Nope and I'd dump them right then and there.

hell no!

I made that mistake already... and i'm never doing it again... I had a guy cheat on me with two girls at the same time... I forgave him... And 2 weeks or even less than that... He cheated on me again... So, NO! I'm never going to trust someone again if they cheat on me once...

Trust is something that is hard to do once someone has broken it through the act of cheating on their partner. I am not saying it is not possible. I know of people who were cheated on and forgave their partner and now have better and more stable relationships than ever before but they are the exceptiuon and not the norm. Most people like myself find it extremely hard to trust someone again once that bond of trust has been broken.

wow, this is a hard one, my boyfriend cheated on me, and initially i dumped him, but since then have gotten back together with him, however, it is hard to think that it wont happen again, i guess you just have to decide how much they love you and whether or not they realize that they did something horrible to you. i know that i will not give him a second chance, and he knows that too, so it is just a matter of hoping that it was a one time mistake.

From experience, I don't think so, because I would just be killing myself with thoughts of "where is he? what's he doing..who's he with?". My boyfriend of only three weeks cheated on me..he was drunk, but I don't find that's an excuse, it really showed his true intentions. Plus, he has a history of being a 'player', and dumping girls for the dumbest reasons. In a way, it's possible I beat him to the punch.

Not even a little bit, Knowing that the things that should be sacred in a relationship are no longer would eat me alive.

Not with my penis

Personally I could not. I'm not a very trusting person to begin with - but this would be intolerable.

It's hard, my girlfriend of three years did it to me, she was high but i didn't take it as an excuse. I didn't talk to her for a week, until she finally begged me basically, because i was her life. It's been a year since then, and well, i love her.

Never! And I would break up with them right away!

No, never..it is over. :)

I guess for me it depends on the situation. I had a relationship when I was younger with a guy I knew was a man-whore (he loves that I call him that now...). We were teenagers and it's pretty hard for a teenage male to be monogamous if he gets the chance not to be. I fully understood this and told him he was allowed to sleep with other people with protection as long as he told me (I don't see sex as a sacred thing, especially with a male's whole need to spread the seed). He's yet to be forgiven for the time he slept with a mutual friend and I had to find out from her. I don't trust him to tell me anything of importance. If the partner is completely honest, explains the situation, etc, it is possible to trust them again. They told you, instead of lying, that is trust. If you have to find out from a friend/by accident, etc... no. I don't think it is possible to trust them because you'll never know what else they are hiding.

Great question.No i really don't think i would be able to trust them again really it will even take me a while to let down my guard and forgive them to start trusting them again is a whole other step.

I used to give my relationships two strikes... You hit the third and you're out. I could never trust him again. EVER. I don't put up with that crap anymore. One strike and you're done.

No :)

If someone hit once they will do it again If someone thinks its fun to insult you in public even after you tell them you would rather they not If you give generously to someone one inch but they take two Carrie Underwood and that bat practice on the truck hey.....more than likely once a cheater always a cheater..... Guess some folks grow tuff and ignore the issue because fear of financial security or being alone or not deserving better or children to consider....personally...I hope that who loves me would be like the fella in the movie Cold Mtn...never compromising himself because he wants to be with his true love...never compromising his true love....never...ever !!!!!!!!

If someone proves to be untrustworthy. I am not going to waste my time. See ya.

The better question would be SHOULD you trust them after they have cheated on you. You shouldn't give anyone the benefit of the doubt if they have already burned one bridge. I would say check their credibility/track record, and if you do trust and love again, and it happens again, NO MORE!

well one thing is sure that you can't believe that person if he has broken your faith once...... because it is a universal fact that a thing which happened to you once will definitely happen twice....... but at the same time we are human so we can forgive..... at least one time but be aware.........

No. My ex cheated on me the night after I had my baby. I had her on a WED morning and he cheated on me on WED night. I of course did not find out about it until a year after that. Guess it didnt eat him alive. I also started seeing this guy and we were suppose to hook up one Saturday night, well i called him after I got done doing my stuff about 2 hours after I had lasted talked to him and he did not answer his phone or my texts. A month later he tells me he hooked up with an ex. I tried to see if I could get things going again but came to the realizaton that he is a guy I dont think I could trust, even though we were just seeing each other.

I've been cheated on once, however, I have also done it numerous times. As long as you feel the relationship is casual, then no worries.

Yes I could.

Im currently going through that. my girlfriend just a week ago made out with her ex boyfriend. not a very bad thing but considering the relationship they had (it was very close), thats what pissed me off. she told shes sorry and that she'd never do it again. and she said she needed to kiss him to make sure she didnt have feelings for him anymore. and it really dosent help that this was one of my close friends, until just a few days ago (hes completly dead to me now). but yes im going to forgive her just because i love her. i believe in giving everyone a second chance, but if she does it again, shes done.

