hurts, and I still have major trust issues after almost three two and a half years.
  • I have never gotten over how many times I've been cheated on...It just..numbs after a while, but it doesn't mean you have to tolerate it.
  • it always going to hurt no matter what. you just have to find somebody that you think won't do that too you..
  • you'll get over it, but you'll always be aware that it can happen again
  • my girlfriend just cheated on me last month and i found out a month later, it all started with a silly arguement really. She went out of town for a few days to her grans and before long i knew i was getting cheated on but couldnt prove anything, the reason i knew this is i knew she was meeting this lad which fair enough could of been mates but when i phoned her up she said look adam im sorry ive really got to go which had me thinking hmmm hold on a second, she sucked him off which isnt as bad as sex but thats besides the point, anyways i thought nothing of it till she phoned me back half an hour later and said sorry for rushing you away like i did, she didnt have any intentions of telling me, not only did she do that but she planned another 3 times to do it again with the same lad only this time she arranged to finish him off and have sex with him, and they were all times when i was either out of town or too busy to see her cos of family problems etc, she didnt actually see him again i dont think, she didnt admit to that anyways but the point of this is, it hurt like fucking crazy finding out a month later than she cheated doing what she done because she was scared how i would react, reacting isnt how id describe it, emotional, broken, torn i will let you decide on words to use, not only did it take a month for the truth to come out it took an extra 30+ hours to actuallt get the full truth out of her and im still not fully satisfied she is telling me everything, i have got back with her and i cant get it out my head what has happened, i feel stupid, i feel like a mug and i feel like im nothing but these things happen and you can forgive but believe me you will NEVER FORGET, good look in the future and remember every 1 deserves a 2nd chance if you feel you can trust them enough not to do it again which unfortunately for me i dont think i can but im gonna try and give it ago. thanks for reading
  • I've been cheated on, and yeah it hurts a lot. But, time heals all wounds, and you move on from these past mistakes. Some people unfortunately harbor resentment on every relationship they experience from then on; and some people learn from their hurts to apply to other relationships. It really depends...
  • I cheated on my boyf and i will never forgive myself. We tried to make it work but there was no trust in our relationship. I'll never forgive myslef and ill never get over how much i hurt him. I wish id never done it but i did and ill live with that guilt for the rest of my life. It really isnt worth it and i've learnt from my mistakes. I lost the person i loved more that anyone cos of my mistake.
  • It's been 6 months since I found out about my ex cheating on me, and 4 months since the split. I would like to believe that you get over it cause I've been having a hard time coping. I was the other woman and didn't even know it. In the end he chose me, but I didn't trust him.
  • when i break up with them i'd be 100% over it but as long as i stayed with them i would be worried it would happen again. i wouldnt hold what my ex did agaist a new bf.
  • I don't know if I would always be hurt, I haven't yet been hurt for more than a few months but I know I have never forgetten such a life lesson!
  • ALWAYS, OR AT LEAST 27 YEARS SO FAR. I WOULD RATHER NOT HAVE KNOWN.
  • Any day now...
  • i am wondering this question myself. i have been with the same guy for nine months, and i love him more than anything.. yesterday he told me that the day before he had hooked up with another girl. i am struggling with whether or not i should stay with him. he states it as a "brief make-out" (which im sure to some of you is no big deal.. however, we are young and i suppose it is to us). he definitely had too much to drink (which is no excuse, and he didn't even try to use it as one), and the 'other' girl is basically the most loose person i know. i can see the hurt in his eyes and hear the pain in his voice, and he keeps repeating how sorry he is. i just dont know if i'll be able to trust him enough to pursue the relationship? unfortunately, it would be extremely hard to let him go.. i really do love him
  • in my case ,no,or im just meeting the wrong ppl.
  • I just found out a little over a month ago. I've never been cheated on before. I don't think I'll ever get over it. Right now I can't hardly function; I can't imagine one day I'm going to wake up and forget it ever happened. It is the worst feeling in the world. He was never faithful to me (or to the other women). He led a double life: One with me and he'd come over after work and spend the night, the other life was with her girlfriend he bought a house with. He'd tell me he went to take care of a sick relative on the weekend and he did travel quite a bit (that's the only honest thing he said). When I found out (I saw his name on an address for a house in a different city then where he supposedly lived. That address was the same as a girl's address. I called the phone number and heard her voice saying that they weren't home (she mentioned his name) and I almost died. He still denied it until I finally asked her if she had hear of him. She replied back, yup he's my boyfriend of over 3 years and we bought a house together. I was like omg I've been with him for over 3 years too. He probably met us the same night knowing him. Makes me sick. How could I ever forget get over this? If I make it through this it will be a miracle.
