I am a pretty big guy. When I say big, I mean muscular. I am 6'1, 245lbs, with 10% body fat. I dont think that i am ugly but I have a hard time finding women to date. Is it because i look to intimidating?
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My guess is it's because you look at dating like a fishing trip... you throw back all the catches that don't quite fit the required measurement. Not that you should "lower your standards" but you should get to know a girl before you decide whether or not she's a waste of your time.
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You definitely are NOT ugly. Definitely not. Quite the opposite actually... Many women like their men to be big. I'm not sure why you would have a hard time finding women to date you....actually, it baffles me. You're intelligent, interesting, attractive, kind.... Ok, I'll stop now.
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Pick you up at 8.
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ruff, you can date my sister any time LOL, I don’t think woman should find you intimidating at all, maybe you should focus on just being your self, come forward relaxed, don’t come forward as a person who thinks hi is God's give to woman, not that I am implementing you are doing that, just be your self and show the ladies you are interested in who and what they are, once they see the true you they will have more respect for you and feel more attracted to you, so bottom line, be your self, the rest will come as an reward.
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In your picture it looks like you might be holding a cigar-that would be the only reason I wouldn't date you. I agree about the bit w/your daughter!! Kudos to you! Let me ask you this, would you go out w/a woman your daughter did not like?
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hmm... it's hard to tell from your avatar - but it's more than just the primary stats when it comes to attractiveness... let's see some better pics. You may look intimidating, but you may also just look like a muscle-bound dufus... Also, women are interested in the "entire package" not just the first glance. You may just need a little "queer eye" touch up- or you may have some inadvertent personality flaws that you can fix. good luck.
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First impressions are so rarely correct, and you deserve more than a woman who would judge you so quickly and so harshly based on your physical appearance. Many women find men with your physical attributes very appealing ... but, once again, beware a woman who simply wants a pretty accessory to hang off her arm. Finding someone who is attracted to you in EVERY way - including who you are inside - is never easy, no matter what one looks like. Just continue being yourself, living by your own morals and standards, and the right person will come along.
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Most women think that guys like you are either taken or full of themselves. I have dated many athletic guys & they were full of themselves. Looks can be deceiving. If you put on the persona that you are not an approachable person, women will pick up on that. We have that kindof radar. If you think that your looks are intimidating, you should start the conversations first. Once a woman sees that you are not just some "muscle head" & you really are a nice guy, it'll get easier.
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Well, I can agree with sl. I had known a guy that was so into building his body that I knew that that he was in love with himself. He could not go a day without wanting bigger muscles. I don't find that attractive in a man. I feel that it is important to stay in shape and be in shape, but not to be vain about one's appearance. I am glad that you are in great shape. It is not a matter of feeling intimidating, it is a matter of being too concerned about one'a appearance. Just don't worry, someone will see you for who you are from the inside and not from your outer appearance. Keep it up, staying in good health !
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I have to say my hubby weighs about the same and is 6' 4". I like bigger guys even though I am only 5'. My friend also, would absolutely love someone like you! Just keep looking. You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find your princess! Good luck x
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I don't know. I'm not intimidated by a guy's size. I care more about personality.
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They probably all think you are taken. Most men who look great, are already married, and I am sure that you are very attractive. I just think that some women (not all) are intimidated just by that simple fact. Maybe you should try something really romantic to lure "her" in. Girls love romance, and maybe that'll calm your "intimidating-ness". :) Good Luck!!!
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well i like men who are tall and muscular, but the reason why i think its hard for you to find a woman to date is because most women who dont look this way, think that you are into the plastic barbie doll type. The thin as a board fake boobs (fake personality) and not a real woman. I hardly think its because you look intimidating. Its all a superficial thing.
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Your acting too nice, go around like an asshole for a week, see how that works :P.
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hell i want a guy like u!!! im 6ft tall an i want a guy taller then me.. but i seem to get shortys all the time!! I dont think its because u look intimidating. I think i may be the way aproach women.
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Every time I ever got a woman I was totally convinced I wouldn't find one that night! When was the last time you saw a woman? When did you last speak to one? What did you say? When I was all alone, I used to ask myself those three questions all the time. Usually I was battling to get past the first two! I think the trick is just to go out, have a laugh and try not to think of women. If you feel lonely, they interpret it as 'desperate' and 'desperate' turns them off. That's my theory, anyway. Learn to dance. Some women love it, and at the very least you get a good excuse to hold one!
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unfortunately this is how most people judge. They judge by an outward appearance and immediately they begin to believe something about that person onl on the basis of judging and not facts. You have to allow your character to rise above otheres opinions or you will never see yourself as you truly are. alandmays@yahoo.com
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big men, are sooooooo attractive.
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jorgan von strangle.
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Where you at?
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You must be looking in the wrong places because most women would think you're hot.
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Either you're looking in the wrong places or you're coming across differently than you want to.
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It might not even be your appearance (personality plays a big part too), but if that was the case, it might verry well be that you are very muscular. Some women find it unattractive....go figure.
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As a short guy at 5'8", I don't feel sorry for you at all. You think you have a hard time? I could be dying in the gutter and if that ambulance is driven by a female, I'm a goner!
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Yup, you must be looking in all the wrong places! : O )
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I find muscular men hot!!! It may just be your personality
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well I guess I should choose my words carefully or I might get clobered..hhahaha But in all honesty I hear a few of my friends who are into bodybuilding have this problem too..most times they get turned down because people assume someone who talks about 10% body fat or carries around 300 supplements and takes a stack etc is a narcissistic and too into themselves. Women can sometimes like a man with a body made in a gym but don't want them to spend all the time in one. Then there's the whole steroids = small package stories and of course big guys probably do intimidate some women. But maybe it is none of those things, there's guys of all types of builds that have problems finding dates..maybe the problem lies not in your exterior but the interior?
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Hmm. I'm not sure why you're having trouble. Some of it may be that they think you are to good for them. I have noticed that many women I have been around tend to think this way. Good luck though=)
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bring it on big guy....just kidding..I'm married. I think girls like big guys cause they feel protected.
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It's possible, but I would not think too much of it...I would try to wear clothes that make you look a bit more toned down, more like an average Joe. I'm sure your muscles and nice body will show anyway, but this way it won't be overwhelming (not saying it is, I don't know what you look like) to girls. Speaking from my own experience, I would think that many girls might think that you are going to look for someone extremely toned and fit to go out with. If this is true, then it is fine. But, if that is not the case, I guess you should try your best to show women that you are attracted to them as they are, 20% body fat and all. Many women have self-image problems, so they might see your being fit as a reflection of their not-so-fit self (thus making them feel fat or that you will not like them)
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I think that maybe you might be just a little too intimidating. I mean, come on, 10% body fat? WOW really girls might be scared of you. You just have to show them your loving caring nice soft side. I hae more to say but just like reply back and ill talk to ya. lol bye!!!:)
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I'll take one of you.
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Became a Male Stripper or Porn Movie Actor you have the body why not use it get paid to bang hot chicks.
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