No once trust is broken it could never be repaired.

sometimes cheating is a result of deeper issues in the relationship. if those issues are resolved i think it may work... but in most cases i would say no.

I recently have found out that my s/o of 14 years had cheated on me and I had to find out myself after asking almost everyday for 3 months of course i was the one over thinking, when did he have time for that you know...I did take him back but it was hard and i went thru the you are just going to pay me back I know you are sleeping with him thing..I saw you look at him and he just drove him self out of my life next time i would not take that person back they make you feel like the guilty one in the end so not worth it

No I honestly don't think I could.

I honestly think it depends on the situation. If someone was not getting satisfied at home and cheated, but still loved their significant other..then yes I could.

I did... for 8 years to be exact. Knowing better all the while. I think people know instinctually, and ignore this or that depending on their need of the situation both emotionally and mentally. I needed to drag myself through that so knowing better, I stayed and decided to believe him. Always listen to that still small voice... but be prepared to actually hear what it says when you listen.

I do trust someone who has cheated on me. He's one of the most trustworthy people I know. I know it makes me sound stupid, but I've known from the beginning that it is completely out of character for him to cheat. One of my closest friends has cheated in her past, too, and she is deathly amazing and very trustworthy. They're both decent people who happened to make mistakes that they COMPLETELY regret. There are so many people who have cheated that you'd be surprised to find out they've done it. Plenty of them don't even want to talk about it because of how guilty they feel. This doesn't mean that you have to automatically trust a person who has cheated on you again. If the person is TRULY sorry, he/she will make it up to you BIG time to show you that you can trust him/her again. My boyfriend has done this....without me even asking him to. He did it on his own, even, before I even found out. He never bragged about doing the nice things for me, either. He did them behind my back. ;]

Hmm...I probably could, but it wouldn't be an easy thing to get back.

My ex cheated on me, and then dumped me afterwards. The thing is, I would take her back in a heartbeat, even though I know I wouldn't trust her completely. It's hard to completely trust someone after the pain they inflicted.

NO cause you would never forget it

No. Not 100%. In the back of your mind you will always wonder if that person will do it again.

That's a hard one. We've all been there. It's one of those tough things about relationships. If you're truly in love, you can forgive. But you never really forget.

Trust is a very special gift you give to someone. If you have been cheated on, and we all have, we find it hard to trust those we are falling in love with. Not unitl after they have earned it do we give them this gift. If they cheat, it is almost impossible to give that back. We can forgive, but never forget....which means their will always be a shroud of doubt.

No not at all once you cheat , I'm done -- + up

Yes, as people make mistakes for all sorts of reasons, There is not one reason for everything. If I had made a mistake and was terrible sorry, I would try to rebuild our relationship and hope I would earn trust again, just as I would hope my husband would do the same. I will always forgive someone if they are truly sorry and genuinely hurt by what they have done and show it my their actions.

I don't trust anyone anyway, so it doesn't really matter.

maybe, maybe not. It all depends on the person, why they did what they did and how badly you were hurt. I would advise you, if you do forgive, forgive and forget. I have even made a mistake a few years ago, and I might make another one some day. Guess it is part of being human. Look at it as an opporutnity to show them how much you love them.

I've been there. I forgave him after I realize that I might make mistakes in the past that made him did that. No body is perfect. So it will depends on how it happend and how many times. I will divorce a serial cheater though.

This may make me a mean and unfair person, but I don't think I would ever truly trust him again. I also doubt I could continue with the relationship.

No never trust again, i've been in that situation where I was cheated on.

No once that trust is gone thats it what happens everytime they say that they are working late or are out in town with friends

No, I don't think so. I've been in that situation before, and I tried to forgive him and move past it, but I was so suspicious of him that we ended up breaking up. I think if someone doesn't have the self control required to be faithful to one person, it's not worth giving them another chance to hurt you. Peace.

NO, IF HE DONE IT ONCE ALREADY, HE'LL DO IT AGAIN.

I have. I give out way more chances than I ever should. I was in a relationship with a guy that always promised it would never happen again and then when I would catch him with a crapload of proof, he'd deny it Or he'd be like "well it's your fault." It took me a long time to wake up and realize I deserved better and I moved on and left him, but...honestly, you never lose that fear of wondering...when will he...is he going to...where is he now? It will Always be in the back of your mind and you will Always wonder what they're up to and who they're with. And you will always wonder if That Girl is the next girl on his list to be with or if the girl who texts, calls, emails, or ims him is a girl he's trying to hook up with or has in the past. It's never easy. It will Never be easy.

well, i know my bf has cheated on his ex gf's (not with me) so thats at the back of my mind.nd there was a rumour he cheated on me but i know he didnt.but i never think i will fully trust him or anyone else for that matter

Yes, you could; but it would take a lot of doing on their part before you really did and even then you would still wonder every now and then. They would have to prove, without having the nerve to be angry about it where they were every minute they were away from you for a loooooong time, and constantly reassure you any way you needed to be and understand just how bad they killed the trust you had for them prior to the cheating.

