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Always for some reason or another.
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No. Usually I am not a choice at all.
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Maybe, sometimes. But depending on what it is, I'm glad to be in the top two anyway. :)
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I've become a reliable second choice for a lot of people, sadly. They know if there's nothing else going on, they can always count on me to be home and ready to rock. However, if there's something better to do, the phone does not ring.
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all the time, except for times when i am not a choice at all.
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not usually. sometimes i feel like 4, or 5, or like. it was an accident that someone stumbled upon me.. but my family generally makes me feel first.
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Yes, when im compared to my older sister
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I'm never that high up in the order!
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Yes I have and I don't recall it ever bothering me..in some situations being considered at all is an honor.:)
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I am to some members in my family but after all these years I am sort of used to it.
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Yes most of the times
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Being a middle child, yes!
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Aye.. indeed, but at least still on the list.
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Nope, I'm a twin and came out first!
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Yes, but I guess it's nice to be even on someone's list. I try to take comfort in that.
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I feel like that now...sux! He wants to be messing around and have me around just to be his best friend(with bennifits)...=/...whatever. Wait til he meets Tyrone...I'm his 1st choice.
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I no longer allow myself to be anyone's second choice. There is no B list.. C list or D list for me. If you think you can invite me somewhere last minute, the answer is "no thanks". I would rather be alone than be thought about at the last minute. Screw it, I am not that desperate.
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I felt that way most of my life. I felt like I would never quite measure up to the expectations of the people I cared about. Sadly, I don't think I ever have. But you know what? That's their loss. If they can't appreciate the person I am then that's their problem. I know who I am in God's eyes and if I am good enough for His love then that's enough for me. I would also like to say that anyone who makes you think you are a "second choice" either by words or actions is a gigantic fool. He/she is missing the wonderfulness that you are. That's his/her loss as well.
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unfortunately...I'm the youngest child...but I learned to live with it
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All the time. My husband first choice is and has been for several years now. Dr.Laura. He would rather listen to her then me.
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Actually, for me the fact that someone even asked this question is in some ways very disturbing! Geez-Louise, you guys! I am so surprised how many of you actually feel like a 'second choice.' I personally feel bad for each of you. Maybe I am missing something that lies underneath your answers? Only one, so far, has answered with 'No ...' While some would think they would need 'more confidence' to NEVER be placed or viewed in this unwanted and thoroughly inappropriate 'status,' I hold that it has much more to do with self-respect! This, in of itself, is not something that can ever be given, it is only cultivated and literally practiced by one's own common-sense attitude and consequent personal action from it. While 'others' may view me as their 'second choice,' I would never demean my own sense of value, worth and placement as anything other than 'number one.' I don't mean to suggest or offer that this stance is a self-centered nor self-serving point of view here. This would be entirely inappropriate nor would this honor the very standards I hold myself, and others, to. I do not conduct myself nor move through my own space and time with ANY sense of 'contest.' Nor would I ever have the arrogance and complete disrespect to place ANY other human being in it! Personally, I daily celebrate that each of us is a unique, one-of-a-kind person and never to be repeated, human being. Partnered at the same time is a clear understanding, accepting and celebrating all of us have 'this business of living' in common. I would never allow myself to be in situations, or more, with any people who even tinker with this kind of thinking. Frankly, in my view, this is not 'thinking' at all. Nor, whether in the short run or long one, does this empathic-lacking action or practice serve anyone but for the absolute illusion of those people who practice it.
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No
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FREQUENTLY. MY BEST BUD AT THE MOMENT IS MY PS2. HOW SAD. woops sorry about the caps.
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ALL the time.
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always
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Only in a police line up!
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Always....... WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!! lol.
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it beats third... be optimistic.
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If you allow yourself to be second choice, yes, it will happen to you. I try to put myself before anyone, so I don't see why second choice is bad. No one can love you like yourself. If you put yourself second, you allow others to do the same.