  • No, and it does
  • i feel for every1 on here whos been hurt,my ex hubby cheated on me cpl of times,then my new partner,cheats but in diff way,with a fone,txt chat,pics of ppl and txts that i couldnt write on here!!..hes says its nothing,but means that much that he got new fone just for that!,its it cheating????
  • IT WOULD HURT FOR A WHILE, BUT SHE WILL BE SO FAR OUT MY LIFE, I WOULD SOON FORGET!
  • It depends on the situation, but it happened to me and I'm over it.
  • I could honestly never get over it, i wouldnt break up with my fiance if he did but it would always be a huge problem in our relationship
  • i will not be 100% over it, but ill try to be stronger, and i will be more cautious and try to choose the good person for me...
  • After beening cheated on, we all know it's not worth living in the past but is it really worth forgivin the person especially if that person wants to get back with you? As much as i would love to forgive, a part of me doesnt....is this a bad thing?
  • only if you choose it to keep on hurting.. it depends who you are and how you handle things in my opinion
  • You can once you are happy again. Being happy is a discipline state of mind that you can achieve. read "The art of happiness" by Dalai Lama.
  • well to tell you the truth. I had a girlfriend for 3 years and before that we were best friends for 4 years. she decided to cheat on me one day, I took it pretty hard and when i think about it, I had a life i had everything, then the floor was just removed from my feet. i was left with nothing, no trust for anyone, Hard to love. it took me a while to get over and tho i say that i am over it, inside im still insecure, i still have trust issues, its like she messed me up completely and i was just left to fight and try to get it back.. still to this day i am insecure and have a lack of trust. its all her fault, she destroyed me and my life.
  • My boyfriend of 6 and 1/2 years had talked to a girl he works with for hours on the phone! I found out by looking at the phone bill online randomly! I cried my eyes out and he promised to never hurt me again! About a year later i see text msg that he obviously forgot to delete from her and from him to her! Really bad! about wanting to meet up and stuff! :( I confronted him about it and he said it was just joking and he didn't mean it! WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO???? I want to forgive give him but I dont think i can live the rest of my life knowing that he broke his promise to me!
  • I will 100% over it as soon as he is out of my face and my life.
  • I am with a man I love very very much. I had been cheated on by my last 3 boyfriends and I know the man I am with now, with all my heart would never ever cheat on me. Though I have fought for his love more than anyone and I am in love with this man and I have never been with another, I would keep fighting. Mentally I have given myself so much I feel drained a lot, but we both have things we go through and I know I love him and he loves me very much, that is why I am willing to fight how insecure my heart feels and work through this so we can be happy together. It's not fair to him to make him suffer for how others ultimately scarred me. This will take time to get over and I will. Especially if he is willing to stay by my side and fight my demons with me. I want to fight his as well. Rhiannon Loba
  • I never got over it with HIM, but it didn't affect much my later relationships.
  • My b.f who I adore cheated on me once at the beginning of the relationship. I found out about eight months later and we carried on together for four years. He was never sure and there was always tension. He left in the end. Rather, he told me he still felt like seeing other women. So I said it was over. After that, I had two relationships that were... lovely, fun - i was adored. I never forgot my ex though. Two and a half years later, and we're back togeher and he has said that he feels as though he's in a totally different place, wants me, my children, the whole forever thing. I haven't forgotten the cheating. I won't. how can you? But I'm slowly...feeling more secure. I loved him always.. that's always the thing, isn't it. Did I ramble?
  • No, it will always hurt.
  • same as an abusive boss who shoves you out of the company
  • It always hurts, but when you move on, and find the right S/O, it wont matter, as much.
  • It's not so much the physical act of having sex with someone else; it is the deliberate lies and deception that go along with it. That, I think, is what is most difficult to forgive. And with good reason, because if the person closest to you is prepared to lie to you and deceive you, surely that reflects the way they see you; the importance you hold in their world.
  • I guess I would have to really think about what I had invested in the relationship... if I was married... if I had kids and how easy (or not so easy)it would be to leave. OF COURSE it would hurt and I'm sure if it was someone I really loved it always would no matter how much I tried to put it behind me. But yes, if I could break free easily I would. Once trust is gone it is gone- I don't believe it can be regained in most cases and in the few where it is it usually takes years of good marital counseling. I don't understand women who look the other way and enable their men... I have to think that these women must have really low self-esteem, be in it because of the money or perhaps because financially there is no good way out.
  • Having found out only a month ago that my partner of 4 years has been cheating on me I already feel that I will get over it. I felt strong yesterday and I feel strong today although before yesterday I was hardly functioning. I won't hold it against my next partner. It doesn't hurt as much as make me feel that I deserve better.
