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  • God, im so sorry to hear this, you must be distraught! I can only suggest that you speak to someone close to you (mother/father/sister) someone who will comfort you in your time of grief. It will take a long time for you to come to terms with this loss (if ever) but you need the support of your family, friends family to help you get through this. Take care and God bless. x
  • I would cry as much as you needed to cry and never try to hold it in. Be with the ones you love for support and just know that time heals all wounds :)
  • Cut yourself some slack. You must grieve. This is a horrible thing, and I really feel for you. It helps, at this time, to know that grief comes in stages, so expect, in no particular order these stages to happen: 1-Denial-"this can't be happening to me", looking for the departed in familiar places, acting as if they are still in living there. No crying. Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss. 2-Anger-feelings of wanting to fight back ; this is unfair 3-Bargaining-Begging, wishing, praying for them to come back. 4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb. Perhaps feeling suicidal. 5-Acceptance-there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realization that it takes two to make or break a marriage. Realization that the person is gone (in death) that it is not their fault, they didn't leave you on purpose. (even in cases of suicide, often the deceased person, was not in their right frame of mind) Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. Our goals turn toward personal growth. Stay with fond memories of person. As I said, these can come in no particular order, and some can make returns a number of times before acceptance comes. If they are returning too often and too strongly, it is wise to talk with a professional, priest/pastor, counsellor, good friend (not involved). And, as I said, also, give yourself time to grieve. In many societies there were fixed mourning times eg 40 days. If you feel this will help, give yourself a fixed time, wear a black armband, curtail your outings, whatever makes you feel better, BUT, at the end of the period you have set, take off the band, light a candle, do something that announces "It is over". Say the words. Then, go on with life. You will never forget, but you can heal. All the best.
  • The best I can do is to offer you a hug. {{{{HUG}}}} It will be difficult for awhile. You are in my prayers and so is your friend's family.
  • I am very sorry to hear about your friend, When a death happens because of an accident there is alot of shock to deal with,It is something that wasn't expected at all and you didn't get to say goodbye. There will be so much pain to deal with and the only advice I can really give is to, talk about your friend to anyone that will listen. Talk as much about them as you want. You might need to sit down and write them a few letters, at least you can get what you want to say to them out of your system, write a letter everytime the pain gets unbareable. I wish you comfort and peace.
  • If you think it wouldn't be more painful maybe you could go to your friends parents home and share your sorrow and pain. I am so sorry for all involved. I am sending you hugs.
  • I am so very sorry for your loss. As has been stated over and over again, this will take time and tears to heal. Please do not be ashamed of your grief if somebody doesn't understand, don't allow them to make you feel worse about yourself. Seek out people who are comforting to you, and don't try to be cheerful when you're not feeling up to it. Perhaps your school counselor can recommend a grief support group. They can often be very helpful, and you would be surrounded by people who really do know how you feel. I will be praying for you, and for Kyle's family. Take care and know that God offers comfort at the most difficult times.
  • this is never easy. My cousin died at age 19 when I was 7 11 years ago, and every now and then I still cry. My way of seeing grief is in my opinion from a compassionate perpective(kind). I think that we all handle grief(saddness, loss) differently, so its totally fine to deal with it however you want to (such as crying, feeling like you dont quite know what to do except hug your teddy bear or someone you care about or who cares about you, or just sitting around letting the world stay in one placew ith you for a while in a quiet place such as your backyard, or asking to be taken to a quiet place when you can sit when someone and just be there for peace. Or go to an open area with someone and just yell. Whatever you think could help..altholugh i'm sure it may feel like nothing would help..thats understandable. You'll be ok :-).. I'm so sorry to hear that happeneed to you and keep in mind what I said about how its totally ok to deal with it w/ different kinds of emotions. I'm thankful my parents were always ok with us needing to cry whenever we needed to, so i let myself do it and tell others to. I'l laways miss my cousin, I do honestly think hes an angel now. I dont believe in ghosts. I think theres earth when we are human and then when we pass on we are angels. hang it there and my heart goes out to you :-)
  • cry for your friend and talk to people! letting it build up inside isnt a good idea believe me its what i always do! make sure you get your emotions out! im really sorry to hear about your friend!
  • Talk about it to others. That is the best treatment. Try to remember all the fun you had with them, your friend's life may be gone, but the memories are never gone.

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