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Well... I'm a last resort a lot of the time. I think that is worse than second choice. Oh well. :)
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Yes Iam normally always the second choice. But then again Iam glad Iam. People come to me when they need somthing and it feels good to help people out...you know? It does kinda get to me when I think Iam a plan b, but then again I wouldnt change it for anything.!
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its ironic that this question came up Second on the list of questions for 'conundrums'...
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I tend not to focus on the people that put me second. My best friend and my mom put me first constantly and they're all that matter! :D
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I used to a lot, then I got over myself! Now life is good!
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All the time....never quite good enough to be the first choice...I want to be someones #1 :(
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no,may be sometimes.............
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yeh, no doubt about that
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In some contexts, sure. In my choir, for example, I somehow seem to always get shuffled to the director's third choice alto. *shrug* Kind of annoying when I set up a quartet, and it gets turned into an octet, and I get shuffled out entirely in favor of the two more-favored altos. I'm not quite sure how that went down, but I was definitely not first choice there! However, I think it's actually good for all of us to sometimes know we're NOT the best, not first choice. Just as it's good for us to each sometimes be first choice. It helps us keep ourselves in proper perspective instead of getting too much ego, or too little esteem.
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Yes , my brother and I.
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I don't give thought to what choice I am, because being 1st choice doesnt mean anything. were all equal who cares how someone else orders you.
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ty, by the way.
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Yes all the time.
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I used to, but not anymore for some reason.
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Puh....I know that feeling all to well.
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I'm a total Baxter, yes. http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1808655496/details
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Sure. But I like to think I'm first.
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No way. First choice, all the way! ...if i am the only choice...:P
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always, in every relationship, every friendship...every everything...
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Always...is there something wrong with me or what?????!!!!!
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It's funny. 3 weeks ago I ended up being a second choice due to illness of the first choice composer. But now as the scoring of this film unravels, the chooser (aka the director) is realizing that I am a better first choice and will use me first in the future. Yay to illnesses!!!
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Some times. More like third or last choice. Que Sera though. : )
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I try not to have friends who call only if everyone else is busy,doing that keeps me alone and knowing who my friends really are.It seens to work.
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If you are second choice, it just means that someone was more important to the chooser than you. You may be first choice in someone else's eyes. And to be constructive about it, why not take the hit, play along, and prove that they don't regret inviting you along instead?
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would you be a different person if you were always chosen first...?
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Yes. Almost want to say "of course". Being a second choice doesn't (always) mean second best. sometimes people make the wrong choice the correct it. sometimes people miss details, make choices, and find that they were wrong. Second choice / second chance... very fine line. Unless someone asked one person to marry them and were turned down and then that person who had just been turned down immediately turned to you, let out a big sigh of dissapointment and weakly asked, "what about you, do YOU want to marry me... That'd suck big.
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I don't now. Have I before: Most certianly! Even last choice!
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Only if sometimes I get really lucky! (You see, I've really high standards) ;-)
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Yes. Once in particular, and it felt bloody awful. I'm not even sure I was second choice. Aha. Life.
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Yes,every day of my life
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Of course when no one else is around
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I think im more like the 4th or 5th choice.lol
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yes...and usually i am the second choice...it's sad how i actually accept it too
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I used to when I was younger but I never feel like that anymore
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I used too but now I eat Healthy choice.........
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Ya sometimes.. If someone is better then me..I accecpt.. I work hard to be the # 1 :)
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My Ego wont allow that to happen ha!
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Every day of my life -_-
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I'm always 2nd to everything in my guys, ( not really) life. his work, his friends, his family, working out, ballgames, you name it, i'm 2nd, 3rd, 4th but never 1st. I pray God sends me someone who will place me 1st. I love him but sometimes love just ain't enough.
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Sometimes. But with a couple of people, I know how they are and have always steered clear of them anyway. With them, I don't mind being second choice, because I know they will always need me more than I need them.
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yes
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I did feel that way, but come to find out it was him feeling second and being bitter. I often wonder if the best is often put second because we are beyond what someone can actually handle. Makes ya think :)
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Nope.
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In every single relationship I have ever been, I eventually became the second choice, if not third, fourth, etc....
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