  • Depends on how much you enjoy misery. If you don't like feeling miserable endlessly, you will get over it. There are far worse things in life that can happen to you and that are more worthy of your sorrow.
  • I'm not feeling hurt as I was feeling when I found out and a couple of days aftermath, but I cannot forget
  • I have just been cheated on and it hurts, I cant sleep, I cant eat, my stomach is boiling, and I cant stop thinking about it, but you know what, I forgave her... I will never tell her, but I will always remember that..we were two years into our relationship and three months..I was just about done saving up for the ring I was going to buy and propose for her. When I found out...I hit and broke everything in my house...except her, her tears rolling down her face let me know she knew she was wrong, and she knew it. I never heard myself scream so loud, my windows were rattling from my roar of betrayel, but you know what..near the end of that night I was folded up in her lap with her arms around me stroking my hair, and us crying together. Just feeling her tears roll down my neck was comforting enough because it let me know she was still there. That no matter her actions, she truelly did love, but she just made a bad mistake. Love isn't made to be easy, if it was we would all have our soul mates at age four. We are human, our flaws are what we find so attractive in each other.. It's what brings us together, and what builds us. We try so hard to fix each others flaws that we build bonds through out actions and shortly there after..we fall in love. Every month that went by in our relationship she became more and more outragously beautiful in my eyes. This is what it is all about..if you cant forgive, you will never be able to truelly love..I found that out this past week..
  • The problem with cheating is that you can never unscramble that egg. Counseling, promises, you can't deny the fact that cheating changes everything. Not that you can't rebuild your relationship. Of course you can. But you need to be realistic about future trust issues.
  • If the relationship ends I would be over it. I don't think I could stay with someone who was so deceitful.
  • Im very over it, he did alot of bad things, and completely played me. I learned from it, and slept with his brother.
  • I think for a while it will definetly hurt. There's no way around it, especially if you're still with the guy. But, it will be hard to trust him or other's for a while but you can do it. If you're not with the guy, of course it will still sting, it's a horrible thing to go through. Hang in there and remember the song "I will Survive"!
  • I cant get over it. We tried for nearly 3 years to have a baby, ive just found out he cheated on me and is now having the one thing we always wanted. Hes admitted it was a mistake and that he still really wants me. How can I get over that? Love him too much to throw it away and move on, but I cant see any other option. This hurt feels like it will never go away. Its all consuming.
  • I would love to know the answer myself. My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me repeatedly with his ex wife. They have a child together and she is manipulative and uses her to get to see him. She commented just the other day that he should spend more time with his daughter alone. She didn't have any problems with that when he was going down to her and and visiting HER along with the daughter. And she has the gall to say that he's not ever alone anymore...meaning that I'm always with him. Is she so stupid as to think that it's just around her?! She's supposedly this wonderful Christian woman when in reality she's just a slut. She knew we were together and still continued to sleep with him. As you figured out we are trying to work it out and it's been very hard. I check his texts and the phone bill religously because that's how I found out to begin with...found texts and confronted him and she finally came clean. I think about it EVERY day and wonder how long I can continue in the relationshiip feeling this way. Crazy thing is we seem to have a stronger relationship now but I just can't get it off my mind either. I feel for you.
  • It differs for everyone in my opinion. To a great degree it depends on the depth of the relationship with the person. I was played for a complete fool for the better part of two decades, and let me tell you, when I found out it hurt me so incredibly deep down in my soul, I didn't want to go on and wanted to take all involved with me. The hurt and pain was so palpable and constant it destroyed other relationships in my life and gave me major issues in the workplace due to my not giving a shit about anything or anyone anymore. I won't say I'm personally ever not gonna feel some pain from being played for a fool for so long and so deeply, but looking back to just how far I've come towards getting over it and moving on in just 2008 alone I'm honestly amazed with my progress. If you know this kind of pain, my heart goes out to you.
  • No you wouldn't be over 100%, and if you stay with that person that cheat 9 times out of 10 they will do it again.So its going to keep building up inside of you.
  • I dumped a guy of 3 months for disrespect forward to me... Anyways after 2 weeks we had splited up I found out that he had been lying and cheating on me with his 2 ex girlfriends...I just can't believe, I had been asking him if he had been seeing them and he had told me that he hadn't...damn, now i know that was a fucking LIE... Now it hurts me much more, coz I thought I would get over him quickly but I just can't stop thinking of all the nights and moments he had lied
  • it will always hurt me anyway cara x
  • You'd have to find the perfect mate. Not every person is the same.
  • yes...thankfully i've found my soulmate <3

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