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  • Chances are, the ex has either recently broken up with another boyfriend/girlfriend and thought that by calling you, he/she would be able to come back to you, or possibly get the chance to sleep with you. It all depends on how your conversation went when the ex called you. Did he/she want to get together with you? Was it a 'how are you doing' call? Was it just a random, bizarre call? If you revealed that you are seeing someone or are not interested in seeing that person again, then that explains why he/she never called back. Usually, desperate people who aren't having any luck in their new relationships will call back old exes in an attempt to 'get some action' or possibly start the relationship again. There's alot of rebounding and those usually end up being quick relationships, since the ex who called you may only be looking to hook up temporarily to say 'hey I have a girlfriend/boyfriend' and will drop you at the next second when they see potential with someone else. Often times, exes that call you out of the blue, and then suddenly disappear again, will call you again. It may be days, weeks, months...maybe over a year later. The ex may think he/she has a chance with you still, ESPECIALLY if the ex is the one that broke up with you, and not vice versa. Most of the time, as I mentioned earlier, they are probably just looking for sexual gratification, or just a rebounded girlfriend/boyfriend for status, so they don't have to say that they're single, and will then immediately go out looking for other people once they have you wrapped around their finger again. Be wary of exes that just call out of the blue...they usually are just looking for a quickie. If you don't hear from them again, its probably for the best. Don't be a fool and go back to that ex, unless the person is truly sincere about getting back with you. Its usually not the case.
  • This is not meant to be the right or wrong answer, it is based solely on experience. And the question is phrased "why might" which is a broad term. Guilt. Maybe they felt the need to make some sort of peace with you before moving on. Perhaps they treated you badly and wanted not to be remembered as a bad person. Second-guesing the relationship and why it ended. Just making sure that ending it was the right choice. Or perhaps trying to convince you that you shouldn't have broken things off. Ego. The ol' how do ya like me now? Perhaps a new job with more cash or other recent success needs to be flaunted to any ex who will listen. Call it ego, insecurity, whatever. My personal favorite, the one who is getting married and wants to make sure they got you out of their system before walking down that very permanent aisle. Who knows!
  • I would most definately say they are looking back at your relationship for what ever reasons, could be recently broken up, could be lonely, could be in a miserable relationship, it could be alot of reasons, but it does seem like confusing behaviour. i would like to think of it as an oportunity to see what feelings it brought up for you, instead of trying to understand him, understand what your starting to feel as a result...are you thinking about why you broke up, and wanting him back?..to me if you were in a solid relationship currently, you would not give this incedent a second thought. to me just the act of you wondering to the point to post a question, makes me think that you are dealing with some unresolved feelings from this past relationship.. that is how i see it.
  • They want you to know they still exists........and they also want you to ASK THEM about how they have been doing....so they can FEEL loved......so be nice to them and dont ask weird ?'s ......why do they dissappear....? because the time is not right to hook back up....but if they called...that means there still interested...but the time is not right...THIS ONLY APPLIES IF YALL HAVENT TALKED IN A LONG TIME...OTHERWISE SHE JUST SEE'S U AS A FRIEND...
  • I have done this to an ex-boyfriend before and well, reason 1-to see how he was doing 2-closure and 3-most of all forgiving myself and him for the past.
  • I think it may be that the person still cares for you. If it was an "impossible" relationship maybe they are wanting to see if circumstances have changed and things might work out. I had an ex call me after not speaking for over a year, he was the love of my life, he basically proposed to me, but I was already married. So if you are still single and still love the person give it a shot, for some people it may not be too late.
  • Many reasons. Maybe they wanted to get back with you but then in the conversation something that was said could have changed things. Or maybe since the call, a new relationship came along (VERY LIKELY), or he had second thoughts about wanting to be with you. Some people just play games, to get your attention.
  • After being so close to someone I think there remains on a deep energy level an extra bond, so at times an ex-lover may simply be wanting to 'check in' on how you are. We are all connected but to some we form a deeper connection. I don't agree at all with those saying it is because of wanting to get back together always, maybe just sometimes - you cynical people!
  • recently my ex called then she invited me for a birthday party(her co-worker's party).. i was surprised bcoz it's been a year that we broke up.. we've been dating for 4 years.. and since we worked abroad and far from each other she found a new love.. it's been a year though, but we still communicate between this year.. but recently i decided not to communicate anymore since i still have this feelings for her.. i did love her.. even to set her free was the biggest decision i made just make her happy even if without me.. she was my first girlfriend and we are both 25 yrs of age.. i was quite surprised that she call and ask me if i can accompany her.. but i refused and told her that i am busy.. which is also true.. i asked her how she was and told me that she wouldn't be single now if she's ok.. i just don't get the point.. just to let me know that she is single now..? i didn't bought her stories so i just ended the conversation with saying thank you for the invitation and sorry for not able to come.. mybe she just need somebody to patch the gap... that's the cycle.. everytime she feels alone she will call me.. she had me at my best but still she choose to break my heart..

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