It depends on the kind of cheating. I can forgive sex more easily than an actual relationship. Sex doesn't mean anything when there's no emotion involved. My current boyfriend has cheated on me twice. No sex was involved either time, but he got in actual relationships and even proposed to one of them. It's really hard for me to trust him now and I freak out a little whenever he makes a new female friend cuz I'm afraid they'll start dating. However, he really has changed and is completely in love with me and trying like hell to regain my trust. I'm still with him because I love him, but it's hard as hell for me to trust him.

Honestly, no. I am 100% completely faithful and if my girlfriend can't be the same then its not worth it for me to put my whole heart into something that the other person is obviously not willing to do. I wouldn't be able to trust her if she cheated. I would constantly be doubting if she is faithful or not and that is too much for me to handle so the best thing for me to do would be to find someone else.

That's a difficult question. I don't think you will really know until it's happened. I'm not sure I could fully trust them but I think it would really depend on the circumstances.

Yes but It would depends on the circumstances.

No. I may be able to understand why they did what they did. But my trust in them is irretrievably lost.

trust is the foundation of everything in a relationship, once broken it cannot be restored the value that was before has deminshed!

nope...once the trust is broken, there's no fixing it

Only if they were worth the effort... Because it takes a lot of effort!

No. But, I have learned to trust "someone else" after being cheated on.

iv recently been cheated on by a girl with her friend she's 18 im 21 she said she was scared of goin into a serious relationship but realized how right i was for her and she just "needed to get it out of the way"! i was upset but i had also done this before and deeply regretted it. so i have forgiven her and taken her back! But she still talks to the the guy! this really angers me i dont know if im being controlling if i say "i dont want you talking to him"

Nope

i don't think i would.

NEVER in a MILLION Years !! A CHEAT is a CHEAT and the lowest form of life on the earth.

The only true values that glue any relation are trust and communication... So, it would depend on communication... To learn why there was the break of trust. To learn what was missing. To learn if the greatest form of love is there, the abillity to forgive.

most likely not if she cheated once she would again,and really don't need to waste my time with people with bad attitude.

no I couldn't personally I wouldn't take them back I would be so hurt I would be afraid of being hurt again

Personally, no, I would forgive them and then move on alone.

From first hand experience they will cheat again. If its in their mold to do this it will surface when ever there is a problem in your relationship.

I've been there. My boyfriend cheated on me for four months with his ex. A year later I found out that he was cheating by his messages that he saved in his cellphone. Now, a year later after knowing, I'm still crying like everyday when he goes out... I'm taking his life from him and that's not alright, not for him or me, He didn't go out for a long while, he didn't talk to girls anymore... Just to prove that he wouldn't do it again. But truly, I'm still scared, like I wass before and I don't know if I can trust him, now or ever. He's still the one I love, the one where I would sacrifice everything for. But it isn't easy and I just hope trust will come back, because he's doing the best he can. It hurts me and I blame myself that after a year I still can't say ; go out and have fun. Not even with friends. I'm losing our relationship because of this, and I'm totally broken. He's sick of the fact that I just can't trust anymore and I argue all the time. So... Yes, I hope you can trust someone after they cheated... But I'm not sure if you ''can''.

for me, probably i would never be able to fully trust them again. i might forgive and try to mend, but it would be in the back of my mind

Yes, but not to the same extent.

no. that's why you give them the boot. or give them their own bedroom and a jar of vascilene.

Honestly, at one point of my life I would have said I would never trust someone again after they cheated on me...NEVER! When it actually happens to you and you are truely in love, it is a much different situation. I want to forgive and have that trust for that person...so I hope I can get that trust back over time.

Absolutely not. Trust him for what?! That's the ultimate betrayal in a relationship.

its hard to trust fully like before. you can always forgive but forgetting is hard cuz uve already been hurt and sometimes, it comes back to mind as a flashback. it will take time to regain trust. most of the time the mistake is repeated but in some, they learned from their mistake and never do it again. communication is vital so talking bout it without arguing helps put ur heart and mind at ease. if they cheat again then you should take action by letting em go. its better to get hurt one big one than everyday dealing with lies. hope this helps.

i think so but your always going to have it in the back of your head, what they are doing when there not around then you have to ask your self if it's worth it

Nope. Next question.

Yes but it's very hard.

Haha I woudln't need to after that - they wouldn't play even the smallest role in my life. Sorry but I don't appreciate being cheated on at all and after they do that that person becomes invisible to me however hard it feels for me (which isn't that much the last time it happened) -- but of course the person was still interested in me so me ignoring her was so damaging to her but not at all to me -- I hope she learnt a lesson. In short -- No I couldn't trust them again.

easily. yes. if I want to stay with them then I must trust them.

If you stay with them, you try, but I've found once the trust is violated, it's gone. Also, in my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater.

You shouldn’t readily trust anybody regardless of what your emotions is influencing you to feel. People want to fall in love the first month together with someone.. :P “ like I doubt they even know what love is anyways.” But, anyways give every relationship time to experience things.. Time is revealing, so allow it to show you.

No. Some people are able to get past it. I'm not one of them.

Yes. My husband cheated the first year of our marriage. It was hard. I wanted it to work, so I decided to forgive, the trust took time. I am not stupid enough to ever forget. People do make mistakes in judgement, and people can change. We have now been married for 23 years. I do believe that he has not cheated again. Only the person in the sitution can make the judgement to forgive. Personal opinion: I would never stay if there was a second time.

Well I thought u could trust a person that cheated I have being with my so call man for 4 yrs and I just found out he cheated on me and right now I want payback I don't wanna do the samething he did but I want to hurt him I want his heart to feel how mine felt when I found out that's the reason why I haven't told him that I know he's cheating I'm just making his life so miserable my kids didn't deserve what he did giving us fault hopes I told him if he wants to collect all the punany in the world then leave me but instead he played my family now its time to pay so if anyone cheats on u let them go don't blieve when they say I won't do it again cuz its all bullshit

yes. I forced myself to trust after 3 betrayals... after she proved me right yet again she ran away... I am better off without her.

no

No, Never. If they cheat once, they will do it again. You forgave them once why wouldn't you forgive 2,3,4,5,6,....times? Not only that, they lied. What else have they lied about?

NOT in a MILLION Years ... !! +5

It would depend on the severity of the situation. Like did the person act on an impulse because your relationship has been going sour and they immediately regretted it or has it been and on going afair and they did it because they just wanted the thrill. If the person is a trill seeker then they will likely do it again. If there was immediate regret then and our relationship has some isssues we can resolve then I look at it as a wake up call and a good possiblility that the person isn't untrustworthy just rather human and looked for love to heal their broken heart and is less likely to do it again.

I don't think so .. It leaves a deep wound is of the opinion that you loved so cheated on harder than a stab can not forget that the wound ..

no! no way once they cheat they do again and again. you could never change a person.

NEVER, I could never trust someone who cheats. In fact I had a boyfriend back in college that I learned was cheating on me. I was so heart broken and angry that I walked right up to him with his latest "score" next to him, threw the ring he gave me right into his face then I kneed him in the groin just as hard as I could and cursed him out before I stormed off.

I think... that in every situation, people need a second chance. I didn't gave it to my boyfriend,and having controle over him kinda became an obsession. I'm scared to death if he talks to a girl... but if that's what he want, having friends and still stay true to me, I need to live with that. But it's hard and I'm living with it each single day. It hurts like hell.

No.

Well, I have experience in this field...way more than I'd like to get into...but I will. Every guy except for 2 that I have dated cheated on me. I don't know why, but they did, yet they stayed with me and I stayed with them. My most recent bf and I were together about a year and a half...(we were long distance at that time), and he had an emotional, almost sexual affair online with someone else. I never thought I'd heal or get over it. We've been together 3.5 years now and I still have my moments where I get upset and I wonder, well if he starts another mmorpg game, is he gonna cheat again? The end result is what you feel you can do and what you can handle. Do you honestly believe him that he won't ever do it again? Do you honestly believe he is remorseful? Do you love him? Do you Want to work it out with him. In the end, my answer was, even with that one slip-up, he has treated me better than any man that has been in my life romantically and I wasn't willing to let our relationship go for that one mistake. If it happens again, the relationship will end because one indiscretion, I can understand, but more than that, I cannot. I wish you the best and I hope I helped. Good luck!

No.

Absolutely. And get rid of that term, "cheating."

No I can not trust and will not tolerate..

Here's something from the Paris Review, Summer 2009. #107: Gay Talese on infidelity. "Here's what people don't get. Sex is not that important. It isn't the most important thing in any relationship. Marriage is never about sex, and yet in American fiction so many stories and novels present a sexual dalliance ans an unpardonable sin. (In real life) I never thought that should be true. Marriage is the main event. These other relationships bring me into worlds I would otherwise not know. These relationships have helped our marriage. ..I think of all these people who get divorced over minor matters...I don't see how people can live in conventional marriages. " Gay Talese has a fifty year marriage with a very accomplished,independent and fiscally successful wife.